| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 7/24/2008 9:23:12 PM | Adoption is wrong and serves the barren, not the real families. If you can afford to adopt, then give that money to the real families so as not to live a lie. You only get ONE set of parents... whether they're good or not. Keeping it real and saving real families is where it's at. You don't deserve and are not entitled to take the child of other people and pretend it's yours. People have NO idea of the damage that does. It's modern slavery.
I'm sure this will get me into all kinds of bashing from others. But for sure, those who never thought of it and who are open... will think about it and realize truth.
www.keepyourbaby.com www.abolishadoption.com
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 7/25/2008 8:44:03 PM | I can see both sides of this........ however I have lived through a situation very close to what you described above.
My son was born 1lb 13oz and was 4 month premature.
I lived an hour and half from the hospital he was in. I made the drive daily, I was there when he had surgery, blood transfers, training to care for him, and every time the nurse called and said I could hold him, even if I just left there I would turn around,
Once he was released from the hospital we had doctor appts 2 hours away 3 times a weeks in a klunker on a limitted budget- taking 2 to 3 hours to prepair - extra oxygen, machines, special food, and regular baby needs.
This went on for over a year as my son fought for his life and due to his health issues I had to quit my job to care for his health until he was able to be around others which was not until he was 3.
To say life was a daily struggle as a single parent(got divorced while pregnant) with no support would be a mass under statement but I have also learned the strength of faith, family, friends, and how the love of a parent for their child means there is no sacrafice that is too great.
Of course I would have loved things to be easier, to not have struggled as much, and even more so that my son would have been born with out the complications to begin with.
But if I had it to do over and not have my child because of health issues and money isses, I would not for a minute not have my son, I have been blessed with a wonderful boy and we survived the struggle together for better days.
The same "plan a head" point you are stating above could go toward everything in life, from taking a drive, to changing your job, to dating, to getting out of bed.
If you had to plan for all the "what ifs" before you did anything listed above wouldn't you be stuck in the same place 10 years from now that you are today?
I am stronger for what I went through, my son is healthy and strong now and we are both grateful for every day.
Probably not the answer you were looking for either.
Have a great
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:44:54 AM | | While it shouldn't be this way....but in this world money is always important.....they say money can't bring you happiness (look at all the screwed up mega stars) But in can make life a lot more comfortable. | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:22:12 AM | | Money should definatly be considered when having a baby. They need alot and if you don't have it, it means the child lives without. If your living comfortable before the baby, you have to realize that will change once the bundle of joy arrives. It also depends on how much you want to spend on the baby. If you want it to have all the designer, fancy shmancy stuff... then ya, you'll need more money. But you can certainly do it on a budget and get by perfectly. Or it could just be anything from moving into a 2 bedroom apt. from a one bedroom... so more rent. Buying a bigger vehicle for your family, or perhaps the child ends up having a disability where you have to stay out of work or pay for other products or services you hadn't accounted for. Money is definatly a factor in having a baby. But you don't need alot of it, you just need to know how to manage it. Anyone can do it. | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/19/2008 8:24:20 PM | | money is not a big issue u grow as the child grows most needs are easily met in the beggining years and a college fund can easily be made with a 25 dollar invesment per month use the child tax for that i had childeren when i was 15 and again at 27 when i was more prepared and both sets turned out great and i had nothing with the first ones but back then i had a lot of time now its hard to find the time with the second set enjoy growing together with the kids finacially as well they will appriciate it more the kids need time more then money as long as u have a roof kids dont care us adults do | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:30:27 AM | You can never have enough money for children. I guess the things you have to consider is.. do you have enough for the basics. Yes, there's lots of things that can go wrong. I myself had a premature baby who came 3 months early and stayed in the hospital for 7 weeks, had so many doctor's appointments for her first 2 years! I've never owned a new car, would be considered poor by today's standards, ect, ect.
There is help out there for when things become to hard. I work hard at keeping myself and my children off of welfare.. but if it was necessary to meet their needs I'd do it in a heartbeat. As for gym membership and men wanting gorgeous, thin women..there are all kinds of men out there wanting all different kinds of women. And there's all kinds of exercise that doesn't require a gym.
Bottom line.. you can't plan enough for children but you should make sure you can be responsible for your children.. at least be able to keep them out from under bridges. | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:14:38 AM | | Having food and money to clothe the baby is a priority yes. You dont need to have an awful lot I think as long as he/she has all the essentials and that you put a little aside each time you can for when he/she is older. I can remember who said abolish adoption how can you judge. ? You dont know whats its like. Being adopted myself I find that statement totally uncalled for. Thats just my humble opinion | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:48:28 PM | I made sure I had a career (potential of money) and benefits. Money/Benefits is definetly a consideration of having children.
My daughter will always have food on the table, clothes on her back, a roof over her head and have medical to take care of her. The basics will always be covered no matter what happens in any economy.
Now, if the subect breaches into the subject into wealth that's a different consideration. The socioeconomic factors will allow a person with wealth to provide opportunities to their children which others may not have. | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:08:47 PM | | I would like to know how adoption is slavery? Is it possible that the parents giving the child over know that neither one of them are capable of giving the child what it needs? Perhaps the family caring for the child can provide them a SAFER and better environment. I still can't wrap my mind around the idea that people are actually against adoption. Hey, Jesus was adopted by Joseph and he turned out pretty decently. Heck, He even gave His life for us. Hmmm, doesn't sound so screwed up to me. Just saying. | |
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| Is money something to consider when having a child?
Posted: 8/20/2008 9:52:51 PM | Absolutely. Children are an expensive choice, and the least you owe him/her is to be mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially stable. The poverty levels wouldn't be even half as bad if people actually put thought into what having children requires. It is selfish to have a child you cannot raise properly just because you want one. It should inspire you to work harder to get into a place where you can have a child and do right by him/her.
Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
Adoption is wrong and serves the barren, not the real families. If you can afford to adopt, then give that money to the real families so as not to live a lie. You only get ONE set of parents... whether they're good or not. Keeping it real and saving real families is where it's at. You don't deserve and are not entitled to take the child of other people and pretend it's yours. People have NO idea of the damage that does. It's modern slavery. I've seen some of the people who are anti-adoption, and read their views. I find it appalling that one would look down on someone who takes in an unwanted child and raises him/her and loves him/her as their own. There are plenty of biological parents who don't deserve the children they bear. I'd much rather unwanted children go to homes of people who have the time, money, patience, and everything else needed to raise children than be neglected and/or abused by their own sperm and egg donors. | |
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