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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:35:02 AM | Eazk said "Perhaps...but the key here is that I've had the opportunity...as have they. Have I found "the ONE"? Well, I've had a couple of pretty incredible relationships...that does not mean that both of us were able to be on the same wavelength at the same time. It doesn't mean I'm too fussy...might mean she is. I've had relationships disintegrate because of the Separation versus Divorced thing, due to kids (mine), due to exes (hers), etc., etc..
All I'm doing is learning what I should know to put myself squarely in the path of opportunity...which is about 95% more than most AFC's do. And truthfully, what's wrong with being fussy...sure beats the hell out of having another bad relationship and divorce. So yeah, anything which enables me to be real and to help her be real and then allows us to make the decision if we're right for each other...as a mutual and loving choice, is definitely something I want to pursue. The first goal is to learn to relax and have fun...how else do you get to know someone?"
Thats a fair and reasoned response eazk, thank you.I guess I'm just a bit jealous of all your first dates, when I can't even get ONE!! LOL..I wish you good luck for the future.
P.S. HOW do you get to "quote" a previous post without just copy and pasting?!!! | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:37:19 AM | Oh No! If this becomes a trend and all the hot women start dating the "ugly" ( which, for the record, I neither think anyone is ugly nor do I think something that is beyond a person's control should be held against them) guys..who will I date?.... | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:40:50 AM | Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
I've asked myself this question so many times...mostly after a "babe" just went on a date with ME!
I got it! "Pity-dating"! She's doing the poor old guy a favor by allowing him to be seen with her! Good for his ego, and she did her good deed! | |
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eazk
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:55:02 AM | That's funny, Ol Thunder~...yeah...I've had a few occasions where I've looked at the radiance glowing next to me on the bed and thought to myself "I have absolutely no doubt why I'm dating her, but the real question is, why is she dating me?" Over time I learned that we inventory things differently.
Ohhhhh, and one other thing...even the most gorgeous of women can still be unsteady about their looks. I've had some incredibly beautiful women amaze me with the put-downs of themselves. Inside, they're just as nervous about all this stuff as the guys are.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:56:28 AM | Sometimes....if you're at a bar or club....such good looking guys would see an attractive woman with a lesser attractive man....and hit on her RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM!
Yeah, they sometimes assume that he's a sister or a male friend or, that they ARE dating, but he knows his good looking would steal her away from this guy in no time flat.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:02:39 AM | eazk...you may be right, but I think in general, women know themselves better than us guys do, and therefore have a better image of themselves. They may not feel that they are "hurting their reputation" by being seen with some of us "appearance-challenged" guys.
In all seriousness, I have met and dated a couple of very attractive ladies. I have not dated a lot, but I've been fortunate to have been in the company of some...(I don't like the term)...babes. I've always been left wondering why. And perhaps the answer is that they are much less shallow than we think they are, and see beyond the surface.
....either that, or someone told them that we were rich... | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:08:45 AM | And sometimes, in a bar or club...I see a girl so completely bored / pissed / done with a guy...good looking or otherwise, and I'll strike up a conversation with her...RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM. Heck, I've seen a wife basically berate her husband in a restaurant because he couldn't have conversation like the couple at the next table (me and a date).
You want to lose a woman...bore her...don't tickle her mind...ignore her fantasies and dreams...don't be the man she wants you to be.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:09:03 AM |
but I've been fortunate to have been in the company of some...(I don't like the term)...babes. I'v always been left wondering why.
Oh, please, ol' thunder--I looked at your profile and if you were closer, I would date you, and I am gorgeous. (Evil grin.)
It goes to show, beauty IS subjective, and we tend to denigrate our own looks. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:09:40 AM | "Sometimes....if you're at a bar or club....such good looking guys would see an attractive woman with a lesser attractive man....and hit on her RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM!"
Being a musician myself, I've seen this happen many times. The poor guy she is with definitely sees the "stud" , or "hunk", whatever term you want, hitting on her, and feels like sneaking out the back door. Some guys have such a positive self-image, they feel they can not fail...and usually they don't because that confidence comes across to the gals as being very attractive. I've lost out myself, this same way.
Hey. maybe that's part of the plan...show up with a loser, the "hunks" will come and rescue you!
I dunno...is there a possibility that being with an unattractive guy gets her noticed more by the ones she really wants? | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:19:50 AM | There are a few reasons why this happens... 1) Not everyone sees a person for who they are on the outside. Personality and common ground are big factors in why some people pick their mates. I know thats what I base my selections on. 2) Sad but true, money can play a big part in why some people pick whom they date. 3) My favorite one..... Less competition. If someone dates a person who doesn't look like Burt Reynolds or Val Kilmer on the outside, then there is much less of a chance of rejection, or having their man run off with someone else.
I myself, prefer a guy with hair, but I don't need a guy who can be a cover model for GQ. I like a little bit of weight to a guy, enough to take a header by a 500# calf, and not end up in the ER. I like a guy for how he dreams, treats the waitress at the cafe, what he's accomplished in his life, and where he wants to be in the future, that, and how he treats my horses...
Whether its an "ugly" guy, or a super model. Personality is the key for me. Money isn't an object in my life, I have a dang good job, and make more than most people in my area. I'm not after a guys money, I just prefer one who can live within his means, and keep his own bills paid...
Same can be said for a good looking guy with a plain to un-attractive lady...
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:25:04 AM | Because they are incredibly fantastic lovers who are more into pleasing the woman and know that if the woman is happy they will be also. They know how to ROMANCE a woman.
That woman that you see with what you perceive to be ugly is her Adonis. He treats her like a gentle flower and she will do whatever necessary to keep him. He listens, he protects, he comforts her. She is more safe with him than anywhere on earth.
She is not seeing what your seeing. When a man takes a woman to heights where she feels she can reach the moon hes the best thing since sliced bread.
Follow him around and take some lessons.   | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:28:24 AM | You are wrong about personality not lasting in the long run. If you cant get along with someone through out the marriage, theres no point in staying in that relationship. You can fall inlove with his looks and stare in aw of him for hours while you are dating but if his personality sticks...who can stand that?! 
It might be his personality that she fell in love with toward the end OR he is great in bed!!!! OR both...yay for her | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:29:22 AM |
P.S. HOW do you get to "quote" a previous post without just copy and pasting?!!!
I'll address this in a moment. Ytse, Eazk, Thunder, and several others... Funny and enlightening and may I add, very accurate input.
I liked the one about the good-looking guy hitting on the girl right in front of the ugly guy- Makes you wonder how some of them got ugly, huh? Experience is an awesome teacher, and payin' dues is a fact of life... WHAM!!! Lmao...
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then copy and paste what you want to quote right after it, and then on the end of what you just pasted, type: Now, I hope this works and that the fish-machine doesn't think I'm trying to quote something, and makes it dissappear. If this doesn't make it through, just look above all the emoticons on the right, type the first quote just as it looks over there, copy and paste the text you are quoting where it says, "This allows youto quote..." and then immediately on the tail of THAT, you type the other quote thing with the forward slash as well as the brackets. Then, type your response/rebuke as normal, hit send, and it'll do the rest itself.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:36:25 AM | | Women are more apt to go for the "inner being" than men are. Men are far more interested in the superficial, exterior appearance of a woman. Admittedly some less-than-handsome guys are attractive because they offer the big bucks, but more often than not, it's because the guy is really AWESOME despite his modest appearance. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:45:10 AM |
Happens all the time. Just goes to prove that men are more shallow than women. Why don't good looking guys date ugly women??? You never see that. Poor fella that would hurt the male ego especially in front of his friends.
I so totally agree. I dont ever recall seeing a hot looking guy with a below average looking girl. Yes its the male ego.
Everybody wondered what i saw in my ex husband. I never saw him as ugly but others did. But they all loved his personality...he was a calm, quiet, people pleaser. Smothered me with affection however I found out his calm and quietness didnt go well with my personality in the long run. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:45:55 AM | Oh, please, ol' thunder--I looked at your profile and if you were closer, I would date you, and I am gorgeous
Which, Miss qwendolyn, brings the thread right back to the original question...
WHY??? do gorgeous gals want to date ugly guys?
And I tried the quote thing...did it work? Looks like it! | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:53:36 AM | I dont ever recall seeing a hot looking guy with a below average looking girl.
Actually, I see it with great frequency. Like "hot women" with "unattractive guys", there could be something about them that makes the lesser attractive desirable, like brains, humor, personality, how they treat the other person.  | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 11:57:13 AM |
And I tried the quote thing...did it work? Looks like it!
It worked!
Which, Miss qwendolyn, brings the thread right back to the original question...
WHY??? do gorgeous gals want to date ugly guys?
1. You are not ugly--as I said, many people denigrate their own looks because we are taught to be humble and modest and not to tempt god to strike us dead for hubris.
2. You are a musician. I like men who make music, or who have any artistic talent.
3. You are a retired teacher and I teach.
I stated in an earlier post that looks do count, but looks alone cannot sustain an interest. I would take an average looking man who has wit, intelligence, and is able to converse over an incredibly handsome but dumb man. On the other hand, that "spark" has to be there, and a couple of times, men whom I would not have suspected lit that spark.
Who knows? | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:09:48 PM | Most men won't talk to us babes because they think we are already taken. Maybe he had the nerve to talk to her and that was the beginning.
I like unattractive men with brains, good manners, a good purpose in life who knows how to treat a woman right. Sometimes the less attractive men treat us so nice and well we just dont care about their looks.
A man with manners is hot and a man with brains is drop dead knee shaking sexy | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:11:47 PM |
Actually, I see it with great frequency.
Me too. In fact I think it's way more common to see a decent looking guy who has settled for a chick that's probably not as cute as what he could get (strictly basing it on appearances here). And as I've stated before, I don't even think the cute girl/ugly scenario is very common at all.
I think people just notice it more when it's the girl is cuter, because let's face-both guys and girls will check out a really attractive woman. A really attractive guy... well, most girls will notice, but few, if any, of the guys will notice...
I think all the business about the male ego, blah blah, was just driven by bitterness. Neither gender really wants to be seen in public with someone that that-even they themselves- think is ugly, and just a piece of a ass.
And I will add to that, the average woman is just as superficial as the average guy. I've accepted it because I myself, am no better in many ways... so I am not going to judge a woman more harshly than I would judge myself. But by in large, the myth that woman are concerned less with appearance is a myth that's gone on way to long. | |
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:13:18 PM | Hey, Thunder (thanks, Gwen for pointing out a fellow musician) nice lookin' Telly... Looks like early 70's from the pic... Couldn't see all of the Les Paul, but hey, I'm a Fender man, anyway... After the Martin a la T. Rice...
Edward, you damb right, bro! I've seen it a milliion times.
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| Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:27:50 PM | Right, well, lets see,. balding, bordering on pudgy,.. not so tall, not so great looking.. and totally attractive and sexy? Erm.. one example is David Hewlett the actor. He's ALL of those things. What lifts him above his average Joe looks? His PERSONALITY, both on screen and off. Some men have just got charisma,.. regardless of looks, and PERSONALITY will keep a woman around a lot longer than a handsome face with nothing behind the eyes, .
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