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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:33:29 PM |
Sometimes women will blurt out "Im not here to meet men!" (out of Midol I suppose lol).
Do you think every woman that gets annoyed about being hit on is "out of Midol"? Perhaps she's really busy or perhaps she's married. The real answer to your question is that some will be annoyed, some will like it and some will be somewhere between those two. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:39:29 PM | If you're a hot guy, most women don't care where you approach them.
I would imagine most guys wouldn't care either where a Hot babe approached them.
Basically is there physical attraction? if there is approach! The signs are pretty obvious when someone sees you and is interested. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:17:48 PM | I don't particularly care where someone wants to approach me, though I will admit there are certain times that I am more approachable.
For instance, grocery shopping is kind of my zen. I love to put on the headphones, and get in the zone. It's always been my favourite thing to do in my downtime. (No, i'm not a food junkie, I just find it calms me, and it's less expensive and depressing than clothes shopping.) But I digress. My point was that if you were to "approach" me at the grocery store, I might be irritated that you've interrupted my relaxing time. Just as if you approached a girl who was reading at the coffee shop, you might be interrupting her quiet personal time. Often times, women who seem busy or unavailable to talk, are. They put their headphones on, or stick their noses in books for a reason.
That being said, if I am attentive, sans headphones or literary material, I am pretty much fair game, i'd say. I have been hit on at work before, but I think people who work in customer service come off as very non-threatening and get hit on a fair bit. I have been hit on, on the bus, at the mall, getting coffee, at the gym, etc. I don't mind. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:02:53 PM | If a man knows how to approach a woman (any woman), he can approach them any where.
It just takes practice.
I absolutely do not subscribe to the "you'll find it when you're not looking" theory. I believe in Practice, practice, practice! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:30:21 AM | I pretty much will walk up to a women I am interested in anywhere. I usually walk up to them and say excuse me, I can tell from the reaction where I go from there.
If it is not a negative reaction. I usually am very straight forward and say, I couldn't help but notice your hair, eyes, walk or whatever it is that has attracted me to them. I will then ask if they would like to get a jamba juice or mocha and have a chance to get to know each other.
Works extremely well at both my gym and the Borders down the street. The worst I get is thank you but I am not interested. But almost all of the ladies appear to be flattered by the attention. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:21:46 AM | | I prefer to be approached somewhere between my belly button & a foot above my head. Lower than that and I have to suspect his intentions. Higher, well, that's just freaky. Around the general vicinity of my face is about right. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:58:12 AM | I used to put on the "approachable" demeaner... I mean if I was standing shoulders back head held high, smiling and looking like I didn't care about a thing in the world... the come on over... Even if I was buying midol! I didn't care... 
However, If I had a hat on, trying to look "incognito" or invisible picking up some advil and donuts after a night on the town... then I don't want to be approached! All in all I think you can tell by the "vibe" she is putting out.
Take a minute and watch and see the energy she is putting off... if she is in the zone and thinking intently about something it probably isn't a great time to hit on her!
On a side note... There is nothing more adorable then having a guy come up to you in the produce and ask you if you know how to pick a good pine-apple (or what ever) I wanna make something but I am not really proficient in the area of finding ripe produce. It admits that he is willing to cook, and that he is willing to fail miserably at it... I like the volnerablity about it.
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:15:09 AM | Concerning women and jobs.
My problem is my shitty work schedule and the only suitable women that I find are at their jobs when I'm out conducting business. There are a couple of bank tellers and also one that works in the accountants office but I just can't bring myself to do it. What I'm reading here just tells me that I shouldn't. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:19:10 AM | | no way...the more odd the place the better to me! i think you should always be open to meeting new people no matter where your @ who knows what could happen!! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:06:18 PM |
no way...the more odd the place the better to me! i think you should always be open to meeting new people no matter where your @ who knows what could happen!!
Ok, where isn't a big problem for you. But I bet how can be.  | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 2:18:13 PM | | I can't speak for anyone else, but I'd be flattered if a guy approached me while I was grocery shopping. Many years ago I met a guy at a local fast food restaurant while we were both in line, and we did date a couple of times. One other time I struck up a conversation with a man I met while lingering over the foreign language dictionaries at the public library. Both men were highly intelligent, great company, and I have no regrets. True, some people find a partner when they're not really looking, but others are actively seeking someone, hence all these dating sites. I personally try to remain receptive, use my common sense, and hope for the best. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:19:30 PM | | One place to never approach me is at work. I'm in another state of mind when working and it just makes things to be awkward and uncomfortable. When single and not looking, I tend to be oblivious to the male figure and any kind of flirtatious behavior. So it makes things for the guy more difficult but I am always open to meet people. Its what I do. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:55:57 PM |
Do you think every woman that gets annoyed about being hit on is "out of Midol"? Eeek posts, so I do not have to.
That is really offensive in the extreme and shows a marked disrespect for what women are and their boundaries. Maybe they just don't like you. Ever consider that?
Try hitting on women at the abortion clinic. You can be reasonably sure they will put out.
I do care where a man approaches me. I have had men hit on me in very crude ways when I am with my children. One of them, my son tried to pick a fight with, he was offended on my behalf.
If I am not at work or with my kids, I don't generally mind being approached by someone. Sadly, some men have no sense of propriety or decency, which makes it harder for the ones who are genuinely decent. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:06:56 PM |
I tend to be oblivious to the male figure and any kind of flirtatious behavior. So it makes things for the guy more difficult but I am always open to meet people. Its what I do.
If you are being completely oblivious to the male figure, then how can you be open to meeting new people? | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:55:52 PM |
Not if I like him, no..
Honest comment of the thread right there.
If a guy is attractive enough he can approach any woman anywhere and it's okay.
Now uglier guys well they aren't supposed to talk to women... ever. :)
That aside, I've been told it's not ok to approach a woman when:
She's at work.
She's shopping or running errands.
She's at bar or otherwise out with friends.
On the bus, train, plane, etc.
Basically any place that isn't a 'dating' event, and even then it's sketchy.
I've even been yelled at by women for holding the door open for them after I passed through it.
Msg #12.... That's the very reason I've become more reluctant to stop and help any woman under 50 years old.
This society is rather sick and needs help IMO. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:00:29 PM | My problem with being approached at work is that it ties my hands behind my back and I can't escape. I need my job to survive, so approaching me there isn't going to result in an honest answer. I'll do everything possible to avoid a confrontation and dodge a guy's attempts to ask me out. I'm also uncomfortable if he's someone I'm going to encounter on a regular basis because this is my career. If I piss him off whether he be a co-worker or client, he can make things very difficult for me. I won't say yes, but I will dodge like a crazy woman and re-think my work wardrobe.
As for when I'm out in public, as long as he's polite and not eating up my time then it's fine. Say hi, limit small talk to a minute or two, offer your number then skedaddle. If I'm interested, I'll call. If not, I won't. What I hate is when others decide what I'm going to do with my time.
I've stopped going to the butcher section of my grocery store because the butchers won't stop flirting with me. It absolutely pisses me off. They juggle (um, ew), try to be witty, give me extra portions after they've weighed and then wink at me, ask me what my name is, ask me what I'm doing over the weekend and wonder if I'd like some company, etc. Stop eating my time and give me my meat! Guys doing stuff like that triples the time it takes me to run my errands. I don't mind the compliment of being found attractive. I mind my time being disregarded. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:04:40 PM | there is a device here in NY that has changed catcalling and approachability forever. its called an ipod. if a girl wants to be left alone, she clearly states so with her ipod in her ear.
Quite handy for men and women. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:12:34 PM | | I think you can meet anyone at anytime as long as you are open to it. All a guy has to do is watch a girls body language to know if she wants to be approached or not...we're not that hard to figure out. For example...if we are wearing sweat pants with our hair up, no make up and our mind is obviously pre-occupied....then we are probably not interested in doing anything other than the task at hand. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:19:52 PM |
there is a device here in NY that has changed catcalling and approachability forever. its called an ipod. if a girl wants to be left alone, she clearly states so with her ipod in her ear.
Quite handy for men and women.
Is only 60% effective. :)
Even running with ipod, I have been stopped many time. | |
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