| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/3/2008 5:55:43 PM | I just thought I would try writing in the forum discussion.... I have never tried the online dating thing before or the online discussions before, so here it goes.
Dating on POF....
I have met one lady in person. We had an enjoyable time, and met a few times afterwards. She found another person that was more compatible, and that is fine. We still talk occasionally, so in my mind, I made a friend. That I consider as a great start.
One thing that seems odd to me is that no one seems to answer any contacts. I know this has been mentioned before, but I have attempted to make contact with several ladies, and I see that the message is read, but no reply. The odd thing is that they are read. Not read / deleted. It leaves a guy wondering.... Are they interested and shy??? Are they disinterested and trying to be nice???? What's the deal??? I don't want to sound like I am pushy or anything, but it makes you wonder.... Just my opinion for what it is worth. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/13/2008 7:10:37 PM | | I haven't had the best of luck either. Can't seem to get past the first "date". I have had more people that i am willing to meet from pof than any other site.... Not really sure how to improve it, but just thought i tell ya that your not alone. If i could figure out where to meet the guys then i guess i wouldn't be on this website. The few f2f that i have had, have come after talking for a bit. I would prefer to meet rather quickly, can't really be sure about someone until you meet them. I do know people who have meet through the internet and are very happy. IT does happen even if it doesn't seem like it ever will:) | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/16/2008 11:11:46 PM | | I have met guys after a while of emailing back & forth and just after a few emails. Many I have not even bothered to meet or continue to email because f2f is made obvious. Actually I think many of us want the long term relationship, but it seems so many are impatient, as people are in all aspects of life. I have had some interesting dating experiences by meeting people from this site, have one new very good friend (2 yrs). No risk no gain I guess. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/18/2008 3:32:23 PM | Man you guys need to get off these damn computers and go out in the public I gurantee it is way easier to meet people doing then on here. First off go do things outside your house that you enjoy you will meet someone who likes what you like and you will be happy. These damn dating sites are dangerous and don't work very well. I myself haven't found anyone on here but I know it is best to go out and meet new people. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/20/2008 12:32:19 PM | | I have been on here for a few years now and i have to say i have dated a few ladies from on here. of course not all of them worked out as a match, but i am still friends with almost everyone i have dated. for me i give pof 2 thumbs up | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/27/2008 3:14:31 PM | | it hasnt been to good i try to e mail or talk to woman and get no responce im not looking for a fling are a sexual encounter im 31 yrs old my game days are over it bugs me to see all these woman with titles like "looking for a good guy" "are any guys left" i know im no cream of the crop but it seems like thats not what they want im also a single father i even had a woman who did contact me who is a single mother tell me she was not comfortable talking to a guy with kids. Its tough ou there i know it is i am responcable i take care of my family and i dont like games and have little drama as possable but part of me is about to give up im sorry for goin on and on but i just wanted to let it go. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:00:19 AM | | Well after a few years, my experience here has been zero. Most dont get past a picture, to many are looking for mr perfect and feel that what is written in a profile is all they need to know about a person to qualify or disqualify them as "the right one". Hiking seems to be the big hit on here, as well as so many people hitting the gym 5 days a week. If that many women were out hiking the trails, there would be alot more men out there watching them. But hey, people write what they want to so they look good. I guess since I grew up in the old days when you had to talk to a girl face to face and interact with her, this whole make a profile, write a paragraph about yourself and see who bites just isnt the same. Yes some people get 100 emails a day, but I dont see that as a good reason to not respond to someone who took time to email you and say hello. This site is to easy to blow someone off by just deleting there message. I think people need to spend more time learning about a person then just reading a profile. I do have to laugh, they have a chemistry section which lists your best matches based on chemistry from there scientific questionare, and so far of the girls that matched 95% up to 100% that I have messaged. not one has responded more then to read/de;ete the message. Nice. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:11:55 PM | Yes, it is the "lazy person's way" to meet people, but I am sure I speak for most, there just aren't enough hours in a day to do it the old fashioned way?
Meeting people just seems to get a little harder as we get older, and this is a way to make it a little easier. So maybe I do my "fishing" with a cup of coffee in the morning, dog at my feet and parrot on my shoulder, which is a lot better than hanging out in bars or such.
I have a friend we told me about this site and she has met someone very special and could not be happier. Forums like this enable people who may live just around the corner from each other the opportunity to meet people they could have never bumped into in the real world.
As for me, I have tried other sites and met some great guys who I am still friends with today. The romance fizzled, but the friendship remains and for that I thought that I would take my friends advice and try this site.
I believe in fate, and that fate just may be that you meet someone who knows the perfect person for you; you just never do know what life throws at you sometimes.
Happy fishing to all and have a great new year!
Laurie | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 1/1/2009 6:43:15 PM | | Hi I've met one person from POF, about 2 months back and we still keep in contact today and hang out as friends. Talking to a few other ppl through email and ims and have enjoyed the forums very much. So the experience at POF have been pretty positive so far. And all for free. Nice deal. No complaints at all. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:13:01 PM | I have found that most of the men who i have been interested in have no time to get to know me or for building a relationship ..... whether its 2 jobs, kids, full custody, live too far.....uhg.... I have been on here for almost a yr, and have been ona few dates (15-20) met some great guys, but they dont really have time to be dating. Dont understand why there even on here.... | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:20:36 AM | mine isn't going well either. was on here before, took break and decided to try again. hi Chris, I would have contacted you after reading your post but I'm outside your age range, darn anyway. For the record, I totally agree with the fact that people just read/delete rather than at least respond with a "thanks but not interested." well, hope 2009 is better for all of us.  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 1/6/2009 10:50:00 PM | | I started going on here because I met a guy at Pima College who said he met his wife here and it's free. The free part resinated in my head and I thought okay sure. My expierence has not been impressive. I have met alot of mean jerks that just message me to critisize me, some flat out lie, and some are okay but honestly realy boring and I have no common ground with them. After my expierence on P.O.F, I am honestly eager to move to another state. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 1/25/2009 2:17:12 AM | | I just joined POF, and I'll give it a try, but I'm not holding my breath. One thing we must realise is that once someone finds a good match, they probably wont be back on the site anymore, what would the point be? I know if/when I find someone who I'm falling in love with, the last thing I'll be doing is getting on the computer and telling my story. I'll be spending my time with her! | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 3/1/2009 6:07:36 PM | 2 thumbs down. in two years i have had probably 4-5 lunches with people that either were not interested or did not know how to show it. I am not sure i would know it unless it hit me in the face. BTW i am glad someone cleared up the f2f because all kinds of things were running thru my head.
I have some really great friends from other sites (match.) but so far only one that lasted 4 years. usually a date or two is the most from the people i have met on the internet.
i actually now think the women on here think THEY ARE going to meet someone making $150,000 + that looks like cary grant and spends all his time hiking, traveling, and in the gym.
I have found a LOT of dishonesty in profiles. I am 100% upfront in mine. If someone don't like it they can surely go with the liars and cheats | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:34:18 AM | more of a dating suppliment site, you still gotta get out there and actually meet people too. lots of people you know your never gonna meet (f2f) -tee hee. (cuz they live far away). however, nice to cheer up, or be cheered up by someone across the country or atlantic etc. yeah, a few bad apples with nothing better to do than bust your balls,
but to even things out, there are some really nice ones living close by  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 4/3/2009 5:20:28 PM | I've been on a short time and met with one lady who didn't look like her photos. I didn't even recognize her when she was sitting across the table from me.
What really surprises me you take the time to contact a person and they don't respond to your message. Even saying 'sorry' I'm not interested or already seeing someone or 'you one ugly dude' would be nice to see and it's usually the one's that say they have 'class'. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:22:18 PM | I've met two guys from POF so far....the first one turned out to be a psycho mama's boy who tried to throw me across the room. The second, he's pretty cool. I don't quite know what's going on between us, but i'm hopeful.
I get alot of messages that are so unoriginal. One I got was basically "hey you wanna go have some fun?" I mean wtf really? At least try to be a bit more original than that. Alot of guys just seem to be here to get laid, which is really kind of depressing. What I'd give to meet a guy that has something genuinely interesting to say, isn't living with him mom, and not completely crazy. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 6/6/2009 4:08:20 PM | Honestly, I've met some nice people on here...
But what is with all the sexual bs. I mean that is one thing I'm tired of.
i'm not one of those girls who will sleep with anyone and everyone,
yet alot of the guys on this site seem to only be looking for a "good time"
you know...?
But dont get me wrong, I've met a few great guys, but I just havent met anyone that really sparks my interest, or that we have taken it farther then a few dates!
But this site has its ups and downs, not terrible, but it hasnt been amazing!
Just another adventure and a few new friends in my life! :)
Who can complain about that!?
-Miss V | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:05:54 PM | Mr. Reasonable
I am so glad but at the same time sorry to hear that your experience has been like that. Just so you know from the female side of it, I think it is the same. If you are not blessed with great beauty 36-36-36 and blond then you don't even get a second look. Nobody even wants to talk without first being attracted. They don't even read your profile.
My favorite is, the ones that are online when you email them and they suddenly look off without reading your email. Come on (games or not).
I have three nigerians that want to marry me to date and that is it.
Ebbz | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:01:54 PM | I figured I would throw in my .02
I have been here 3-4 months and have had moderate success. Based on what I have read here, I think I have been pretty lucky.
I get about a 10-20% response rate to emails, but I write unique messages to each person asking about their interests, etc.
Out of those that respond, I have been on probably 5-7 dates. Of those 5-7 dates, I have only been on a second date once. I have never wanted to continue interaction past the second date.
Overall, I think this is a pretty good site. There are TONS of flakes, and TONS of people that seem like they are not serious about meeting up once you talk for a while. Personally, I prefer to meet after talking back and forth for a few days since you can honestly never tell if you are going to be into someone until you meet them in person.
I have also found that people tend to misrepresent themselves in their photos. I am not even saying that it is intentional, as most people probably just choose the photos that they think they look their best in.
I continue to browse the new members every few days and email anyone I see potential interest with, and will continue to do so until I hopefully find someone that I really enjoy spending time with.
This site works, but it honestly takes A LOT of effort to find someone that you will actually want to date. That is just how it works. If you want to find someone to get into a relationship with, it is going to take some time, so you have to be patient. Personally I am NOT looking to hop into a relationship just to be in one, so I am quite picky.
That is my perception of this site.
In a nutshell: If you are willing to make meeting someone online a long term process, have patience, and put some time in I think you will surely meet someone eventually. | |
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