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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 12:00:26 PM |
by that statement do you think you and I are in the same league lookswise? Could you see yourself with someone that looks like me, honestly? The answer to that question is a definite NO. Why are you asking a question you already posses an answer to? My statement stands.. thanks for perfectly illustrating my point
First off, I think this league stuff is complete crap. It is a no win situation to have this league mentality. If you think you are too low of a league your attitude will reflect it and lack of confidence will be very apparent. If you think you are too high of a league your attitude will reflect it and a false confidence of arrogance will be very apparent and neither of those are attractive. Precisely!!
Mesa:
Oh, Sassy you would not make a very good detective, I'm afraid. Best to stick with****ailing or cashiering or whatever it is you are REALLY good at... Looks like I was not the only one to make the assumption that you were the "hot" man in question, lol... as for cashiering or whatever it is I am "good at".. I really don't see how that has any relevance to the topic at hand...
Besides how it highlights your quite obvious lack of self esteem ;) | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 12:03:23 PM |
So if you are somewhat attracted to a girl but you think she is not in your league in terms her looks, are there any other factors that you consider when weighing the pros and cons of a relationship?
Just wondering.
If your self-esteem is so damaged that you would consider a woman 'out of your league' then there wouldn't be a relationship anyway. The guy with low self-esteem isn't going to approach a woman whom he (mistakenly) believes is out of his league. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 3:08:32 PM | | Amazing. Everyone else took it as though "being in your league" meant that she was ugly; I took it that she was amazingly attractive -- out of my league the other way. What would cause me to stick around? Nothing except the amazement that she let me hang around, and even that would get old after awhile and I'd wander off to find someone I could better relate to. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 4:06:52 PM | I have had gfs who were not as good looking as I am.
What kept me around was that they thought I was the cat's pajamas and were very nice, affectionate and giving towards me. No nagging, no BS, just good stuff like foot massages, dinners, going dutch and BJs.
Once you have that, it's hard to settle for anything less, even if she is hot. And most hot girls do not give that much, but expect to be catered to, at least in my experience.
Still looking for that perfect combo. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 4:26:06 PM | If either partner feels this way in any way, they owe to other person to cut them loose.
While awoman will just beat a poor schlub into submission trying to make him something he's not, a man will just keep fishing until he gets a keeper. Niether scenario is right o fair but I've seen it happen plenty of times.
And let's face it. Leagues definitely exist. It's reinforced with every read/deleted. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:01:33 PM |
So if you are somewhat attracted to a girl but you think she is not in your league in terms her looks, are there any other factors that you consider when weighing the pros and cons of a relationship?
Being in the minor league myself, I don't have a lot of room to judge. It all depends on whether she's one league removed or seven leagues under the sea. One or two, and similar interests and perspectives will more than compensate. Three leagues, and an intense intellect will overshadow the lack of physical attraction. Any more than that, then there is no hope.
The next obvious question is, "what constitutes a league?" That's highly subjective; but excessive fat really weighs down the league floatation devices, and has become standard issue equipment on what seems like the vast majority of people in America. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:10:25 PM | Well, let's see ... apparently handcuffs and a padlock on the basement door ... (need a little help here ... )
Seriously, what I am looking for in a "package" and looks would be one of them. It isn't just looks and it isn't just personality, and I don't know the combination - I'd really have to see the situation, but I wouldn't just settle if I didn't think it would work; I want to be fair to both of us and IMX settling rarely does. And I really hope women treat me the same way as well. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:07:11 PM |
by that statement do you think you and I are in the same league lookswise? Could you see yourself with someone that looks like me, honestly? The answer to that question is a definite NO.
Why are you asking a question you already posses an answer to? My statement stands.. thanks for perfectly illustrating my point
No sassy, that proves MY point. By your answer it tells me that you and I are in completely seperate leagues and you could NOT see us together based solely on the FACT we are in those seperate leagues, yours where you go for the most attractive guys and will only accept a date with one, and me in mine where I would never be able to date someone that looks like you, again, seperate leagues. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:01:27 PM | ^^
you could NOT see us together based solely on the FACT we are in those seperate leagues, yours where you go for the most attractive guys and will only accept a date with one, and me in mine where I would never be able to date someone that looks like you, again, seperate leagues. You couldn't possibly know those things about me based on what I have written.. it is your ASSumptions that have led you to those conclusions..
Hence my statement that leagues only exist if you BELIEVE they do stands. Sorry that this needed to be explained, I most assuredly will not be wasting my time any further  | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:22:57 PM | | ^^^Well this ASS has determined these conclusions based on the look factor and NOT knowing about you based on what you have written. I see that you have taken to name calling and doing your best to dance around the subject, but have NEVER said that there is a chance that someone with your looks would be seen dating someone of my looks have you. You might not believe in the league factor because you do not notice those of lesser attractiveness and thought, he might be nice to date, or because they never approach you thinking "she'd never go out with me because she's too good looking". And the fact you're not going to waste you time with this any further is fine, I've made my point and you have avoided answering it directly, thus proving my point and not coming across as some sort of hypocrite, but those that have never experienced rejection based solely on looks alone naturally cannot or will not ever buy into the league thing or believe in them. I'm finished with it as well. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:53:55 PM |
You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around? If the guy thinks lowly of me, then I'd prefer he just leave and not bother me again.
those that have never experienced rejection based solely on looks alone naturally cannot or will not ever buy into the league thing or believe in them. I have been rejected on looks, particularly my weight. I lucked out in a few nice pictures and that's it. I don't care if other people believe in leagues, I will not base my life on that. Basically, it makes me think the other is a moron. Leagues suggest caring about what other's think of the match. I see either developing an attraction for the other person in some way or not developing an attraction. I've developed an attraction for what some would call hot and what some would call hideous looking. My mother has lectured me on it and been horrified a few times. I really don't care if seeing the guy I'm with makes her puke based on his looks.
As far as my intelligence requirement, I still don't see it as a league thing, because I'm not concerned about if others see the person as intelligent enough or too intelligent for me. Basically, I date what I like no matter what the self-appointed "league" people think. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/18/2008 11:15:01 PM | I've gotta say, there seems to be some hypocrisy here.
In some threads we have: "What's on the outside doesn't matter. You should love someone because of what they're like on the inside, even if their outsides aren't nice at all!"
Then you have this thread which is: "If you don't like my outsides, you should just leave me alone and stop wasting my time!"
Come on, people.  | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:32:33 AM | The whole concept of 'Leagues' for potential mates is nothing short of shallow. No one's better than anyone else at everything. Some people are more physically attractive. Some people are smarter. It doesn't matter. What matters is whether or not the person's personality, intelligence, appearance, morals, beliefs, hobbies, talents, or whatever else they have is attractive to you. If you're not attracted to them, or if they're not attracted to you... then so be it.
"Leagues" are just a shallow justification for the primal urge to copulate based solely upon personal ideals as to what physical appearance best fits their visual preferences. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:10:56 AM | maybe see if the town one over has a bowling alley also. i mean, you are kidding me right? if you have to ask that question, maybe if one of you has the brains, the other could complement with the bowling score or did you mean looks? or gee, does she bake cookies? are you good at fixing broken toilet seats? surely everyone in this world has "something" to offer.
well, i know i am being pissy. but, i hate this sort of question. | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/20/2008 5:43:42 AM | As has been said by many a Wise-man/woman..... :
' Ya' just never Know..!! '
' Stranger things have happened..! '
' Never Give-Up....Never Surrender..! '
' Suprises Happen..!! '
If I continue to send ' Notes of Admiration ' . . one may find the right Lady .. !!!
Even a Half-a-World isn't Too far Away...!!!...  ... | |
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| You are out of her league lookswise. What else would keep you around?
Posted: 7/20/2008 6:20:59 PM | If she is 'not in my league' in terms of looks, how would I be (somewhat) physically attracted to her? Wouldn't the 'not in my league' imply that there's no physical attraction?
If the physical attraction level was "on the fence" of my pass/fail way of things, I would continue to see where things go until I felt whether she was attractive or not. This would be done before any thoughts of a relationship... But her personality, facial expressions, the way she carries herself... that would push the physical attraction one way or another (pass or fail). | |
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