| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:59:04 PM | It was only premature for you darling for him it was exactly the right time | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:04:54 PM | Deal breaker? No.
Frusterating? Maybe.
Depends how good they were in that 5 minutes. 
I am not sure why the huge focus on how long it is supposed to last, isn't it about how good it is while it lasts?
Besides, all the more reason to demand a do over. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:18:37 PM | | could be you felt sooooooo good he couldn't help it? i'm no marathon man,but i like to get 30-45 minutes of good old fashion humpin' in. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:04:38 PM | | not a deal breaker. you can always go a second round..or third..or fourth. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:25:52 PM | I could tell your age group before you posted; It's amazingly scary how little some 20 somethings and teens know about STD's and sex in general.
First of all it sounds kind of immature; like you are bragging that you are some sexual being and to be honest I think its not classy but anyways;
Recent studies show that the avg length of time that a man physically has sex (of thrusting we'll say; not foreplay) is 3-6 minutes of actually doing it. I know you think your a sexual dynamo but you need to learn about sex IMHO;
Look it up on some medical websites. And please make sure there is protection. Good luck. And thank you for at least not using the guys name; that would have been pretty lame and not classy. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:06:17 AM | Welcome to the pond...
If your partner had a chronic problem with lasting more than 5 minutes, you're well out of that relationship. Hell yes, it should be a deal breaker. I consider a decent evening of sex lasting hours, not minutes. The point is, it shouldn't begin and end with his orgasm. OK, so he can't play in the majors; even so, what's wrong with keeping you satisfied until his tank is topped off again? If I'm engaged in some serious foreplay (and I consider ALL sex as foreplay...), my orgasm is the last thing on my mind. Multiples for the girl I'm with IS on my mind. If I get one, I'm a happy camper; but I'm happier when she looks like she just ran a marathon, but one that REALLY made her happy.
Bottom line (and this may offend some younger viewers....), most guys only get very good at what they do with a lot of years of practice. Now, it's true that the apparatus may not be what it was for some guys, but that's the price of wisdom and experience. You are so much better off now; and will find out that the grass is, indeed, greener on the other side... | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:47:10 AM | | i go through different stages, sometimes i blow in 2 minutes and others i dont at all, i just have to deal with it. with my girlfriend i tend to make her come once with either my fingers or tongue befor we even start sex just incase i do only last a little while. however more often than not if i blow too soon i'll just change dingers and i'll be right to go again lasting a good 15-20 mins. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:48:01 AM | | I've heard that men who have problems with being premature should do kegel exercises. I'm sure you can google that and learn how... | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:52:15 AM |
Some men are one shot wonders, and no matter how much begging, pleading, or gently suggesting will they go for a 2nd round
Well....while certain forms of begging and pleading can be very arousing to a man, there are other things to do with your mouth that will give you a much better chance at getting 2nds, 3rds, 4ths, .... etc. If you are not willing to give oral...well...then a "quick popper" may well be a deal breaker. I am admittedly a "quick popper", and without oral help the next round will not happen. With oral help, however, the next round is only minutes away and it will be a long one. Thus, for me, lack of oral is a "deal breaker". The only other option is desensitizing gel AND a condom (MUST put a condom over the gel or the woman will get desensitized in the first few strokes...not good). | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:01:42 AM | Definately a deal breaker for me!
I've actually broken off two potential relationships because of this.  | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:57:25 AM | OP, I infer from your post that this "young" 27 year old may not have had a lot of sexual experience.
IF this is the case, and he doesn't like that he doesn't last long, stick with him, don't hassle and pressure him about it, and he'll get better.
If he's special enough to you, you will stick with him and work through this with him.
If you won't stick with him through this, then I would say you're a bit selfish, and he should consider your selfishness a deal breaker.
If on the other hand, he doesn't last long simply because he's selfish and only cares about himself getting off, then dump him, it IS a deal breaker. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:40:44 AM |
Recent studies show that the avg length of time that a man physically has sex (of thrusting we'll say; not foreplay) is 3-6 minutes of actually doing it. I know you think your a sexual dynamo but you need to learn about sex IMHO;
Where was this study done? Between masturbatory college freshmen? Afganistany mule-loving bachelors? | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:54:59 PM |
Well....while certain forms of begging and pleading can be very arousing to a man, there are other things to do with your mouth that will give you a much better chance at getting 2nds, 3rds, 4ths, ....
The giving a 2nd 3rd, 4th, or even 5th rounds of oral isn't a problem. Some men just shut completely off and are done, and out of the game, with a sorry it's not you, it is just how I am...
Here may come a real shocker, some men DON'T (I know hard to believe) care for oral, and since they aren't into getting it, they aren't into giving it...
I do believe it is important that two people ARE sexually compatible, because if they aren't it does lead to frustration, especially if you marry the person before finding this out.
OP, I am glad you brought this topic up, I don't find it a bad bragging thread, but one that is asking for information about the norm, and should you go ahead with the relationship.
Had I known the things I know now, I wouldn't have made some of the choices I made, in the name of being a GOOD Christian girl. Sex is an important aspect of a relationship, and is something that is meant to bring two people close together. If the two of you aren't equally happy with what is going on, there will be a divide between the two people.
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:08:27 PM |
Where was this study done? Between masturbatory college freshmen? Afganistany mule-loving bachelors?
Kinsey's surveys found that 75% of men lasted less than five minutes, and quite a few lasted less than two; Hite found that 62% of men lasted less than five minutes; and Masters and Johnson more or less agreed.
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:16:54 PM |
Here may come a real shocker, some men DON'T (I know hard to believe) care for oral, and since they aren't into getting it, they aren't into giving it...
Interesting statement...now I wonder if the reason some men say they're not into it is they are afraid of the requirement for reciprocity. I've know several guys who have an array of excuses why the "don't go down" on a woman...of which taste, smell and fear of not doing a good job ranked high on the list or reasons why not.
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 2:11:51 PM |
Kinsey's surveys found that 75% of men lasted less than five minutes, and quite a few lasted less than two; Hite found that 62% of men lasted less than five minutes; and Masters and Johnson more or less agreed.
Wow. Now I know why there's so much religious fundamentalism and hate in the world. Men don't even know how to make love. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 2:13:35 PM | he better get me off orally or something before hand..
that wouldnt fly. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:15:38 PM | ouch . . x
poor lads . . . when very young . . ok . .
but not once u have tasted the flavour of life . .
dont rush . . pleasure . . and give and give . . x | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:30:09 PM | Just because I'm 21 does not give you the right to assume that I may not know about STD's and sex in general. I beg to differ! I see you have a strong opinion about you thinking that I'm bragging that I'm some sexual being. You couldn't be more wrong, you might have taken offense to my post, I don't know, I was looking for positive feedback, not smart ass remarks. Ok, thanks.
And not that it's any of your business, but I'm not looking to catch STD's or become pregnant, as I am a student and working. But I was with this man for a year and it was a serious question, he's the first guy that this has happened with, so I was only curious.
And for future reference, know who you're talking to, before you bash them. | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:30:38 PM | | I was born premature. Mom and Dad were married barely seven months when I was born! The biggest baby in the premie ward, 8 1/2 pounds! | |
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| Premature Men....
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:22:55 PM | MMAgirl, try not to get to flustered, there is someone in EVERY thread that feels the need to voice some type bashing, I hate to say it is the nature of the forum beasts, but it is... Besides one can only wonder why someone would get uptight about such a question........Perhaps it hit a sore nerve????? Who knows....
However I do hope you got some good information, you had a good question and heck at 21, why not get some feed back from a part of the dating world.
Interestingly you will have to figure that unless a guy is into other guys, one man can ONLY speak for themself, they may brag between each other, but that doesn't mean they are being truthful...For women on the other hand THIS IS a good question, since us oldsters usually have had at least more than one person we've been with.
We know the truth about the lasting part, that whether there are guys that really DON'T like giving or receiving, and how long some can and can't last.
Of course very few of us have such a sampling as to give an accurate ration as to how long the average guy last, and at what age they get better or worse. With that said everyone is different, and some guys can go for hours, where others can't last but a few minutes...
The nice thing about having a long term relationship is that you get to know how each others "play grounds" work, that is if both of you take the time... There are some guys that have a low sex drive, I know, I married the only guy that had an extremely low one, and it didn't change even after we got divorced, so I know I wasn't to blame..
Good luck in school, and your future partner search...
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