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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/18/2008 11:53:57 PM | ^^^ I agree!!!!! A "No thank you" or a "I don't think we'd be a match" button...... that definitely would be a useful tool. ;)
That would solve NOTHING. We'd just get another string of whining threads:
"Why don't I rate a REAL reply?"
"Auto-Replys Suck"
"Does Auto-Reply Mean the Woman is Fake?"
"Auto-Reply Mistake = Did She Read My Letter?"
"No Match Form Letter is RUDE, Ladies!!!"
"mis-spellings in automattic replys"
"Why can't chicks write a real reply instead of block/delete/no thanks ?"
"How can I block auto-no thanks?"
"No Thanks to your No Thanks"
"My auto-reply is better than yours"
"How to respond to no thanks and automatic deletes....?"
"We should have a list of 20 standard auto-replys"
"Nobody writes letters any more, it's all form letters...fake letters = fake relationship"
"Will somebody review my auto-reply? Is it too mean?"
"How to disable automatic No Thanks"
"Ooops! I think I auto-no thanked a reply from a guy I wrote to HELP!"
...I could do this all night... | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:03:43 AM | Besides, why don't they empty theirs?
Because they are not the one irritated. :)
Not much to do here that's "fun", other than be a forum troll.
Okie, then do something else. :P I send message I rarely think about it. Only if I have already made connection with someone do I wait and hope for reply. By then I am usualy on MSN with him anyways.
It's just me using the site for what it's intended, and since I consider it a bit disingenuous to tell someone I'm interested in them and then move on to the next profile 2 seconds later (omg such interest!), I tend to wait at least a few days after I see "Read". It's just polite manners in my opinion.
Is your chooise but this seem silly. It do not seem like a good idea to focus so much on one profile at a time. There are hundreds of guys I can be intereste in on first look. Only 10 precent may be are good match. Is not good odds to focus on first person who I really do not know. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:09:42 AM |
Because they are not the one irritated. :)
You keep every email you've ever gotten?  Outlook Express must really crawl for you ...
Is your chooise but this seem silly. It do not seem like a good idea to focus so much on one profile at a time.
I'm not really "focusing", I'm just being sincere in my interest. Knowing my luck I send out 5 emails and 2 come back really interested. Now what the hell do I do?  | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:23:14 AM |
You keep every email you've ever gotten? Outlook Express must really crawl for you ...
I do not download my POF mail. :P
Knowing my luck I send out 5 emails and 2 come back really interested. Now what the hell do I do?
40% success? I want this luck. :D
Interest does not mean serious. It is okie to chat or email multiple people, until it become more serious. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:33:57 AM | I do not download my POF mail. :P
I'm talking all email. Why let it sit there? Other people obviously use the delete function, judging by threads around here. But this is a side topic that's run it's short course ...
40% success? I want this luck. :D
In that scenario, you're welcome to it. :p
Interest does not mean serious. It is okie to chat or email multiple people, until it become more serious.
<insert "internets is srs bsns" joke here>
It's not a big deal. It just rubs me the wrong way to do it; I don't feel honest. I can't be "interested" in 5 people. Do you stand on a chair in a bar, point at 10 people in turn, and yell "I LIEK U WUD U LET ME NO IF I CAN BYE U A BERE UND GET TWO NO U BETTAR KTHX!" Let me know how that goes for you.
Get an answer from one, move on to the next. Be courteous enough to wait a reasonable amount of time. It's not like there's a lot of women in my area that I have to burn through them or something.  | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:01:36 AM |
I'm talking all email. Why let it sit there?
I delete the rude or short ones. I reply to ones i am interested in immediately or as soon as possible. I keep the rest to send polite respond if I have nothing better to do.
It's not a big deal. It just rubs me the wrong way to do it; I don't feel honest. I can't be "interested" in 5 people.
We have different definition of intereted then. I am interested in many guys who message me. I am not consider dateing or starting relationship from profile. I only want to talk and get to know him better. 90% of time we lose interest for many reason. It is only dishonest if you pretend thing to be more serious than it is.
Do you stand on a chair in a bar, point at 10 people in turn, and yell "I LIEK U WUD U LET ME NO IF I CAN BYE U A BERE UND GET TWO NO U BETTAR KTHX!" Let me know how that goes for you.
18 year old girl with stange accent and bad English throw herself at group of guy can attract some. :)
Small answer is POF is not same as "real world." | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:09:35 AM | Small answer is POF is not same as "real world."
I guess that's where we'll have to agree to disagree. Being a forum goer for 10 or so years has taught me that real people are real people, manners are manners (whether the person you're being polite to knows it or not) and there's no real reason the Internet changes that. It makes it easier to be an anonymous arsehole, but doesn't mean I have to sink to that. :) I get much better results, conversations, and friends if I treat people online exactly like the real world. It's all about respect in my book. People who treat online interaction like it's not "the real world" is why I can't play World of Warcraft anymore. 
Yeah, I'm a freak, I know .... common courtesy is dead. :)
I am interested in many guys who message me.
Reword that to say "I am interested in many guys who I initiate contact with". Then we're on the same page.  | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:17:27 AM |
I guess that's where we'll have to agree to disagree. Being a forum goer for 10 or so years has taught me that real people are real people, manners are manners (whether the person you're being polite to knows it or not) and there's no real reason the Internet changes that. It makes it easier to be an anonymous arsehole, but doesn't mean I have to sink to that. :) I get much better results, conversations, and friends if I treat people online exactly like the real world. It's all about respect in my book. People who treat online interaction like it's not "the real world" is why I can't play World of Warcraft anymore.
I never said to not treat people with respect.
Reword that to say "I am interested in many guys who I initiate contact with". Then we're on the same page.
Is same page anyways. I still must choose who to reply to as you choose who to initiate contact. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:27:57 AM | I never said to not treat people with respect.
Inadvertently you kind of did. If I conducted myself like you suggest, like it's not "the real world", I'd feel like I'm not treating them with respect. That's just my standard.
Is same page anyways. I still must choose who to reply to as you choose who to initiate contact.
If we were on the same page, you'd be replying to them all, hence my first post. So yeah, we're still not relating here. 
Anyway, good night. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:52:17 AM |
why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, "Just send me a msg!"
Because what most of these women really mean is that they will reply to the guys above their own league but ignore the other guys who are just basically average like most of these women. Today’s average women place themselves above average men and then whinge about that there are no decent men left. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:55:28 AM |
Inadvertently you kind of did. If I conducted myself like you suggest, like it's not "the real world", I'd feel like I'm not treating them with respect. That's just my standard.
How is what I suggest disrespectful? I suggest that you should not be monogamous to someone you barely know because only her profile And I should not be expect to reply to every mail I get. We have very different standard it seem.
If we were on the same page, you'd be replying to them all, hence my first post. So yeah, we're still not relating here.
Now you speak of seperate topic I did not reply to. No we do not agree on this.
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:20:15 AM |
Because what most of these women really mean is that they will reply to the guys above their own league but ignore the other guys who are just basically average like most of these women. Today’s average women place themselves above average men and then whinge about that there are no decent men left.
The women in this site ignore just about every man who approaches them which is being disrespectful to begin with. On the other hand, women expect and demand every man on this site to treat them with 100 percent respect. Oh I am forgetting, today’s women are shameless hypocrites
Wow... tell us how you really feel.
I'm sure you just will settle for anyone, right? You have no preferences. You have no standards. You'll just take any woman who shows any interest in you at all, right?
These women don't respond to these men because they aren't interested. And, judging by the number of these men that feel the need to come here and whine about it, I think the women are making the right decision.
Suck it up, men. If someone isn't interested in you, just move on to someone else.
Oh, and just to make things equal, I feel the same way about the women going into the Ask a Guy forum and complaining about how "shallow" and "superficial" all men are because "they can't just see me for who I am and not focus on my looks/weight." | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:40:00 AM |
Wow... tell us how you really feel.
I'm sure you just will settle for anyone, right? You have no preferences. You have no standards. You'll just take any woman who shows any interest in you at all, right?
These women don't respond to these men because they aren't interested. And, judging by the number of these men that feel the need to come here and whine about it, I think the women are making the right decision.
Suck it up, men. If someone isn't interested in you, just move on to someone else
If some one was ignored just a few times or some times, its nothing at all to worry about. But when you get ignored 99 percent of the time and hardly get approached, thats when its a problem worth addressing.
Now before you say that its probably me with the problem and its all my fault. Look at all the other average men with absolutely nothing wrong with them facing the same problem. There is no doubt that a woman with the same image status as me and basically offering everything the same as me as a person (except she is a woman) would have no problem getting average athletic built men interested in her or just basically men in her own league.
Being ignored is not so much of a problem for women because women have no problem getting approached. But hardly or not getting approached and being ignored all the time is a problem worth complaining about. Its also a problem that most women are extremely ignorant about and don't have a clue about how it feels to be on the receiving end. But its mostly or only a male problem so its not a concern to women of course. If men didn't show concern and just criticised women for complaining about female-only problems, he would be a seen as a misogynist. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:53:13 AM | Now before you say that its probably me with the problem and its all my fault. Look at all the other average men with absolutely nothing wrong with them facing the same problem.
I just jumped over to take a look at your profile to see if maybe I could figure out why you aren't having any luck... wow.
Granted I don't know what your profile may have been in the past or how long it has been the way it is, but I will venture to say that if you EVER want to have any success with ANY woman on this site you need to get rid of everything on your profile and start over.
I acknowledge that there are women out there who are trying to date "out of their league" and that there are women out there with really high standards. There are picky women and women who just simply will not give a man a chance unless he jumps through very specific hoops in just the right way. I get that.
I also acknowledge that there are a lot of women out there who are not that way and that when you encounter the picky and rude type the proper course of action is to move on to someone else instead of whining about it.
If you hardly got approached, you wouldn't be singing the same tune. Its just women in todays dating are too spoilt for their own good.
I can assure you that I am anything but "spoilt" (or spoiled, for that matter).
I rarely get approached (and please spare me the commentary about my weight, I've heard it all) and yet I still have preferences and still don't answer all the mail I receive. You choose who you want to send messages to, and those people have a right to choose whether or not they want to respond. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 2:53:27 AM | Now before you say that its probably me with the problem and its all my fault. Look at all the other average men with absolutely nothing wrong with them facing the same problem. There is no doubt that a woman with the same image status as me and basically offering everything the same as me as a person (except she is a woman) would have no problem getting average athletic built men interested in her or just basically men in her own league.
If you believe concept of league, is it possible yourself and other are misjudge what yours is, or have different opinion than most other may have? I do not know a girl who say "I really like this person and we match well but I will ignore him anyways." Just because you believe you are a good match or on same league do not mean she does.
As I say before, stop takeing this site so serious. If you are so depend on POF for love that there is problem to whine about, you should go outside more to meet people. Again, if I get a reply or ignored, (and it do happen to girls) I do not care. If I never get respond, I do not care. POF is only tiny part of dateing world. There are plenty of fish beside POF. :) | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 3:15:04 AM |
Granted I don't know what your profile may have been in the past or how long it has been the way it is, but I will venture to say that if you EVER want to have any success with ANY woman on this site you need to get rid of everything on your profile and start over.
I am tired of being the nice guy. I just don't care anymore, I will put my self out there but I am not going to act like prince charming because it will only raise my chances 1 percent or so more than the chances I have now. Whats the use? I would rather have my own amusement expressing the truth about women that gets so many people angry. But it will draw certain women towards me who are not these things that I complain about and it will draw women to me who are basically not bigots and thats exactly what I want. Finding a non bigoted woman is not easy these days
If you believe concept of league, is it possible yourself and other are misjudge what yours is, or have different opinion than most other may have?
Not really, when you compare a woman and man the same built, with the average job/or same career status, the average lifestyle, what difference is there? It seems that many women only want to date a guy who is offering some thing more interesting than most average guys next door when most women are not offering anything more interesting than most average women next door. A guy has to stand out from most or the rest of the guys to get most women interested while most women don't stand out from most or all women.
As I say before, stop takeing this site so serious. If you are so depend on POF for love that there is problem to whine about, you should go outside more to meet people. Again, if I get a reply or ignored, (and it do happen to girls) I do not care. If I never get respond, I do not care. POF is only tiny part of dateing world. There are plenty of fish beside POF. :)
I don't only depend on this site or the internet to find a date. I depend on my whole life as to every place I go. The reason why you don't care that you get ignored is because YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM to begin with to get attention from men. If I got as much attention as most average women, I wouldn't care how many people ignored me when I approached them. Just because you are a woman, no matter what place you are in, either for it to be the internet or any social gathering, you will never have a problem getting average men interested in you | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 3:50:45 AM |
I would rather have my own amusement expressing the truth about women that gets so many people angry.
At 27 you should be above being troll. But I hope you have fun.
Not really, when you compare a woman and man the same built, with the average job/or same career status, the average lifestyle, what difference is there?
90% of thing that actually matter in a match.
It seems that many women only want to date a guy who is offering some thing more interesting than most average guys next door when most women are not offering anything more interesting than most average women next door.
This is only your opinion. To you I may offer nothing and am average and should be happy with the first average 18-21 year old guy I meet. This is not my opinion. I do not belong in one league.
I don't only depend on this site or the internet to find a date. I depend on my whole life as to every place I go. The reason why you don't care that you get ignored is because YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM to begin with to get attention from men. If I got as much attention as most average women, I wouldn't care how many people ignored me when I approached them. Just because you are a woman, no matter what place you are in, either for it to be the internet or any social gathering, you will never have a problem getting average men interested in you
Is this "life is not fair" or "men have so much difficult in dateing" rant?
Some people, male and female, get more attention than other. This is life. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:23:10 AM | Xeno
Nicely put. Talk about being hypocrites. The truly attractive women on this site want absolute perfection and if they do not see it in a picture or read it in a profile, they will ignore you. This is the problem with online dating. It is easy to kick one to the curb, because the ratio between men and women is a gazillion to one. Therefore, the women (even the ugly ones) can afford to be choosey.
I posted earlier regarding an auto no reply. In thinking about it, there is the wink button as well…like an ice breaker. Why some women do not like that is beyond me. “I want you guys to write something that gets my attention”……Give me a friggn break. You have a profile, a picture and now a wink or an auto reply…what more would you like…..it is initial contact!
This site is a lot like public high school…it is free, so you get what you pay for. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:42:24 AM | Techpeg,
Great reply and dialogue. It is called netiquette. Treating people online exactly how you would treat them live says a lot about character. So what does that say if a women does not reply, or just deletes your mail without reading it... stuck up, arrogant, a *itch, or she just doesn't care? auto reply would work in this case because you would know that she has looked at your profile and either auto replied or actually emailed you. But this isn't going to happen. POF women do not want to reveal their hand...they want to keep you guessing. | |
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| Okay seriously, why don't girls reply when their profiles all say, Just send me a msg!
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:43:58 AM |
Nicely put. Talk about being hypocrites. The truly attractive women on this site want absolute perfection and if they do not see it in a picture or read it in a profile, they will ignore you.
So, if you are not attracted to the picture, not drawn in by the profile, and all the guy writes is "hi", what the heck are you supposed to go on???
Guys ignore messages, girls ignore messages. Deal.
I've had many messages read/ignored or read/deleted. Am I here whining about it? no. | |
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