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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:03:11 AM | | Dont quit your job, quit him. He'll never be good for anything besides a heartache so move on. He's wasted energy at this point. Let some other girl play sucker while he's still trying to emotionally grow up. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:19:16 AM | | First of all, don't quit your job. Do not allow him to take that from you too. He has already taken the trust out of the relationshipand hurt you terribly. He deserves nothing else from you. It takes time to get over beeen hurt and betrayed, but you will get over it. You are young and pretty and you will love again. And just try to remember , yes we all make mistakes , but when it comes to cheating, in my way of thinking,....If the person is going to cheat on me, he has no respect for my feelings or for me, and I am worth more than that. I cannot take a person back in my life, once they have cheated . Hurts like hell to walk away at times, but you can survive. Hopefully you will one day find one of the few men out there that believes in being faithful in a relationship. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:19:38 AM | OP in my opinion you should run for the hills. As much as our society seems to "allow" men to wander it is wrong. If anyone agrees to be comitted that is it and should be.
Why can't he quit his job. if you like what you do that is not fair to you. Trust is a 2 way street. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:20:55 AM | Cheaters have this amazing way of rationalizing their behaviors. Any addiction involving sex is a very hard habit to break. I would never trust this guy. I would have ditched him after the first episode of cheating.
I know a woman who was able to continue working in the same office with a guy she was dating who cheated on her. She was able to psychologically cut him out without so much as the bat of an eye. She was also stunningly beautiful and had no shortage of other men to distract her. Personally, it would be hell for me to work in the same office with the guy. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:26:53 AM | It's tough but you deserve better.
You want a man that doesn't cheat. Period.
Hold your head up, smile and know you will find a man that ONLY wants you.
This guy is not decent and will do it to the next woman too.
Down the road years from now, you will be in a solid, loving, LONG term with the decent man you held out for. This guy, will still be lost, cheating, and unhappy.
Good luck. Been there. Done that. It isn't you, its him. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:32:15 AM | | I really feel for you. It's a very tough decision to make about your job. Because I am not in that situation I can say this... LIFE is too short. Try your best to move on. Just think how many guys there are out there that would treat you well, like you deserve to be treated. You are 'special' in your own way, as we all are. Think about it! LIFE is too short! I wish you the best. Micki | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:23:07 AM | | Why would an attractive woman like you waste your time on a lying, cheating loser like him? If you can get another job and you think not seeing him would help you go ahead, then quit once you find something else. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:09:04 PM | I agree; dont quit your job; just act pleasant and civil and go about your life;
You have to come to grips that he is never going to change; this is a doomed relationship. Move on my friend.
Also, when the time comes, dont tell him anything about your personal life. He obviously doesn't want to be with you, but he wants you to not be with anyone else. Good luck. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:34:06 PM | OP, I haven't read all the posts here just your innicial one.
Heres my advice. It doesn't sound like he's going to change. Why not, because everytime you take him back you condone his actions. You tell him. I don't really have to stop cheating I just have to give her some sweet words and she'll buy it.
Now from my experience why people stay in bad relationships is a fear of being alone. Sometimes that can be awefully scary the idea of having no one. But its worst having someone that treates you like no one rather then having no one.
Here's my advice.
Leave him for good. Move if you have to. And if you get lonely buy a pet. | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:53:06 PM | OP -
IMHO - Once a cheater always a cheater.
I dont think I could trust some one that would go outside a committed relationship.
Its really sad when people would choose to go outside a very special relationship with someone they cared for somthing cheap and vulgar.
You deserve better and if you put up with it you tell the guys that there are no significant repercussions for their imoral behavior.
Best wishes in your search for something special
Cheers | |
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| He's cheated twice, why would i want to go back?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:41:36 AM | | I think your message really sums it up ray. I was thinking of quitting, i actually still am, hence finding a new job first. I havn't been sleeping, i have been crying and not eating. I found out tequila doesn't work either, just gives you a whacker of a headache. Tryed the phone jag, my friends are great, and that did help. Even made a photo story of memoirs, oh my god! But this morning i woke up and remembered i am still the same person i was yesterday. I have principles and morals, i'm kind and considerate, i was brought up properly, i use my manners and i have a beautiful little girl who lights up my life. I also remembered i had posted my story and visited this site, i can't believe the replys i've received and i'm feeling much better at the moment. I'm not going back, i do deserve better, time will heal, thanks so much to you all, it really has helped....cat | |
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