| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:11:03 AM |
I think you're confusing a high sex drive with an addiction.
Maybe, but aren't they kind of the same? I am not very xes educated and a bit dyslexic about the subject anyway just the way you put it, I am imagining the sex addict to be like getting it as much but is seeking it else where too??? Yes? No? Maybe?
if that's the case I have no knowledge and therefore no opinion on sex addict and yes you are right in this case I was talking about high sex drive.... and probably to much emphasis about sex is what puts me off any type of relationships I thought it should be natural not superficial...
The best description is this one SO true
But then when it becomes an incessant demand from one of the parties, it morphs into a chore which equates to work and the pleasure appeal of it all then fly’s out the window!
It should be naturally there.
A relative told me once...oh I am so tired ...it's a chore every morning you work so hard at night you have to do that bit of a chore too...........seriously she made me wonder...was she exaggerating??? Surely she must want it too or was it a weapon for her to control...........I am so confused...I can't be superficial especially when it comes to this subject...I rather go without than have a chore.….maybe that’s what’s happening to a lot of relationships too…the love fades chore takes place and people can’t be bothered to fake it.
anyway to late for me to think...best to go and get a bit of sleep. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:00:35 PM | I think there are hornbags and then there are men - a distinction of utmost importance.
Hornbags ask in a few minutes how long its been since you got any. (something I know they would never ask me in a coffee shop if we just met I might add) Hornbags think its a moral obligation to shag willy nilly, they think fat girls put out quicker than their skinny sisters, hornbags think women need them. Hornbags lack self respect and more often than not are really crappy shags. Hornbags come in all sizes and shapes. Hornbags like to believe they are sex gods, and like to brag to someone. Hornbags like a good fb. Hornbags are a waste of time.
Hornbags are not sex addicts.
Hey goddess... I with you I like it to much to think of it as a chore I would rather go without. Mind you its a deal breaker for me if you cant shag well and oftenthen it not going to happen.........o god Im a hornbag too...lmao | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:49:15 PM | My way of thinking
An addict is someone who has no control over wanting sex and MUST have it ... doesn't care who with ...the consequences of it .. etc
A scumbag / player is someone who is all the things Happy said ... need to prove they are good because they lack self asteem and have commitment issues .
and there is the average male ...horny all the time and knows there is a time and place for everything .... | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:16:07 PM | Curious said this, very early in this discussion
It has to do with a psychological problem where the person is engaging in sex, not because of normal reasons like intimacy and libido, but because of some other reason. It is like gambling for example, the person feels bad after doing it and all the other hallmarks of addiction.
Loving sex, thinking about it all the time.....is not addiction.
I know. I was married to a sex addict. We split nearly 10 years ago. His sex addiction cost him and me our relationship, and our children their right to have mum and dad live with them. Sometimes sex addiction actually has nothing to do with, and can exist outside of relationship sex. It is destructive, painful, and costly.
Sex addiction is NOT a joke - although, before it entered my life for real, it was. I learnt a lot going thru what I did, but I wish to God I'd never had to. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:17:51 PM | | It can also encompass all behaviours that may be considered sexual as well. Masturbation, obsession with porn, watching women....whatever. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:28:05 PM | A scumbag / player is someone who is all the things Happy said
Then by her own admission this would make HLV a scumbag yes...
o god Im a hornbag too...lmao
I believe a lot hide behind and use as a defence (for there bad behaviour) what is a real problem(sex addiction) and as has been said not to be joked about.
By the way Bewitched welcome back not seen you for a while. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:40:36 PM | Hmmmm....I got barred. Then the computer died.
But I'm back now , so look out! And just so this post is relevant, I'll put this bit in.....sex addiction is a crippling psychological condition. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:53:08 PM | i find most men dont want it as much as me.. and thats a problem for me.. and no i am not a nympho... its just men are egomaniacs... with a potential partner ill be honest .. say sex is important to me and i like alot of sex.. once or twice a day, every day (hence not calling myself a nympho).. most men can do that short term but in the long term are happy with 3 or 4 times a week.. women get the same excuses as men do as well. its really about the individual..
to lump men in a box op is a little naive i think. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/9/2008 2:39:05 AM | | Although i can't get into the mind of addicts, what i do know is that a hornbag, a person that has no respect for other people or themselves and selfish, is way different to the mind set of a sex addict. I have only come across one person that was a sex addict, but to that person, sex seemed to like life or death or desperation that has a powerful grip on them and the other things talked about in this thread don't have that intensity. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:04:56 AM | | I agree Curious - it's an addiction like anyother, and becomes as important (psycholgically and physically) to the addict as breathing and eating. In fact, everything pales in comparison to the need to satisfy the addiction....which almost always leaves the sufferer wanting more after a very brief period of joy....it's a curse. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:56:51 AM |
Can men REALLY be sex addicts?
I thought it was a trick question, like can penquin REALLY be birds?.... | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:16:55 PM | | We all want lots of something good!!! If the sex is great then go for it ! We are all capable of this addiction with the right partner!! Sex has become a topic that is easily discussed in daily life with many a joke made.......so we can all be a bit guilty of the hornbag/sex addict title at some stage . So ... Enjoy all addicts ,just do the right thing by the other party I say. | |
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