| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:19:48 AM |
1. a comprehensive and usually brief abstract, recapitulation, or compendium of previously stated facts or statements.
No, I didn't notice anything indictative of a summary in their. If anything I found sentances that contributed nothign to their life story or dating.
"Brief" is relative. I think if you can shove 40-something years of life into one page, you can call that rather BRIEF. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:37:07 AM | Her profile's not bad; mine is longer and I've been told at least once it's entertaining so I don't think it's an indication of babblemouthitis. Because trust me, I'm the least talkative guy around. 
Here's the real test; are you talking 50% of the time in a conversation? If you're up at 80% or find yourself interrupting a lot, then okay, too "open".  But otherwise, yeah, I love open women. As long as it's a conversation and not a one-sided speech, wonderful, want more women like that pls.  | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 11:31:46 AM | Southern Belle (rebel) speaks:
Ok, true, I am not a guy, so as for my offering, you can take it or leave it. There are many great things about being a 'southern Belle', from a southern family. HOWEVER, that having been said, now lets get real. Every culture and subculture has both its pros and its cons for any group experiencing it. I dont know how many southern women you have ever seriously interviewed about how they were raised, what they were taught and how it worked for them in their relationships, but you can trust me here: I saw some major dysfunction with the stereotpical role expectations for a 'good' Southern Belle, so I grew up questioning things which many have and still do take for granted. Things like 'sweet as georgia Peach', always nice, etc are really worth nothing when you are being treated with hospitality only bc its a 'social norm', puts on a good show, and/ or not according to someone's true feelings for or towards you. Part of the Southern social graces package is the 'toastmasters' part of making conversation-often culturally ingrained by those fem relatives of ours. Its good to see the essence of who we really are and be able to separate that from what we have 'been taught' by our culture/family ( though I admit that a lot of those things are also good ones too, and its more an awareness of self ). I have met so many Southern women who put on a good face when their marriage was terribly fallen apart bc of abuse, drinking, financial ruin, infidelity, etc. They were taught to never air their dirtly laundry and not make their problem someone else's . So, they were giving him all this forgive and forget niceness while killing themselves in spirit. By now you probably think I am way off of your topic. But, hang in there if you will. My point is that when you are 'so open' as you claim and basically give out the book for free, what this says about you is that in the name of supposed niceness and generosity ( that would be an ok attribute in the SB handbook), you are basically saying, hey look at me, Im sweet and nice and here are all my details and im lonely and needy and I dont really require much of you before I share personal private info about myself with you-ie you dont have to earn your way in to get to know you. I myself am not totally anti southern culture. I have 5 different cultures in my family and am capable of being honest of the pros and cons of each one. I just make this comment bc I am aware of a Southern gals' 'blind spots' . Goodness, we all have blind spots out of our upbringing and life experiences. I hope you get great responses from the guys and stay awake and have terrific success dating Good luck! Gvnage | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 11:45:00 AM | | Dating is a game. If you unload too much of your personal life experiences on someone too early, they will probably interpret it to mean that there are too many skeletons in that closet and will back away. That's just human nature. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 12:00:59 PM | | I think it's very refreshing at times, I like chatting with someone that can and will be comfortable talking openly and freely, keeps those awkward moments to a minimum. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:16:35 PM | | Being open about some things can be a big plus for some guys. Volunteering too much can get a little creapy. If you are telling a guy about some of the silly antics that you got into as a kid, great. If you are telling him about issues with your mental health or past relationships, not so good. It all depends on what you are sharing and how well you know the person that you are sharing with. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:33:16 PM | Openness in a woman isn't a problem for most men.
Statistically, when North American men and women talk, the women *tend* to do twice the talking the man does, so 67% of the talking.
If you are talking more than 80% of the time, that is talking too much.
Otherwise, the person that told you you were too open just made an odd remark. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:12:41 AM | its all in moderation
thats the key line
i use with everything
and it stands true
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i hate having to carry conversations
so someone that can talk awesome
but at the same time
i dont want to hear about all the drama thats happened in your life
just as im not going to tell you about mine
unless it has a good humor quality to it
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so yes by all means talk, just save the bad parts for later... or lightly skim over them if absolutely necessary
amen | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:05:05 AM | | i am open and i like when a womens open also.because to me people who are open are not liars and have nothing to hide.i have talked to the gaurded women on here they should work for the federal government then they get mad at you when you dont email them anymore.what for who wants to talk or date a women who think every man is there ex. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:14:12 AM | | it would be fantastic to meet an open woman ,such a compliment that she can talk about anything it shows how genuine you are dont lose the magic ,stay how you are and be yourself. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/24/2008 11:04:50 AM | | I never reveal enough information that can be used against me in court, in public, or in family reunions, since that all my "relationships" crash and burn like a Pan Am jet. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/25/2008 10:08:22 PM | | Be open -- that's you! Use your openness as a road marker; that is, it should point you to a good match, and steer away those who might not be such good contenders. Also, I think openness is positively correlated with security; that is, a secure person isn't threated by your openness, whereas, an insecure person is. So, be open! | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/25/2008 10:18:29 PM | | IMO there's nothing wrong with volunteering to talk about yourself. If you wait to be asked everything, the night could end quickly. Besides, do you really want to play 20 questions on a date??? | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:44:33 PM | | I think a lot of men can get intimidated by unexpected openness, but I think it's good. In the past, from being too shy, I've not said things I wish I had and regretted it after. I think it's best not to dither and just get things out. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 4:04:43 PM | | I believe that if you have something to say then say it. Why should gender matter? However there is something that psychologists call the Rapport/Report phenomena. Skipping all the boring zigmund freud stuff, it means that men will talk at meetings (Report) and women will be quiet. Of course socially, women talk a lot more then men do (Rapport). It seems that your acquaintances are trying to reenforce this behavior. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 4:35:30 PM | I'm not a fan of genital mutilation so you'd never see me hanging out in certain parts of the dark continent.
Oh, wait, you mean emotionally? Silly me.
There is being open and then there is the ad nausem "sharing" of trivialities and things we'd just as soon have have never known. Be open, but be a woman, not a needy stereotype. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 4:35:42 PM | I'm not a fan of genital mutilation so you'd never see me hanging out in certain parts of the dark continent.
Oh, wait, you mean emotionally? Silly me.
There is being open and then there is the ad nausem "sharing" of trivialities and things we'd just as soon have have never known. Be open, but be a woman, not a needy stereotype. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 5:46:02 PM | | I love people who are open and ready to talk. Too many times I've had dates that are tight lipped and I feel like I'm pulling teeth trying to get a conversation out of them. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:05:24 PM | | I would prefer it, because that is the way I am. Usually, being open is a liability, because a woman then makes a comparison between the real me and the self-inflated her, despite what she is hiding. | |
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| How do you feel about openess in a woman?
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:30:10 PM | I have the same thing. I call it "spontaneous disclosure disorder".
It's a blessing and a curse, really. But it's who I am and I don't let it bother me, cuz people always seem to be at ease with me. | |
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