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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 4:42:52 PM | Just a general comment, but there are so many posts and stories, not saying they're not all true or have an element of truth, but psycho? Seems a little extreme.
All of us interact with different individuals differently. There are some personalities that just don't mesh on any level, so it could be something subliminal or subconscious that prompts a reactive behavior.
I can speak for myself and say there are people I've been friends with, dated and worked with that I'm uncomfortable around.
I went on a couple of dates recently, and it's no slam on the men or me, it was just an incompatible situation. One was just very intrusive, I spoke to him about it. After 2 times out, it was enough. I wasn't "psycho" or went off about it, it's not that illogical that not every personality will mesh with me or vice versa. He's not a BAD man, a perv, just a little anxious to go at a faster pace and very aggressive physically. Understandable, yes, he'd be fine with some other woman who would enjoy that, I'm just NOT that woman. Who knows maybe he thinks I'm "psycho" because I didn't want to climb over the table and rip his clothes off the first time we met.
Another one, experienced this a few times, they can't talk for 15 minutes without telling you to hold and I'll call you back in 15 minutes. I also vocalized this to him, he agreed it was not just rude but disrespectful of my time and attention. I don't hate him, would think or call him a loser, some woman may tolerate that and they'd get along fine. He has a lot of good qualities, it's just the fact that again, I'm not "that" woman.
One of the things about forum threads is whoever the OP is and whatever the topic is, it's only one perspective. In the situations I mentioned, they weren't bad men, just had behavior traits that were unacceptable for someone I'd want to spend time with.
If that makes me "psycho" .....oh well, call me "psycho"!  | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:18:58 PM | me me me! Plenty of them too :-) I saw red flags, but I kept going. Its my fault :-)
1. Extremely manipulative, would lie about major things just to keep me in the relationship or get me to talk to her again. She has cancer, she's gonna kill herself, she's gonna kill her son to take him with her, the list goes on. I think now she's with a church that sounds like a cult.
2. She dated me a month before she told me that she slashed her ex's tires. Not just that, but made a fake bomb threat to his place of work. This girl always thought I was cheating on her, she wanted me to come into her work all the time (hospital night shift). To make things hilarious, she thought I was always cheating on me, but she had a lot of X-rated photos of the guy before me in her phone. She'd show me. She'd ask wanna see his ya know.
3. With her, she called me and asked if she could change the location of our second date to a health clinic. One of those clinics where I got a sticker that said "visitor!" I had no idea before I showed up. It just made me sad and now a year later she's much better and healthier.
4. Told me she was 21 when we met, then I went to her birthday four months later to find her real age. To top it off her parents even kept up the lie about her age, because her parents were the exact same age we were and they got married, so it must've worked! Well when I found her real age, I tried dumping her, and she said she'd tell the cops I raped her. Yep, a virgin raping someone. There was payback with the next boyfriend, he was a horrible guy.
5. My second ever girlfriend spent a year of high school in a mental institute because her mother abandon her because her new man didn't want a kid. So my ex was given to her older sister to be raised and my ex tried suicide many times (before me). So her sister had her institutionalized. After a year she got out. Ten years later and this girl is a huge success in life! She has also lived far past the ordeal and you'd never know. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:22:33 PM | I was just going to comment...perhaps it's the men that are making these women psycho as I mentioned previously that I see many men married to psycho women ie. in relationships with them...but perhaps they are that way because they're partner causes them to be irrate, controlling, b****y, etc...if their partner were reliable, responsible, faithful, considerate, compassionate, attentive, romantic...a good bf/husband...perhaps these women's demeanour would be more calm, relaxed, in control and less ****y ie. happy 
^^^Okey, the above posters gf are an exception...I think they're clinically psycho... | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:29:55 PM | See I think I make women psycho. I've had too many of them to not think that.
6. Take my cousin's coworker, she was really into me, and I was fresh out of a terrible relationship (see item #2), so she started stalking me. First through myzpace, then through my cousin, then she found out where I lived and would just watch me to make sure my story checked out. If I said I was going to a concert, she'd just drive by make sure my car was gone. Then she'd bring it up. She thought when I said I don't want to date, she was taking it personally, like I didn't want to date her.
I'd say I was with my cousin or something and I'd be with my cousin, then suddenly there was a conversation via text about me and if I was there. Well now its been 5 months maybe and she's back to normal and onto the next guy :-) Its so great that she doesn't care anymore :-) Now we can have normal conversations! | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:50:07 PM | Noone "makes" anyone anything.
Noone can, to ascribe to that mindset gives another person total control over an individual's behavior, which can't happen.
Noone can make women or men psycho...and noone's psycho when they're around or with you, it's just that it's a plug-in because there is absolutely no claiming responsibility for personal behavior and if there is a discussion of a mismatch, someone that doesn't pay attention, won't own their own behavior....so slap on the psycho label. Because it's always the other person...yeah..sure.
Very few are introspective or even perceptive enough....there is no such thing as making anyone anything.
Lost...if you've had too many of them, the only common denominator is YOU. And even if you wanted to, if you set out with the sole purpose of making women psycho....haha...well that's your "story". Can't happen, even if you tried...ugh. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:45:12 PM | I emailed a woman back and forth here for a couple days and then made the terrible mistake of giving her my phone number. We talked on Wed., Thurs, and Friday about twice a day. I had my kids that week until Sunday. On Saturday, I was on my lake with them and didn't keep my phone on me. Every time I went inside the house it'd be beeping with a text. She said "hello" and 2 minutes later "I guess you must be with somebody else, fine I'll move on". Then I'd see I have email alerts. It was an alert that this person added me as a favorite. My iPod touch automatically logs in on the page when I check mail and the web page is already loaded. She would see me online and remove me from the Faves list. 10 minutes later another alert saying she added me again. this went on about 7 times that day and 9 the next. Meaning each time she removed me then added again. her texts were becoming more and more like Kathy Bates. I put her calls directly to voicemail. when I checked it she was being very rude and the next message said "ok, let's have a truce, blah blah blah....". I finally called her and said "WTF is your problem? I am with my kids and don't keep my phone on me at all times when we're on the lake." She responded with how she saw me logged on and thought I was talking to other women and would get upset. I asked if it ever occured that when she sends a notice adding me it logs me on. After dropping my kids with my ex, I called and told her I had actually thought of meeting her that night for dinner but after the past 2 days I no longer wish to and to please stop contacting me. She told me that she was crying because she fell for me and I made her laugh and begged over the next week to meet her for just 5 minutes. I said no and each message went from mean to remorse. I told her I don't wish to ever meet and please lose my number. She called 27 times and texted 23 times in one night. One message was hateful and the next appologetic. She told me how hard it was to get over her last boyfriend and said his name. I said "You mean the guy you only met once and he wasn't interested?" This woman was getting scary. The calls continued for over a week. I never knew when she'd call since I sent them directly to voicemail. She went as far as texting me last week that someone wanted to talk to me. I asked what for and she sadi she'd been talking to people on Craigslist about me for my business and trying to line me up work. She asked me not to be mad that she only wants to be friends and meet for 5 minutes. HELL NO!! if I meet her, I swear she will have a burlap sack and you'll never hear from me again. I told her i want no further contact and how dare she get into my "business" without my consent. My God. Imagine if I would have dated her? If I stop to get gas and leave my phone on the seat of my truck when I pay I'd come home to my guitars smashed into my widescreen TV and an "I'm sorry, I thought you were talking to someone else"
Anyone know where I can get a good straight jacket? | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:01:02 PM | I think it's because we move too fast, want our fantasy to come true and then the actual person emerges. We stick around longer than we ought, and psycho is born! Read It's Called a Break-up because It's Broken...I don't hang in, just move on. Compatiblity is the important thing and worth dealing with a few bumps in the road now and then. But Sink Holes? Not a good thing.javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| All caps... Big sign they crazy.
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:20:20 PM | | Its easy to tell if she crazy. They write in all caps, leave their ass! Or u may pay with ur life or money... Maybe both bros. | |
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| All caps... Big sign they crazy.
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:52:06 AM | | I've had one, but I won't say much for she still stalks me at times. Creates false profiles and tries to contact me, never sends a pic and drops off again. It's one of the reasons I won't talk to those without a pic or who will not have a phone chat first. | |
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| All caps... Big sign they crazy.
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:59:20 AM | | WOW! you poor guys! The same thing remains true about men as well. This is why I never give our personal info early in a relationship. | |
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| All caps... Big sign they crazy.
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:56:24 PM | 62 texts messages in an after noon. 10 of them asking what you are doing that you havent texted back.
Not anything that is 'open the shower curtain and stab you with a knife' psycho, but enough to be annoying.
look at me, pay attention to me, listen to me,text me, call me.... 
yeah, it wears thin and old fast. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:18:54 PM | | I learned my lesson but had two. One who i trusted gave my key too she took all my dvds and sold them for drugs( and yes i stupid i didnt know druggies well-she sold them for drugs and tried to tell me she was having them all taped, like she dont even like star trek or any of th emovies i have!, i charged her for stealing for $1500 restitution, probably cried to her mom to pay that, i also lend her moeny too but wrote that off!) I also met someone i was very nice all the time she was bipolar.. SO i wen twith it see what im getting into, she would want me, not want me, want me not want me, Do i know women know maybe not, but i know there is some ****ed up women out there!!!! beware! | |
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| Phsycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:13:45 AM | | I use my Cell phone as my main work number and it is also the one in the phone book. These days, if you're an independant contractor, it doesn't make sense to use a land line because by the time I'd check my messages, people will have already found someone else to do the job. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:08:04 PM | Can someone tell me where the Psycho Man thread is I cant believe no one has started one? Seriously restraining order and all, men have this topic well covered as well. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:24:18 PM | yeah
my ex wife
is a psycho, manipulative and downright poison.
nobody knows who she really is...
ugh.. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:54:09 PM | | I've had a MAN who fit all of those qualifications pretty easily. It's funny that these people usually don't see anything wrong with themselves either!! | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 11/10/2009 11:32:12 AM | | It is easier/less time consuming to ask "who hasn't had one?" Thanks to the whole Dr. Phil/ Oprah thing, the psychos are now the majority rather than the minority. If you date, you will-sooner, or later-date a psycho. It is part of life. Live it, or leave it. | |
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| Psycho Girls--- who's had one
Posted: 11/10/2009 10:40:28 PM | I haven't known any myself but have had guy friends who were or are with psychos. I've currently labelled them 1-4. One couple has finally broken up, surprisingly she broke up with him. I thought the time when she yelled in this one class that she got her pregnant and he was leaving her (not true) just to get back at him was enough but it was not. The other girl, she slowly manipulated me out of the picture due to jealously, and he was one of my best friends. I still cannot believe he'd did that.
I didn't read all the posts here but I read a few pages and my question to you guys (and girls) who have been with Psychos for so long, why do you stay with them for so long? These were your significant others for so long or you married them! They treat you badly, manipulate you, make you give up your friends and control your life, and who knows what else but you stay with them for so long? | |
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