| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:01:57 PM | Do you think you are her "super-hot-sexiest-thing-I-ever-laid-my-eyes-on" guy? I think if she knew you didn't feel that way about her she'd be really hurt.
Is that the most important thing to you?
If she was the one for you, she would have became that person with her personality and all that she is, just not looks.
I've met a few guys who haven't been my type looks-wise, but as I got to know them they became more and more attractive to me. If this isn't happening for you, break it off now. It'll hurt less in the long wrong. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:05:51 PM | People come as a package deal....and you can't change 'um.....so if you are not happy with the package, don't open it.....and don't play games, not cool.....cut it loose & let her go!!!!
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:15:02 PM | | I agree with this! If I ever was to read a post by some man that had his face posted on here talking about me this way, he would be "Goodbye!" This type of post is very cruel, mean and self-serving and we should not get caught up in his delusions. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:46:16 PM | | Personally everyone is different...to me it doesn't matter...I am the shallow or you can say I have my own preference type but I have learned to tone it down ...in this society everyone always going for the outer physical attraction like the perfect body type; perfect hair and eyes etc; perfect upbringing blah blah...but if it matters to u then then its ur preference... | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:19:15 PM | | Sure it matters. But to have a successful relationship, you also have to be attracted to their personality. OP, I do believe you are attracted to her personality, but it is apparent that you just are not able to get past how you feel about her body. And I don't believe that is necessarily a right or wrong thing. No one can make themselves be turned on to something that just isn't a turn on for them. You like what you like. Now you did say that you are reserving sexual intercourse for marriage, yet play with her in a other sexual ways. But you shouldn't give her false impressions by doing that. And are you going or marry her? I don't think you would be happy, and neither would she. So, do the both of you a favor and come clean. I'm not trying to be mean. It's just that she could now be out there finding someone much more compatible, and so could you. But you have her hanging onto you and perhaps believing that you're the one for her. And you're not. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:52:59 PM |
ok let me add this.... I know that I'm not perfect and I am not looking for someone that is perfect. I can and have excepted her for exactly who and what she is... I don't want her to change .... I just want to know if it is possible have a healthy long lasting relationship with her if I do not think she is a super-hot-sexiest-thing-I-ever-laid-my-eyes-on..... is it possible??? I want to be with her, we both make each other really happy... I just want to know if this relationship is doomed or not????
what???? to love someone for who they are rather than how high they rank on the sexy scale??? you must be nuckin futz.
but really, when ever I've been in love,the imperfections seemed to shrink to at least half their size while the positives usually became more apparent.
but I'm not not a guy,so what do I know?
if she doesn't weigh 500 lbs or have a scrotum,can't you just close your eyes and focus on what it feels like to ...... love some one?
I say love is the great equalizer. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:06:38 PM |
can't you just close your eyes and focus on what it feels like to ...... love some one?
You add new meaning to the idea, "love is blind"......
Now where is that blindfold.....oh, Christie Brinkley has it..... | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:28:00 PM |
You add new meaning to the idea, "love is blind"......
Now where is that blindfold.....oh, Christie Brinkley has it....
Christie and I are writing a new book together,it's called "if you close your eyes,it isn't happening."
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:42:42 PM |
You add new meaning to the idea, "love is blind"......
Now where is that blindfold.....oh, Christie Brinkley has it....
Christie and I are writing a new book together,it's called "if you close your eyes,it isn't happening."
No wonder she doesn't know what it feels like....it ain't happening.....
too funny.....have a great Monday..... | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:54:36 PM | how 'bout if a girl is not funny or smart and is lazy and has none of the qualities you've ever wanted and is ugly but she had a great body? would you take it to the next level?..if yes, then you are only physical...see how easy that was...don't lead her on if you already know what you want... | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:16:55 AM | Of course it does...it gets your foot in the door. But after that, there's that crazy saying "You don't love her because she's beautiful. She's beautiful because you love her." I think they either become more or less 'attractive' once you really get to know their personality.
How do you think I do it? My looks barely get my foot in the door...its all charm afterwards. haha | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:34:38 AM |
When we kiss and make out, yes I do get turned on and we do have sexual relations...just not actual sexual intercourse... (that is only for marraige). Just because of who she is and how she makes me feel .... to me makes her the most wonderful girl I know.
Hmm I'm a bit confused, you say you are turned on when you make out. That's a pretty good indication you are attracted to her sexually/physically. What is it about her body that you find unattractive??
Yes physical attraction is a very important part of a relationship. I believe you need that physical and emotional chemistry to make things work long term. However, from what you've said it sounds like you are physically attracted to her. Don't dismiss her because she perhaps isn't your mates/media's idea of the "ideal" perfect woman - looks/body wise. Also keep in mind if you're not drop dead gorgeous sex on legs, then it's unreasonable to expect your partner to be.
Just my 2cents ~ good luck!! | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:44:05 AM | | If it bothers you now it will probably bother you later on unless you change your thinking now or later. I think some guys think an attractive woman with a hot body is great in a relationship. Looks last only so long, once a woman gets real old then what are you going to do? Love is from the heart not the eyes. At your age you should know better. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:22:11 AM | Attraction matters - yes.
So does compatability.
This is something you really need to consider. If you are not attracted to her to the point that you are questioning whether or not you should stay together - not a good sign! Be sure, before you go any further...
I don't think many people are 100% attracted to their life partner. I mean, it has to be pretty rare that we find someone we are compatible with AND who we find attractive in every single way... There is probably always something we will find less than attractive about the other. Noone is perfect. Our lil imperfections are what make us interesting. =)
Good luck to you both, what ever way you go!
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:08:25 AM | Yes it does matter. If you love someone enough to get over these things then thats all good but I dont think theres much point carrying on with someone who cant push your buttons. Sex is an important part of a relationship in my opinion.
Im in a wheelchair and some men are turned off by that but I dont hold it against them. We all have our preferences and I'd not go out with a guy if I wasnt attracted to him.
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:57:50 AM | Good luck with that. Here are some unavoidable facts of life:
After we pass a certain age, we are no longer hot unless we are having hot flashes. Many of us weren't so hot to start with.
Playboy bunny bodies exists only on the pages of Playboy magazine with the help of airbrushes.
The people who write sitcoms where a hot babe is happily married to a dumpy toad like man with a mediocre job are either dumpy toad like men with mediocre jobs or out of work science fiction writers. Unless you live in NYC or LA, where anything is possible, this doesn't really happen.
10s date 10s, 5s date 5s...
Sorry about the reality check, but that is just the way it is in real life. Can you say "Close enough to perfect for me"? | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:03:45 AM |
Because she was the same wonderful person, only thinner.
Kimbo-well put!
I can understand that physical attraction can be a deal breaker for many, and if the OP really isn't physically attracted to her and continues the relationship it isn't going to change how he views her-so as many have already posted he should simply end things so she can find someone who'll embrace all of her. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:10:50 AM | I checked your profile . You're 31?
What attributes does this young lady have you can't get past?
You said she was a nice person and you get along great
I don't see a problem.
Now stop swimming in the shallow end of the pool like the rest of the "boys" your age.
If it's weight that can be fixed. If it's the way she dresses that can be fixed , If it's glasses that can be fixed.
Beauty only skin deep ..ugly is to the bone | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:18:17 AM | How could you even consider being in a relationship with someone you don't find attractive in the ways that matter to you? Some men go for a pretty face first and the body is secondary to them. With some, it's the body that attracts them. With some, a woman has to have a pretty face and a nice body. You've said you're not attracted to her body, so why lead her on?
The fact that you're asking this question is your answer! Let her find someone who is attracted to her. A man is not supposed to be worried about the physical aspect of a relationship. He's supposed to be excited at the very anticipation of it! He's supposed to be bursting at the seams with wanting it! | |
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