| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:16:42 PM |
Sometimes it seems that winning a girl over is a battle, regardless if I truly want to be with her permanently
its guys like u that give the good guys a bad name. by win her over u mean have sex with her and leave her because u dont want to be with her permanently. Come be with me alone in a room for a minute, player boy. LOL | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:19:45 PM | men are such strange creatures. if they meet a woman that shows 'she wants them' they suddenly think, well who else might want me? so they hightail it and run in the hope that the next 'chick' would want them too. mature??? not even close....
but that's how they are. then they get mad when a woman plays hard to get! if only they'd stop playing 'the game' first....
^^ What skewed thinking ...
Gender-specific assumptions are never good. What I'm noticing on these forums is this: when a guy writes about how a woman left him after x amount of time together, women respond that it must be something he did to push her away. When a woman writes that a guy left her after x amount of time together, women respond with "that's how men are - it wasn't you, it was him".
Silly Earthlings ...
OP: guys run for a number of reasons, so do women. Got scared, feelings changed, playing games, conquest, etc. I know that's not the best answer, and wish I could give you (and myself when it has happened to me) something more concrete.
As cliche as this is: best thing to do is move on and forward.
And remember - they had their chance, no seconds.  | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:22:08 PM |
guys run for a number of reasons, so do women.
no, there is only one reason they run. THEY DIDNT LOVE YOU. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:15:28 PM | No one has picked up the most obvious clue here, which is the headline.
OPie, if you really do "hate being alone," then I can easily conclude several things about you:
1) You don't know how to occupy your time or to make yourself happy.
2) You expect another person to occupy your time and make you happy.
3) You almost certainly come across as endlessly needy.
Being attractive and funny isn't shit. Serial killers are attractive and funny. Con artists are attractive and funny. Hell, a lot of farm animals are attractive and funny. What you are apparently lacking is ordinary self-sufficiency.
My advice to you would be to start cultivating yourself, by learning new skills, reading books that are smarter than you, taking classes, and, perhaps most valuably, volunteering in your community. You need to learn to give of yourself, to find the abundance within you, so you can throw off the kind of neediness that drives away everyone but serial killers, con artists, and farm animals.
Good luck!
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:27:14 PM | I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BUT I SEEM TO HAVE THAT PROBLEM WITH WOMEN. IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYTIME THAT I START TO GET COMFORTABLE WITH A GIRL SHE TOTALLY FLIPS THE SCRIPT AND ALL OF A SUDDEN SHE TAKES OFF.
TO ANSWER YOU,YES GUYS DO GET SCARED BUT THATS ONY BECAUS THEY DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP. JUST KEEP THE FAITH AND YOU WILL FIND THAT MR RIGHT. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:00:50 PM |
OPie, if you really do "hate being alone," then I can easily conclude several things about you:
I can conclude one, but then again I am NOT an ignorant wretch trying to perpetuate illiterate advice. My conclusion is that she doesnt have LOVE in her life, she lost it and longs for it. Your conclusion is that of ignorance. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:16:45 PM |
men are such strange creatures. if they meet a woman that shows 'she wants them' they suddenly think, well who else might want me? so they hightail it and run in the hope that the next 'chick' would want them too. mature??? not even close....
Sorry to break the news to you ladies. Biologically that's the way men are constructed. Even the best looking woman in the world is going to run into this problem. Think Whitney Huston or Christie Brinkley. The only way you can prevent "wandering eyes" is to castrate your man once you've married him. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:18:14 PM | I hate being alone too.
I am not going to listen to you materialistic individuals who buy into the American societies indoctrination that society, capatilism, money and credit ratings take precedence over the pursuit of LOVE. I owned 2 retail businesses for 12 years so there is NOTHING any of you rookie students of capatilism can teach me. Love is the purest emotion and it is the ONLY thing that will make you happy, anybody that advocates anything else is an idiot (and I know where your at in your life, you just have never succeded at anything) . Anyone want to step up and challenge me on this ? BRING IT ! | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:22:38 PM |
Biologically that's the way men are constructed
You are speaking for yourself, I am a man and I am NOT constructed like that, You just like to have sex with them, spread your DNA and move on to the next, just like an animal. I bet you have the education of an animal too dont you ? Dont speak for the educated males when your not. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:26:39 PM | | If you don't like your own company, how can you expect anyone else to enjoy being with you? Being alone is different than being lonely because you aren't sharing special moments with someone. Your handle is hott_stuff. I agree with a previous post, "look deeper". What do you ask if men get scared?? | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:30:20 PM | If you don't like your own company, how can you expect anyone else to enjoy being with you
I never read that she didnt enjoy her own company, but then again how is being alone equated with company ? Doesnt there have to be MORE than 1 person for it to be company ?
1 person is an individual ?
2 is company
3 is a crowd
I think the premesise of the topic is she doesnt enjoy the LACK of company because ONE person is NOT company. How ignorant are you people ? | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:33:23 PM | | After awhile you almost get use to it, I'm hoping to find someone to have a relationship with. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:38:04 PM |
You are speaking for yourself, I am a man and I am NOT constructed like that
You must have been neutered by your last girlfriend/wife. In any event, if you are as educated as you claim, you would acknowledge that this is a fundamental fact. Sorry pal, that's just the way real men are constructed. You might want to consult a doctor. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:40:56 PM |
After awhile you almost get use to it, I'm hoping to find someone to have a relationship with.
I wish ya luck man. You sound genuine and down to earth, I know how ya feel. At least your honest about your emotions and dont try to deny and cover them up with "being busy" or "being happy with yourself" bullshet. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:47:06 PM | | hey obsidian.......sounds like you got it "ALL" down .......most men this most men that, most men just want teh first six mnths. for sex because it's the best...maybe were you come from......people with class don't treat there own peope, including women like trashy objects.......men who do are worthless themselves...they are just disease spreading organisms...........! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:49:37 PM | you would acknowledge that this is a fundamental fact. Sorry pal, that's just the way real men are constructed. You might want to consult a doctor.
your right about consulting a doctor because a doctor deals with the biological aspect of a human (man) but there is more to us, or some of us. We have the capacity to LOVE, which is NOT biological. LUST is biological and we share that with animals. If that is all the farther you are at in your life is to view women as a sexual means of bearing your children, then you are not much more advanced than a dog, literally. I have found sex with a woman you love is much more fulfilling than to spread your gene pool to perpetuate the human species, which is very basic Darwinism. You claim to be educated, DUDE, define love. It appears your version of love is to impregnate as many women as possible so the human race doesnt become exctint, and THAT view on life gets you on the Chales Darwin honor role, but it puts you very low on the spirutal,emotional and the aspect of the soul, which is part of you being a person. You have a ways to go you uneducated wretch. There is more to life than trying to get a nut you squirrel. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:55:48 PM | | Why are you alone? Are you TOO PRETTY, by which I mean do you intimidate people with your looks? I would not reject a TOO PRETTY girl unless I think they will simply cast me aside for someone who better fits their ideal profile (cut abs and max salary) Right? You as a pretty girl exist in a BUYER'S Market- and if you don't know that then welcome to the universal smogash-board all you can eat of long****and thick****and money- whoop, whoop1 and everything else you can think of- EAT IT ALL- Intellectuals quail in your presence (though they should be doing their job of preventing us from destroying ourselves)- and So You ARE QUEEN. EAT the STEET as if it were your daily bread (GOD wants you TOO) and you are the reason- 'détre for all the hungry****that wants a future in a universe that wants us (Dead) check the background radition- you are so sweet I wish I was a Diabetic (To die as I love You so much better than to live to NOT)/ | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:56:24 PM | Hit the nail on the head Bob. And the worst thing is you then come on these forums and read all kinds of stupid generalisations about what men/women are like. The fact of the matter in this case is there is no answer we can give. This particular relationship just didn't work at this particular time for reasons we can't even begin to guess as outsiders - there is no magical piece of wisdom that will explain it.
The best we can do is offer our genuine sympathy and support and urge the OP to just keep on trying. Who knows who might come along next? But as the guy on the previous page said 'Buckle up!' We are dealing with interpersonal relationships here, probably the most complex things in the universe... | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:59:41 PM |
people with class don't treat there own peope, including women like trashy objects.......
I agree. Anyone that wants to challenge that, you are challenging me, because I am taking up this fight. BRING IT ! | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:04:44 PM |
Why are you alone?
the same reason the rest of us are, she lost love, hasnt found it and we are missing love in our loves. Good god it is like trying to educate a pack of illiterate savages from Africa. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:19:08 PM |
This particular relationship just didn't work at this particular time for reasons we can't even begin to guess as outsiders - there is no magical piece of wisdom that will explain it.
There is a magical piece of wisdom that will explain it. HE DID NOT LOVE HER !
when you people realize the term LOVE and your capacity as humans to experience it life will be alot clearer to you. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:34:37 PM | .maybe were you come from
well he's an African-American. he came from Africa right, which is where Charles Darwin derived his theory of evolution. Funny how they want to be called "African" americans. My dad was from Germany and my Grampa from Russia, but I dont want to be called a German-Russian-American. Guess they want ties to their primal roots, with disregard to their more civilized roots from America, but even American culture is very primal and atrocies in my opinion but there seems to be more opportunities to educate oneself vs dieing of starvation in Africa. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:44:25 PM | OP
Being alone is important - it lets you get comfortable in your own skin and enjoy your you-ness (if that makes sense).
The spooky (and dangerous prt) of constantly seeking a relationship is that you may find yourself with someone that is not right for you. There are plenty of chauvenistic, arogant, self serving guys with anger, drug, or alohol issues. Some of them may even be bipolar.
I have met a few ladies that are recovering from serial marriages/bfs that were abusive.
As far as men running when things are working well, I cant rightly say. I think its hard enough to find someone that they would want to leave when things are working well.
Good luck in your search for someone special
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:50:51 PM | Being alone is important - it lets you get comfortable in your own skin and enjoy your you-ness (if that makes sense).
doesnt make sense to me. If your comfortable and happy being alone then why even bother looking for a realtionship that could possilbe deter that. I have NEVER been happy being alone and I dont care to be. When I reach that point I will be like an animal, like the lone wolf, which detracts from my humanity. I will be like the rest of you on these internet dating sites. In love with my damn self incapable of loving any woman and using them for the biological sexual release. Very primal in my opinion. Is that what we call a civilized society. Not very is it ?, because the economy is WRECKED. Reconsider what you think to be fact because your govt and your society has betrayed you as human beings. | |
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| i hate being alone
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:27:22 PM |
You must have been neutered by your last girlfriend/wife
I wish I was.
I am not sure that would stop me from seeking love. Love is more than just the appeasment of your sex organ. | |
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