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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:18:01 PM | Because they treat you well and because when they say something they tend to mean it. They have enough self confidence to enjoy who you are rather than what you look like. They see in you who you really are instead of what everyone else sees... the wrappers.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:38:35 PM | catkin2007 I could not agree more!
Great answer...personally, I think it is a self-esteem issue. Personally, I am coming out of an emotionally abusive marriage and guys that are less attractive seem to be more caring, kind, thoughtful, understanding, down-to-earth and more eager to work on a relationship. The extremely attractive guys look in the mirror more than me!
HANDS UP TO THE UGLY GUYS! HUGS TO YOU! YOU KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN 
"Beauty is fleeting, but wisdom is divine".... | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:29:19 PM | Some women continue to generalize men based on looks. A less attractive man isn't any more or less likely to have a better personality than the great looking man. Looks and personality have nothing to do with each other. Some people have both. Some people have neither. Some people have one trait. But not the other. I will repeat what I stated earlier. I think most people from either gender would not date someone that they consider to be physically ugly. However when there is an attractive woman with a man is that generally considered to be ugly, here are some possible reasons for it.
1. The man is rich.
2. The man became less attractive after they started dating.
3. A woman is physically attracted to a man that most other people think is unattractive.
4. A woman has low self esteem about her looks.
5. She thinks that an ugly man is easier to "control".
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:33:26 PM | I think most people from either gender who would not date that he or she considers to be physically ugly.
yes, but perhaps the woman in the scenario described by the OP did NOT consider her companion to be 'ugly'..
the OP did..maybe the guy didn't suit HIS tastes in men, but did suit the woman's ?
different strokes for different folks.
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ONE guy saying that the person was 'ugly' isn't the same as 'generally considered unattractive'
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:38:17 PM | yes, but perhaps the woman in the scenario described by the OP did NOT consider her companion to be 'ugly'..
the OP did..maybe the guy didn't suit HIS tastes in men, but did suit the woman's ?
different strokes for different folks.
That's why I also included this.
However when there is an attractive woman with a man is that generally considered to be ugly, here are some possible reasons for it.
I listed several reasons. This was one of them
3. A woman is physically attracted to a man that most other people think is unattractive. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:17:53 PM | "Why do Babes dig ugly guys?"
They do?
Then what the hell am I doing wrong? LOL... | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/14/2009 4:20:05 PM |  This is thread is hilarious! Doesn't anyone pay attention to the myriad research\data concerning men & women, relationships, and or marriage? For example: Men and women do think differently, at least where the anatomy of the brain is concerned, according to new studies. We are different...and for many reasons.
The brain is made primarily of two different types of tissue, called gray matter and white matter. This new research reveals that men think more with their gray matter, and women think more with white. Researchers stressed that just because the two sexes think differently, this does not affect intellectual performance. We (men & women) excel in different areas, like math and languages.
Another example: The male sex drive is uncomplicated and honest. Men are visual. The hot-blooded sexual response to the sight of a good-looking young woman has been hard-wired into the male brain thanks to millions of years of evolution -- the average guy can no more stop ogling, lusting and urging to merge than he can stop eating or sleeping.
But what about women? Just what do they find attractive about men? Read any typical survey and you'll be informed that what really turns them on is a sense of humor, confidence, consideration of others, etc. In other words, according to women, all you have to do is to be a nice guy and they'll come running. LOL.
Reality check time ;)
Never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she actually does instead. The two are quite frequently worlds apart, because women are masters at self-deceit and equally adept at lying to themselves about their own behavior.
Cross-cultural evidence from different societies consistently reveals that what women really want from men are economic resources. Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms (suits, ties, expensive watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man's physical appearance .
To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking. And these same studies found that college men were convinced that magnifying their status (implying greater earning power) would lead to increased sexual activity.
Thus men were forced to rely on such attraction tactics as driving expensive cars, bragging about accomplishments, and emphasizing present or future earning power, while women, on the other hand, packaged themselves as commodities with make-up, jewelry, hairstyles, and shape-revealing clothing.
Evolution has brought us from the attraction factor being a large, strong man who can hunt and gather and a woman who cook and breed...to smaller & weaker men who earn a good living and women who comprise 85% of all consumer spending. And oh by the way, studies show that women cheat more then men - by as much as 8%. So when women claim that "all me are dogs," it's a form of deflection from the fact that women are better liars than me. Think about it men, it 's virtually impossible for us to lie to women and get away with it...but boy are they good. 
I also find it extremely disingenuous when women incessantly bring up how horrible men are with cheating when my earliest memories are of women cheating on, and hurting me. It happened with my first 3 girlfriends. I learned how to be a player after those experiences and became hardened towards trusting women again.
So what does all of this mean now? I actually do have good realtionships with women...just never been married to one. Lol. I genuinely do appreciate women and their differences...but am fully aware of what those differences are. I'm not in denial about the differences. I accept women and their differences in the sense that I know what to expect. I also know that men can be jerks as well, so I do not profess to be perefect...far from it. Let me put it like this - we've ALL been dumpers & dumpees at some point in our life.
As far as the "ugly guy & babe" thing goes...it's the exception...not the norm! Who cares? Everyone needs a little love.
I'll be waiting for the histrionic and vitriolic slams on my post.  Let the fun begin. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 12:22:51 AM | Article from Yahoo:
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What's this
PARIS (AFP) - Women with high levels of a key sex hormone are judged more attractive by themselves and others, and may be more inclined to cheat on their partners, according to a study published Wednesday.
University of Texas psychologists Kristina Durante and Norman Li found that women with high concentrations of the hormone oestradiol were likelier to flirt, kiss and have a serious affair outside an established relationship.
In a study published in the British journal Biology Letters, the duo described the behaviour as "opportunistic serial monogamy" and not related to one-night stands.
Instead, they suggested, such women were more probably being prompted to trade up in their relationships -- to find a better partner.
Other studies of oestradiol have shown that higher levels of the hormone are closely linked to enhanced fertility among women.
As a result, say some researchers, men have an evolved response that prompts them to pick up on telltale signs of the hormone's presence.
High concentrations of oestradiol are associated with big breasts, facial attractiveness and low waist-to-hip ratio, with the result that men solicit such women.
Durante and Li measured hormone levels at two different stages of the menstrual cycle among 52 women aged 17 to 30 who were not taking the pill.
The women were asked to rate their own attractiveness and sexiness "compared to other women," their satisfaction with current partners, their willingness to engage in uncommitted sex and about their past relationships.
Separately, a panel of men and women unaware of the experiments evaluated photos of the women, rating them for attractiveness.
The women with the highest levels of oestradiol scored the highest across the board, and reported a greater likelihood of having a serious affair.
They also reported a greater number of long-term relationships in the past.
The study says that oestradiol-related attractiveness provides opportunities in the sexual hunting ground.
Men are keen to find a sexier woman and women want to find a partner who is a better provider and looker.
"Women have to trade off between having a long-term mate who provides continual material resources, and more physically attractive, short-term sexual partners with good genetic resources," write Durante and Li.
Women with higher oestradiol levels "may have fewer reasons to be committed to any particular partner if higher quality potential mates are available," they concluded. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 12:53:11 AM | | Looks has nothing to do with it. It's your game. How you present yourself. I kid you not. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:01:13 AM | Looks are part of "game", my friend...but I agree with spirit of your post. A man may not be phenotypically gifted with his physical characteristics, but he can be a snappy ass dresser with a magnetic personality and devilish confidence. Women in such a man's presence will need to excuse themselves to the restroom, and possibly invite him along.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:08:43 AM | ONE guy saying that the person was 'ugly' isn't the same as 'generally considered unattractive'
True. But the general point remains the same. Whether it was just the OP or most people in general who felt a man is unattractive, the woman dating this man could think that he is great looking. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:13:19 AM | Maybe 'ugly' guys are more likely to behave like gentlemen? Most 'pretty' guys I know are too in love with themselves.
Why not find an 'ugly' girl who will really appreciate you?
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:36:25 AM |
Whether it was just the OP or most people in general who felt a man is unattractive, the woman dating this man could think that he is great looking.
I think that is not necessarily the case. This woman knows exactly that he doesn't possess the set of looks that society at large, in this day and age, would consider attractive. He very likely has other "pro" traits that outweigh the looks "con".
Women have a supernatural ability to rationalize their actions/thought processes. In fact, if you're in such a position to be a confidant of this girl, she would explicitly say something along the lines of: "He isn't the most handsome, BUT, he writes me love poems and stands out in the pouring rain and gives me his balls in a box. He's perfect!"
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:58:31 AM | Whether it was just the OP or most people in general who felt a man is unattractive, the woman dating this man could think that he is great looking.
I think that is not necessarily the case.
This is one just possible reason. ( BTW Celts123 did mention other potential reasons ). For example, I think the majority of people aren't attracted to someone who is significantly overweight. But there are some people who prefer that body type.
This woman knows exactly that he doesn't possess the set of looks that society at large, in this day and age, would consider attractive. He very likely has other "pro" traits that outweigh the looks "con".
This is another possible reason. Many women may date a man that has average / mediocre looks due to his personality, intelligence, wealth, fame etc | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:15:25 PM | The OP in this thread sounds terribly shallow/short sighted.
But if the guy the OP describes found a girl, lucky for him and cheers to her for not being deeper than a puddle.
Has me holding out hope for myself!
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:30:35 PM | Some of the most physically unattractive men I have known have been the most mentally attractive I have ever known.
It's interesting to note, too, that they are often more confident than their more physically more appealing counterparts, and this in itself is highly attractive :-) | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:31:36 PM | Some women are sadistic....I think that some of them just get with ugly guys to drive normal/good looking guys crazy. LOL. On a more serious note though, I don't think that women wake up in the morning and say "I think I'll go find me an ugly guy", it just seems like a lot of ugly/fat guys have qualities and abilities that transcend looks, and they hone those abilities because they know that they don't have looks to rely on.
This may sound sexist (I don't care) but women need something that they can benefit from. I observed this in elementary school, Jr. high, and high school. In general, a guy's looks are rarely as relevant as a woman's because of the different standards of attractiveness applied to each sex. And so, unless a guy meets those standards his looks will not gain him popularity.
A good sense of humor, a unique personality, or a tough guy attitude seem to be the most common ways to get attention from women. A guy with a good sense of humor can make them laugh, a guy with a unique and intriguing personality can make them wonder, and a tough guy can give them the excitement that they seek and a sense of taming the beast, so to speak. Those are all types of guys that they benefit from in some way. Women want to be entertained and looks don't do that. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:46:28 PM | Relationships are like economic exchanges...everyone brings something to the table the other person wants and vice versa. He had something to exchange that was not apparent to you but it was to her. Could be he's amazingly funny, brilliant, caring and treats her well.
A friend of mine from school was a gorgeous catalogue model and she married a man who others considered average because she found him brilliant and talented and he appreciated her for more than her looks. Also notice he married her. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:48:12 PM | | If babes dig ugly guys then why the heck am I still single at 42? Did I miss a memo somewhere?????? | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:52:12 PM | Got it---they're sick of great guys emailing them then. They read-delete-then feel like Casper or Houdini tho they solicit Looking For
Where Is
"IF You Want To Be Happy For The Rest Of Your Life-Don't Make A Pretty Woman Your Wife...From..........you know rest..
VERY SELECTIVE-- 14 years with drop dead gorgeous mate --in & out. ..called it quits--happened..................nuther time
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:24:19 PM | "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
Some women may be attracted to other traits rather than physical looks.
Wealth, power, sexual prowess, body language, lineage, security, intelligence, smell, size, tone of voice, gaze, demeanor, parenting skills are all things that may trump the pure visual attraction.
Julia Roberts (Pretty Woman star) hooked up with Lyle Lovett (fairly ugly dude).
Of course that did not survive.
I think men tend to be a little more visually biased than women . Many studies have shown that women marry men who they are NOT physically attracted to. Mostly it's for security and these same women tend to have affairs during their marriages.
Maybe being ugly and poor it the best way to know for sure that your partner truely loves you for who you are! :) | |
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