| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/9/2008 6:26:19 AM | my borther ~ not only is this a sign that you internally are not attracted 0 this is crucial
to your overall happiness - it does not make yo shallow- iknow exactly how you feel- it's only flesh right- well we have to desire our mates-- if we dont physically it can cause resentment later-- you could hurt her- i think you might need to pull away now of figure out what would make you attracted -- if it's weight-----joint gym memberships!!!!!! | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:03:16 AM | Some people worship at the altar of political correctness on this issue. That does not make it correct or right, merely an expedient myth that can make some people either feel better or entitled. I prefer to try to see things as they really are.
I don't care what my friends look like, but a lover has to light my fires, and that begins with physical attraction. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 8:12:50 AM | Posted By: BigDaddyJinx on 9/8/2008 7  06 PM Subject: WTF?! Message: So guys, take a real good look in the mirror and be honest this time, and be happy when any woman gives you the time of day! Pffft...whaaaaa??? Are you serious? What is that supposed to mean? What the F*CK?! I second that "Pffft" and raise you a hardy, from-the-toes-on-up WHAT THE F**K?! Jesus H Christ, did I just read that right??? Men should be happy "when any woman gives (us) the time of day"?! Are you f**kin' for real? Holy shit on a shovel...you have got the be, by FAR, the most self absorbed human being I have ever had the misfortune of bumping into, and I'm glad it wasn't in person or I'd hock a loogie right square in your narcissistic eye. You unbelieveable, rude, arrogant (insert further profanity here at will). Un-f**king-real.
At least she's up front about it. I think this attitude is the prevailant one amongst many women "that find themselves attractive." And many who don't. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:17:48 PM | | Several basic needs have to be met in any successful relationship. Emotional...that person has to be somewhat in sync with you in this way. They should be able to share their emotions with you without you or they flipping out about it. Mental...your partner has to have a similar amount of intelligence to yourself for it to work in the long run. Intelligent and educated people should be matched with others that are equally intelligent. Yes, last but not least...Physical. If there is no physical attraction between two people in a relationship, problems will arise. Such problems include lack of interest and unfortunately...cheating. If two people do not match up...emotionally, mentally, and physically...it will not stand the test of time. So to answer your question...physical attraction matters a lot. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:33:30 PM |
would it be possible to have a long-healthy relationship if I'm not physically attracted to her
OP, if you aren't sexually driven, I suppose you could have a "friendship driven" relationship. It wouldn't be my choice, but people stay with other people for "companionship" sometimes. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/9/2008 8:40:42 PM | | Of course physical attraction matters. Yes there is more to a relationship than just looks and a man doesn't need to have "GQ" looks in order for me to date him. But there should be at least some physical attraction. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/12/2008 1:24:22 PM | | Physical attraction is very important in a relationship but back tracking on this if there is nothing good on the inside them you move on so beauty as they say is only skin deep and if it's wrotten inside them move on. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/12/2008 1:31:08 PM | | The thing i find ironic in the whole male female attraction issue is that there are very few women in the world too ugly to get a man,any woman can get a man of some kind.... but there are tons of men too ugly to get a woman,can't get one no matter what they do...kind of makes you wonder who looks matter to most doesn't it. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:17:30 PM | | I think physical attraction is really important. But physical attraction does not necessarily mean drop dead gorgeous or beautiful. Luckily, we all see others differently and someone who is attractive to one is not to another. I would most certainly have to be physically attracted to someone to take a relationship to the next step. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:20:55 PM | | I don't know about anyone else, but for me to function on a higher plane I need to know the person I'm with finds me physically attractive. Martyrs and saints I don't need .. who does. Physical attraction is one of several things that matter. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:28:05 PM | | Well, it all depends on you. No one else can answer the question. For me, my physical requirements are not that stringent. But long and lean, on the thinner side, will please me. And the facial features are not really all that important to me. But none of that matters at all if the right confidence level and intellect are there. The mind can overpower the body EASILY. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:36:34 PM | Clearly a well-adjusted male ........... so they do 'exist'.
Tell me ............. if you can(?) .......... how you might react/feel - if the partner you had to find physically attractive was rendered less so ........ an accident/ill-health? Does it alter the 'person' you found attractive? ........... although maybe not 'perfectly so'. Fact is - are you 'perfectly attractive'? Are you 5'10 - 6'? Are you muscular/athletic? Are you fit and active? Guess your answer 'yes' might be rather different to my opinion. Then there is the 'other side of the coin'. Are you financially stable? Do you have a reasonable income? Are you debt-free/sensible with money - whilst not being stingy?
I'm giving you 'this' from a woman's point of view. It might be hers too.
'Physical attraction' is initially important. It becomes less so as we learn more about each other. It becomes even less so as we age/change. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:49:48 PM | | AT LEAST YOU REALIZE THAT YOU'RE NOT PERFECT, (SHE PROBABLY THINKS YOU ARE,UNTIL SHE READS YOUR COMMENT ). GOOD LUCK WITH GETTING A DATE WITH THE SUPER-HOT-SEXIEST-THING-YOU-EVER-LAID-YOUR-EYES-ON !! I HAVE A FEELING THAT MAY BE THE MOST EXPENSIVE ,EYE OPENING ONE NIGHT DATE OF YOUR LIFE...AND YOUR CURRENT LADY WILL FIND SOMEONE WITH MUCH MORE COMPASSION & SENSE. SHE IS THE ONE THAT SHOULD QUESTION THE RELATIONSHIP,AND FOR HER SAKE,I HOPE SHE CUTS BAIT IMMEDIATELY !!! GOOD LUCK TO HER. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 4:18:13 PM | | Physcial attraction matters, how many times do you see posted on POF profiles, dont email me without a photo. If you like all the qualities that makes her who she is but you lack physcial attraction toward her, then consider her a great plutonic freind. You should let her know how you feel so you dont hurt her and hopefully you still can remain friends with her. Rent the movie, Shallow Hal it might have some insight. Then cut her loose so she can find a great guy who will accept her for who she is, body and all. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 4:37:43 PM | This is a multi page thread - I may have already said this - pages ago.
Let me be the first to answer this question this way (or the 900th person)
"Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????"
well DUH ..............
Boy/girl (man/woman for you stuffed shirts) attraction is one of the main ingredients.
-attraction (you simple must want to (at some point) be naked with them - they must be desirable to you - and they must know they are
-like (BIG BIG DEAL you need to really like them and continue liking them for a long lasting union)
-respect
-similar values
Did I mention .... well DUH ? | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 7:32:16 PM | The better question would be how much does it matter ?
Or how physically attracted do you need to be ?
Well DUH ? (to coin a phrase )
You pretty much can't be repulsed at the thought of your partner being naked . But , I have had a LTR with someone I thought was physically attractive , but , never a knock out.
I find that if someone is super hot , it ends in disaster ...if it ever get's going much at all .
It would be nice to have it all , but , I don't know if that's possible. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 8:06:47 PM | Just to stay on topic: yes. Yet, what one sees as attractive...another might not. So, you have to go with what YOU find attractive. If this woman does not light your fire stick up....leave. If she does, but some may question what you "see" and their opinion is affecting said fire stick...leave.
Now...off topic...sort of. Your postings in you history box do not jive with your story line nor the time line. I'm confused. But....that's nothing new. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/19/2008 9:52:27 PM | The thing i find ironic in the whole male female attraction issue is that there are very few women in the world too ugly to get a man,any woman can get a man of some kind.... but there are tons of men too ugly to get a woman,can't get one no matter what they do...kind of makes you wonder who looks matter to most doesn't it.
If you're talking about a one night stand, perhaps. If you're talking about a relationship, it's illogical. There are roughly an equal number of men and women. If all the unattractive women grabbed all the attractive men, then who would the attractive women be pairing off with?
Study after study has been done that show that people, in general, tend to pair off with someone of the other sex, who would fall at about the equivalent level of the attractiveness scale. Most emotionally healthy people know, intuitively, who will be in his/her "available universe". The ones who do all the moaning and carrying on about the "shallowness" of it all, are those who haven't done the intuitive adjustment, to find attractive, those who will find them attractive. If you disdain your opposite number, and only find the most attractive people to be attractive to you, but it's never reciprocated, it can lead to an angry, bitter accusation of the other sex being "shallow". If you have adjusted, there are plenty of fish to be found, for even the least attractive people.
For me, I know what I find attractive, and I would not pursue a relationship with someone, who I didn't find attractive. It's an integral part of sexual desire, and sexual attraction lies at the base of romantic love. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/20/2008 8:25:39 AM | Believe me when I say...there have been men attracted to me that get that aged old response..."not in this life time or in any other, dude". Somebody approaches you, gives you "that look", then starts to move in a little closer, and all you can think about is "ugh, I think I'm gonna hurl if he gets to close".
As far as having male friends who are just that. Its not because they may be physcially unattractive to me. Its more of a "there's no zing" happening.
I find very few really ugly people out there. But I do find ones I'm just not attracted to...for what ever reason. And kissing them (let alone more indepth stuff) just isn't going to happen.
And I don't consider myself shallow...I'm sure if I come across that way...someone will let me know. | |
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| Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 9/20/2008 9:17:55 AM | | There are lots of physically attractive men that I have no sexual attraction to as well. A person has to have a certain way, or look to them, in order to want me to let them come close. It's a matter of personal preference. I can handle a "diamond in the rough" over someone who's raw materials aren't there to begin with. It's nice on those rare occasions when the total package walks across your path, tho. Pun undecided. | |
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