| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/20/2008 11:06:35 AM |
When I turn 41, and some hot young 23 year old starts making a move on me, I'd be praising Jesus, Allah and Buddha... and I'd be checking my wallet.
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bsg789
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Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 52 | |
| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/20/2008 12:35:54 PM | | I'm 40 and I generally date younger men, but I probably wouldn't date a man in his early 20s. I think the age difference is too big at that point. Also many men in that age range are still maturing and aren't completely independent yet. I usually date men in their late 20s to mid 30s. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/20/2008 1:49:43 PM | I am quite sure you can find a man around your own age. There is no need to rob cradles or search through your sons friends for your next boyfriend.
This boy is coming on to you because he has a milf fantasy. There is plenty of porn around now that centers on that fantasy and boys being boys actually think porn is like real life. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/21/2008 6:38:22 AM | I think a lot of young guys fantasize about being with an older woman. It can be a topic of conversation or something they can brag about when they're with their friends. If I were you, I would get a "thanks, but no thanks" attitude and move them on their way.
Yes, it's flattering, but what's there to talk about besides sex and the weather? (Sorry about that last comment...lol)
Good luck! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/21/2008 4:32:20 PM | | I have a 24 year old male friend and he loves older women because of their maturity. He finds that women his age are so immature that he can't handle it. So he prefers to date older women. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:32:35 PM | It's funny that men will say it's just about sex...but if we're baffled as to why they're with a younger woman and perhaps they want their money, they scoff at us.
I've dated much younger men. My last two bfs were in their early 20's and I'm still friends with both of them as I am with most of the younger guys I"ve dated.
Some men do want the sexual experience, that's for sure, but they are easy to spot and come at you with the same lame lines. A guy who isn't in it for the sex will take time to get to know you, and will proudly walk out in public with you on his arm. Many times the younger guy is sick of drama with younger women.....and many times they are in college struggling to make ends meet and can't meet the demands that a younger woman places on them in regards to time and money being spent. They like that older women are independent and not so clingy and needy.
As far as maturity I've met younger men who were much more mature than the older guys I went out with. Maturity comes with how a person was raised and their life experiences, not a number.
One thing I've learned though is that with younger men I don't have expectations...If they treat me with respect I can hang with them. I'm usually pleasantly surprised at how great things turn out. Whereas with older men I do have expectations, I expect them not to be playing games, lying to get into my pants, etc...but I end up usually being disappointed because for the most part that's exactly what they do.
So based on my experiences, younger men, older men, there really isn't much difference....except well, younger men have much more stamina in bed...and much more willing to learn and grow as a lover...while older ones are set in their ways and think they know everything. and if they can't get you off, they tend to blame it on you. | |
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ngat73
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Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 58 | |
| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:46:37 PM | I'm sure some want sex. Some want a Sugar Mama. But a lot of those boys are very passionate and loving. 23 is when their body is at its finest. Yum. I am tempted and if he were mature I'd go for it again. I refuse to look at any boy under the age of 21 though. Too dangerous for me.
It seems to me that early 20's is still too young emotionally. They have a different perspective in life, often optimistic but also unrealistic in reasoning sometimes. I prefer to date men in their 30's but youthful. I am only tempted by men in their mid 20's because some of them are so hot. It's hard to resist but at this age I can't waste my time. If I had children and was divorced and they still want me I'd be all over it.  | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/22/2008 2:07:08 AM | | Being 25, I have a bit of insight on this topic. I find an older women to have a bit more class, and confidence in her self. Thats very attractive, and quite hard to find in a "girl" thats 25. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/22/2008 4:43:14 PM | | And I find the same garbage and qualities in women 24-45. So no difference. If a younger guy gets involved with an older woman it'll be on her terms in 8 out 10 cases. She'll be the one to break it off first as well when she realizes that the fun is over and that she's too old. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/22/2008 10:20:10 PM | | These early 20-somethings are either not looking for anything long term, or they are simply not thinking about their future. What will it be like for them when they are 40? | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/22/2008 10:55:30 PM | | different strokes for different folks, what i mean is that if it works and feels OK then go for it! but if you are worried about what your kids think you should ask them. Also ask yourself how you would feel if they started going with someone who was say about 39 | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/23/2008 5:51:19 AM | Urlovey is right. Go out with one of them and enjoy yourself. But dont expect it to be a lasting thing. I've been with a younger man too. He was really sweet and fun but very immature. When I broke it off with him he cried like a baby. | |
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ngat73
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Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 64 | |
| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/23/2008 9:10:16 AM |
Urlovey is right. Go out with one of them and enjoy yourself. But dont expect it to be a lasting thing. I've been with a younger man too. He was really sweet and fun but very immature. When I broke it off with him he cried like a baby.
Thats the problem...they never really been hurt (some of them) and oh the drama. Been there and done that. Will I do it again. We'll see. :) | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/23/2008 9:18:21 AM | I'd say count yourself lucky that folks reply or anything!! try being a guy. I can hear the crickets already. talk about nothing happening. It's my third year looking here and no great love interest has happened.
So, be pateint. Your prince is on another site | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:17:24 PM | a recent girlfriend lied about her age- she said she was 35 when fact she was 28. (making her not six years my junior but thirteen)
why i wondered when i found out -not that i was really bothered. she didn't want me to think a long term relationship was unrealistic. also she prefers older men as they are more faithful.
its only a number.
if you are both happy why not. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/2/2009 8:02:19 AM | Well, I'm 26 and I'm not on here looking for an older woman for sex. I like a lot of the things older women do such as the same music, movies or tv shows. That is why some of my closest friends are older women. Actually my closest female friend is 41. I know how to appreciate the simple things in life and would highly value just chatting or listening to music together.
I do find that many won't give us younger guys the time of day. I'd easily go out and even have a long term relationship with an older woman if i was attracted to her on the inside and out. I've found more "mature" (instead of the o word lol) women are attracted to me than the younger. Another reason is that younger women often don't know what they want or what's good for them and more mature women do. They are also not nearly as judgmental. I'd love to find a mature great lady that is around my age or a bit younger but I might be much happier with someone older!
So for any odler women out there if a yougner guy (even in his early 20s) asks you out give it a shot. we aren't all bad boys just out for MILF action. Some of us are genuine gentlemen!!! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:46:11 AM | It's the "new" thing.
In the last 2 years I've been approached by boys as young as 18.
On websites and in bars. It's obviously very flattering...
I think Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are the ones to thank for this.
Too weird for me, but for some it works. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:31:50 AM | | cfb62 you're obviously beautiful and what man wouldn't notice you? It's an honor just to be posting under you! He'd have to be blind not to notice your beauty! How is that too weird? Just becuase we're young doesn't mean we're circus freaks or something lol. I wonder why beautiful older women want guys who look old enough to be their dad or grandpa? That's really weird to me! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/3/2009 1:14:27 AM | | Lol. I wonder why beautiful older women want guys who look old enough to be their dad or grandpa? Why would a young 26 year old want a lady that is old enough to be his mother then? I see so many answers here that it is alright for a 41 year old lady to go with a 23 year old guy, but why is it not alright for an older man to want a younger lady? Please someone tell me. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:02:28 AM | Don't forget, Lex & Terry (radio show) have been extolling the virtues of having a relationship with a COUGAR!!
And truthfully, they ain't wrong. Under 25 guys learn a LOT from an older woman. How to behave, how to keep a relationship going, etc, etc...
My first Cougar had me read "The Story of My Life" by Casanova. You must make love to a woman's MIND as well as her body!! Anything less is a waste of time!!
Be a Southern Gentleman...not a redneck in a wife-beater tee!! If you even OWN a wife-beater, throw it out!! Dress properly at ALL TIMES!! ACT PROPERLY AT ALL TIMES!! Have some couth! Be SMOOTH! Think James Bond (Connery).
And above all, learn Keegle exercises :) Nothing like being able to wiggle yer pecker in a figure-8 !! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:07:46 PM |
One thing I've learned though is that with younger men I don't have expectations...If they treat me with respect I can hang with them. I'm usually pleasantly surprised at how great things turn out. Whereas with older men I do have expectations, I expect them not to be playing games, lying to get into my pants, etc...but I end up usually being disappointed because for the most part that's exactly what they do.
Im trying to understand this logic....
so since you have no expectations from younger guys, its ok to basically use them for sex, or vice/versa, because you have no expectations cause they are young, but when an older guy does what a younger guy does, then its a problem because you HAD expectations?...
so which is it?...if you have no expectations from younger guys, then all you want out of it is sex....so just admit that...rather than trying to justify why you go out with younger men...you have no expectations anyway | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:56:48 PM | | from what i know younger guys think that women your age have no hang ups when it comes to sex.also they think if they have good sex with you your going to buy them things.without sounding cruel if your alone and have weight problems they think your desperate.see i do not think that way thats what makes me a man i put away that childish thinking.i like older women and younger women it doesnt matter to me aslong as there mind and heart are in the right place.o your a cuttie . | |
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