| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/11/2008 8:57:59 PM |
Honestly if more men talked to be friendly and I didn't get the feeling it was all to score in the end I'd chat more openly in the course of a day.
Very good point. I used to respond politely when men would begin speaking to me out of the blue until I realized the vast majority had an agenda. I've never been rude to anyone that starts chit chat, but I have begun giving monotone curt responses to questions and quickly walking away when they take a breath.
Thank you Apple for the iPod.
I don't even always have it on, but it's wonderful for when I'm walking about town. I can smile, nod, and scurry away.
I know it takes a lot of courage to approach, so I never want to punish anyone for making the effort. At the same time, I don't want my day to be ruled by any guy that gets a wild hair that crosses my path. It's a tough line to walk. Polite enough to function in society without scarring anyone, but not so polite your day isn't your own. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:16:35 PM | I'm in cheetah mode, so be prepared by how fastly this shit appears to be written, even if you can't see the text flying across the screen as I'm typing. But get this, my dear man. Yes, I called your dear man, because you are one of the others who are being fed the worst information I've heard, with the worst plans since The Bay Of The Pigs. But let's move along now, shall we?
Here's the big thing right here. You are looking for a woman, you found the woman, and now you're most likely afraid of seeming overly desperate and invading her space. The former is out of the question, in the way that you approach. But that's another discussion. So from there on, I'll keep it sweet and simple.
Places to go!!!!
Pet stores- Chicks allways need to get replacement therapy for their bum boyfriends with no jobs they just had to kick out. Bingo.
Hardware stores- Married, widowed, or divorced will come here because of their spouses lack enthusiasm to check out tools and stuff. You dig?
Bookstores- Pick up Lawrence Ferlinghetti, sit down, dress appropriately for the types of women that normally go into Starbucks at the Barnes and Nobles. Tell her you tried to kill yourself through impaling a chainsaw to your stomach. I back this up with from where my appendix was removed. You are in. You are god.
Cemeteries- Ask yourself, "Is it better to have lusted than not at all?" Bingo!
Athletic stuff- You know the jazz. Yoga clubs, pilates classes, gyms in general. When women are working out, endorphins are released. Simple as that.
Grocery stores- Plant yourself infront of the cucumber section. Make sure it's the largest cucumber, though. Smile when women approach. Nodding your head is an absolute must.
Shoe stores- Pretend to be a salesman. It's golden. Scope a broad of your liking, approach, ask if she'd like to try on a pair, walk in the back, bring it back. After she's rung up, tell her you're not an employee, and ask for number.
McDonalds- Walk in, approach the cutest redhead, tighten your tie, look at the playhouse, and say in the most hush-hush and masculine voice available, "If my pants were a McDonald's playhouse, would you slide in and play with my balls?" If she fails, which I'm sure she won't, you can back this up with a "baby, don't leave me blue." This has worked for me numerously, it will work for you. Granted, I'm sexier than 80% of American men.
BMW Dealerships are pretty much self explanatory.
The places where you don't want to approach women are absolutely nowhere. The "DONT BOTHER AT WORK" routine isn't true. You can b'lee dat. Lets keep this going.
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:28:24 PM |
Lol, I attempt to engage anyone (guy or girl) in a conversation when I am on the treadmill/elliptical/bike if I am not pounding hard.
Is okie, but there is reason I use bike in far corner of room 12 bike away from any other person. :P | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/11/2008 11:15:04 PM | | Awesomeman, thanks for once again living up to your name. That was some beatnik shit that just cheeta'd across the page. No surprise that you're a Ferlinghetti fan. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/11/2008 11:26:16 PM |
Awesomeman, thanks for once again living up to your name. That was some beatnik shit that just cheeta'd across the page. No surprise that you're a Ferlinghetti fan.
On the contrary, I dislike beatnik culture. Emo girls typically are the types that circulate B&N, and they really enjoy his works. As far as poetry and I are considered, I lean towards Robert Frost, Walt Whitman, or Shakespeare.
Then again, I am a corporate douche. You love the cheetah, too. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:17:44 AM |
I do NOT want a man approaching me in the women's bathroom in a bar, ( he was dressed as a woman!) or any bathroom and it wasn't even Halloween! Oh my holy hell. That would traumatize me permanently. Add that to my list, please.
Emo girls do not read Ferlinghetti, they read Sylvia Plath. I often confuse them with emu girls, even though I am aware that it is fowl to do so. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:20:42 AM | Corporate douche or not, awesomeman should get a cameo in the next iron man/batman/hulk summer blockbuster. The cheetah knows how to fling the text.
(And all emo appropriations aside, I am also "waiting for my case to come up. And I am awaiting a new rebirth of wonder" just like the man says in "a coney island of the mind") | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 12:02:45 PM |
I've had mixed results with my random conversations on cardio equipment, some people seem put off by it but a lot of people really get into it and tell me they enjoyed the conversation.
You know what? I would enjoy the conversation too if it were just random and meant to kill time on the treadmill (althogh honestly I can barely keep my breath, let alone talk when I'm working out). Unfortunately every conversation I've gotten into with men in the gym turned into some sort of "hey how you doing, are you single?" conversation. Sucks when you just want to work out, be friendly and then go on your way. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 4:13:37 PM |
Corporate douche or not, awesomeman should get a cameo in the next iron man/batman/hulk summer blockbuster. The cheetah knows how to fling the text.
Funny. I actually was a drama major.
I do NOT want a man approaching me in the women's bathroom in a bar, ( he was dressed as a woman!) or any bathroom and it wasn't even Halloween!
Aside from the fact that I can smell his desperation, even at this passing moment, I'd give him props for having the testicular fortitude and audacity for doing something as risqué as that. You should have given him a shot. 
I've only asked out one girl in a "normal" place
I know I wouldnt want to be bothered by a someone if I was at the grocery store, gym, bank or other place.
Dear sir, you are a man. It is in our genetic code to take charge of every situation. Next time you go anywhere, and you see a woman you want to bag, I want you to storm that beach like it's Normandy. Dodge artillery fire, hide in craters, kill the opposition! This is the dating scene, strap on your helmet and get off the boat! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 4:21:47 PM | The "normal" place for a man or a woman to approach is in a social setting. The gym, the store, gas station, people aren't there to be "social" but to take care of business. If someone approached me at a gas station (it's happened) or grocery store, gym then I tend to think they're desperate and don't have much of a social life.
I'm friendly and I'll chat in line or in a waiting room with a man, woman or child. It's not the same just something to pass the time.
I used to take my 21 y/o son with me nearly every time I left the house. Then he got a girlfriend...
Approach whoever you want wherever you want, just don't expect them to be welcoming. A friendly chat is just that, not an expectation to be hit on. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/12/2008 7:44:14 PM | | Here's my take on this. I'm clearly not a woman but I have approached women many places. It's how you approach that matters. If you walk up to a woman in a situation where she's not really looking to meet someone and say "hi I'm Joe, can I buy you a coffee?" She might blow you out somehow ("sorry, I have a boyfriend" although she doesn't, or "I'm not here to meet men" or any of the myriad responses). My experience is that you have to engage a woman in a friendly conversation in these environments. If you walk up to a woman in a coffee shop and say "I only have a moment but my friend and I were talking this morning and I need a ladies opinion on something" she'll likely open up and talk to you. Then you can compliment her on something you notice "wow, I really like your bracelet, where'd you get it." Now you're talking and she's open to you. Later on you can tell her you've enjoyed her company and ask her if there's anything she could suggest so you can see her again. Of course if she likes you she'll suggest her phone number and then it's on. It's all about the approach and where you are. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:44:07 AM | | Yes. I don't like being approached when I'm outside running. I look gross; I'm sweaty; I'm always by myself, and I'm not feeling the slightest bit attractive. So, when some guy in a car pulls over onto the side of the road, rolls down his window, and starts trying to talk to me, while I still appreciate the jesture/compliment (kind of), it scares the living f*** out me 100% of the time. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 3:34:12 PM | Is worst last week when two guy in van drive beside me to talk. I think it was good time to stop running beside road and go through park. :)
Guys please be aware of how you appear. My heart rate is high enough when I run. :) | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:52:27 PM | | Some of the women are on here are saying stuff like guys shouldn't approach them in class or at their work or at the gym or whatever...but do you honestly think that if Brad Pitt approached them while they're on the treadmill they'd shoot him down? I've met girls at the gym, I've met girls in class, I've met girls who were working, I've met girls at the grocery store, walmart, mcdonalds, and even in the parking lot. So certain girls are gonna be open to meeting you, some won't...no matter where you are. So if you see a girl you want to talk to then talk to her...just don't be creepy and if you sense that she's not open to meeting you leave her alone. Why do you think girls do their hair and make up before heading to the gym if they're "only there to work out"? Duh. Girls want to meet a guy. If it's the right guy, it doesn't matter where...they will be happy to meet him. If it's the wrong guy, it still doesn't matter where...they don't want him. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:59:40 PM | NO, whats the big deal? If hes interested , i want to know, doesnt matter where im at...
Guys, dont let those angry, negative, plastics out there get ya down, you wouldnt want someone who treats you like that anyways !!!! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:04:08 PM |
Why do you think girls do their hair and make up before heading to the gym if they're "only there to work out"
Obvious, those girls are not there to work out.
I would never wear make up to the gym, no one who plan to sweat would. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:15:51 PM |
Do you think every woman that gets annoyed about being hit on is "out of Midol"? Perhaps she's really busy or perhaps she's married. The real answer to your question is that some will be annoyed, some will like it and some will be somewhere between those two.
Thank you, eeek, though I must say I find it kind of surprising that the only person I noticed took issue with the chauvanistic Midol comment was a man.
I've noticed at different times when I've been in public places both men and women who seem to almost give off the "leave me alone" vibes, and I'm sure they all have their reasons.
In answer to the original question, since libraries and bookstores are among the few public places I go to with any real regularity, I would love for some nice guy to strike up a conversation with me at either place, as long as he wasn't there solely to pick up women, and as long as the approach was natural and sincere rather than some tacky pick-up line. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:37:08 PM | We don't care where we meet the right guy. Its the guy we didn't want to meet in the first place that we are not there to meet. Just sayin.
BTW find him/her when your not looking? Maybe you will maybe you won't- its just a stupid cliche. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/14/2008 4:49:51 AM |
Why do you think girls do their hair and make up before heading to the gym if they're "only there to work out"? Duh. Girls want to meet a guy. If it's the right guy, it doesn't matter where...they will be happy to meet him. If it's the wrong guy, it still doesn't matter where...they don't want him.
I try to look presentable when I go anywhere just because I take pride in my appearance, but actually, the gym is one place I probably would send out "I'm not here to socialize" vibes, which is one of the reason I work out at home instead of joining one. I think I'm probably not the only woman who feels this way; some just don't have the space or equipment they need to work out at home. But who knows, maybe I am the exception in this.... well, in this and in that Brad Pitt does absolutely nothing for me. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:12:46 PM | If a man is bold enough to approach me in public, I'm okay with that. What gets me, is the manner in which he chooses to approach me. It can be anywhere... The fuel island, walmart (if hes lucky enough to find me at such a place), the grocery store, the rodeo, the chrome shop, the truck wash, a feedlot, etc...
It's all in his presentation whether or not it would go from just a simple exchange of "hi", to something more...
The one place I'd NOT like to meet a guy would be the ladies room. If theres a guy in there, I think I'll pee in the bushes...
CowTrucker
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:23:09 PM |
If a man is bold enough to approach me in public, I'm okay with that. What gets me, is the manner in which he chooses to approach me. It can be anywhere...
This is true. I remember when a guy walked up to me in a department store one evening, told me that he found me very attractive and wondered if I would consider going to coffee with him. He was very polite about it, but the part that really turned me off was when he said that he was very, very lonely and it reeked of desperation. I realized that it took incredible courage for him to approach me, and that I was flattered (it was one of those days where I was feeling blah) but I had a boyfriend, which was the truth.
It is all about the approach and not saying inane things.  | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/16/2008 9:03:29 AM | | When I guy tries to talk to me on the bus or on the train when I am on my way to someplace I am not at all receptive, when I man follows me down the street, I am not receptive. When I man tries to talk to me when I am with my mother, I am not receptive. When I man tries to talk to me while I am reading, he better have read to book. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:26:27 PM | | You could add to your list of exceptions secluded areas, where she might be frightened for obvious reasons, or when she's with another man, I don't think it matters. However, if you approach her at work, you need to be more subtle about it. Make it a brief friendly chat then slip her a business card with a friendly note. Now the ball's in her court to do with as she chooses. No harm, no foul | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:02:09 PM |
unfortunately I am the type to approach those I like, so if he's approaching me it's probably because I'm not interested.....
GUYs wake UP...if a women wants YOU, she will let you know. Stop chasing the green horse you make yourself ridiculous. Can't you understand that she is choosing and NOT you?
There are too few GUYs who can choose and those are the wealthy ones who stand away from the crowd. Are you that one? ON POF? No way.
Its hard to understand eh?...the hormones are pushing you anyways. I know that, but keep cool its not up to you....when its up to you you get the LEFT OVERS usually Kapish?
You can't fight the women DREAMs. Its a huge undertake. | |
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