| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 2:47:57 PM | It seems to me that women that feel as though "all" men are seeking only a one night stand may want to reconsider. Of course there are exceptions to the rule but most men are seeking something lasting. Now, that maybe only a few months or a few years but nevertheless something more then a one time romp.
The reason is that to actually discover a woman that is compatible both in bed as well as out of bed is something of a phenomena all itself. To in fact enjoy a woman that is fun, bubbly, out going and in the same sense great in bed is a find far and few between.
Therefore to develop a true friend with benefits takes much longer then hitting the sheets one time.
I have always contended that if a relationship is not great between the sheets then it's simply not going to work. Why the hell would anyone stay in a situation (relationship) with a less then enjoyable and fulfilling sex partner?
No matter if both are seeking a truly monogamous situation or a situation where one or both are seeking other to join them, become involved in swinging, doing threesomes or moresome, it most often can't be discovered in one play session unless both are widely and immediately open with the other, which happens about as often as a blue moon. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:04:37 PM | Sometimes an encounter is simply not good enough to repeat (on the man's or woman's side of things). Why beat it to death???
If it happens once, and never again then move on. Call it a learning experience, getting off, or a drunken night of fun. Whatever helps you get through to the person you want to spend more than one night with. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 4:19:12 PM | one night stands?
I can only speak for myself, but if a a lady likes you enough to sleep with you, (unless you are worthless in bed) she might want to sleep with you again. So why would any guy in his right mind want to "start from square one" all over again?
Never quite understood the whole "one night stand" idea. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:35:29 PM | "I can only speak for myself, but if a a lady likes you enough to sleep with you, (unless you are worthless in bed) she might want to sleep with you again. So why would any guy in his right mind want to "start from square one" all over again?
Never quite understood the whole "one night stand" idea."
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Or just turn things around and ask the same about women. You sleep together 3, 4, 5, 6... dozen or more times and then suddenly it's not interesting anymore. Why? It means that they have to start from square one again, too.
My experiences tell me that women are AT LEAST as much into ONS as guys are - AT LEAST! The only difference is that guys are more open about what they want. A lot of people still seem to believe that men are worse than women, but nothing could be further from the truth. Those with experience know exactly what I'm talking about. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:55:56 PM | meh, both males and females alike have the kind of people i think. I also believe its probably comprised more of the male over the female population lol....
Anyways overall id say its just the luck of the draw and the ladies were unfortunate in picking someone like that...we aren't all like that. Yes some seek sex, some passion, whatever the case maybe but like op said some relationships turn into long lasting ones because the passion keeps you coming back for me besides the obvious.
So dont worry...like the site's named...plenty of fish, just bait your hook and be patient
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/23/2009 10:26:11 AM | Leeanne - totally agree!!!
i feel the same way. i prefer to have the relationship over sex... sex randomly takes the meaning out of it.... it should be fun, passionate, and done with someone important in your life... granted, i would have a really hard time with relationship with no sexual activity..... but, i would try really hard for that someone to make sure they know i care...
the main reason why i have been single for a little while: dont want to get bs/drama, do not want to have one-night stands, and even though i am extroverted i am shy when it comes to asking out women... flirting is totally different from askin em out... i flirt with ppl i am not attracted to (bad habit) but i only commit myself to one... i get labeled for being a player but my intentions are not in sex.... flirtin is my way of getting in the door... if women would pick up the ball, flirt back, or even ask men out...the few guys like me wouldnt have a problem.. could it be rejection? sure could it be im afraid of being hurt again? sure... but if women would pick up on more subtle clues from male perspective then men wouldn't feel so obligated to do all the work... ex. men usually do not affectionate to females (ie hug or hand in middle of back) so if you know a guy friend or a potential bf do it, PAY ATTENTION. its our way of showing we care and to differentiate us between the a$$holes you tend to date | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/23/2009 10:39:26 AM | I read nothing in here just the headline and I went like this:
Not all men just want that, but many do.
Just play it right and don't give it up too easily | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/6/2009 10:38:04 AM | The guys that are heavily into one-night stands often succeed. They are aggressive and focussed, and in getting sex, just like selling door-to-door, aggressiveness, persistence, and single-mindedness pay off. Also, knocking on more doors helps. Of course, they would probably be better off in a long-term relationship with a woman, but they don't see it that way.
In a very young man, bedding huge numbers of women gets them admired. In an older man, it starts to look undignified and silly, as if they are trying to stay a kid forever. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/6/2009 5:58:36 PM | My wife divorced me when she caught me on one of the dating sites . She has
Lou Gehrigs Disease . This would have been 45 years . No intimatacy ,no adultry
and she divorced me............I was actually talking to a lady in N. M. by phone .
Divorce ? Give me a break !!!!! | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:46:15 PM | OP: Your second guess is probably right. Women who have hit paydirt are posting their successes less frequently than the women who have concerns about a connection which didn't work out.
And I agree about the one-night stands. For a guy, it usually just means that a particular date wasn't worth repeating. Doesn't mean that most guys are only into one-night stands. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:14:21 PM | | When I was younger...I did that, id hit it then runnnnn!!!!!!! Now, no- if the sex sucks- I'd never say, but I at least, at least...give a phone call- most women think they rock in bed- from lying men telling them so...I usuaally make up something, I am willing to meet them again for lunch, but not sexually again....I was bad when I was younger, I am sure I ruined it for other guys being dumb- I am reformed- I am kinda picky now. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:25:33 PM | Are most guys only into one night stands?
YES, ABSOLUTELY,
One night stands, every night of the week, 52 weeks a year, with the same angel :-) | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:52:38 PM | Most of my relationships go sexual pretty quickly, but I'm not a fan of one night stands. Sure, if time, geography, or circumstances conspire against you, one night may be all you get. If so, make the most of it and perhaps you will come out of it with a treasured memory. If you do have time, why end it at one night only?
If I decide I want to sleep with a woman, I usually am attracted to her on many different levels. There will be real affection there. After the first night (assuming all went welll), why in the hell wouldn't I want to spend more time with her. Its only after you have been together a couple of times that you can truly learn the secret desires, fantasies, and dreams of your partner, and then go about trying to make those a reality for her. Thats when sex really takes off | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:55:11 PM | Seems that some are only in it for the sex. "lost" a few cause I'm not looking to simply have sex for the sake of having sex. Course as the months without go by, so do my standards in that when I see that "one year no sex" mark coming I am much more likely to just go ahead and do it for myself if someone "special" presents an opportunity. Having gone 5.5 years without sex at one point in my life, I get kinda itchy remembering how awful that was...prime of my life and no bloke to play with.
I've had a few relationships begin with sex the first time out, but that was when I was younger. The problem with that is that you end up with someone who isn't necessarily a good match other than maybe in the sack.
And then there is the fact that guys (nowadays) who are into ONS mostly will not divulge that info at all. Last guy I slept with first night out, later complained to me that I gave it up to quick. Told him "put a steak in front of a starving dog, don't be surprised when it eats it...!"
Then others get pissed and others don't even try (lame). I do like the ones who "go for it". Nothing sweeter than a man who wants me and has the cojones to go for it. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:33:23 PM | | I know this is gonna be a shock but there are women out there who only want one night because they're cheating or the man just turns their crank and they have other things that they need to do full time. Women say a lot of platitudes but, they can be as spontaeneous as most men. The key is not the play but the actors. It's you not them. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:13:19 PM | | Just as there are many flavors of ice cream, so to are there many different kinds of men. I would say that the ones which live by the score and leave lifestyle do so because they can. Guys that women fall all over themselves to be with know they can go from one woman to the next and none will ever say no. It is the way things have always been with them, from the time they started dating females have been willing to do anything to get their attention, and so they have learned to take without ever giving back. If a woman doesn't want a one night stand she should be very careful about who she sleeps with. Sex is not going to keep a man loyal, and it will not make him love you. Develop the relationship first, after there is a solid level of emotional closeness then move towards the physical, it just will not work the other way around. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:29:04 PM | | Personally, I believe in a consenting one-night-stand. Put it out in the open before she 'opens up'. Could really spare any of the drama that might entail. Otherwise, if such a thing isn't brought up before, i'd just casually ask whether or not she wants to see me again (if staying over night, I would take that as a... 'better' sign) since if it happened in a drunken stupor, it could end up being one of those 'what the hell...' nights, and you both just go your own way after without much care. Depends on the situation, but in the end, I prefer honesty. If we click on the first night, yeah, I would love to go out again. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:42:29 PM | | I don't have these worries. A guy can't get into my pants that easily. If he isn't worth it, I'll know it soon enough. If I'm worth it, he'll wait till I trust him first. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:43:12 PM | | I'm into twice-a-week stands with the same girl. Yes, I want to keep coming back for more. We keep learning, growing spiritually and trying new things. Too much anxiety in the one-night-stand for me. | |
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