| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:31:31 PM | | It's pretty lame? well it works.........you're not going to catch a fish, without casting out a line. if you want to personalize 30 messages be my guest, i'd rather mke universal one, and mass mail it. When she looks at your pics, she'll know whether she wants to continue talking to you or not, the initial ice breaking message is irrelevant. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:32:02 PM | I would never say anything like that to begin with... you're making assumptions about how I would react in a situation.
I do get contacted by a lot of overweight women, and they become really good friends. That barrier is never even touched usually. Girls tend to be more dillegent (sp?) in reading profiles, so I'm sure they know they're not going to get much from me in that respect. Plus, my profile clearly says I'm open to be friends. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:35:40 PM | You know, I totally agree with you on that. I'll definitely be getting up a picture of me smiling pronto! Haha!
And in regards to your second statement: if I left it open instead of being more specific, I'd be adding to that long list of girls complaining about how they "Want a guy who knows what he wants" kind of crap.
Girls do tend to anger me in this way, lol, they ask for one thing and then they'll want the other. In general though, I hope I didn't open too big of a can of shit with that statement 
Understand, I'm not being completely serious about that. I don't carve that in stone~! | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:47:13 PM | Look you asked for advice. I didn't say you would say that....but from your profile it seems like you can be a bit harsh. It's ok, I am too...take a look at my preferences....I have my wants and desires down to a science. But men don't read profiles usually which explains why everything opposite of what I want usually writes to me...which is why I go out and search for what i want on here.
I was just saying to reword things and make yourself sound like the nice guy you claim to be...and yes smiling helps too. Nothing stops me in my tracks more than a great smile. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:58:46 PM | Hmmm true say.
I would just rather weed things out by saying what I don't want. That tends to leave a bit more room for people, and myself, to explore.
I know for a fact that a girl who visits a guy's page that says, "I want a girl who's tall, slim, and clean" would get a lot more intimidated than if the profile said, "I'd prefer it if you weren't overweight."
Or even better yet, "I'd prefer a girl who tries to keep herself healthy" | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:18:06 AM | Antonia is right. It might sound lame but my friend does that with this site and MySpace and gets tons of girls! He's prob the guy that girls complain about sleeping with the first dates and then being dumped. He's afraid of commitment. He also puts long term because he says they respond more. I'm only letting you girls know to be carefull. He's not the most good-looking guy either believe me. I've thought about doing it but I just don't feel right about it so I actually read a girls entire profile and message her talking and asking about things in it that we have in common. Nothing crazy, just being friendly. I also throw in a few funny things if they are the humor type.
But I don't know what you are doing wrong not meeting people around where you play gigs. I've never met a band member that had any trouble with girls. So I don't know what your deal is but I'm surprised if you are single.
When I was in a band I had a big green Mohawk and the girls were ready to fight each other over me. Now I'm produce techno but I'm not live on stage yet due to setting up a live band, and I'm nothing to any of these girls. Watch when I get up on stage, all those girls that wouldn't look at me, will suddenly be all into me. I'll be sure to remember their previous meanness. My friend is a local DJ at local bars, girls treat him like he's a rock star that tours the globe. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:32:13 AM | | just one of those numbers games , approach (well in this case message) X number of people and a few of em are bound to not respond , a few will think you're cute , some will adore you , and some won't.... .it does get frustrating - I felt the same way when I had joined POF the first time round and actually put a lot of time /effort and (what I thought was funny) humour into messages only to have no response.... annoying yes? end of the world ? nah.... | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:09:10 AM | OP, those profiles are made by people who simply seek ATTENTION. You have not been singled out, they hardly write anyone at all, because they are not looking for friends, they only want tons of emails every time they log in. "All eyes on me" is their slogan.
Best plan of action is to ignore all profiles with such a request. I know that in a sea of fish where there are so many restrictions on sending email and pre-qual lists and bitter diatribes and such it's very enticing to see a profile where someone says "Ask me anything!" It ain't about you, bud....it's only about THEM getting more attention.
Pass on 'em. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:50:58 AM |
I'm really sick and tired of putting all this energy into messaging girls with a profile I'm particularly interested in, just to have it ignored. ESPECIALLY when the girl's ENTIRE profile says, "Really, just message me!" or "If you want to know anything more, just message me!" or "I really wish SOMEONE would message me!"
OP, your statement is a bit of an oxymoron. If the only thing on her profile is "message me", what exactly is particularily interesting about this girls profile? The only thing you could be interested in is her physical appearance....So, having stated that, perhaps they are viewing you exactly the same way, there is no physical attraction to you, and since that seems to be the only thing you are basing your choices on, why are you getting upset when it happens to you? | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:26:06 AM | | A lot of profiles just try to look as attention getting and attractive as possible. The "just message me", "Im really friendly so just message", "and if this interests you, send me a message" sort of remarks don't actually imply they will respond, or are any more likely to respond then a profile with remarks like "only interested in real men", "all the men I've met are jerks and I bet you're the same". It just means that they want your message, anyone's message, everyone's message. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:47:42 AM | OP, let me rephrase since you don't really seem to be getting what people are saying (or liking it at least). I will also add a few other things:
1. There is nothing wrong with stating your personal preferences, however you might want to ADD something else to your profile that devotes at least the same amount of time that is spent describing the perfect PHYSICAL specimen you are seeking.
2. No one is presuming to know what you would do/say in a particular situation. There is just speculation as to why you are not getting responses. I.e. maybe the women you are messaging don't feel that you are actually taking the time to read their profiles because what you write is too generic (I;m not saying that it is, this is just a possibility)
3. When a girl writes "just message me", you can not infer that this means "I will guarantee a response"
4. Remember: women get a lot of messages on here, especially if they're really attractive (let's face it, you're not the only guy who likes "girls who take care of themselves physically"). They likely give a quick glance to the message unless there is something that really STANDS OUT.
5. Really attractive girl + statement on profile requesting that people message = LOTS of messages to read and respond to. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:59:39 AM | Ok we're trying to help you here, and it seems like you have a hard time taking criticism, which is not a good trait.
Asking for what you want in your profile is better than putting someone down. And healthy doesn't equal skinny, remember that! It is better to list what qualities your ideal woman would have including being slim, rather than say, I don't like overweight women. Trust me on this one.
And as someone else stated there are a lot of women here who are FAKE, have porn sites, are prostitutes, or are attention seekers who are not here for REAL meetings, dates, or relationships. So some will not respond based on those things alone. The best thing you can do is not to take the site, nor the ''rejection'' so seriously. Keep trying, or sit back and let them come to you. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 9:48:32 AM |
I get really annoyed by people like this. Did you even read the quote? Where does it say that the ONLY thing in their profile is "message me" ? What IS implied in that sense was meant as an exaggeration, at the most.
Iwas just going by what YOU said Op. I actually copied your quote from your original thread verbatim. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:41:21 PM | Raiderfan, thanks for saying what I would have, it's too bad some men are just immature jerks. c.rog only wanted attention and like a child.....balked when it wasn't the type of attention he was seeking. Then he wanted to "play moderator" (loved that one !)
He only wanted responses from thin women under 20, same height, who don't drink or smoke and are "like, seriously...dude...totally into him"
His skull has not yet closed and he can not be expected to have thought and reason. It's not his fault. This was a forum thread he wanted total and complete control of and it didn't work that way.
The school bell rang and he wanted to be the first on the monkey bars. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:52:24 PM |
I'm really sick and tired of putting all this energy into messaging girls with a profile I'm particularly interested in, just to have it ignored. ESPECIALLY when the girl's ENTIRE profile says, "Really, just message me!" or "If you want to know anything more, just message me!" or "I really wish SOMEONE would message me!"
None of those quote say a reply will always happen.
You do not have to put much energy into message. Two or three sentence is not hard. Writeing too much is many time less likely to be read. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 3:15:33 PM | | Uhm...if I'm not interested in a guy, and he keeps sending me little messages...for me that's a clear sign he's a bit on the ''weirdo'' side....it may make the guy feel better, but it makes the woman feel creeped out. I've have a few like that who seem to message me a few times a year, though I've never have replied to them. I even had one show up to where I dance to ''watch'' me...I had a big friend escort me to my car. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 3:21:23 PM | Just mass mass mail a catchy interesting message that's universal, if need be add a few personal touches pertaining to the person you're messaging so it appears that it was created for them....send it to 30 chicks at least 5 will reply.....works every time.
Perhaps if one mass mails to girls instead of women. Like a ripe diaper, many of us women can smell a form letter when we get one. | |
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