| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:19:03 PM |
Life is too short to wait for a man you find attractive you contact you!
I contact any man I find attractive. How silly to not do that; they will never know, and unless they are mind readers, nothing can happen.
Thanks, Rossal. I for one hope that every lady on pof takes your advice to heart. It would not be inaccurate to say that every one of the lady friends I speak with on pof has contacted me first. Mostly from the bleacher seats, but hey, connections, like gold, are where you find them.
So, yeah, mind-reading is NOT one of my talents. Lol | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 1/27/2009 10:59:22 AM | | Wow! I'd forgotten about this thread. So many responses that I had not read. Was surprised to see some from 2009. So many different opinions, but in the final analysis, we all do what feels right for us. No right or wrong way. Sometimes it's good to step out of your comfort zone. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 1/29/2009 1:01:38 AM | All the men I contact and I have done a few basically on friendly terms too have not been very responsive. lol I think I have learnt my lesson and won't do it any more.  
^^^ I agree Sunrise Walker its good to take a risk but its indeed a bit uncomfortable and I wonder if HERE is the place for that risk...lol Each to their own I suppose as you say. :)) | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 1/29/2009 6:49:06 AM | A woman just contacted me on My Space and told me that she enjoyed my profile.
I wrote her back after checking out her profile.
I think I just met a new friend..
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:33:22 AM | | It would be alot easier for me if the girl made the first contact. Some do by the way , but the ones that contact me first sometimes live in another state . When i say another state i mean like missouri or colorado. Dont ask me why i have no clue. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 2/2/2009 7:42:14 PM | Being the shy type I like when women make the first contact :D
Also when a woman makes first contact your at least guaranteed a response to that email you spent time and effort writing. Its always depressing getting a read/deleted without any reply =( | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 2/6/2009 5:36:46 AM | | Bigben; But how would she know if she were the woman who you would send an e-mail to if she e-mailed you first? That's just my point! Which is why I let men e-mail me first. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 2/6/2009 6:56:40 PM |
Bigben; But how would she know if she were the woman who you would send an e-mail to if she e-mailed you first? That's just my point! Which is why I let men e-mail me first.
Right...we aren't mind readers...lol...and it is because of the men who say...yeah, email first if I think you are hot? (How are we supposed to know?) I have done it...it just rarely , if ever, works.... | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 2/21/2009 12:31:42 AM | How is it that big of a step when you're doing this online? The profile is a crappy way of getting to know anyone anyway. It's just like employers who read CV's...you look for the hard facts because those are most likely to be true. The other stuff, yeah yeah, but when it's made out to be like an ad, you really don't get much info out of it.
And I don't really know how great of a judge I am on my own personality to tell people that I'm "fun-loving, sweet like sunshine" etc. Those are the type of things you kind of have to get to know someone to really gain a sense of.
I'm not saying people pretend or anything, but really not everyone enjoys writing about themselves like an ad, and I think it's common human nature to want to present yourself in a brighter light. Forums and IM are a bit different, because no one can pretend for long periods of time and on multiple encounters.
Yea, in real life, I wouldn't approach a guy first, unless I knew I was never going to see him again. Most of it is because of awkwardness. I hate awkwardness and I would avoid it as much as I can. I hate feeling awkward and I hate making other people feel awkward. But at least you can get some buffer time online, so I really don't think it's really taking "initiative" or whatever to message someone. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 3/5/2009 8:09:53 AM | | On a date site, I prefer it if the lady contacts me first. That way, I know there is some imtrest, and my email wont get lost in a sea of unread emails in her inbox. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 3/6/2009 4:09:23 AM | Yes i think everyone likes it when someone shows an intrest. a lot of women look at my profile, now when i see that and contact they are more then willing to chat, so why not just send me an e-mail saying "hi i'd like to chat" in the first place.  | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 4/3/2009 10:04:29 AM | Let's be real about this...
It's far more important that a man's body parts work than do a woman's. If a guy isn't interested it ain't happening. Period.
So a woman can chase all she wants and may get a win now and then, but it's still up to the guy!!! | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 4/3/2009 3:24:05 PM | this is a topic a friend and I were talking about the other day.
Why shouldn't a woman contact the guy first if she feels like it. So what, she gets turned down just like we do.
Why things like this ever started a long time ago I have no clue.
I compare it to bike riders wanting to be the same as vehicles. Well they need to go by the same rules. A stop sign for a car is one for the bicyclist. So if a woman is interested in a man, do the same thing we have to do. Maybe he is shy and doesn't know what to say, just like me. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:29:08 AM | | I would prefer to be contacted first because I am afraid of women. One got loose and bit me last time I was at the zoo and I haven't been the same since. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 4/26/2009 10:33:57 PM | | Normally, I would have been to shy to mave the first move but its the 20th century... Not to sure at my end if the guy would still be interested... Usually get the dreaded read/delete email though it's their loss not mine. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 5/2/2009 10:17:48 AM | | Minako, I tell ya on here I never really know if a woman is truely interested or not when she views my profile. I used to send a message to all that viewed the profile but I never got a response. I suppose if you are interested in one maybe it would be a good idea to just drop a line and say HI that's it and see what happens. From there if you prefer the guy is interested he will make the continuing contact... I think that in person when we meet someone we can tell by the eyes, smile, something that sends a signal. But on the net there is no other way of telling. I wish that was done with me. I know I would respond | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:27:05 AM | You seem to have a good attitude about the READ DELETE..mianko79.
I must be fortunate to get that very seldom. I always write with interest in response to anyone who contacts me with genuine intent, but dont like the simple "tell me more" probes which are not really respectful but just like "show me what you got" buddy..
You feel theyre asking either for a performance or a finanical statement..but if its genuinely appreciative youre inspired to respond. Even if youre not attracted I always appreciate interest and value it.. | |
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| Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:25:11 PM | Id also add as some posters have that clearly many women just get tons of email and dont reply... so youre not even contacting many that you would love to hear from, in fact. it seems pointless so you dont try.
Once I wrote to see if a lady was real, would she write..she said go ahead and I wrote a wonderul essay and her reply was "yeah so?" So lets just say theres a negative cycle about at some points, in a few cases. Clearly she was saying, If you think Im arrogant, you do not know nearly how arrogant indeed I really am!
Or if you do try you send something short then you hear that they dont respond to a one line hello message..90% of the women are after 5% of the men, just as 90% of the men are after 5% of the women and yet..would they really be happy if they knew this percentage in fact?? Im not so sure..
What I think is that the more you write, the more youre ingnored and its a negative cycle so often its best to just sit tight or go to the forums. Clearly theres a pattern of women sitting back and saying "impress me." Make me laugh and entice..go fishing..
You often look carefully at the profile and theyre not even interested in meeting anyone. Those that are interested write you back and meet right away, but then theyre immediately dating and off the website.
And on both sides of the gender wall the good ones are there, waiting for someone smart enough to see who they are..Ive met a few..I just hope Im one of them. | |
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