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Posted: 7/6/2008 2:42:34 AM | Hi Maggie doyle,
I can't understand anyone lying or massaging a profile. Personally speaking,I don't tell people all the good things,because I know they wouldn't believe me,although they are true.
I also have a really bad memory,and ,I'm sure the one thing you need to be a good liar is a good memory. I just tell the truth,and although I know I'm not going to be everyones cup of tea,at least I know whoever contacts me,is contacting me for all the correct reasons,and if I do meet them then there are no surprises,at least none from my side. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 2:50:41 AM | Hey Loz,
I'm a wee fat baldy headed guy,who likes slim women,it's such a pity I'm too old for you DOH!!! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 2:54:44 AM |
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One last comment is that all profiles I take with a grain of salt
Reality I hold up to true light and certainty... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 3:11:43 AM | | most take advantage of the internet to make themselves out to be something they're not...I am the opposite and take advantage of the fact that I can be totally honest...Life's too short to play games...I tell it like it is...if you don't like it then we don't waste each others time...luckily I haven't met anyone who totally fabricated their profile...if I ever do you can be sure they will hear it from me...I mean really now, isn't it more gratifying to have someone like you you for what you really are than what you think you 'should' be? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 5:46:17 AM | My favorite motto; It's so easy to live an honest life.
The first time I joined this site years ago, I thought the more I said the better, "and it came with bragging rights " it worked but I also realised most of the things I mentioned were from my past and truly was not who I was at that time or now. So I try not to live in the past anymore on my profile.
Just some useless info for general reading;
Local women will message me asking questions pertaining to certain people, I'm surprised we have so many Firefighters that I don't know. Somehow my Fire House has doubled in employees 
And the base is over run with 007's. I was moved here to start up an Operational Unit which never got off the ground, but I'm surprised at how many military guys here work for this Ghost Unit I like reading their profiles and soon after they have disappeared, so they really do work for this Ghost Unit!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 8:45:40 AM | | It happens a lot! In fact, a lot of people exagerate or blatantly lie, and it DOES get them dates. those of us that are "normal" with "normal lives" and are honest in our profiles tend NOT to get dates as we don't sound interesting enough! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 12:48:05 PM | Hey League,
That's too funny - from talking to women I know, it also seem this site has an overwhelming abundance of successful busy entrepreneurial types who have multiple offices and are always working late, which is why they sometimes chat or talk on the phone for months but never seem to be able to find time to meet.
I am sure they aren't really married - or have a crappy evening job they don't want to admit to, thus the calls from a cell phone or blocked number. I know guys would never lie about things like that  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 1:58:50 PM | | "assassing for the government??" Oh come on. People are free to write what they want in their profiles. Actually, they have certain amount of characters to fill so expect they write anything and some sort of exagerations too. That's what phone conversations are for. So you get the voice feeling of what is being written on profiles! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 2:47:55 PM | | Dear El in the case of a guy who puts in the effort to win a mate he will say always that he was the initiator of contact and if a heterosexual relationship has long term zizzle albeit for life pair bonding it only works if the guy is doing the persuing. Now this may sound to a horny young gal the dumbest thing they ever heard but there is science and anthropological reasoning behind this as a necessity for union due to the human need whether it is surface t o procreate . A guy with a brain wants his genes to be passed on in a mate of his choosing, not hers. Even after the chase is over the desire to please and win her affections is completely necessary for the bond to continue, if that is over the relationship is over, it is brain chemistry,ulti-mate-ly hormonal as well which is undeniably different from homosexual pair bonding. Homosexuality is not a choice, the hard wiring is different and the brain patterning is different, this is not recruitable or a choice,so equating the same characteristics to heterosexual pair bonds is not relative. If you believe that you will enter a dynamic and exciting and strong pair bond by persuing guys ... go for it , but in the end when you get tired of this and realise it is not nor will it work as a serious relationship born of deep respect and him believing he found the most amazing woman he ever met in his life ... you will wait for a guy to contact you or persue you because I guarantee that if a guy is truly 100% ready and he scopes you out as "the one" he will light up like a firefly and dive in with both feet so strongly it will surprise you ... Ask anyone married and very much deeply in love couple after 40 years and they will tell you that his world sets on her happiness and her comfort because that is what makes a man ....... feel like a man. If a guy is not doing the jumpin jimminies he is not, way way not into you and any real guy will tell you that. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 6:53:45 PM | I haven't had much of a problem in the past with meeting up with men that post very old pictures that look nothing like they do now. What I seem to constantly run into are guys who don't know how tall they really are...
I'm a pretty tall gal, standing at 5'7". I'm usually disappointed when I've been talking to someone for a while and we decide to finally meet. I honestly can't count how many times I've met a guy who had 5'10" or 5'11" written on their profile, and when we meet in person it's EXTREMELY awkward to find out that I am either taller than said guy or the same height.
::sigh:: I just wish guys would get a clue and post their actual height, not what their "dream" height is..... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 9:08:59 PM | Dear HowBig >
Ask anyone married and very much deeply in love couple after 40 years and they will tell you that his world sets on her happiness and her comfort because that is what makes a man ....... feel like a man. If a guy is not doing the jumpin jimminies he is not, way way not into you and any real guy will tell you that.
This can be true regardless of how the two got together and who pursued who...
And btw did you completely side step my point about Lesbian pairings?
I also like how you feel you have the right to claim what any "real guy" will want or say... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 9:38:48 PM |
A guy with a brain wants his genes to be passed on in a mate of his choosing, not hers.
Hear that guys, you're stupid if you let a woman decide she likes you.. and ten tell you so.
Insulted yet?
because that is what makes a man ....... feel like a man.
And here I thought it was the dangler and the testosterone. Silly me.
If a guy is not doing the jumpin jimminies he is not, way way not into you and any real guy will tell you that.
So I guess all the painfully shy, but perfectly great guys are SOL then, huh? Poor them.
I know crap when I hear it.. well, read it anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:25:00 PM | | I have not read too many "amazing" profiles. They are all pretty standard and ...generic. Everyone is straightforward, no head games, fitness freaks, yadda yadda yadda, yawn. That's why I have fun with my profile. Not that it matters, because guys never read it. I know this by the e-mails I get. I take profiles and pics with a grain of salt. Let people have their fantasies. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:30:36 PM | "That's too funny - from talking to women I know, it also seem this site has an overwhelming abundance of successful busy entrepreneurial types who have multiple offices and are always working late, which is why they sometimes chat or talk on the phone for months but never seem to be able to find time to meet."
Is this not true, ncyankee101? There is a forum regular who has a cologne add up for a pic, states he is a CEO, and has so much time for the forums! HELLO! I read his posts and laugh my behind off.
I think POF is an ego boost for a lot of people. Kind of like myspace and a million friends was a couple of years ago. I have a girlfriend who posed as a guy on myspace for a mag and she was so popular with the ladies!
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:37:36 PM | I think a good solution for this dilemma would be for everyone to pick one person at random from here, go on a date with them, and re write their profile to show how they really are. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:44:34 PM | The following are examples of guys I have met, here and another site.
profile says: I'm a really nice guy. Reality: He says to me 5 min into meeting "You are going to die of cancer because you go jogging out in the sun".
profile reads: I'm a funny guy. Reality: "hmmm, I just do't have a favorite joke, I can't tell you anything funny that I can come up with right now, I didn't know there was going to be a test"(angry voice)
profile says: My family and friends think I'm a great, kind , generous person.
reality:he says to me " I hate fat women, they are just gross, I'm so glad you are not because if I met one more fat woman for coffee I was just going to puke"
profile says: I'm an old fashioned gentleman.
reality: This is how he said hi to me when we met " Hey sugar buns, you are a real hottie, do you want to skip the coffee and go jacuzzi at my crib?"
profile says: athletic.
reality: he downed 3 crown royal shots in 15min and had a gut the size of a twin pregnancy.
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:57:07 PM | Ever had a salesmen lie to you maggie? Its the same thing. These profiles are our commercials. We try to show you a little teaser so you will be interested to find out more. When it comes down to it its all about selling yourself. Now there are two ways to do it honesty and dishonest.
The honest car salesmen will point out in great detail some good features of the car. Such as the price, mileage and etc. If asked he will tell you some disadvatages of the car. Not telling and lieing are two different things.
The dishonest salesmen will promise you everything under the sun to get you into the car. He will flat out lie, cheat and steal to get the sale. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:58:07 PM | | ....the last person I met thru POF,said to me, in the first 5 min...."wow , I am so relieved that you are exactly what I pictured..." we had written nearly every day for 3 months...so felt pretty comf. but still nervous.....apparently. his very first date ,he didnt even recognise....,I had a guy lie about smoking...hello? your vehicle stinks....it seems to be....men lie about thier age and ,women, thier weight.........misconstrued?whos to say?............ | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 12:29:07 AM | The following are examples of guys I have met, here and another site.
profile says: I'm a really nice guy. Reality: He says to me 5 min into meeting "You are going to die of cancer because you go jogging out in the sun".
profile reads: I'm a funny guy. Reality: "hmmm, I just do't have a favorite joke, I can't tell you anything funny that I can come up with right now, I didn't know there was going to be a test"(angry voice)
profile says: My family and friends think I'm a great, kind , generous person.
reality:he says to me " I hate fat women, they are just gross, I'm so glad you are not because if I met one more fat woman for coffee I was just going to puke"
profile says: I'm an old fashioned gentleman.
reality: This is how he said hi to me when we met " Hey sugar buns, you are a real hottie, do you want to skip the coffee and go jacuzzi at my crib?"
profile says: athletic.
reality: he downed 3 crown royal shots in 15min and had a gut the size of a twin pregnancy.
I can go on, and on, and on
You know thats a two way street. And if I were a synical man I could look at things like this:
She says: I like fine dining.
She means: You better take me to very nice resturaunts. I expect the check to be atleast $100.
She says: I'm close with my family and friends.
She means: if they don't like you no matter who you are and if there points on not liking you arn't valid I still won't like you.
She says: I hate drama.
She means: I love causing drama and living in it and dragging others down to my mysery.
She says: I like to go out.
She means: I'm an alchohalic.
Now I'm not a synical man so I don't believe those apply to all woman not even a majority.  | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 2:05:11 AM | "Now I'm not a synical man so I don't believe those apply to all woman not even a majority"
Did you actually meet women like this?
or are you just practicing your writting skills?
If It did happen to you and went out with those women I'm sorry you had to endure that.
If it didn't and you were just thinking up scenarios well, I wonder what else did you write in your profile that is NOT true either.
I didn't say ALL men are like these dates I had, just they ones I met.
If you take offense reading about my bad dates, that means you could be one?
I could be wrong too.
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Posted: 7/7/2008 4:25:52 AM | Nightfall romance:
your comment regarding howbigisyourlove on Lesbian pairings:
And btw did you completely side step my point about Lesbian pairings?
I would like to say, that Lesbian or gay pairings are based on opposite polarities such as feminine versus masculine energy same as for straight couples, and it has got nothing to do with gender, it is about attraction of the opposites, same as between man and woman... nothing more nothing less. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 9:54:03 AM | Well, personally on here, excepting age, fuzzy pics and weight for some, almost all have been honest.
LOL, yes there is always the person that thinks they have to be a spy to get peoples opinion or Navy Seal or Viet Nam veteran. And of course they always have a problem keeping the dots connected once they are questioned. Most don't realize that if there was a time machine most of us vets would love to have them take our places back then, LOL. War is nasty, at the least inconvienent, sweaty and very scary and most of the time boring waiting for the shit to hit the fan. The character in "Ghost and the Darkness" that Michael Douglas played had it right on the head when he was queried about being brave "you think you will be but you never know." Each time is different. These folks get the dates, places and events wrong. You would think they would be better at what they want to play at. They don't realize that there are very few covert operatives or people that know big secrets. Not only in the past but in todays market, secrets and people that know them are big business and being careless about talking big could get you a lot more attention from the bad guys than you think. LOL As a friend of mine said, "they don't have to torture me to get information out of me, just tell me they are going to do it." I told him that they would do it for fun anyway just because they enjoy it and can do it.
The head of the Khmer Rouge was a very personable guy they say but he would kill you, your family, friends, kids or torture you in a second. And don't think we don't have a few of those around that just haven't been able to indulge as much as they like to in the US.
It's really a lot tougher world out there than we realize, so we should all be glad our little boring worlds and lives are just that, boring.
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:54:57 AM | LOL I didn't know I was going to shut the subject down with a reality check, wasn't that what it was all about in the first place?
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:01:50 AM | | IDK about tall tales but I've noticed that many profiles read "laid-back" or "easy-going" which is a quality to have. However I wonder about some profiles that only have a bi or tri line bio because that would almost seem like a newspaper ad. Nothing against anyone here, I'm just sayin.. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:11:37 AM | It's usually the height issue with me. I am just over average height at 5'7" (my passport says so), but when I meet a guy who says he is the magical 5'11" and I have to stoop to shake his hand I know that he is Mr Fibber. The funniest one was a guy who said he was 5'10" who turned out to be just under my height who looked at me and said 'I see you have your high shoes on'. They were about 2 inches high and I towered over him at least 6 inches.
Now I know if he says he is over 6 foot he is most likely to be telling the truth, the ones you have to watch are the 5 10 - 5 11 brigade. | |
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