| | What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Page 9 of 30 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30) | LOL....GREAT idea for a thread...unfortunately it will be more people glorifying what made them leave, into "faults."
Kudos to the few who have actually admitted something such as cheating! (For the admitting part...not the cheating part! LOL)
Hmm...last relationship...what did I do wrong? We both moved a way too fast...and I pushed for living together because it seemed the solution to the few problems we had (distance, financial strain of travelling.) when I KNOW that you should never choose to live together for financial reasons!
I told him I understood when he could not make a weekend, when I deep down resented him for not trying harder. | |
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claral
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 2:14:30 PM | | what i did wrong was not finish it the day it started....looking back it was obvious it was a real no go arear but i do dare myself and it alway backfires in the long run..i have learnt to walk or rather run away fast at the first hint of the vibe psychopath...lots about you know | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:34:30 PM | | I put the children, house and work before him. He was working rotating shift work and that made it difficult to have a set routine for all of us. I am sure I didn't pay enough attention to him as he would have liked and always heard the 'you are always tired' when he would get in the mood when he would come home in the middle of the night. I admit I was tiredwhen he got home late at night and at times got tired of hearing all his stories about work. I also got annoyed that I was supposed to listen to his long stories about some 'idiot' he arrested and if I wanted to tell him about my something that happened at my job that day I was told he didn't need to know all the details just give him the basic bottom line of the story. Communication was also an issue, but I think that is a standard that comes when you have both parents working and children that you are running around all week. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:45:29 PM | What I did wrong was being paranoid over things. I have accused this guy with no basis at all, maybe too scared to know the truth if there was truth to it. I guess I just wanted to sabotage the whole relationship so that before he could break up with me, I would be detached from him and it would be easy to handle.
Also, I never ask where I stand in a relationship. Again, too scared that he might pull away.
Next time around, there won't be beating around the bush. I will be as upfront as I should be or, if he thinks that is pressuring him, he can make his way out of my life. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:51:44 PM |
What I did wrong was being paranoid over things. I have accused this guy with no basis at all, maybe too scared to know the truth if there was truth to it. I guess I just wanted to sabotage the whole relationship so that before he could break up with me, I would be detached from him and it would be easy to handle.
Also, I never ask where I stand in a relationship. Again, too scared that he might pull away.
Next time around, there won't be beating around the bush. I will be as upfront as I should be or, if he thinks that is pressuring him, he can make his way out of my life.
very nice post. And kudos for standing up for yourself. Now ...where did I put that plane ticket to Australia! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 9:59:56 PM | Baldy (msg #18): Forgot to put the toilet seat down so she dumped you? You shoulda just removed it- then you wouldn't forget anymore!!!
 <<<----- me falling in, lmao | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:10:09 PM |
let's see. I was uncompromising, too harsh, not understanding enough and emotionally unavailable. Yes, I have some regrets. I should have developed patience and understanding. He was too good to me. REALLY the only one I could have married. Stupid me.
Finally a true answer from someone not looking for pity!
Some of life's lessons may be very hard, but some of US do learn from the mistakes we have made in our past. The first step is recognizing what a person has done wrong. And for that I give you major props seriouslytaken!!
I don't think anyone is necessarily looking for pity, but the thread is about your last relationship. I would have a different answer, if it said, what have you done wrong in your relationships. Just because you don't think what you were like in your last relationship, was wrong, means you are looking for pity is absurd. Personally I was not wrong in my last relationship. I just happen to run across a big p ussy that couldn't really handle someone doing the right thing for other people, instead of his self centered ass!!! I guess maybe I did do something wrong, I didn't listen well enough, when he was telling me about his past relationships, because it was alllll their fault. He hates his mother too, but that's a whole different thread. I actually felt sorry for him. I guess that's the other thing I did wrong, being stupid!!! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:11:36 PM | | I kinda never talked to him... ever. I think he thought we were still dating and I was off talking to other guys 0.o... How do I expect to prevent it? Not date goring guys ever again =D | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:11:42 PM | | I'd say the biggest mistake I made was spending too much time on work and not enough on my marriage. I should have refused the promotions as my family was still young. I think it really put a wedge in my marriage. On a more positive note theres no use dwelling on it, just learn from it | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:12:58 PM |
I kinda never talked to him... ever. I think he thought we were still dating and I was off talking to other guys 0.o... How do I expect to prevent it? Not date goring guys ever again =D
Sorry BORING guys... oops!  | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:22:13 PM | I have only had two relationships, my marriage and my most resent that lasted just over 8 months*.
My marriage lasted over 20 years and we were both responsible for how our marriage ended.
*But my most recent relationship, six years after my divorce, was I think my fault because I wanted to go slow but got caught up with my partners intensity. I was in deep and in love before I saw her intense love was matched by her intense jealousy and hate. It had to end some time and it did.
But as I say I feel it was my fault for not insisting on going slower in the first place. Should have taken more time to get to know her.
Drew | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/17/2008 2:20:01 AM | | I think I was too giving/generous. I went into longterm relationship mode too fast and shoulda stayed in that casual dating mode longer. We were together for 6 months. I guess I just let my heart get involved too soon because when he'd have problems or needed help with the daily stuff I'd wanna help - the way you would for anyone you might care for. I wasn't like this for just anyone - just those I'd chosen for "my circle". He'd said he'd never been able to communicate with another woman the way that he did me. He'd also said that no one other than his mom had ever taken care of him the way that I did. He also said, "I don't have romantic feelings for you". Lesson learned, eh? | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/18/2008 11:00:57 PM | | I didn't do anything wrong! I was the perfect girlfriend. He lied to me! He was dating someone else and he lived in Fishers and I lived in West Lafayette. I found out and dumped him! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:07:11 AM | In my marraige I seemed to controlling of what took place when it came to the money, he was in the military we owned two home and had two small children and were not making a lot of money. I was looking out for the family as a whole and trying to make sure all of our responsibilities were met. He saw this differently and I can understand that now, would I have changed it...I doubt it.
I also enabled him to do whatever he pleased and stayed too long when I knew things were not right, I take full responsibility for how I may have made him feel and have even discussed it with him, long after the ust settled when emotions were not high.
Felt it was important not to be bitter and have crap hanging over my head when moving forward. | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:04:21 PM | I held on to resentments of some things that happened between us instead of either moving on or letting go of the past, she was not a very good person at the beginning but tried to change and was great to me for awhile but I held on to the hurt and was a jerk. The blessing is that I now know how wrong I was for treating a person the way I did her and gaurantee I would never treat anyone like that again. She quit before the miracle and now some other girl with get the benefits | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:52:12 PM | I was kept thinking that fights meant it was over so I would break things off with him every time I got angry...He jokingly says we broke up 13 times....
I didn't believe he loved me and so I questioned it all the time....
I gave up my life for him instead of having a life with him....
I lost me..... | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/20/2008 3:21:24 AM | Instead of truly listening to what he said, I heard what I wanted to. I never said what I was feeling because I didn't want to rock the boat. If you can't communicate with someone, you don't have anything.
In the future, I will be brave! | |
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| What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/20/2008 4:19:11 AM |
Instead of truly listening to what he said, I heard what I wanted to. I never said what I was feeling because I didn't want to rock the boat. If you can't communicate with someone, you don't have anything.
In the future, I will be brave!
Good luck next time curlyboop.
Good luck to everyone.
Drew | |
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