| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:51:56 PM | Same thing happened to me with the first guy I met off POF.
It sucks and it really makes you NOT trust internet dating. | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:20:09 PM | | Your post is the reason I did not want to join online dating. I have heard so many people say that you never know what people are going to say, they may tell you one thing and then only to find out that the whole thing was a scam. I am seriously thinking about deleting my profile from POF, I have been single for many years and thought I felt comfortable enough to try dating, maybe I am better off single. | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:14:36 PM | tinkbee38........?
Here is the thing....ANYONE can lie to you! Doesnt matter where you meet them! Online, Bar, bingo, WHATEVER.....the key is to get to know the person!
As long as you dont rush the relationship (so to speak) you will find out if the person is "for real"....has NOTHING to do with people on line! If someone wants to lie? They will!
What makes you think the guy you meet at a bar or whereever isnt lying to you? This is why you should always be careful.....doesnt matter where, when or with whom! Just always be careful and take the time to get to know who this person is! | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:44:14 AM | | You're on the internet it is easy to check up on someone. If a person is married there's a record of it obvioiusly. Google is your best friend. | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:40:58 AM | | It depends on where you live - I don't think its possible in Ontario. I tried looking up my brothers to find their marriage registries, and no luck. I guess the government is busy with the OHIP cards.... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 11:35:01 AM | | It's not just marriage or engagements though or even the Internet. A couple of months ago I went out with a guy who had a live-in girlfriend. He is the artistic director for a program I work with and I thought I knew him pretty well. He lives about two hours from me and there was no way for me to know about the girlfriend, except an artist who knew him asked about his newborn daughter! The look on the guy's face was PRICELESS! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 11:49:36 AM | If a person is married there's a record of it obvioiusly. Google is your best friend.
1. You can't get free marriage records on the internet for just any place. You can't get them for the county I'm in. There's no way, without going through an "investigative" pay site to find out if I'm married.
2. None of the above even matters because the guy gave the OP a fake name.
If it were that easy to find out of someone is married, there would be one page on POF explaining how to do it, and there wouldn't be countless threads about women who have experienced it and don't know what hit them. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 12:36:15 PM |
All those that rip on me for telling people to move very slow in the internet dating world can now get a lesson.
This is why you take a ton of time to get to know someone. Time after time I see so many women jumping into bed with someone from the net and then wondering if they should date. Its amazing. Anyway, I hope this is a lesson big time. Good luck and I'm glad you found out.
See? When women say they want to go slow, get to know someone via email for a few weeks, then go to phone calls, and then meet in public, guys say that we play games and if we're here, we should meet right away! (There was a thread about this a couple of months ago)
I've had a couple from here want to meet after one or two emails. NO way!! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:13:20 PM | | This doesn't just happen on the internet. I dated a few guys who were involved/engaged and living with someone-one guy I met in a bar-we chatted many times over the phone, had a few dates-I get a call from a very frantic woman! Well, you can guess the rest... the other time, I see the guy I am dating walking down the street with his girlfriend and daughter-his! Mind you, my involvement with these guys was superficial-only a few dates so never a chance to dig deeper into there world but the universe provided! I was actually in a long distance relationship with a guy who made it very clear he didn't want us seeing other people-wanted to be exclusive so when I visited him I found evidence of another woman-wasn't hidden too well? | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:31:09 PM | | Been there and got a T-shirt Miss-Bliss. It does not matter how slow you take it. If a person is going to lie, he or she is going to lie. This has nothing to do with taking it slow or the Internet. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 6:20:46 PM | BlueEyedChica,
Are you for real!?!
Seems like life is stranger than fiction!
CC. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 9:13:49 PM | Whats your point? Is there a question here? I need to as the, "and therefore what...", statement.
And therefore what? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 10:09:32 AM |
I've concluded that most women want to be lied to. By definition, a married or engaged man is already promoting a lie, so over time they get better at lying and many women want that; the false compliments, the "romance" and adventure, etc.
Huh? If women WANT men to lie, why do they have to get better at it? And why do we ladies work so hard to catch 'em at it. How exhausting it must be to call every strange number on the cell phone every month. 
Frankly, I don't think you can ever figure out a guy is married from emails or the phone (cell phone). The best thing is, before you get too serious about someone, go to their house and meet their friends...and while you're standing around chatting, throw out something general like, gee, I hope (boyfriend's name)'s wife is doing ok with everything. If his friends look at you like you're crazy, then you've got a keeper. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 10:35:44 AM | | OMG..women are so retarded. That's why you want to go to the guys house as soon as possible! Then you'll find out more about the guy in 5 min than in 5 months talking to him on the internet. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 12:00:24 PM | | Funny, The reason I re-activated my account last night was that I found the guy I have been involved on here and trying to score huge with several women. he is a compulsive liar. Too bad there isn't a forum for blowing these people. male or Female out of the water. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 6:52:40 PM | I had a similar experience. I was dating a guy for a few months, and then I get a call from this girl saying 'stay the F*** away from my fiance '. I had no idea, and it turned out that he was just on a bet to see how long it'd take to get into my pants. Luckily, he never did. Was never that into him...but still. Whoa shocker.... lol
Oh, AND none of his friends (whom I'd met him through) knew. | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:34:49 PM | | Whoa whoa there. This playa needs to be outed by name and kicked off of pof permanently. Hope you do the right thing for the sisterhood | |
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Posted: 8/9/2008 4:27:00 PM | hirsutepammusclecarchick... Actually, meeting face-to-face is *exactly* what you should do if you want to get to the truth. Ask direct questions and watch the body language as well as listening to the answer.
Maybe even suggest going over to his place if things go well... and watch the reaction.
If he's all for having you over to his place, the chances are he isn't hiding another woman there.
Simple. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2008 4:34:51 PM | | A girl did this to my brother they were over she did not want it to be she lernt his pass code and pretended to be a hurt girlfriend not a crazy stalker. I would not believe her over him on first go. keep it in the back of your mind next time you see him tell him about her. My brothe goes by his middle name too lots do if the middle name sounds cooler or if the first name is the same as their Dad's. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2008 11:16:34 PM | | Wow...this is why I'm scared to get married...all these horror stories...cheating is the one thing I would not be able tolerate...it would just crush me and that would be the end of the relationship. You'd never be able to trust him and it would just be a living hell...not worth it...better to carry on with someone else in a loving and trusting relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2008 9:28:10 PM | My recent ex bf, Andy (unsernames are Slokent and yourman001) cheated on me with 3 other women that he met on here and when they informed me of his cheating ways I confronted him and he accused them of lying.
I did forgive him when and after he beat me up,choked me and threated to kill me I pressed charges against him and cut all ties with him.
Anyways...
Most Men are Dogs . | |
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| His fiancee called me
Posted: 8/24/2008 12:41:46 PM | Ok- straight up into answers.............
There are so many married men out there "dating"single girls due to the fact that they are planning on divorcing yet it would be so expensive that they need a "sugar mommie"to move in with.This way she (a girl without self confidence )will be "a great fish"and will do everything for him to" prove how much she loves him."If he is smooth enough she will use her money for his child support etc.It is called " money management"before divorce.
These married men know what it takes to find an unconfident woman.........they may have done it 2-3 times before but in their pattern they always have that "money management "set up actually before the divorce even takes place.There you are loving this guy and sleeping with him..........bottom line is...........you never know who is coming for dinner.Do your homework.With this internet dating, rules have also changed-you have to change! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 3:34:43 PM | I was one of those women who thought she knew the score. Before I married, I had been around the block once or twice, and knew all the signs and signals of a married man (or so I thought).
If you've ever believed anything you read in the forum, believe this: Anyone who dates can be fooled by a determined married man.
If he's all for having you over to his place, the chances are he isn't hiding another woman there.
I met a guy on another site. We emailed for about a week, then talked on the phone about a week, then met in a public place. While he wasn't perfect, he was fun and easy to be around. We started dating. After awhile, he asked me to meet him at work. He introduced me to his co-workers. I had his cell number, the number at work, and his landline number. I could, and did call different times, and different days. When I called, he was not nervous or put me off.
He gave me plenty of time to feel comfortable, and introduced me to many of his friends and family. He came to my house, and I went to his. We did some fairly heavy smooching, but when I said "no" he was happy to accept my wishes, always telling me we had plenty of time and he wanted me to be sure.
At about the six month mark, I was ready and, since I was invited to his house for dinner, I took an overnight bag. During some touchy, feely on the sofa the door opened and a stunning woman came in with a suitcase.
It seems the guy was married and his wife traveled extensively on business. She just happened to come home a few days early.
When I read in the forums about how people are paranoid for doing background checks, or snoopy because they look on caller id or in closets or medicine cabinets, I always think had I been a little more paranoid, I could have saved myself 6 months.
Since that incident, I've had a few more brushes with married men, but none nearly as bizarre as the first. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 3:50:06 PM | msgr. # 11. Good question ? I love it. so serious you sound ? But True. It doesn't
seem fair does it ?  | |
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