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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/20/2009 11:19:21 PM | | i think it can be a good experience for either men or women. i've heard the stories that some women tell and they swear younger men are the way to go... for a while anyway unless they have their maturity level ramped up. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/21/2009 8:55:53 AM | | I say if you don't want to date yougner men then definitely put up an age limit. What irritates me is when i message an older lady who has no age limit or any hint that some guys are just too yougn to date, then writes me backa nd says I'm too young. to me that's very rude and i feel like I'm being led on right from the moment I view their profile. Start being considerate and post a dang age limit so i won't have to waste my time with immature foolishness! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/21/2009 12:31:25 PM | | I am in my mid 30s and have been attracted to several ladies in their early 40s (not as much of an age difference)...but for one, if they have been divorced, many seem to have had some time being single and getting over it and their kids are a bit older or out of the house if they have them....not to mention a lot of them still look good! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/23/2009 7:44:35 AM | | Honestly You are an older mature women young men find that exciting, you have children and a home so every facility to also make them pampered and comfortable. I am not saying that sometimes the age difference can work out but it is not usual and you probably become part of their growing up experience eventually they will probably move on, so it depends on what you are looking for a relationship for now, or one for life. Personally 5 years give or take is reasonable I'm 38 and I would not now ever date anyone under 30. Still you can take a chance and who knows it might work | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:01:16 AM | It's mostly be you're attractive and still look young.
This is my list of why, I have the same problem. One thing I think has not been said is sometimes they're looking for Momma, someone to take care of them.
I try to cut it off at like 28 because of the maturity factor, but then I meet a guy who is 45 and acts like a 15 year old, so what are you gonna do?   | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:38:38 AM | Younger guys don't just message older women for sex. Some men don't look at an age but a person. That is equivalent to saying that women that message older men are looking for sex...period. In today's world men and women are taking better care of their bodies and looking at the person, not just the age.
Of course there are some guys that are just looking for sex the same as women.
EDIT: BOYS WILL look just for sex, men don't...girls will women don't. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/23/2009 12:02:20 PM | Ah, tis the simple lamppost theorem this one.
Or the wicked-lampost-theroem, as i have commented numerous times in the distant past.
And it goes like this:
your average horny dude would hump absolutely anything if it lets him.
he approaches said first lamppost and dependent on an affirmative or negatory he may approach the next lampost..and lets be honest strath many, a great many lampposts.....
and will choose the best one for his needs
incidentally in almost all instances the "girl" is merely a lamppost, never a person.
Now the bit i dont like is when the girls believe they are desirable to younger men only..on account of their own gullibility...and the fact your even asking asking this question merely proves the delusion theory...as is blatantly evident in a lot of posters, oddly deluded girls.
slippernote
*age shoudnt matter for the right reasons never the wrong ones | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/24/2009 7:45:01 AM | incidentally in almost all instances the "girl" is merely a lamppost, never a person.
^^ if she is merely a lamppost, what does that make the man? hmmm? | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/28/2009 10:32:48 PM | Maybe we could just stop with the stereotyping? Not all of the younger guys want a mother figure or sex. I just got turned down today by a 44 year old on here. It's really rude and insensitive for her to word it as if she would feel like she had a 26 year old child. She couldn't even be bothered to talk to me on the phone one time then wanted to be friends still lol.
Excuse me, but a REAL friend older or younger talks to you and not through e-mails all the time! Further proof that this is the age of narcissism because so many women here have such a great lack of tact and manners! This site disgusts me half the time! Ladies, when will so many of you just quit judging people by their age? You could be missing out on something really amazing due to your stereotypical views of the younger generation! | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/29/2009 9:38:16 AM | tyger.. you say we shouldn't judged yet you are pointing fingers yourself after ONE experience!
Everyone has the right to their own choice to whom they are attracted to!
That being said ,some prefer their own age range yet some feel that age doesn't matter .
Its basically if you strip the exterior (age and looks) down to just souls which are meeting and becoming attracted to each other.
Granted, the comment about mother figure, maybe thats true and maybe that's not
but if we all think about it.. we all desire something in another that is lacking in our lives.
I say as long as the relationship in a healthy, respectful and loving manner.. why judge?
Meanwhile, the OP says she's not ready therefore she's just not ready.
Sure sometimes we need to take risk but the old saying "follow the heart" rings true for a good reason. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/30/2009 9:07:39 AM | I have to agree with the majority on this one. Most (I'm not saying ALL) of the younger guys are looking for sex. They "claim" that older women know what they want in the sex dept etc.
I've been recently dating ONLY younger guys (early 20s) and they've been really fun, adventerous times for both parties invloved. The guys that I've dated have been surprisingly mature and at this point in my dating life I have NO PROBLEMS dating younger guys. Are they long term or marriage material? Probably not but I'm willing to give them a chance.
Just my 2 cents | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/30/2009 9:31:17 AM | | It is about worry-free sex. Being with a woman that age means that a guy does not need to worry about getting her pregnant or/and even condom which is more pleasarable for him. Most women that age already have children and are fixed or know how to take care of this matter. If you enjoy sex - go after younger guys and do not expect that an older man would be better. Because instead of having fun you might get bitter, being disapointed with older stupid men. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/30/2009 10:14:42 AM |
If you enjoy sex - go after younger guys and do not expect that an older man would be better. Because instead of having fun you might get bitter, being disapointed with older stupid men.
this logic makes no sense to me....
If you want to date younger men, then do it...no biggie, but what I dont understand is when women say they have no "expectations" from younger men, so its ok to have sex with them for "fun" and just play around....BUT...
since they have expectations from older men, then all of a sudden when a older man does what a younger man does in having fun, then its a problem and your dissapointed...
so if this is your logic...why have expectations at all?....why not just have fun regardless? | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/30/2009 10:29:55 PM | Steph your thoughts about this subject were so much like mine until I actually decided to give a young guy a chance to spend time with me. We had been talking for several months on the net then via phone. I am 41 he was 23 now 24.
I really believed with the age difference we would totally have nothing in common at all. I must say he was one of the most romantic, honest men I have ever spent time with.
I asked all the same questions re what would someone his age be interested in someone of my age. He was a very tall guy larger build. He said most women his own age wanted a guy who was really skinny, who wanted to party all the time and girls his own age he couldnt have an intelligent conversation with. He liked older women because they know what they want. How to go about getting what they want. They are not clinging to you all the time, dont have the insecurities a younger woman has as they usually know themselves very well. Plus more sexually experienced and less inhibited than younger women.
I don't regret my experience he was a total sweetheart but my responsibilities in my life are my children and I take that pretty seriously and I decided not to see him anymore
But if you just want to have some fun and looking to explore and not get to serious well enjoy,. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 1/31/2009 2:17:14 PM | Maybe my reason and rationale is all screwed up but I don't have a clue who is available to who or what age appropriate is anymore.
When I was younger women my age all wanted to be with older guys. Now I come from a time when it was OK for older men to date younger women but it was taboo for some reason for the opposite to be done.
Now it seems like women my own age prefer younger guys. So where does that leave me?
I've never judged a person based on their age and have dated by a differential of 15 years in either direction. I have to say I much prefer dating someone in my own age range as no amount of maturity or accomplishment can replace experience. Someone who is 27 has no recollections of most of the things that I grew up with.
If you don't remember first hand The Mike Douglas Show, the Living Room War, Lincoln Logs or 8-track tapes then chances are we are not going to be in the same place.
As to those who are deluding themselves thinking that a 24 year old guy that wants to date a 41 year old is not about sex, think again. There may be some extrordinary young men that may have the best intentions but trust me, as a former young man, most don't.
When I was 24, I used to date my mother's friend and it was entirely about sex. The idea of turning 41 myself and being in a lifelong relationship with someone who is now 58 was NOT going to happen. Those are young man's thoughts. Obviously my time, experience and maturity have changed those thoughts for me but that is what it takes. Time, experience and maturity. You just don't have those things at 24. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 2/1/2009 1:42:06 PM | | in my opinion since I am 22 i dont see sex as a number one reason..for me i like older women because of personality, matureness, fun to hang around, i am comfortable at talking etc etc..sex is the last thing I want on my mind..it just loses all your game ground, you only focus on that so i choose to think less when im dating or just going out..best advice try it out, not all of us young guys want just sex..shite. The main key is chemistry and connection if you gain that much from the both, good..dont worry about friends or your parents being weirded out if you like the person nothing wrong i think | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 2/2/2009 9:55:41 PM | Jason I am glad we have someone in the younger age group who can stick up for the younger guys looking for older women.
Like anyone in life not everything is based on age. Mental maturity and life experience is something you can gain at any age depending on what life throws at you. Some older men still haven't grown up and are still bed hoping at 50.
So sexuality and wanting sex isnt or shouldnt be based only on your age.
23 year old I spent time with had had some very hard and difficult things happen to him very early on in life. I enjoyed his company. Conversation was mentally stimulating and wow wow sex or making love was great as it was a connection of mind body and spirit which is how it should be for however long it lasts.
So good on you Jason thanks for your comments. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 6/11/2009 1:42:37 PM | | Let me start by saying that everyone on here is right. There are younger guys looking for sex and there is no doubt about it but then there are some guys that just like older women. For instance I personally like the way older women start to look at certain ages. Call it a fetish but it is what it is. Im attracted to older women. Now that the physical part is over we must ask ourselves is there any chemistry? Will we get along? Can we have fun together? Same interests? Those are the things that will keep it a relationship not just a fun adventure that will soon wear off. Now 23-41 well Im thinking you better have some energy as they will be partying like rockstars till atleast 30. My 2 cents. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:04:56 AM | | to the op...all of us guys in our 20's are told that women in their 40's are sex crazed nymphos,and are an easy lay.....they will say anything for a romp..don't fall into the trap | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 6/12/2009 4:40:13 AM | Well, since you've posted your thoughts here it smells like an issue and there's a very simple solution: you simply set your profile so that no one under a certain age can contact you. But of course you won't do that because you enjoy the attention. And yes, 41-23 is ridiculous. Get real. That looks like an incest relationship on the surface of it.
There's no question in my mind that it's 99% about "adventure" and sex. Why in the world would a guy half her age even imagine a serious relationship with a woman with kids almost his own age. We all know the answer. Some cougars bring up the subject of maturity; well, if that would be the problem in the first place you don't start looking for it on the wrong end, i.e., guys half your own age. | |
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| 41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 6/12/2009 11:04:10 AM | Of course, most boys in their 20's think most women in their 40's and 50's are primed and ready to go, wanting and needing just sex, and willing to experience it with someone much younger that hopefully could keep up with them.........
They see the illusion of what they hope to have for additional notches on their bedpost without "commitment".........go figure.
So, you have choices to make, and decide if playing with boys is worth the temporary enjoyment with no long term ties, no maturity, no reality, just plain and simple sex. If you can deal with it, then go for it.
I have long past that phase of my life, and have nothing to prove, and do not need young arm candy to express my manhood. I know what my maturity can offer, and my success can show both financially and emotionally, so their is no need to prove anything with young women.
Since I know what mature women are capable of, and if attractive, active, in shape, and secure themselves, there are few younger women that can hold a candle to what mature women can offer.
Unfortunately for most of us, both men and women, finding those experienced, mature individuals that have all those qualities, becomes harder and harder to do, so we expand our age limits to hopefully get what we want and fill our needs.
These boys OP, want a mature larger redheaded woman that is primed and ready to show them some new tricks, and be happy that they are given that attention. If that is what you want, go for it and enjoy the ride, knowing that the merry go round will end shortly.
Just my opinion........   | |
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