| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:15:44 PM |
Woo Hoo Baldy is BACK! Hiya guy
Howdy Tenino! Yes, I am back with my perfected brand of nonsensical advice that self-admittedly should never be taken seriously.
You do know about Delete/Block, right?
shhhhhhh! What? Are you trying to ruin everything for us guys? | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:55:22 AM |
In Texas, until recently, sex shops could be prosecuted for doing business.
What's really interesting about that is that Dallas probably has more hookers per square mile than any other place in the US or Canada. Texas is a very weird state. | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:22:57 AM |
Some of us actually respect women and wouldnt treat them any more rudely than our own mother or daughter!!
Well, there is a difference. When you date, you may eventually have sex, which I suppose you would not do with your mother or daughter. The treatment should not be rude, but it is certainly different, not in a disrespectful way.
To the OP: Perhaps talk about sex just has a tendency to come up in the dating/romance department. I would argue the other way around - if the topic of sex never came up on a date, perhaps the thought of it was not there. Men do occasionally think about sex, which is why the absence of such thoughts is pretty devastating to a budding relationship. I would want my date to make me think about sex more than the average beer commercial, or the attraction is not quite where it should be. Just look at it as a good sign. He is comfortable enough to go there and he can imagine it down the road. The only thing worse than a man who mentions sex is one who does not at all. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 5:33:42 AM | All that I want to know is does anyone know how to do a thread search. This topic has been done to death. Also why make generalizations? There are some really good guys that don't do this. There are some guys that do this. It still does not mean us all.
Best of luck to everyone  | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:52:38 AM |
To the OP: Perhaps talk about sex just has a tendency to come up in the dating/romance department. I would argue the other way around - if the topic of sex never came up on a date, perhaps the thought of it was not there. Men do occasionally think about sex, which is why the absence of such thoughts is pretty devastating to a budding relationship. I would want my date to make me think about sex more than the average beer commercial, or the attraction is not quite where it should be. Just look at it as a good sign. He is comfortable enough to go there and he can imagine it down the road. The only thing worse than a man who mentions sex is one who does not at all.
I kindof agree with you here. However, what I hate (and maybe what the OP meant) is when you haven't even met a guy yet. Let's say it's one of your first IM conversations, and all they care to ask are things like:
"are you a good kisser?"
"what's your favourite position?"
"what turns you on?"
"how big are your breasts?" (my personal favourite)
"when was the last time you had sex?"
etc.
I will the politely tell the person that I am not looking for a casual sexual relationship (because that's the impression I get, especially when they won't talk about anything else). After I say that, they then try and say that they aren't just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Ok, maybe they're not. Then WHY won't they talk about anything else?
*** disclaimer: this is not ALL men that I have encountered here. Some are actually quite nice. | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:12:00 AM | | I agree in that case. Plus, if you don't find out for yourself whether your partner is a good kisser, why would you want to know? Most of those questions are not what I had in mind anyway... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 11:35:26 AM | When men messaged me with sexual requests I tend to reply with...
Oh lovely, now give me your mother's , sister's , daughter's email addresses and any other woman you respect and love in your life so that my son can message them with the same thing! Enough said!
They usually reply with something like "how dare you be so rude!"
Oh what a laugh  | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 12:23:41 PM | Kari_bee said:
When men messaged me with sexual requests I tend to reply with...
Oh lovely, now give me your mother's , sister's , daughter's email addresses and any other woman you respect and love in your life so that my son can message them with the same thing! Enough said!
They usually reply with something like "how dare you be so rude!"
Oh what a laugh
now that's a freakin classic ya as soon as you turn the tables on them then you get called every name in the book or better yet RUDE! some of these people really got some nerve..an act like youve all of a sudden done something wrong to them..
when in fact had they just appraoched you like a normal person an atleast acted like they had some common sense none of the drama would be taking place in the first place.. | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/9/2008 2:02:56 PM |
have a question why the hell do men think its attractive to talk about sex immediately .... ...
put it this way, the ONE guy in question was probably typing with one hand...!! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:14:44 PM | | haha Dick in Son... haha that's a real city? hahah No wonder they're talking about sex. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 8:59:51 PM |
I kindof agree with you here. However, what I hate (and maybe what the OP meant) is when you haven't even met a guy yet. Let's say it's one of your first IM conversations, and all they care to ask are things like:
"are you a good kisser?"
"what's your favourite position?"
"what turns you on?"
"how big are your breasts?" (my personal favourite)
"when was the last time you had sex?"
etc.
I will the politely tell the person that I am not looking for a casual sexual relationship (because that's the impression I get, especially when they won't talk about anything else). After I say that, they then try and say that they aren't just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Ok, maybe they're not. Then WHY won't they talk about anything else?
This is Exactly what I meant ...I said I would talk about it later lol...but first time a guy talks to you and all you talk about is sex and nothing else.....it doesn't leave me wanting more from you | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:12:32 PM | Ahhh , somebody wants to talk about sex...
are you a good kisser?"
Yes , I'm the best out there.
"what's your favourite position?"
All of them .
"what turns you on?"
sexy hips
"how big are your breasts?" (my personal favourite)
not big , no manboobs here
"when was the last time you had sex?"
Too long ago .
After I say that, they then try and say that they aren't just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Ok, maybe they're not. Then WHY won't they talk about anything else?
Because you asked ? | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:21:29 PM | I don't , never do at the getting to know stage (unless the girl starts it). In fact I am so sex talk averse I think many women who've I've been interested in completely missed that fact because I didn't vocalize my interest. If I am in the persons social space I tend to do things, like I'll cook food and insist that you have a plate, or I'll volunteer to do things for you, until I get 100% unambiguous signals of interest from a woman , she probably thinks that I see her as a pane of glass...which is ironic given I have felt the same way to women I've been extremely attracted to but had not the balls to show or say anything. If I am not in her social space she'll think I am completely not interested since I never make eye contact and I will ignore the girl...call it fear of rejection to the nth power. Curse of the geek!
All that said once I am on a footing with a woman that we both have clearly expressed our physical attraction for one another in word and action...well then I am the nastiest mo fo you'll ever meet. *grin* | |
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Posted: 8/3/2008 8:57:16 PM | | I have just recently joined and I have to agree.. I think its ridiculous.. if you are sincere about potentially meeting someone special is dirty talk your top priority or would you like to know if you can even stand the person!! And then when you tell the guy that I'm not interested in sex talk, they are offended... like HELLO I'm offended you jerk! Its just rude! | |
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Posted: 8/3/2008 9:01:04 PM | RE: First post.
Some guys are just idiots. ^_^ (Most.)
I like to make subtle sexually oriented jokes. Nothing offensive or blunt. Always gotten good results there. ^_^ | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 12:34:51 AM | Testosterone.
The same chemical that's making men aggressive enough to approach you also makes them want to boink you. Let's face it, sometimes men just get horny - and some women respond to that (otherwise it would be selected out of the gene pool). Maybe you should put on your profile that you want a stimulating conversation more than you want sex.
But somehow, I doubt that would count as you being honest with yourself. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 2:07:50 AM | girl,,
the penis is the 1 doing all the driving for most men,so mostimes it's hard for some to control thier behavior an body functions the brain may say no dont do it,it's a bad idea while the penis says yes full speed ahead i'm coming in, an the "penis" does not know right from wrong an does not care wether it makes somebody mad or offended,,the penis does not feel emotion an does not care.. it's misson is much like the sperm, to find a warm wet soft place to stick it's head an body into an when the job is done to leave an go to find the next warm hole..
simple..
it's all bad communication between the brain an body sometimes..
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The above response is such a cop out, are you serious???? You are probably the type of guy that asks about sex the first time you meet someone, you have got to be kidding, do you really think that this was the response she was looking for.
GRRRRRRRRR | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 8/4/2008 2:09:01 AM | There's two things I ever 'TRIPLE DOG DARE' people to do........
The first...... is to stick your tongue on the freezing flagpole.........
The second.......please TRY and scour any and all server hard drives on the net for records of me ever initiating sex talk with a woman either via IM or email....after that, please try and conjure up any and all recordings of cell phone calls or text messages with such 'talk' as well that won't be there............
The reason is simple........
Simply BECAUSE you have a VAGINA, as you so eloquently mentioned, in no way guarantees I'm going to actually be attracted to the rest of the skin SURROUNDING IT................. | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 8/4/2008 2:36:19 AM | If guys start communicating with me in a sexual manner then the convo is done. Such behaviour is such a turn off and so rude and disrespectful. Such men are just looking for a 1 nite stand or to get the rocks off. No thanks!  | |
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| Why Must You talk about Sex.
Posted: 8/4/2008 3:48:44 AM |
anyway please help me understand this dilemma
I don't.
Not till you bring it up.
Then it's fair game.
If you bring it up first, and then I am liberal about it, then you don't get to hide behind the "sex" thing.
If I bring it up first then you have an insight into my character now... don't cha? | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 4:58:08 AM | | Its amazing what people will ask in a conversation all because they're hiding behind a keyboard. Would you say that to a person walking down the street and if you did what do you think their reaction would be lol. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 3:14:09 PM | Re the Opost
I think that the following syllogisms hit the nail on the head:
a) From post 6:
"...possibility the guys you're referring to just came off of relationships in which something was lacking and they want to know some detail about one of the more important (in their minds) facets of the pending relationship."
b) Post 9:
"Did you think that dating sites would be filled w/ guys who knew how to successfully talk to women?"
Especially the latter. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 5:45:52 PM | Because if we don't act like we want to get into a woman's pants on the first date, she comes on here and asks why this guy she's dating hasn't tried to bone her after 3 dates, and the other women respond with questions about the size of his package, that he might be gay, that he's a wuss, or that his priorities aren't where they should be.
I've seen 2 threads about that in the last week.
BTW, I must be gay, or have a little winky, or one of those other things, because I'm not interested in jumping into bed right away. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 6:11:58 PM | | Most likely because you have the same 10% of guys on here that message EVERY woman they find and so every woman on here gets the same results, you get one guy with a good pic and 50 women all answer him and he talks about sex to every one, when the reality is each woman has several of these same guys sending them messages at once so it only "appears" all men are talking about sex when in reality, a few guys have most of the women answering them because of their pic....hey, 10 guys with the right pic any city on pof can make all the women in that city think every guy on pof talks only about sex | |
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