| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:53:14 AM | nice post for sure. Raising my 2 girls the last 9 years has certainly given me a new sense of priorities. I'm sure having the ability to be completely spontaneous in life, go anywhere do anything, and look out for only yourself has some exciting moments, but I don't think it can compare. You get a great feeling of satisfaction in raising kids, watching them grow from cute little babies, to intelligent charming young ladies, all the while looking to you for guidance and support. No accomplishment could ever inspire the feelings of pride they give me on a daily basis. Don't know who or where I'd be today without all the years or cuddling, hugs, cute looks with batting eyelashes when they want something, chutes and ladders, and monopoly, and best of all unconditional love. My brother never settled down, was always bar-hopping, dating dozens of women throughout the years, now he's 40, never had kids, and not as "cool" as he used to be. Every once in a while I used to be momentarily envious, not much, and not often, usually during the very difficult times(4 weeks of chicken pox anyone?), but looking back, I can't think of anything that could have brought me so much happiness.
Respect to all the single parents, who face both the fun and responsiblity head on!! | |
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| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/22/2005 1:55:53 PM | Men like you are hard to find, where have you been hiding
Women "not all!" are catty [take it from me, I am one] most don't know what they want!
Single Moms usually have been run around the bush so many times times they are dizzy and confused.
Single women on the other hand I DON'T WANT TO OFFEND ANYONE so please don't take this as an offending comment! But single women (without kids) don't have enough life experience to jump into the life of a full time single dad. They don't seem to understand kids are first in any single parents life. Same is true with a man with no kids.
Women like to be the center of their mates (partners) attention, It's hard when they have to share.
As far as partying, thats what being single with no kids is all about. Hey I even****ail on the weekend after my boy goes to bed, And I would absoultly love to go out dancing or just partying for a night, 'Still" I have a wonderful responsiability that I am content with. So I stay at home on the weekends.
Being a single parent it's hard meeting (Mr/Ms) right but I think we should all be a little realistic look for someone who has kids they are more tentivly in the right mind set to what a single parent is looking for 1 person, in a 1000 people with out kids would be the perfect mate but how do you find them.
Good luck in your search
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| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:15:41 PM | Hehehe I've been hiding at junior high school basketball games, the local toys-r-us, park playgrounds, school plays and parent teacher conferences. Often found skulking in my room on the puter, as slumber party pillow fights ensue throughout the rest of the house. Or in the worst of times being dragged helplessly through the mall, as unstoppable shopping forces (in the guise of pretty young blonde girls) drag me through the claires boutique, and enumerous womens clothing stores.
If I was hiding at the grocery store it was due the wealth of femanine products my basket was laden with.lol | |
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Posted: 7/23/2005 6:47:00 AM | | where to begin......... well 4 yrs ago my ex just took off and i was there to raise my then 8 and 9 yr old.. ... I was so scared I would mess these kids up for good... not to mention the abandonment issues but I didnt know what to do....but you learn to cope and it is hard even the easy days are hard.... But most of what I learned is these kids are alot smarter and tuffer than I thought they are.... Hell the only one making a big deal about most of the stuff was me.. as for the post topic? if a woman doesnt like it tuff.. my kids are 12 and 13 now and I figure I have only 5-6 yrs left to really be a big impact on them... this is time i will never get back . I easily chose to sacrifice my personal life for the next 5yrs.... it'll be gone before you know it... | |
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Posted: 7/23/2005 9:15:48 PM | | Dravencarter, that was a really good post. Single dads go really un-noticed....your doing a great job. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 1:08:03 AM | Draven..you rock...I have been a single parent since 99..and I have full custody of my daughter..the mother is a P.O.S.,,,if you get what i mean..It is true..we do get un-noticed..and it sucks...but I'll never run away from a single mother....
So here is to all of us single fathers.... drink up..cause it's the only thing we can have..woohoo | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 4:22:09 AM | | Good point as I have a newfound respect for single mothers whose odds are stacked higher than ours probably | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 8:46:36 AM | It's great to see so many single fathers on the site. I'm a single mother of two children but only one lives with me. I give credit to single fathers that are looking after their child/children.
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Posted: 7/24/2005 3:05:53 PM | These are the particular reasons why I tend to seek out men with children, I being a single mother, I want a man that understands the ties I have to my girls and not become jealous when I spend more time playing dress up then dressing myself for a date | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 9:59:43 PM | I keep comming back to this thread .. and I hope it stay alive for a long time ..
Its interesting ... after reading this I started to pay a little more attnetion to this site .. and anytime I begin to message someone .. or reply to a message .. I look at the profile and see if they have kids or want kids. Its not a deciding factor as I understand some jsut simply cant .. but I always look.
Single parenting is tough.. its nice to see the women in here that embrace the men that have taken that path, and not come after us thinking we have done someting rotten to the mothers....
Cheers to you all ... and to all our children | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 11:10:38 AM | | I respect men whp step up to the plate and take care of their kids So many men feel no remorse over abadoning the kids and walking away and running from child support...Mine thought it was optional for 9 year and npw complains that its so high My hat is off to all of you lady bug | |
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Joined: 6/13/2005
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| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/25/2005 6:28:31 PM | exactly hats off to single dads i am a single father of 2 boys 10 and 6 my 6 yr old has ADHD and is a handfull beyond handfull and his brother does nothing but torments him daily there mother sees them for a few hrs a week and gets them every other weekend but u know even though i have to deal with all the stress of a ADHD son and his brother they are the light of my life watching them while they play and most of all watching them sleep so peacefully the stress level drops then but i wouldnt give this up for anything the experience is life changing and ive learned an awfull lot from being a single dad the only thing i would like to know is where is the closest paitence store i am running out and need to go and restock lol anyways to us single fathers keep up the good work it all worth it no matter what  | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 9:16:05 PM | | Kudos to all single parents out there! I have learned so much from raising my two completely alone for the last six years. For example, having been in the grocery store when my daughter first "started", taught me that I can handle situations totally beyond my comprehension with a calmness I never knew that I possessed! Many other things too numerous to mention have educated me beyond belief, especially truly unconditional love! Thanks to all the other single dads out there who keep me strong just by being single dads too! | |
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| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/25/2005 11:21:43 PM | this is not virgil.......
My name is Edee, I'm also a single parent my kids are 5-3 I'm just looking 4 a friend or accule talking on the phone | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 11:27:44 PM | | Hey everyone, You have no idea what it means to hear all the comments everyone is making. The fact that alot of you are taking the time to comment and put your life and your lessons and values on here as well. I guess it feels like a kindred fellowship & means alot to me I thank each and everyone of you. The messages as Nothern said, keep me comming back to the thread. Kane, I will buy you a pitcher any time brother | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 11:30:31 PM | Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg JonnyB what the hell are yo doing to me man! I was feeling all inspired and shit then I read the TRAUMA, haaaaaaa just buggin I read that post and started to laugh my ass off. Mine are only 9/7 so I am not quite at that horror yet! BUT THANK YOU FOR THE VISUAL! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2005 11:43:59 PM | Agree with sexy...and loving reading Draven's posts....enjoy this thread...being a single father is definitely something to be admired and respected...for all the trials and tribulations gone through and to be experienced!!  | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 12:04:44 AM | | i think being a single father of a beautiful 2.5 year old has made me the happiest and proudest father around.I only do it 50% of the time but it has taught me so much about life and reliezing that i am not coming first now she is. I would not give it up for the world I know she has made me a better person and i thank her for it. As far as i am concerned that if a woman does nt want to date me because of my daughter then shew is not for us. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2005 1:59:05 AM | RESPECT to all the other single Dads out there...
i am really happy i found this thread, as i was beginning to feel like i was the only one that felt this way...
...living in a big city, where everyone else seems only interested in status, i have found that my self-esteem, (when it comes to talking to women) has taken a total plunge...
1) i don't have a nice car.. (no car at all now lol)
2) i can't justify the cost of picking up the tab for a night out.. (though i'd at least like to be able to offer!)
3) i can't remember the last time i bought clothes for myself.. (so, not the snappiest dresser on the street!)
...what i do have though, is worth more than all the nice clothes, flashy cars and well packed wallets in the world... i have a deep, trusting relationship of mutual respect and love with my 13 year old son... we can - and do, talk about everything and anything, we laugh (lots!), and share the ups and downs of living our lives in our own little corner of the planet, i trust him...
...and he trusts me.
All those poor guys that slog thier guts all week, only to be too knackered at the weekend to spend any 'quality' time with thier kids - well, they don't know what thier missing... of course 2 shall always be 'better' than one, when it comes to parents... (under ideal circumstances) but all us single parents know, that when push comes to shove, 1 CAN prove to be the best option - when it comes to our kids.
Take it easy - all of you out there, take pride - it's the lonliest job in the world...
...and you shall reap what you sow.
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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| benifits to a single father
Posted: 7/26/2005 2:38:25 AM | Wow, Cool thread...
I feel the same way:
#1 - I have 2 toddlers, boy and girl, not easy at all.. You have 4, wow! way to go daddy!
#2 - If you patience and stand back, you never know things will work out naturally.
#3 - Yeah, you have to show love and affection, it makes my kids feel safe and secure.
#4 - I notice this, my patience and giving full attention to listen to other was so much different from back in my early 20's haha...
#5 - Cant wait for that time to come, sports, activities, kids off to summer camps, etc...
#6 - Thats the word I learned alot and became, when my ex first told me, "Im pregnant!" LOL!
#7 - I rather just BBQ at home and enjoy a nice DVD movie with the kids. But I do go out hang out once in awhile.
#8 - Too much laughter here...
#9 - Budget, I will learn soon.
#10 - I Agree!
Yup, its just me and my kids. From Movies, Groceries, Mall, Miniture Golfing, Family Functions, Chuck E Chesses, Etc... haha... We are like a team, we just live our lives day by day. Till that rigth woman comes along... well thats another story :) To all the single dads out there, keep rock'n! LOL!
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Posted: 7/26/2005 11:46:31 PM | | i am new at being a single father,I just do the best i can and show them all the love i have,and hope everything eles falls into place,I have only one person who is trying to help me through this,Thank you Amy. | |
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