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JimNeu
| | Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 476 | |
| | What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Page 20 of 30 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30) | I trusted her.. | |
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27Mimi
| | Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 477 | |
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gaveup
| | Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 478 | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:52:56 PM | | I was away too long, working. And when I was home I spent all my time building us a house, I guess I put too much effort in making the future comfy for us and ignored the attention needed now. Now I have a big new house, and no one to share it with. LOL | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/14/2008 10:14:06 PM | | I wasn't her ex. She went back to him as soon as he finally paid her the twenty eight grand he owed her for the divoce settlement from two years before. She still loved him, what the hell, nobody's dead. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/15/2008 6:24:29 PM |
Called him a different name by the second date
I had a girlfriend once that I had her name written down on a piece of paper in my wallet,it took 2 weeks to be sure I would remember it,I told her about that years later and she laughed her head off,never happened again.Don't worry about turning back the clock,if that got him upset just think what else would pop up later.A bit childish on his part. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/15/2008 7:06:34 PM | | My mistake was I let him get away with bad behaviour and didn't say anything to change it....I'm mad at myself for doing so - AGAIN....I was too accommodating...I did too much...I gave too much. AGAIN!!! | |
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Haze56
| | Joined: 9/5/2008
Msg: 487 | |
| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/15/2008 7:57:31 PM | I did everything wrong.
I met this person who was absolutely perfect. I mean, he was so rare I know I'll never find anyone like him. But I met him when I was 18 and he was 30. I became unsettled, afraid I was missing out on being young. . .missing out on something. And I took him for granted. I also started wondering what it would be like to act out on a curiosity I had had since I was young, long before I met him. . .what it would be like to be with a woman. I never cheated on him and wouldn't. I stopped sleeping with him and expressing my desire to not be in a relationship months before I would actually end up meeting her. I went down from Michigan to Ohio and it happened. And I was so ready to leave. . .so ready to move on. This is what I don't understand. And then I heard he was moving to Germany and I went out and looked up at the sky. It was as full as the western sky he and I drove under and were witness to numerous shooting stars. . .and I sobbed from the pits of my stomach. I ended up going back to Michigan and he stood there, after I had let him come home to an empty apartment, with wide open arms. He hugged me and I felt like home.
I would end up telling him what he had suspected to begin with. Being from Lebanon, his culture is a lot less tolerant of such things. Tears rimmed his eyes a little, yet he looked at me and said, "Do *you* feel better now that you told me?" And said it would have just been unhealthy and hurt me more had I kept everything inside. This is the same man who stayed with me through thick and thin - when my mother and brother were threatening him, scratching his car and calling him racist names. Who loved me just the same and never looked elsewhere, unlike other men, when I blew up over 200 lbs. Who loved me just the same and never looked elsewhere, unlike other men, when I stopped having sex with him. Who, when I asked what he would do if I were to get raped and keep the child, said he'd love it because it came from me and my fate would be his. Who, after six years, had the same look of adoration he had for me in the beginning even on moody days.
We had an amazing last month together. But he was giving me pep talks for life and, though he denied it, I felt like it was a permanent goodbye. He kissed me through my tears while I sobbed and I watched him drive away like I used to, in the beginning, watch him drive to work. He was my best friend and the only family I knew. And, having no family or nobody, and in the deep depression I was in and constant anxiety, I put the little I owned in my little blue car he had signed over to me and I got a rideshare off craigslist and drove to Southern California, where my brakes broke and drained what little cash I had and now I'm homeless in the desert. And the anxiety and depression. . .whatever you feel. . .only follows you.
I had always wished I had met him later in my life so I got to be young. And so I did everything wrong. And hurt a perfect person who was the least deserving of ever being hurt. I don't have to worry about making the same mistakes in another relationship, because I don't want to be in another relationship. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/15/2008 9:24:07 PM | I trusted, believed, accepted his lies, let him get away with too much......
And to top it off, I married him! Boy, now I go what was I thinking......
But hey, I moved on and also.
I've done the name thing. Most guys laugh at it! They actually make fun of me and get a good laugh, but that is probably because I make a joke out of it once I realize I did it so that we don't  , instead we are  together over it. If someone can't laugh at something like that, then life going to be tough! | |
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JLA78
| | Joined: 7/1/2008
Msg: 489 | |
| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:07:36 PM | I took the blame for every problem we had.
I felt sorry for her because of her illness and didn't want to break it off.
Months later when she broke it off I threw everything back in her face times 10.
As much as I think she deserved it I still hate myself for going to such a low level and will never let it happen again. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:02:07 AM | Hmmmmm ... What did I do wrong in the last relationship … wow!
Let's see, I went walking along the shoreline …
just enjoying the sound of the water washing to shore.
I picked up a few pretty stones … some driftwood …
warmth of the sunshine.
I decided to wade in the water … it was a little cold.
I tried to warm the water (yes, I like a challenge! Duh!).
The water ran warm at times … nice to frolic in from time to time.
Tried to get the water to be warm all the time … (again, I like a challenge!)
Swam deeper, water-skied (with my life jacket on), had a blast … felt
confident enough to take my life jacket off … ignored the warning signs ...
Tried to come back to shore … got caught in the under tow …
Could not figure out how to get out of it … began drowning …
Needed CPR, but no help in site …
Possibly the lifeguard "thought" I was too damaged to assist ...
Apparently, I need a few more swimming and water safety classes!
(possibly the lifeguard needs more training, too!  )
I even scared the fish! And myself! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:58:32 AM | | Pretending I was blind, deaf and dumb!!!! I knew he was a cheater, knew he was cheating, but put them blinders up and left them up for the past 5 years of our relationship. What I would do differently now? Act my age, not my shoe size when it comes to men. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:37:09 PM | | Raising my daughters alone i let the problems of raising teens consume too much of my time.He was wonderful,paitent,and in the end i pushed him away.This one was pretty much all of my fault | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/22/2008 9:14:49 PM | My last relationship I walked away from. Sort of by force. I had decided to move out a week before I actually did, my ex BF begged me to stay and I did, but one week after that, he told me to leave. He wanted me to come back again after I had gotten my own apartment, but I refused since it was the third and final time he told me to leave in the two years we were together.
I haven't dated anyone since November 2006, and have spent that time getting my own heart, mind and soul straightened out. Luckily I am happy as I am, and don't look to someone else to make me happy, but to share in my happiness.
Life does go on. | |
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mibra
| | Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 495 | |
| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/22/2008 9:28:47 PM | | I sent him an email telling him my nervousness about his leave, and asked him why he wanted to go to Afghanistan. Then it brought back his strong reaction; he started a series of fights about every minor things and told me he wanted to break up. So we broke up. What a drama! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/22/2008 9:29:16 PM | | stayed in an abusive relationship for years,telling myself it was best for the kids, and i couldn't make it on my own.i did leave with the kids,and never looked back.fortunately,today both my kids are active in speaking out agaist violence,and helping others in getting out as well. My biggest reason for staying was actually my biggest reason for leaving! | |
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JTinAZ
| | Joined: 9/13/2008
Msg: 497 | |
| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2008 1:33:31 AM | | I read most women posting things like "I stayed too long" or "I trusted him" or "I let him have control of me" but what did those women do wrong to create that situation in the first place? Those are the symptoms of what is already a bad situation- but what did YOU do that created that situation? Where is the personal accountability? Everything that happens does so for a reason, so what did YOU do tat cause the problem to begin with? I'm not saying it's always a woman's fault if something goes wrong in a relationship, sometimes guys are just s**tbags, buy many tmes with all human interactions someone is treated badly b/c of something that is lacking in a relationship or b/c they were first treatd badly.
The thing I did wrong in my last relationship was care too much, too soon. I didn't make her work for my love and loyalty, so that's why she took it for granted and cheated on me while she was away studying abroad in Spain. I should have taken the chance I had to go home with 2 chicks and let them double team me, but oh no, that was my choice to remain loyal and honest. DUMB. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2008 2:04:14 AM | In my last relationship I know what I did wrong.
I was with a girl who even though we weren't technically together it was just because we hadn't declared it. And that was because in the beginning she wanted to rush for that definition and I thought it was better that we not put a name on it so soon that way no matter what happenned no one could be betrayed. WHile we left it that way, we in all actuality became gf and bf. One night she went out one night with a girlfriend who was in town from out-of-state while I sat with her daughter and they ended up sleeping with some other guys from the bar.
She told me the next night, through tears, and expected it to be over - but couldnt stand feeling guilty. I told her I needed some time to think. I took a couple of days and I decided that I wanted what we had and since there wasn't any betrayal I could get over it as long as we both agreed that "we" were what we wanted.
Unfortunately my heart could not follow my minds logic, and I pulled-back emotionally. I didnt beat her up with it or anything, I just couldn't give my all. I was living in fear rather than cherishing what we had. The handwriting was on the wall. It only took about 2 months before the relationship fell apart. The spark and excitement just wasnt there anymore and she found that somewhere else. To give credit where credit's due -- she broke it off before cheating on me.
Moral of the story: I feel that had I been able to not be afraid of being hurt again and really cherished her, it could have worked. I made a conscios though-out decision but didnt follow thru; wasting both of our time. I mean I'm not an idiot.... she had as much or more to blame than I in the end, but that is what *I* did wrong.
/and I left the toilet-seat up
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2008 3:02:18 AM | | I should have been more supportive of his job even though I was right it would cause us problems. I should have paid more attention to him, been more into his interests then just my own. He needed more from me then just money and helping with cleaning around his apartment. | |
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