| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/10/2008 5:42:30 AM |
I prefer the pay sights to the free ones. Here, when I click on my matches, lol, they are not even close. I use match as well, and I really like the delete a profile feature.
That is the one feature I really appreciated at Match, too, and wish we had at POF. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/14/2008 7:40:07 PM | I have tried match and it is extremely frustrating that you can be told you have a contact email and you can't even read it! So how are you supposed to know if the person is worth paying for membership for?! You can't even see the profile of the person who contacted you! It's silly.
I've tried heaps of other paid sites but the best of them would have to be RSVP. There is a large pool of people on it. I hadn't had to buy stamps up until recently. I have met some great people there.
As for free sites, I have to say, this one is the best. I have got the most responses/contact from people here. There are a lot of great interesting and intelligent people too. And like someone else has said, many of the same people from the paid sites are on here. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/14/2008 8:20:54 PM | Free sites like POF could actually work better than any paying dating sites. You can message, IM, and meet all of the people you want for FREE.
I actually can't stand paying sites. A lot of them are scams, and I can't stand the fake profiles.
I mean what can you get off paying sites, that you can't get from POF? | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/14/2008 8:28:36 PM | I also agree with the person who mentioned True.com. I was on that site for just a couple of days, and they were sending me nothing, but fake winks, and profiles that didn't even exist. It's actually the worse paying site I have ever been on. Talk about a sham.
That site should be shut down. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/15/2008 5:32:38 PM | I think ones success on dating sites depends largerly on what they put into it...and how 'refined' their filtration system is. Normally, when people get started, they get carried away by all the attention and they want to entertain everyone....even though they are perhaps not really what that person is looking for.
I am sure that with a good system in place, you can find a decent match on POF if you are patient and can handle digging through the rif raff that naturally comes with freebie sites. On the other hand, places like lavalife, where people actually have to invest (pay) to contact potential dates, there is already an automatic filtration system working to help weed out the losers.
I would suggest maybe trying a trial membership to see if you like it, and if you dont, well there is always room in the dirty rotten pond for one more :)
good luck | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 3:25:37 AM | eharmony is the worse..false advertising and matches that are not in any dimension your match.
They send whoever is local and many who are not. It's all in marketing and their bottom line..I've met many more from POF than any pay site.
29 dimensions? hooha! more like the twilight zone..lol | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 4:30:56 AM | | On Singlesnet dot com, paid members ( not expensive ) can contact non paying members and freely exchange contact info. Lots of players and fakes though, made me feel like the bar scene moved to the internet, minus the booze. I tried the other sites free for a month, Yahoo & Match, but you can only correspond with other paid members and didn't think it was worth it. I'm still getting to know POF but like the chemistry and compatibility options. I think it's always going to be hit and miss, no matter which site your on, since there's so much choice for men and women. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:22:17 PM | I have tried eharmony paid 150 dolars for the 3 months andwith no luck.
A lot of sites charge just to read your mail that you got. Try a bait and switch
So you pay and all the mail was from was a gal or gals from a different country.
POF is no different cept no charge.
And the women are no different.
I get about 10 % writing back. 
lol
So thats my story
take care | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 2:16:33 PM | | Well I had talked to some people that had good luck here on Match.com so I bit the bullet and decided to join and see what would happen. Well I get alot of winks but so far only on has emailed me, of which I had no interest in, I have sent out a couple and gotten only a few responses back then nothing, frankly I think it is just online dating that sucks | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 4:45:33 PM | Singlesnet has the really bad customer service. They don't let you choose the age range but select 15 yrs around your age..Americansingles used to be the best but like the rest and went south fast..Yahoo personals has more locals but most are just window shopping and won't try and meet. Bikerplanet is great but the 1000 mile rule applies..
match.com was ok but most were 2hrs to a 1000 miles away..Seniorsnet is the same with 1000 mile rule..not many locals.. True.com is the same as the rest..
Sofar POF has been the best for me. Many friends but not many dates within driving distance. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:11:14 PM | | Match has alot of profiles on it that don't really exist or are just drive by'ers.Lonely on a thursday night and fill out the profile and add a picture and thats the end of it...Match.com Sysops will generate all kinds of winks and such.....specially when your subscrition is about to run out------yahoo used to be famous for that,,but they have cleaned up a bit......I still think eharmony gives you your best chances over the long haul---but do come up with some wingers you get matched with. and they use drive by'ers to.. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:45:51 PM | | I met my X husband on a free site which was run by our local newspaper, then again that didn't turn out so well so I've been considering joining one of the paid ones ;-) thanks for the insight | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 6:12:39 PM | | I have dated a few women who switched over from the pay dating sites. The majority of them had the same experience. That just because you pay to be on a dating site, doesn't mean the guys are or girls are any better. Just because its okay to look doesn't mean you have to pay to look . LOL | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 6:51:42 PM | | I think they are worth it. Let's say you pay $15/month and meet someone in 2 months. That's $30. You go out, have dinner, think it over and decide it's not a match. That was $30 well spent because at least you got a dinner date and made the effort. Even if you spend a year on that site and only get laid once, it's still cheaper than hiring a pro. I don't see how it couldn't be worth it considering how cheap it is and, women tend to think you're a better prospect if they had to pay to meet you. If they can meet you for free you are no better than some guy they saw on the street. But if they had to pay, well, then you must be at least one grade better than a freebie. I bet if you go on a site that costs thousands of dollars to join, if they even have any, the women would be thinking they had the cream of the crop, or else why would it cost so much. Hey, that gives me an idea... | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 7:09:35 PM | Paid dating sites are in my experience, and opinion, Not worth it.
In the past, I had subscribed to e harmoney, match , yahoo personals, and american singles. my experinece was much the same as others who have posted here.
Lots of bait and switch, and winks when my sub was close to ending.
So here I am, and Yes I can say, I have met some good people on here, and yes
I have went out on a few dates as well. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/16/2008 8:48:15 PM | | I tried RHarmony for about a month and they send very few matches to women and the men they send are too old, not cute enough, and not enough going for them. My ex bro-in-law is on there and he likes it because, as a guy, they send him more matches and they're ususally younger than him. I also tried match a year ago. I liked it mainly because of its extensive search engine. I could really hone in on only those people in whom I might be interested. Most other sites don't have such a good search engine, so you're stuck weeding through way too many profiles and then when you see someone interesting, theres' still not enough info on the profiles to really bother. Match lets you match by pictures, phyiscal qualities, personal qualities, age, edcuation, job types, and even income. If I'm going to match, I want to know before that first e-mail or picture he's someone who will catch my eye in all ways. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 9:51:39 AM | I would recommend Eharmony first. If you are in it for the long haul and not just rushing into something and can tolerate eharmony sending you duds from time to time,,it gives the best chance and you dont have to do anything but be yourself and be patient... Widen your search area too.
Match is sketchy. Yahoo is filled with Nigerians who are getting better and better. Be aware of subtle spelling clues,porfiles with only 1 picture and messages that give you a yahoo email addy. Pay particular attention to the PHOTO too! As a SYSOP for match at one time we were inundated by the Nigerians,,,if someone did'nt report them it was very hard to track them. They would sign up on a stolen CC number more chances then not,,send out 50 to 75 emails a day--once they get you on yahoo,,you may have trouble,,they are getting better and better at it! BEWARE.
We watched them evolve from being painfully obvious,,to being pretty clever--the spelling would improve but certain things would peg them..they always screw up english slang,contractions and such. Our 2 biggest clue s to matching them was having only 1 picture usually a cut job of a advertisment or a photo shopped pic.Only the good scammers figure that one out but the vocabulary seems to even get the good scammers.Most people with common sense know there is something wrong! and giving a yahoo email address right off the bat.
Just be careful and use common sense. guys if you email someone with only 1 picture and thier profile is littered with butchered sentences,very poor slang,lots of 'lol' and the first email they send you back is with a yahoo email. utilize the delete button.And report them!!!! that is the only way the SYSOPs know when to track them..The Nigerians play the numbers game and thier main goal is to get you online on IM..usually always yahoo! | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:02:48 AM | The pay sites we use are obviously different to most of yours (not being in the US) however the general idea is that if someone pays to be on a site they are more likely to be serious about things - however that doesnt seem to be the case. I have been on both types and have come across the same people all the time!
Need some new blood methinks!
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:11:43 AM | lots of 'lol' and only have one picture?
I use "lol" all the time and I only had one picture. What does that make me again???? | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:21:23 AM | | It makes you very normal person on a internet dating site. The scammers know that and try very hard to blend in. The 1 photo indicator is common because scammers can usually only use 1 picture,cutting and pasting a photo of a bunk picture is easy,finding another picture of the same person is usually not gonna work. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:31:05 AM | | Ya I had a white man i had been chatting to in msn a good while. he didnt have any more pics of him either. I said ok. I was online one day when he signed in. he signed in with a black man's pic. I p2p him and said who is that and he said it was him. I said but you said the white guy was you. He said if I had of told you I was black you wouldnt have talked to me and he enjoyed our talks. (all clean talks by the way.) well I got so mad that he lied that i didnt even ask where he got pic from. I just said well now I aint gonna talk to you ever again, not because your black but becuase you lied. to this day he and I have never spoke agian. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:44:18 AM | I've heard of that.  The only good thing about the scammers is they usually give themselves up by making knucklehead moves like that.Or they email the same person 3 or 4 times each with a different message,,they email so many people they forget who they email--d'oh! People are usually reluctant to report them,,which can compound the problem,,most just delete them and never report it!
At least when I was a SYSOP if we got acomplaint,t usually indicated that for everyone person that reported the person---50 or so did'nt. And usually we'd block the ISP. Never worked though.get rid of one and two more would pop in to take the persons place. Common sense usually beats them though. | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 3:22:11 PM | I found out about POF from another paid site (lavalife) which I thought was a bit surprising since I figured the lava-nazis would delete posts related to any 'competition'..specially one that is FREE ..
What I 'liked' about the idea of joining LL was the freedom of not having to pay to reply to other members...thus having the ability to remain a non-paying member until I found a match... of course the downfall to that is you have to wait to be found amidst an ocean of profiles...but, no offense, as a female, not so tough...I found the overall demographic of the crowd there was a lot older than it is here...and the pervs to be swarming every section of the damn site... chatted it up with a few good people who I exchanged e-mails with... but I would have never paid for a membership there..
POF is really what online dating should be like... the ability to narrow down the type of people who can 'bump into you' to people that YOU would bump into if you saw them down the street... while leaving a little bit to chance and the unknown... I honestly feel that with the exception of maybe 5% of the messages I've received on POF in the few days I've been a member, everyone else who's found me/I've found through matches has been great to chat with, and some friendships have already developed!! | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/17/2008 6:06:26 PM | | can't think of any that would be worth the money , but then i live in a small area and not likley to be many users from it online anyways . so little point in doing the pay option , which is why i prefer this site over the other ones out there . but still yet to land any successful dates off it yet but will keep trying | |
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| Are pay dating sites worth it?
Posted: 11/22/2008 5:38:50 PM | | No pay sites.. are so over priced...I was on Match.com for a year. I met a bunch of dates on there. But no matches.. :( POF is so much better because it tells u if the other person read your e-mail..or deleted it witch is always the case for me..lol...Either way I find that online chic's are really picky and looking for a far to perfect guy that exist. IMOP | |
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