| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:48:31 AM | never let my height bother me before, till i got on here read through all the forums relating to this height thing
I firmly believe I am a wonderful catch for most women.
I have most of the qualities they are looking for in a man
but all well 99.99999% of my emails go read deleted, or even worse unread deleted.
I then look at my viewed page and i think they see what my height is and "bye"
whoa before you ask yes i post pictures, and my emails are polite, I could show them to anyone, I do not use offensive terms language or anything.
I even tried some of the webs "dating for shorter men " sites
there are no women on there that are even close to my area
so where are all the ladies that like shorter men on here? | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:54:23 AM |
so where are all the ladies that like shorter men on here?
You will need to be patient and not expect instant results. It may take many months for the right person to appear. Don't worry about the e-mails that get no response. Most men's emails don't get responded to.
All you need is one woman who is interested, so stay confident and positive. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 11:00:26 AM |
well that sums it all up, in this day and age does a introverted, quiet, shy man have any kind of hope, finding someone he could be happy with!
Depends...if he's so shy and introverted that he meets no one, then well...yeah that's a problem. However if he's got confidence, he'll radiate a presence no matter what as long as he's out and about and not sitting at home.
In general if he's not extremely outgoing that's ok...I do like confident men, and they can be both confident and introverted...
But no confidence at all isn't good... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 11:00:31 AM | always belived I was a patient man but 1 date out of how many months, years on here.
sorry yeah being a pain here.
does anybody know if you can add "looking for talk/ email/ friends to your profile here
and keep dating as well on the profile description
I would love to expand my social circle both online and in rl
you can never have too many friends right? | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/18/2008 11:00:47 AM |
I have most of the qualities they are looking for in a man
This one of your problems. Don't assume we all look for the same things. Of course both men and women look for honestly and loyalty. But in other areas it differs from person to person.
I then look at my viewed page and i think they see what my height is and "bye"
You're going to get viewed more often then you're going to get contacted. That's just how it is and that is for everybody on this site. Try not to assume it's your height. Some girls might see your height and not contact you, others might find they don't share the same interests, for others your profile just might not speak to them and for others they might just not be attracted to you, etc. There are many variables. You're the one assuming your height is the main issue when it might not be. | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:48:29 PM | | I personally would rather than the introverted cause I'm introverted myself. I prefer someone who can I really relate too instead of a loudmouth jerk | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 5:51:07 PM | You can still be introverted and friendly. Being shy, introverted and hard work is another matter. You might need to find less obvious ways of getting talking to women than your confident, extrovert peers, but it doesn't mean you've got anything less to offer. I'd rather meet a man who has sincerity and depth any day than one who is the life and soul of the party but doesn't think beyond that. If you take up opportunities to interact and respond in a warm, friendly way, then I'm sure you'll start meeting nice women.
Interestingly, most people seem to assume that introverted means inward looking, shy and lacking in confidence, but according to Myers-Briggs typology it is more to do with how you get your inspiration and process information. Finding out more about that might help you to accept your unique qualities rather than compare yourself with others who are fundamentally different. If you want to take an online test, you can find it here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
Once you get a result, further info. about the personality types can be found here: http://www.geocities.com/lifexplore/index.html | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:52:54 PM | | Since I'm extremely and painfully shy too...I prefer men who don't come on strong and act all**** and arrogant...ones who are in my face trying to talk me up. Those men just make me run. | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:47:28 PM | | hi Im a bit shy just wanted to say i,d like to email you but i cant I,ve been a naughty boy all the best hugh | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 11:59:35 AM | "When I was younger I was terrbily shy, but I'm an extrovert. So they are certainly not synomonous. :)"
Too true! I am a borderline extrovert/introvert. I took the Myers-Briggs test and came out 51% extrovert and 49% introvert. I am still pretty shy, but definitely an extrovert. I do have the stress factors of an introvert.
Anyhoo, I like introverted and shy men. I perceive them as more genuine than loud men. I know that maynot be true, but I see them that way.
What generally happens with introverts, are their attraction to extroverts. My closest friends are introverts and nothing would get done if I did not initiate things. We need each other, but there is the comparing of each other too. The comparing is where people feel let down. Enjoy who you are and a good partner will too. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:00:47 PM | "so where are all the ladies that like shorter men on here?"
I like shorter men. All my past boyfriends have hovered around 5'6. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:57:05 PM | It wouldnt work for me. I would absolutely, completely over-shadow him.
I am a force of nature to be reckoned with, I need someone equally strong-willed and extroverted.
Even better if he's more outgoing than I am. | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/23/2008 1:15:01 PM |
It wouldnt work for me. I would absolutely, completely over-shadow him.
I am a force of nature to be reckoned with, I need someone equally strong-willed and extroverted.
Even better if he's more outgoing than I am.
Amen.
I don't have any issues with an introverted male. But I know my personna will crush this type of man like a bug. I've tried it. I could not in good conscious keep dating anyone like this. It could lead to severe mental damage over time. For them.
Give me confident, intelligent, loud, strong and bold. Just the way I like it. 
A man that is hell on wheels is sexy.
OP~ there is the "right" type of woman out there for you.
I truly believe you just haven't found her yet. Good luck in your quest. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:45:44 PM | there is a big difference between introverted and shy so let's clarify the terminology.
introverted people use internal representational systems. in other words, they consult their own thoughts and feelings as their primary frame of reference, rather than the external world and what other people say.
everybody knows what shy is.
i was once introverted AND shy.
now i still don't give a sh*t what anybody else thinks, but i'm no longer shy.
personally, i like very outgoing people and i find shy to be extremely tedious. that's probably because i've been there/done that and i'm not going back. ever. i would speculate that most women tend to like outgoing men because outgoing men are going to be much more dynamic in terms of pursuing a relationship if they're interested in you and well, we like to be romanced. dynamically. we're just wired that way.
on the other hand, don't go around assuming that the entire universe of femaledom is going to pass you by just because you're an introvert and/or shy. because if you could flip a switch right now and change that, you would certainly experience something different but the women that would be interested in you, in terms of simple numbers, would not change much -- if at all.
and most of us are pretty much in the same boat. you can go all over the place here, and find people who have been here for years without ever finding "the one". it has very little to do with shy/not shy per se. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:35:38 PM | Let me just put in my two cents.
You shouldn't feel embarrassed if you're an introvert, it's perfectly normal and does NOT mean you don't like people or are a loaner.
Introvert != Asocial | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 6:25:39 AM |
Give me confident, intelligent, loud, strong and bold. Just the way I like it.
A man that is hell on wheels is sexy.
What a coincidence ... I just bought hell and I am having the wheels installed as we speak! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:01:19 AM | In response to toomuch13
Too true! I am a borderline extrovert/introvert. I took the Myers-Briggs test and came out 51% extrovert and 49% introvert. I am still pretty shy, but definitely an extrovert. I do have the stress factors of an introvert.
how do i take that test out of curiousity | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:42:18 AM | Depends.
I don't want a man that doesn't open himself up to me but then on the same time I don't want a complete flirt either. A man should know who he belongs to without blaming his flirty behavior on being extrovert..... | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:52:39 AM |
I don't want a man that doesn't open himself up to me but then on the same time I don't want a complete flirt either. A man should know who he belongs to without blaming his flirty behavior on being extrovert.....
I never blame my flirtyness on being an extrovert ... I blame it on the fact that I am a HUGE flirt! If a woman can't handle that, then it sucks that they have such low self-esteem. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 10:21:56 AM | "how do i take that test out of curiousity"
Here is a link to the Jungian Myers-Briggs test: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/24/2008 8:30:33 PM | | thank you!.....................................................very much........................................................................................................................ | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:45:34 PM | this si what the survey came up with after i scored it
moderately expressed introvert
moderately expressed sensing personality
slightly expressed thinking personality
slightly expressed judging personality
it said i was a guardian of a type | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 11:03:02 PM | Here are my results:
# very expressed introvert
# slightly expressed sensing personality
# distinctively expressed thinking personality
# slightly expressed judging personality | |
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| ladies- introverted men?
Posted: 7/27/2008 11:33:09 PM | In this day and age??? Ummm...did quiet, shy, introverted men ever have a chance???
I'll be honest with ya bro...I'm a *not* so shy, not really introverted man...most would say I'm pretty social and outgoing...and I still struggle with women...so I would suggest working on that characteristic if it's not working for you.... | |
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