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Joined: 5/30/2008
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:27:16 PM | No way would I have gone. And now thinking about it, I doubt any woman who is ALONE would have done it too unless they were really really stupid/naive. You'd have to be pretty silly to have gone to the motel in my opinion. That is creepy, he must've followed you from Target somehow, and found out which car was yours before you even arrived...I'm seriously wondering how he even knew which car was yours before you even got there. If that happened to me, I'd either throw it away and forget all about it, or I'd possibly call the police and keep the note as evidence.
Whether he was too shy or not to approach you, I'm sure he could've plucked up enough courage to do so if he really wanted to. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:07:15 PM | | Perhaps the guy didn't follow Gwen from Barnes and Noble to Target. It's possible he first sees an attractive lady at Barnes and Noble; then later, coincidentally, he goes to Target and sees the same attractive lady parking her car. He thinks: "Maybe this is destiny." He leaves the note on the windshield, figuring he's got nothing to lose by giving it a shot. He blows it though, when he suggests the motel room. Very dumb on his part. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:11:44 PM | You guys are such romantics as shown by this response:
Its such a shame soo many people find a simple gesture like that cause to run and hide, i swear half of you if given the choice would stay invisible and hide away from all men forever.
He was most likely a shy man that wanted to leave you a note instead of approaching you-did you all run screaming to the police from tyour first loveletters, if you had any? They were anonymous too.
and this one.
Perhaps the guy didn't follow Gwen from Barnes and Noble to Target. It's possible he first sees an attractive lady at Barnes and Noble; then later, coincidentally, he goes to Target and sees the same attractive lady parking her car. He thinks: "Maybe this is destiny." He leaves the note on the windshield, figuring he's got nothing to lose by giving it a shot.
So, just for kicks, enlighten the ladies. If we were, in the spirit of romance, to show up at this guys Motel, how do YOU imagine this wonderfully romantic encounter would play out? | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:18:38 PM | Thanks mary freakin,
Who says this POF site doesn't work? | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:23:32 PM | So, just for kicks, enlighten the ladies. If we were, in the spirit of romance, to show up at this guys Motel, how do YOU imagine this wonderfully romantic encounter would play out?
I'm not sure of your point, but I noticed you selectively edited this from my comment:
He blows it though, when he suggests the motel room. Very dumb on his part. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:12:46 PM | Hank,
Sorry to cut down your quote without more precise explaination. Assume he didn't "blow it," and he just scoped out her car and left a note on it, rather than approach her. How do you think contacting a guy in this situation would play out?
Also, I'm curious what other guys think of that, who might have been thinking along the lines of Simon and Hank. Guys, if you were a woman and approached like this, what do you think is waiting for you when you meet the guy and how would you approach the situation? (Both with the invitation to the motel, which Simon thinks is not a deal breaker, and without the motel invitation, just the note on the car, which Hank seems to see as sort of a romantic gesture by itself). | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:29:52 PM | I call the biggest ugliest male friend I have and tell him go to the guys motel with a bottle of lube and some gay porn. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 2:16:36 PM | Seriously, that guy's MO is most likely already on the cops' radar.
You should have take the note to nearest cop. Not call anyone, just walk to nearest officer and ask best course of action. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 2:41:14 PM | Geez, I am not reading three pages so if this is covered, forgive me.
He followed you to Target, duh.
I think the reason that this is creepy is because he invited you to a hotel room.
If this story had read that he followed you to Target, people would have thought, ok, that's sort of creepy but it could also be considered a compliment and I suspect that there are people that would meet a man in a public place if they found he seemed normal over the phone.
You took appropriate precautions when you called so he can't contact you by phone and doesn't know where you live, so what would it hurt to meet? Many shy people in the world, this situation would not be so blatantly stalkerish without the hotel room component. It puts you in no more danger than meeting someone from here or having a drink with a co-worker that you barely know. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 2:46:08 PM |
It was the whole... I'm a writer... I blocked my caller ID and routed it through the switchboard thing... Sounded like a plot line.
Of course it is a plot line. EVERYTHING is a plot line to someone who writes.
Isn't just the possible suspicion of someone being a predator enough these days to make you do a double take and not do something so strangly risky.
Calling was not risky--going to meet a man at his motel room is risky.
I will accept one logical reason. You called the hotel and knew where it was at to verify that he was in fact in that room and not still behind you watching.
Not that it matters what you will accept or not accept, I didn't feel the whole thing was bizarre until I found out that he had seen me at B&N AND Target. I can understand a man leaving a note on a woman's car, the dangerous part, AGAIN, was the invitation to the motel of a man whom I had never met.
And that made me wonder--how many women would accept? How many had accepted?
Perhaps the guy didn't follow Gwen from Barnes and Noble to Target. It's possible he first sees an attractive lady at Barnes and Noble; then later, coincidentally, he goes to Target and sees the same attractive lady parking her car. He thinks: "Maybe this is destiny." He leaves the note on the windshield, figuring he's got nothing to lose by giving it a shot. He blows it though, when he suggests the motel room. Very dumb on his part.
Hank, maybe! For sure, the dumb part was suggesting the motel room. As I wrote earlier, at first, I was flattered.
If I found a note from a local man on my car, I would call and talk to him and if I liked the way he sounded, I would meet him for a soda or coffee--but I wouldn't go to his house.
As for those who are still suggesting that I should have taken the note to the cops--the guy really did nothing wrong! Even on the phone, when I said, "No," he didn't pressure me. You don't go to jail for being creepy or trying to pick up a woman.
I stopped thinking about this until I saw the forum posted again today on the sign in page. I don't feel creeped out by the whole affair anymore. Maybe he was a lonely guy in town on business, but he needs to develop some finesse on how to approach the locals.
To the lady who suggested putting date information in an email, thanks--that is good advice. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 2:47:23 PM |
I think the reason that this is creepy is because he invited you to a hotel room.
EXACTLY! | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 3:16:36 PM |
To the lady who suggested putting date information in an email, thanks--that is good advice.
One of my friends always knows where I am going, who I am with, and she knows my password onto this site so that if anything happened to me the police could easily track the computer. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 3:47:53 PM | OP,
Make friends with your local cross dresser, hand the note over to him/her and say "it's for you...I think he said he wanted a soda or something...bring a friend"
RLMAO
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/18/2008 3:54:30 PM | | Very strange and way to creepy. I wouldnt have gone. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:54:09 AM | | Ha ha, if you're reading this thread look up to the banner in your IE window (i.e. that blue bar at the very top displaying what web page you are at) - it says "Bizarrely Dangerous Free Dating, Singles and Personals". Made me chuckle but hey, it's 5am and I'm studying for the Bar Exam so I gotta find my laughs wherever I can. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:03:29 AM | | You should feel creeped out. I know that I would have left the note under someone else's windshield wiper when I found the note :-) | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:32:33 PM | Some men are pretty desperate for sex so will try any way of pulling women.
Any date is a possible hazard unless yo ustay in public places.
You certainly shouldnt give out your address or numbers until you have had a few dates with someone. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:15:25 PM | How many women would have gone? I would hope none at all.
How many men would try to find dates like this? I would say none, because what was written on the note, was not a date pick up.
I would have saved the note, in case I ever needed it. I would not have called, because that could have amounted in this persons mind, showing interest. I would make sure of my surroundings, being very aware, for quite sometime. Also, would try to have someone with me, when I did go out for a while. A meeting at a hotel room, when you don't even know the guy, is grounds for concern, period. It's more then just creepy. You don't want to fear this sort of thing, cause fear can be your worst enemy, but you want to approach this kind of situation in a careful, aware state of mind. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:34:11 PM | Oh come on. This isn't the least bit dangerous.
The guy is a socially inept twit, likely a bit of a cad but when and how exactly was anyone threatened with any harm? It looks like too many people re watching too many made for tv movies.
Following you from store but too chicken to risk being turned down face to face is not the same thing as stalking. Actually in leaving the note he left the ball in your court didn't he?
I can't imagine he is very successful with women at all, or that those he is are really what I'd qualify as a "quality woman".
I wouldn't say he is at all romantic. Given the invite to a motel I'd be more inclined to believe he is just horny and clueless on how to approach women that he hasn't been introduced to.
A date is about as dangerous as crossing the street. If you don't look where you are going and what is coming eventually you will regret it. But if you use a little common sense chances are both are going to be relatively safe. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:49:13 PM | Ok,
When i was like 19 yrs old I was riding in the back of a construction truck going home after a day of digging ditches. A girl around my age was driving behind us and started flirting and ended up following us all the way back to the office. I was with her for several months. she was a bit of a nut but it was fun... at 19.
I'm 39 now and seriously think that someone after having any experience in life does something like that there is really something wrong with them that you would not want in your life. Probably the higest proability was that this guy was on some work trip and wanted to get something while away from his wife. But really, what possible good can come from it. The possibility of a missed love... please. If you think that go the grocery store and look for the guy that seems to have more tv dinners then home cooked meals.
If you want to play funny games with your own life and well being. You may as well post on an online dating site that your looking for some 'fun action' and see what comes your way. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:32:31 PM |
You should feel creeped out. I know that I would have left the note under someone else's windshield wiper when I found the note :-)
Ha ha ha... Maybe that's how it got on her windshield in the first place! | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:54:11 AM |
You should feel creeped out. I know that I would have left the note under someone else's windshield wiper when I found the note :-)
Ha ha ha... Maybe that's how it got on her windshield in the first place!
Ha! I could believe that if I hadn't asked him how many women's windshields he had left notes and when he said "one," he described me to a "T." I had butt length hair--not many women have that.
Probably the higest proability was that this guy was on some work trip and wanted to get something while away from his wife. But really, what possible good can come from it. The possibility of a missed love... please. If you think that go the grocery store and look for the guy that seems to have more tv dinners then home cooked meals.
If you want to play funny games with your own life and well being. You may as well post on an online dating site that your looking for some 'fun action' and see what comes your way.
Aries, I have read every post on this forum and dude, I have NO idea where you are coming from. There was NO possibility of a lost love and I never said there was. Obviously, I believed NO good could have come from it or I would have gone to the motel-- and I never stated that there was the possibility of any good.
I have no idea how this incident equates playing funny games with my life or how it could equate posting that I am looking for some "fun action."
I think you are taking this more seriously than I am and giving it a whole heck of a lot more concern than it deserves. Really, move on from it--I have and I was the one who had the experience. | |
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| Bizarrely Dangerous
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:24:22 AM | Your topic. I just twisted it for my own selfish reasons.
http://www.city-data.com/soz/soz-65804.html
It's not completly unheard of on the planet
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=lured+women+to+hotel+%2Brape
The more you know. | |
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