| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:06:21 PM |
Well speaking just for me, I prefer two nightstands. One for each side of the bed. I'm a slob, and need all the storage next to my bed that I can get.
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 4:19:32 PM | when i was younger i went through a stage of just wanting sex from girls i met.
the ones that didnt get used for sex were the ones who didnt put out so early... | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:06:03 PM | "Reality: My wife is disabled and in severe pain at all times. We've had a sexless marriage for a long time now because of that. I do not want to leave, and do love her, but honestly, I need to touch and be touched again in an intimate way by a person of the opposite sex. I'm not looking for a hooker, and I would care to put some emotional commitment into a discreet relationship, but I'm not willing to leave my wife".
Dude, what is wrong with a hooker? See, you have judged already. If you are cheating on your wife, how can it really be a committed relationship? Do you think any self-respecting woman who is really looking for a relationship would go for that without monetary compensation? What exactly do you think you have to offer? Do yourself and your poor wife a favor, just pay for it and get it over with. If she dies, heaven forbid, then you can look for your committed relationship.
As for the original thread, if someone has a one-night-stand, it's because that's what they wanted. Otherwise, it's called date rape. Don't listen to the whiners and complainers. There are far too many to count. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:21:54 PM | | Well this topic is tough allot of girls complaint about guys only wanting them for sex if that's what you believe then don't give it up so easy. As far as the one night stand goes if you choose to have sex with somebody you just met that's your choice live with the consequences.Stop ****ing and complaining you got use now move on and learn from your mistakes. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:16:12 PM | I think the stereotypical "one-night stand guys" are a loud minority, to be honest. However, if that's their lifestyle, they're run through a lot of them to make a bigger impression out there, but as far as the ratio of guys looking for one-night stands, I would have to say it's a lot lower than many women may think (from my peers and observing others above 25).
First, there's more of the "he's not looking for a relationship" vs an actual one night stand. Many will call this a one-night stand, because "it mine as well be", since the guy led the gal on to thinking he really dug her and a relationship was on its way. He sees she doesn't want FWB, and so he ends up walking away from communication.
Second, if a girl's really into the guy on the 1st date, but the guy decides he isn't that into her, there's a real possibility he may be game to sleep with her, if she gives him every signal in the book that she's game for it -- even if he would have blown her off the next day no matter what happened. I think sometimes women may go for the bedroom to try and solidify something with the guy they really like, or they just like them and they're horny... but the stereotypical guy, unlike stereotypical gal, will go with that flow eagerly, even when he sees her as non-relationship material. In essence, the guy wasn't LOOKING for a one-night stand, he just stupidly didn't blow her off before she blew him!
All in all, it's usually the result of guys "playing along", thus the girl feeling played. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:25:42 PM | Speaking for myself, I find one night stands pointless. A committed relationship takes you to much deeper levels of experience and bliss, and frankly, in this day and age, even with protection, you never know what you might pick up !!
I think that men and women who are into that have low esteem, and get a bolster to their self image when they go home with someone, expecting not to see them again. It's a bit like eating an unripe fruit to me... sour... heheh. Altogether rewarding one the fruit has fully ripened !! | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/1/2009 5:25:54 PM | I like this answer. It dodges the whole "are guys into one night stands" question by looking at it from another angle. I couldn't agree more...how can you possibly show your "partner" all of your moves in just one night. In addition, I think it takes a little time for people to become comfortable with each other. You may do something sexually a month into the relationship that you would never think of trying on the first night.
There have been guys that I have only dated once or twice too. I think that's why people date though right ?? If you can't get through the whole "getting to know you" period without being irritated by the other person then there's no way it would ever turn into a serious relationship.
Best of luck fellow fishers!!! | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/1/2009 6:38:31 PM | heyyyyyyy....is that you OP havin your shirt unbuttoned with your chest hair hangin out..??
i thought i was the only one who could do that....
night fever night fever.....we know how ta do it...
boogie nights......got ta get it started....dance with the boogie get down
cuz
boogie nights are always the best in town.....got ta keep on dancin
keep on dancin....
*shakes butt to boogie nights*
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:25:24 PM | | I'm not a one nite stand type of a guy. Not knocking neone that enjoys situations like that-but to me its a lil scary-first off if ya dont know the person-what if its something they do reguarly-or even if ya know em-what if caual sex for one nite with random people is what they do on the reg. Just a lil scary-there are condoms-but alot of sickos out there also. If i stick one nite-im coming back for more-if i like someone enough to have sex with em-y wouldnt i go back for more. In all honesty i think men and women that do this is asking for trouble.Even if im outta state-and i meet someone and like em enough to have sex with em-im thinking of dates afterwards to where i can return back and get it in again | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/2/2009 12:39:33 AM | | I am so sick and tired of all these females b1tchin & moaning about all guys want are 1 night stands. Most girls I know or have met all they want is one night stands. Granted they all might be under 21, but still. Women are just as bad if not worse-& that's real. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:08:12 AM | I think that many people think that sex should be this wonderful magical thing, but when having sex with a complete stranger, it rarely is. That's why there are so many one night stands, because the experience isn't really that great so the search for the person who is going to knock your socks off on the very first night continues.
Having better sex comes by knowing your partner better. The stories you read in Penthouse Forum are ficticious. The very best sex is had with a partner that you're deeply in love with. Yeah a one night stand can be exciting, but most of the excitement comes from the anticipation and not from the actual act. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/5/2009 11:40:01 PM | Not at all. Of all the reasons one night stands happen, I think the LEAST likely reason is because that is what the guy wanted in the first place. Are guys more superficially driven sexually, absolutely. However, even the ones who want nothing but sex would like to have a consistent partner; because not having a consistent partner means going without a lot more; and that is NOT the situation someone who is superficially driven by sex is looking for. Something negative came up, or the guy would hang around.
So, what's going on? If you get naked with somebody, you are interacting with them on the most basic of levels; and you get to know a lot about them, as a lover, and as a person, much faster; therefore learning if you are compatable, or not, much faster. Sexually, maybe she's a selfish lover; maybe she's an unskilled lover; or maybe she's not into the things you are into, or vice versa. Examples: She has 12 orgasms, then keeps you awake snoring, without ever asking if you might like to have an orgasm yourself; or she asks if you mind if she tapes it so she can show it on her website, and you ask for directions to the freeway.
You also learn about things in her personal life, or your personal life that may be incompatible; and personality flaws may also become more apparent. I.E. her parole officer calls while you are there; her ex slashes your tires; she thinks its cute when her 200lb pot bellied pig crawls into bed with you; or she brags about having season tickets to the World Wrestling Federation for the last 15 years. Or maybe she calls her sister, while you are there, and screams at her for 20 minutes about what a whore she is, and that she needs to go to rehab; or she spends 30 minutes b!tching about what an a$$hole her ex is because he is wealthy and wanted a pre-nup, knowing she had been divorced twice. (Those last two actually happened to me...you can also learn a lot when someone has been drinking. LOL. Although technically since I left without having sex, they weren't really one night stands.)
If a woman is experiencing a lot of one night stands, she needs to step back and examine the situation. Who is she bringing home, and why? Where did she meet them? Are they all drunk? Do they live anywhere close? Is there something going on with her, in her home, or in her neighborhood that would give a guy problems? If you are complaining about a lot of one night stands, you are sleeping with a lot of people. What's up with that?
Do one night stands happen? Of course. However, I believe, they are more likely because something surfaces that, for whatever reason, one of you views as incompatible; as opposed to that being what the guy was looking for in the first place. Example: I get up in the morning to brush my teeth, and see a "Rush is Right" bumper sticker in the bathroom...color me gone.  | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/6/2009 12:15:05 AM | | Is she complaining because she said yes, and now is wondering why he isnt calling? People usually are what they themselves seek. Sure men want great sex but deep down I think most men want a woman whom they can respect and trust. Respect and trust makes for the best sex. A lot depends IMO on the age of the woman, her education, income. Or am I wrong? | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 5:01:46 AM | Maybe most of the men you KNOW aren't looking for that. Most of the men I know are not looking for that...but most of the men on any given dating site (paid or unpaid) are looking for one nighters. I can pull up my search and narrow it to within 25 miles, and then go over to those sex personals (found out about them right here on these forums) and find over half the guys in my area over there looking for every kind of thing you can imagine (and some you can't) and actually admitting to being married, while they are over here pretending to look for "long term." Some of them are dumb enough to use their exact same user name there that they use here and on Match and Yahoo, same "stats," but leave their face out of the picture. (yeah, we'll never figure out who THAT is!) It was one of the reasons I finally stopped looking to meet anyone here.
It has nothing to do with the sex being bad and everything to do with a bunch of men who want someone different in their bed every night. Sounds like a pathetic existence to me, but to each his own, I guess.
And if you will pay closer attention, you will find that usually, when that has happened, it's some guy who has "long term" in their profile and has told the woman that he wants to keep seeing her, isn't interested in continuing to look to meet others, blah blah blah blah blah. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 5:52:27 AM | | It really does take two. I look for a LTR. It doesn't matter to me if the woman "puts out" on the first date. If I like her I'll see her again. But I've listened to so much male bashing I'm tired. Women seem to forget that we're the same species. If as a woman you see that "men" are doing a particular thing, look to your own house. You or someone near you is probably guilty too. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 6:49:11 AM | I'm not a fan of one night stands. I'd rather have a woman for the long haul(dating and whatever happens after). One night stands are a buzz kill and turn off for me, cause usually one or both parties involved get hurt or something, so I avoid one night stands.
I mean we all have faults, but hey we're only human and no body's perfect. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 7:37:00 AM |
most of the men on any given dating site (paid or unpaid) are looking for one nighters.
I marvel at the motivation of a self-professed "Baptist beach bunny" who has found her life partner (in an undisclosed place), but simply enjoys posting, simplistically, to the pof forums.  Is this your "testimony", to save the sisters from POF perdition, blowing just a little too hard on that Gideon's trumpet?
C'mon.  Your post damns most of the men on pof, on all dating sites, actually. There are millions of male souls on these sites, Darlin'. Does the spirit dwelling within really imbue you with that kind of power? Power, without the wisdom to wield it, or better yet, to refrain from unleashing the hounds, will corrupt. Really, how many men did you track to other wild sites looking to connect in those pools? If it's more than two dozen, then you must have found a part-time dream man to fill your life.
But let's stretch, reeeeallllly stretch, for a moment, and take what you say as gospel. The sexual act, imo, is a disclosing exercise-it really is difficult to hide behind your own nudity (Adam/Eve used fig leaves, remember?). In a real way, it's one of many ways to explore a potential life partner-a powerful way, maybe, and can be either an expediting agent to intimacy or a grenade that frags your foxhole. But it IS one very legitimate and even necessary path to the soul of another.
I don't know whether you tried that path before you reached your current commitment to your life partner, or even where you found your jewel (might even have been on pof, but I suspect not- sounds more like you've been somehow hurt, or felt that way, from your internet experiences).
I've spent a fair amount of time in this pool in the last 6 months, and I don't like it when somebody adds too much acid, specially the uric kind. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:06:15 AM | | Absolutely not. A true gentleman is just that...a gentleman. A first date should consist of respect and sincerity... a gentleman will appreciate a woman's company not for her body but rather her conversation, wit, and charm. Don't get me wrong...all men are "pigs"...but some of us have very realitic expectations and are looking for more than a one night stand. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 5:55:27 PM | I don't think ALL men want one night stands. I don't think MOST men want them. I do, however, think there are a large percentage who don't want to be in committed relationships and through outright lies or simply through their silence, will lead a particularly needy woman into believing otherwise. It's the old Man-wants-sex-but-can't-tell-Woman-truth-for-fear-of-not-getting-sex thing. You know, if I tell her I don't think of her as girlfriend/wife material she'll be mad at me and think I'm a sexist jerk of misogynist piggie and I really, really want to screw her so I'll keep my mouth shut until we screw and then I'll jet and tell all my friends I dropped her because she's psycho! LOL
Honestly OP, I think it's a communication thing first. Both men and women need to be honest with themselves and admit they either want or don't want a committed relationship then, and this is the part where we all slip up, stick to that decision! Don't give in to the loneliness, horniness, neediness or whatever "ness" because that's when jerks (Of the male and female variety) slide in to trap us.
But then again...if wishes were horses... | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/7/2009 9:20:53 PM | Whytwater, what is your problem? Who licked the red off your candy? I don't think it was me, and I'm not the only person who expressed the idea that most men (and I don't know what most women are looking for, never dated one) on these sites are looking for sex.
My "testimony" comes from EXPERIENCE, from meeting one a$$hole jerk after another who, once they found out there wasn't going to be a one nighter, disappeared never to be seen again. And many more who I never got past the email/phone stage with because that was their immediate topic of conversation, right after "what's your name?"
You've been here 6 months? Woo hoo. I have been on POF since 2005 (this is my second profile) and on the other sites off and on for years. So I'm not just making up my own experiences...are you saying I didn't have them? You are yammering about which you know nothing.
What does my religion have to do with anything? Are you offended that I have a belief system in place and you don't? I wouldn't insult your beliefs (or lack thereof) but I do believe that when you start attacking someones religion or anything else that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand, you have lost any credibility that you might have had. There are a lot of religious people on the forums. You have just collectively insulted them all.
And if you read the caption on my picture of my ring? You'll see where I met my "life partner" as you call it. You are so observant about picking apart what little there is to my profile, I'm real surprised you missed that.
My posts are what they are. My opinions. If you don't like them, you are ever so free not to read them. Do you really think I have the "power" to "damn" all the men on POF? Give these women on here some credit, they aren't nearly as stupid as you just made them out to be. Most of the women on the forums (the regular posters anyway) know what they are looking for and what they are not looking for. Nothing I post is going to influence anyone.
Save your silly lectures for someone who cares what you think. | |
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