| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:48:27 AM | | Uh, can't agree with ya Karen. Maybe I'm a bit old fashioned (if so... it's only just a bit)... but I ain't callin' the guy first. I may return his call... or I may give him my phone number if I am interested... (or choose not to until I am comfortable to do so) but I'm not calling him first. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:54:32 AM | Everyone should read this book, "Obsession" by John Douglas, former FBI profiler...in it he says these obsessive/stalker tyes have to be dealt with clearly, firmly and do not maintain ANY contact at all with them. They take the slightest conversation, a simple hello, the smalles contact, as interest and will milk that for reasons to keep pursuing. My best friend has gotten into similiar situations because she is too nice to cut off the contact and say NO, leave me the hell alone. And secretly I think she may have liked the attention from a men who were just head over heels obsessed with her. But some stalker types get crazy, and you can never tell what you're dealing with til too late.
now that I've addressed the stalker/obssessive type. OP you might be headed in that direction if you keep posting forums about this ONE girl. You can call once more, leave a message, and if she still doesn't call back then you have your answer. SHE IS NOT INTERESTED....get it? There are other women in the world. Why do people always want what they cannot have? If a man is not available to me, then I will automatically assume he's not into me and it's time to deal with someone who is. I have no time for guessing games.
You are spending way too much time wondering about this girl. If you do get her on the phone, ask her point blank if she'd like to go out. If she gives you an excuse, then there is the same damn answer for you.
It's time to get over it. The balls been in her court and looks to me like she'd rather play with someone else | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:58:38 AM | want to mention there was some good replies here , i read thru some of them and definity some good ideas / comments . but obvivously since you don't know her its really hard for us to figure out why she did this or what her intentions were when she gave me her number .
maybe she was interested at the time or curious to find out more about me . it could be were looking for different things or she just has other more important priorities this summer . | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:09:21 AM | well maybe i'm a little obsessed with her but i haven't done anythign wrong here , mean she didn't have to add me as a friend on facebook , message me back , add me to her msn , give me her number etc . she had lots of chances to say no or not reply . she just kept the whole thing going and allowed it to keep on escalating .
think part of the problem here as me and her have only talked at the bar and online , neither which count as quality time or gave us a great chance to talk to get to know each other. i think if we had been able to hang out or talk somewhere more peaceful she would of felt more comfortable with me . thats partly why i asked for her number as i had wanted to get things offline and out of the bar . which doesn't seem to have proved sucessful . | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:30:18 AM | ^^^^^^You STILL miss the point! You STILL rationalize her actions
to want to believe!
None of the things she does indicates any closeness!
It's like she's added you to her collection! Like another specimen in a
collection of rain forest butterflies!
ALWAYS judge a woman by her actions! Don't even listen to her! lol
Many women know exactly how to manipulate a mans Ego! | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:09:10 PM | well guess part of the problem is over the last couple of months her actions have been so all over the place you never know how things are going to turn out . there has been positive moments and then not so positive moments .
her actions might indicate a certain amount of uncertaintly towards me maybe , combined with some minor interest .
and i agree the closeness hasn't been there yet , thats partly why i wanted to talk to her on the phone . i just wasn't feeling it when i was talking to her on msn . as you say i wasn't feeling a sense of closeness or anything special .
as for whats next , who knows but its more than likely that i will see more of her this summer and that this story is not closed yet . | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:50:21 PM | I'll give you another very valuable tip! Does a woman ask personal
questions? Does she remember these things the next time you
communicate? Strokers, users, professional daters and women that
just like to flirt NEVER get personal! Not about YOU anyway!
Everything, usually revolves around them.
I knew one women, who although she didn't sleep around, everywhere
you looked were names and numbers of guys! I think the whole thing
was just an Ego boost! Look how popular I am!
STOP letting your high interest in a woman blind you to reality! | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:23:50 PM | | Honestly im stupid like this too..sometimes i would give out my number just out of pity but i wouldnt answer 2 make them get the hint because im not a huge ****...but yeah you get it... | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:49:17 PM | | Anything that is done at the end of a date or meeting should be taken with a grain of salt. Plenty of people will give their phone numbers to someone, agree to go out another date with someone, kiss someone etc. Yet in some cases, you wouldn't hear back from that person again. There are many different possible reasons for this ranging from meeting another person that they liked better to preferring to remain single. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:00:31 PM | | Move on Dude, it's time for u to say Next.There are thousands of them out there.It's happened to me before.This gurl was so sweet and later will not answer her phone.what did i do? Next! Say it loud! | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:06:50 PM | Dude, i will teel you one secret, the season calls for it.Get on the same site you found this gurl and she will be there.What is she doing? I can swear she is still phishing.That fact that you have the gurls number does not mean you have her.It is when she answers you call and you are able to hold a decent converstaion that you can cound yourself among the possible choices.
Man, this gurl is enjoying her summer, she meets with ou to blow some time, Get in the club, meet someone. This is not an absolute world where you will question everything, challenge assumptions and doubt conventions because it will be the first step in making things right.
Wake up, we are in a real world. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:42:58 PM | some more good advice , and i definity might not take asking or geting a number as serious in the future . i guess cause i haven't asked too many girls for there number and this girl is fairly attractive , it created a big deal of the whole thing .
but in future situations need to take this less serious and maybe ask more as it seems like girls give them out fairly easily .
as for this current girl as to if we ever talk on the phone or not i'm clueless as to if that will happen . its frustrating especially since i now have her number and all . but i guess having the number is only half the battle , her being interested in your call is the real test . | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 8/5/2008 6:00:58 PM | | I can only gives my experience on it but when I give a guy my number and don't get back to him; it's because I'm not interested and I gave out the phone number because I'm always wary of the reactions you can get from some guys when you tell them no; maybe I'm a bit paranoid but I had experiences telling me that it's easier to deal with difficult men from far away.. Having said that, I would never waste time talking on facebook or messenger with someone I had no interest in. but then again I am not the kind of person who feels flattered by any bit of attention and I hate the virtual life thing, much prefer reality :). But I wouldnt be surprised if the girl was never interested in the first place and was just enjoying your attention. In any case, do NOT call her again immediately; if I was you I would call, just to make sure I have tried my best and have no regrets in the future, but I will wait and do it very casually, no pressure... | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 8/5/2008 6:12:26 PM | After ''obsession'' read ''he's just not that into you'' as well. Better yet, the movie will be out soon. Honestly get over this chick.
Some girls are nice, some are flirty and give mixed signals....but doesn't mean they are interested in you. And if they are ignoring you now, good indication they're not. I have a friend who is a ''flirty'' girl, even when she has a bf. She will chat a guy up, left and right and leave him thinking she's in love with them, when she is not. She's gotten a few of these obsessive stalkers types by being this way. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 8/8/2008 10:57:03 AM | | I've given guys my cell phone # if I wasn't all that interested in them(cell phone won't work from my house so I rarely use it & it's almost always turned off--also I have no minutes on it right now) but not my home #... just to be nice and so I don't have to come up with excuses or make them feel bad cause I suck at telling people I'm not interested. Actually I've only done that a couple of times....once was about a year ago at the horror convention I went to and the guy was obviously drunk and I was just wanting him to get away so I gave him the cell # so he'd go off with his friends. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 8/8/2008 11:07:24 AM |
once was about a year ago at the horror convention I went to and the guy was obviously drunk and I was just wanting him to get away so I gave him the cell # so he'd go off with his friends.
Should have given him somebody else's phone number. Somebody you were pissed off at or something. | |
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