| | Are most guys only into one night stands?Page 5 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | The women that are complaining about one night stands have far too high expectations and have nothing more to offer. Find a beautiful ( beauty being in the eye of the beholder of course ) who can cook good, knows how to iron, has a job, has a car, has her own place, no kids ( or great kids ) and is not a demanding witch and you will find a woman with more marriage proposals than fingers to put the diamonds on.
Realisticly the sad truth in dating nowadays is that ( men ) and women just don't really have anything serious to offer except debt,hangups,issues,baggage, and bad sex. Back to school everyone and focus on the real skills needed to make each other happy and not the fantasies that abound making everyone miserable. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:06:22 PM | | It ain't just the men. If it were men that only wanted sex then why do WOMEN dominate pornography and not men? Nobody would be stupid enough to try to suggest that they all do it for the money. A lot of them do it because sex is fun to them and rewarding. Granted, the reward is stretched vagina that's like an imploded parachute and a lifetime's worth of STDs but don't tell the porn stars that. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:05:28 AM | | What is with the stretched vagina thing? Many partners does not equal a stretched vagina. If that was the case, evey woman who had a husband and steady partner for a few years would be echoing. Guys seem to have convinced themselves that any woman who has lots of partners will be stretched out and it's just not logical. It shows me that most men don't understand anything about the thing they love so much. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:20:01 AM | No, not at all. Most men would like a proper relationship, but many have given up on the games women play and simply try to get their needs met.
This is unfortunate for the minority of women who are genuine, decent and honest. | |
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bhi99
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:23:33 PM | lol
I've done 2 years of College and one night stands are a bit part of a culture for some people.
Not everyone, by any means, but for some.
Women and men alike.
I know some girls who are really driven to build their careers, and they honestly do not have a lot of free time, relationships are hard for them to manage because when they find a guy and want to make something they only see them maybe once a week, and the guy gets tired of this.
So then you have these types of girls go out once in a while to let off some steam.
This is the same for some guys, I know a guy who's put his heart and soul into Basketball, and he doesn't have time to build a healthy relationship because he also studies and then has to dedicate part of his life to training and games.
Sometimes he goes to another town and after a big game finds a girl for a one night stand, now maybe this is different because a girl usually knows what she's getting herself into, but he's told me stories of how he's had sex with a girl only an hour from him when he was their playing a game and she wanted a relationship but he didn't have the time. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:37:25 PM | Honestly, I hate one night stands. I don't like it at all when I make contact with a lady, either through on-line dating, a chat room or whatever means. We talk a lot, via emails and instant messages and/or phone calls. Things are sounding good. We agree to meet. I take the lady to a nice restaurant. We have a nice dinner. Nice conversation. I treat her like a lady the whole time. When done eating, we embrace and I ask if I can call her again, and she replies sure. I call her the next day and I get her answering machine. I write emails to her. No replies. Never hear another word.
SO.....NO I am NOT into One Night Stands! Any other questions? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:09:35 AM |
I take the lady to a nice restaurant. We have a nice dinner. Nice conversation. I treat her like a lady the whole time. When done eating, we embrace and I ask if I can call her again, and she replies sure. I call her the next day and I get her answering machine. I write emails to her. No replies. Never hear another word.
I agree one night stands suck. Of course in this situation, I don't feel it was a one night stand, sex did not happen. This is known as a one night date. How she dismisses you is wrong, if people would be more upfront and honest, things like this wouldn't happen. A somle "Hey, you're a great guy but I just don't feel things clicking with us." would work, right?
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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:35:47 AM | *~*Karen*~* : I appreciate your comment. I just think "one night stand" from a male perspective sounds more effective and less generic than "one night date". If she feels aren't clicking with us, maybe she should offer to pay her half or maybe pay the tip? I know theres another thread going around covering this topic:
Should she have paid for her share of meal ?
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12475130.aspx
but its so true. This is tough economy we are living in, and lots of guys just don't have lots of money to throw around, especially on some women who are ungreatful, unappreciative and don't know how to say thank you.
Remember too, the question Are most guys only into one night stands? implies that its only men who are only into one night stand. For ever man who is into one a ONS there has to be an equal amount of women who are also willing. Life is about taking a chance. There's no guarantees. Why put a tag on it? ONS? Just go out and enjoy life. Its so short. Be happy and Enjoy! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 10:59:43 AM | Edster...think about it. Why would a woman complain of a one night stand when SHE participated in it?
Firstly, all this bullshit men feed women here about it being "okay" to sleep with a guy on the first date IF the chemistry is right, blah blah blah, bullshit...they are just so freaking hopeful they'll get laid, they are hoping to do some serious marketing without realizing their bloody testosterone is making them do it.
Unless an ADULT female is ready to have some one-hit-wonder sex...she really shouldn't be sleeping with a dude the first freaking night she meets him.
If she does, I don't see where her complaining has any salt to it. I mean if she hasn't learned how it works yet, there isn't much hope for her common sense to kick in any time soon.
Simple...if you don't want one night stands...DON'T sleep with a guy unless you are sure he's after more.
And no man is going to make the rules about my sex life. I'm surprised women even bother to ask men how it "should" be done or if it's "okay" to want sex just for sex or that any woman here even still worries whether a guy will think you a slut if you have X sexual partners...blah, blah, blah...
So much approval seeking.
OP...women complain because they thought that having sex with him would make him appreciate her more. They were disappointed by their own belief. Sex doesn't give you love...one would think that's a no-brainer. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:20:11 AM | | I don't get the whole one night stand thing either, if a woman is will to have sex with me you can bet I'm going to be seeing her more than just once. That in and of itself is good for at least 2 months. Even if she wasn't that good I would still come back a few times. There has to be more to these stories then what we are hearing. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:23:24 AM | The only one night stand i want is the kind that lasts for 52weeks of every year for the rest of my life,no other kind will do.
I have seen girlfriends who have had one night stands and regretted it for the rest of there life,it aint worth it we only get hurt in the long term.
Come on guys be honest if all you want is one night stands then say so from the start then we girls know what we have let ourselves in for,the truth doesnt cost anything but you could gain a lot of respect.
Take care
Celia xx   | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:33:54 AM |
Come on guys be honest if all you want is one night stands
Same holds true of you gals. Be honest if all you are looking for is a free meal! Say so from the start then we guys know what we have let ourselves in for,the truth doesnt cost anything but you could gain a lot of respect. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:37:57 AM | The women that are complaining about one night stands have far too high expectations and have nothing more to offer. Find a beautiful ( beauty being in the eye of the beholder of course ) who can cook good, knows how to iron, has a job, has a car, has her own place, no kids ( or great kids ) and is not a demanding witch and you will find a woman with more marriage proposals than fingers to put the diamonds on.
OMG - this one got me laughing so hard, I almost fell off my chair.... 
WHO??? has the "far too high expectations" in this one?
@GQ sunset... I am beautiful in my world... I can cook... I can iron... I have a job... I have a car.... I have my own place... I have great kids.... but OOPS! - I am a demanding witch... well a witch, that is for sure (btw - what is wrong with witches?) ... and yes, I guess I would also be considered demanding by your standards.... I demand that he have all the same qualities! ... must be why I don't have the marriage proposals and diamonds rolling off my fingers.
OP - I think both men and women are into one nite stands... it takes two to tango | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:09:06 PM | Yes. Both sides do it. If two adults decide that they want to have one great night of sex, then fine. Thats if either partner is capable of doing it safely and not developing an emotional issue over it. I have been asked to bed by female that I knew. She just wanted to do it, one time, that was it. I did not stand there and say, "Sorry babe, but I'm currently unavaliable for such activities." It was great! Yes, I thought about her quite a bit afterwards, and I admit I wanted more, but thats not what she wanted. She had made it clear and did not leave me in a confused, dissapointed state.
But to only be into one night stands? Hell no. I like solid, steady relationships that involve love. But thats just me. I would rather come home every day to the same woman than to pick up a different girl everynight. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:19:19 PM | | I don't like one night stands. I never knew this though until it happened. I met someone online and talked to them for a while. She kept hinting towards meeting and having fun. I developed an attraction to her physically and from the conversations. She came over one night, and i could immediately tell she just wanted to have sex. We did, and then she left. That was it. That's all she wanted, even though i wanted more than sex. I felt like a POS, and it was a bit depressing. Now i know that i don't like one night stands. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:23:00 PM | | One night stands are stupid....Id rather be with the same woman many times rather than many women only once! And I really respect a woman who is not looking for strictly sex on the first date and is willing to commit to something more. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:03:39 AM | | if someone ends up in a one night stand, i personally feel they have no one to blame but themselves. i have no issue with people having sex if they both are in agreement. yet, if u sleep with someone and barely know them and their intentions, u risk what comes along with that decision. | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:29:41 AM | | It seems like everybody is hurt by one thing and they judge everybody like they are thing that hurt them way back in the day. Why cant everybody enjoy life for what is and stop worrying and whining about how they think others look at them. I dont know if that made any sense at all, but I live my life by those two sentences. And not every man is looking for an one night stand. If it happens, so be it. What is the big deal? I had a one night stand once and the relationship lasted 3.6 years. Good luck everyone with your search of true happiness. "Father Ted" is a great TV show and should be watched. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:50:37 PM | Well I didnt get to read all the thread replies, however I am hearing this more and more from the guys I am "chatting" with on here. THAT WOMAN ARE JUST AS BAD nowdays. Time and time again I have heard that woman just as much get on her wanting a one night stand, and I believe its because they are married/or desperate or lonely or just like to have sex with no committments. I however am not that way but wanted to comment on this thread.
Is it true men? How many of you have been emailed by a woman just wanting to have sex with you? Or I have heard they are wanting sugar daddy's too.
I am old fahioned in my values, I believe that sex should be cherished and made special between two people that truly love each other, sex is just the bonus that comes from two that want to share themselves on a deeper level of connection. Its sad to me to hear how many give that "special" part of them away so easily. how they let strangers invade their most initmate parts of their being. I dont get it. I am proud that i have only let a few ever know me that deep and on that level. Not everyone deserves to know me that way.... I guess I honor myself and have different values......
One night stands really dont help.. they mostly hurt others in the end..........
that is my two sense anyway.... | |
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| Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:02:50 AM | I never had a one night stand. I prefer to date a girl for a while and if works well stay as long as I can. And besides, I found out that the hard way that sex without love or passion is empty and pointless. Kinda like masturbation.  | |
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