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Posted: 7/8/2008 5:35:06 PM | Looks like there are a few responders that did not read the OP. And are being ridiculous, most likely the ones that put out those real red flags!!!!! The original poster stated there are a lot of good and honest guys out there.... but we all need to use common sense and watch out for the people who will be abusive, manipulative, controlling, etc.
Be good to yourself, know and love yourself ... so your fishing will be happy and productive  | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 6:00:29 PM | This OP is a very smart lady
We should not hold anyone responsible for somone else's wrong doings.
I try not to do it and have tried to tell some people I care very deeply about
not to...............but alas sometimes it doesn't sink in.......or they just don't
want to hear it...........or they will never change.
It is very sad because as we live and learn we all find out that love does not
conquer all. Unfortunately................
I guess all we can do is just keep trying and give those people all that we have
to give and unless they emotionally abuse us too badly........keep loving them.
Now I'm not saying ignore these hypothetical red flags of course, just these
people that we love having a hard time ignoring past hurts.
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Posted: 7/15/2008 1:20:16 AM | Excellant post op. And to add to that, it's so important to clear up our own "baggage" before entering another relationship.
Taking time not only to heal but to see where I contributed to the problems allows me to make changes in myself that otherwise would damage future relationships. And I believe (except in rare cases) that we all have a part in the problems. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 9:50:22 AM | | I like your advice. Yes, we can learn from our mistakes. I'm not overly anxious to meet someone right away, because I want the timing to be right, and I want a healthy relationship next time. Of course, he could come when I'm not looking all that hard , too... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 2:40:15 PM | | Learn from our past mistakes. I think that may be the only way to make things better in the future. Perhaps to a degree we ALL have red flags, it may be the severity of an issue. Very recently, I think I may have really misunderstood a situation with someone. (maybe). Sometimes what may appear as a "red flag" maybe not be one. It is really, really hard to tell sometimes when someone is being sincere or full of BS. Live and learn, that is all I can do. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:31:06 PM |
Character is when proper actions meet proper statements.
I agree with you mthomjmark but one of my favorite quotes is:
"It's not what you SAY but what you DO that represents you"
or "Not what your are going to do but what you did that defines you" | |
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