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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:54:35 PM | Well, I have a story that fits with this topic of flaws. I actually forgot about it (I tried and tried and I finally forgot the experience) but the guy just tried to pop back into my inbox. I went one one date with a guy from here. ONE date. We were on this ONE date and had a good time eating. We decided to go to a movie afterwards. We were there a bit early and so we were talking and stuff. He was making some obscene comments and being really loud, but I overlooked that. The HUGE flaw that I could not get over was this....I got up to go to the restroom before the movie and this guy SMACKED my a$$! That did it for me. From that moment on, I was done. Good thing it was a good movie, cuz I got to ignore him. Who in their right mind would actually think it's OKAY to do that!?! You don't know me, what gives you the right to touch me?  That is one flaw I can NOT deal with. | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:56:36 PM | Well, there's touching, and then there's TOUCHING. A pat on the butt is pretty much out of bounds on a first date (unless of course the other party makes it pretty damn clear it's expected/desired).
I think the real issue you had was with inappropriate comments/touching. | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:58:39 AM | | To me, personal hygiene is VERY important. I was with this man for almost four months and his lack of cleanliness left a lot to be desired. When I would talk with him about this issue, he would tell me he didn't have a problem with being dirty. Well, I did and do and I said goodbye. | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/16/2008 10:59:13 AM | What would be a deal breaker for you if your potential mate had that one major flaw ???
The one flaw I can't put up with is a lack of passion for anything in their lives. And I'm not talking about sex here folks. I'm talking about life in general. If a woman has nothing in her life that she is passionate about, I'm outta there. And I seem to meet quite a few of them. About the only thing some of them seem to be passionate about is bi**ing about their jobs, or their kids, or their exes, or their lack of a perfect body, or whatever. | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:45:48 PM | On the physical side, I'd have to go with bad dental hygiene as well. That's a huge no no. I've got a sonicare toothbrush, plenty of floss, and Listerine. I use those items every day. It's important!
From a personality standpoint, high maintenance are two horrible words when used together. | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/17/2008 11:17:42 AM | | I agree Fleur, swinging and/or poly (etc.) lifestyles is okay for other people but a definite deal breaker for me. I also have no interest in S&M, which seems to be a fairly common interest for guys my age an older on this site. Is it just me or does it seem like the older some men get, the freakier (sexually) they get? | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/17/2008 12:20:59 PM |
I agree Fleur, swinging and/or poly (etc.) lifestyles is okay for other people but a definite deal breaker for me. I also have no interest in S&M, which seems to be a fairly common interest for guys my age an older on this site. Is it just me or does it seem like the older some men get, the freakier (sexually) they get?
To each their own. Just because it's not your taste doesn't mean their aren't women out there that aren't interested and eagerly looking for Men who are "freaky".. 
Everyone has their own personal likes and dislikes but generally speaking I think health (emotional and physical), hygiene and good communication are generally common expectations.
As for what people like behind closed doors is specific to the couple and will vary.
I'm not into Poly and don't entirely understand it but if that works for others, and doesn't impact me, my life or hurt others in the process, then who am I to judge.
Thinking about it though.. Those who claim something is a flaw because "they" specifically don't like it seems pretty narcissistic (Flaw).
I could say that it's fairly common for for women on this site to be passive aggressive but that wouldn't be fair, would it?
so yeah.. It's just you..  | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 8/17/2008 11:30:35 PM | Lying is probably the biggest psychological hit.
Problems with hygiene, spending, or addictions makes for no attraction in the first place and therefore there was no deal to begin with.
I have often found attitudes about spending, about "social status" to be hardwired to spending habits--and a worse habit: lying. When someone has unaddressed issues, those issues can be so intermingled someone's social function that a stranger can only dr0p back to self-preservation.... | |
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 9/20/2008 9:44:29 PM | One? I have to pick one?
Hygiene - dental and/or otherwise! If "parts" of you are stinky - I don't want anywhere near them. Bathe, wash ALL the cracks and crevices, including the ones between your teeth and your toes.
Abusive history - yeah. I have worked with perpetrators and victims at work and can pick out a controller in a minute. No second date for you, sorry.
Addiction - can't deal with it. I don't wanna work while I date. I'm glad people are in recovery and working on things, but thats just not who I want to date.
Filthy house/car - my guess is that if your house or car are filthy, have a carpet of animal hair or don't smell very good, then neither do you, sooooooo (refer to #1 above)
Thats about it for me - as if that's not enough!
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| What one flaw would you NOT want your potential mate to have???
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:22:39 AM | Deal Breakers:
Justifying a smoking habit.
Justifying a weight problem.
Animal hater.
Hygiene problem.
Bi- polar
too many marriages.
never married.
"Victims"
A past with drugs.
Believing they need Alcoholics anonymous.
Poor money management
Religious zealots.
Atheists
Pick a flaw!
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