| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:50:16 PM | | i have had an interesting experience with a young lady of that race before, but turns out (she was racist.)but thats another story but bottom line is although she was how was you should always remember that...WOMEN ARE WOMEN AND PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE REGARDLESS OF CULTURE.so with that don't get discourage just keep talking with her and if things look strange (as with any other woman) leave it alone and keep on. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:47:25 AM | Thanks for the input guys.
It seems that no one has any DIRECT experience of SCAMS of this type.
BTW I am from England and know the communication is not coming from an American as the language being used in the emails does not contain American English.
The question is also not only about me, and my situation, it is to highlight that people from all over are scamming and we should keep it uppermost in peoples mind.
Take care everyone! | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:53:19 AM |
Um, geisha is Japanese
Um, who cares?! A point was being made...I have no intent of getting a grade on my comments. [quote/]
There's no need to be so defensive. The poster was was just trying to educate you. You should be thankful as he has made you smarter than you were before. People will take you more seriously in the future if you sound like you actually know a few things.
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:58:49 AM |  Wow...now POF also heightens and brightens my intellect. Yeah...I DO learn something new daily...especially how some people take these forums a waaaay too seriously!
Actually, being a fan of the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha" I knew that. However, I was simply stating the irony that the same ASIAN gals seeking a green card hubby...will be here posting about how they are treated like sh1t...like a SLAVE. Is that better? Or would you like to now educate me on how a geisha is NOT a slave?! | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:08:35 AM | OP, I don't think that it's really possible to answer your question with a simple yes/no. Anybody that you meet could be a "scammer": the girl at the local pub, the coworker, the pen pal. I don't think the fact that she's Chinese is really important. What is a factor is that she's far away and there's no risk to her. It's hard for you to gage her personality and since she's in another country she could "scam" lots of guys and nobody could ever prosecute her.
You just have to use your head. If it looks like you're in the position where you could be exploited and there's minimal risk for her, then you should probably just say, "the hell with it, I'm going to find myself another girl". If she's just a pen pal, and you're just enjoying her correspondence then there's really no harm. Just be smart about it. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:18:35 AM |
Wow...now POF also heightens and brightens my intellect. Yeah...I DO learn something new daily...especially how some people take these forums a waaaay too seriously!
Actually, being a fan of the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha" I knew that. However, I was simply stating the irony that the same ASIAN gals seeking a green card hubby...will be here posting about how they are treated like sh1t...like a SLAVE. Is that better? Or would you like to now educate me on how a geisha is NOT a slave?!
Amazing... you've managed to miss the point entirely. I'm utterly astounded. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:48:18 AM |
Amazing... you've managed to miss the point entirely. I'm utterly astounded.
Maybe this will astound you further and you can crap your pants, next...
The entire point to THIS forum thread is "Chinese ladies....are they scammers?" Not my analogies or examples or humor.
This reminds me of how someone post 26 times, correcting someone's grammar, spelling, or typing in all caps. (OK...the latter is annoying, but you CAN just send them a PM or post ONCE, informing of such!) | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:50:29 AM | Most Chinese women don't drink, don't smoke, don't go to bar, and is family oriented and loyal. If one can speak English, she should be well-educated and smart. Most of them have good shapes, have good careers, have houses with debt free. Not too many people need to pay mortgage in China except those young couples.
Don't stereotype to guess Chinese women. However, good and bad are everywhere... | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 10:05:51 AM | The correct one should be:
Are Chinese ladies scammers? Are American ladies scammers? Are European ladies scammers? ...etc. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:19:15 AM | It is better that people are scammers, because it doesn't categorize scam people into different culture.
The correct statement should be: Some people are scammers but most not! | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 11:19:29 AM |
I can't speak for others...but I can tell you a little about the traditional Chinese customs as I know it...and they're genuine. Bear in mind, that I have been brought up in England, so it may not be the complete picture, and it's FYI only.
Hi, Miss_Traditional;
You've injected facts and reason into a discussion on the forms. Thanks, but watch out... this is rare and can upset people. 
To the OP; yes, there are scammers in China, just as there are scammers in Russia, Mexico, and the US. I had one lady start off early by asking me to pay some of her expenses.; she was from the US. I had another lady during, our first conversation, offer to marry me (without me asking) if I would put her through medical school; she was from the Philippines. Dishonest people can be found anywhere. Pay attention to how the person acts and what they say, no matter where you meet the person. Get involved in a long-distance relationship is riskier, more difficult, and more expensive, so think about what you are getting into.
Speaking from my experience, the friends that I have with the happiest marriages are often, but not always, men that married ladies from an Asian country. I knew many men when I was in the army that had married women that they met while in Korea; most were very happy. About the ones that were not happy, that old saying comes to mind... you can take the girl out of the bar but you cannot take the bar out of the girl. 
I work with men that have married ladies from the Philippines and from Mexico; they too seem happy and their marriages have lasted beyond the green card time limit. So, success can happen but it is not guaranteed, no matter where you meet the lady.
Something that people don't seem to realize is that international relationships are just another form of outsourcing. If you look at it like that then the arguments against it take on a new light. It is nothing new; it has happened since the 1940s at least and the growth of the Internet has made introductions easier. Prior to the Internet it was mostly military members that met the lady overseas, generally in Japan, Korea, Germany, or the Philippines. There are honest and dishonest people on both sides, so you need to be careful and think about what you are doing, just as you must even if you met the lady across town.
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:08:50 PM | I think a large number of foreign contacts are scammers, some are probably sincere. The problem is how do you determine that with someone so far away. In my view it takes months to get to know someone when they live nearby, if they live thousands of miles away, I don't understand how you can effectively do that. That said, I did work with one guy who met his wife online, she lived in Japan. Of course he was from Japan , had family there and traveled there once a year, so he did get to meet her. But I think these cases are rare.
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:05:07 PM | "I think a large number of foreign contacts are scammers, some are probably sincer."
Scammers are everywhere. I met a guy a few years ago, he met a woman online from Texas. She came to visit him they got along well, he introduced her to all his business contacts and she was going to move to his town for him. She went home after a lovely weekend, called him and told him she needed 2k to make the move and she would pay him back. He almost did it, but decided to test her, he had a friend of his from another small Texas town email her. She offered him the same deal. Keep in mind these guys paid for her weekend trips , than she would try to scam them for 2k... How often she got away with it is anyones guess.... Oh BTW my friend was DEA. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:17:07 PM |
Firstly, I am a Chinese female, but I am not from China...
I am British born, but I also hold traditional Chinese values.
Don't try to defend yourself or others from China to these bitter women that are mad because they can't find a date on POF, or eHarmony or anywhere else for that matter. Well, I guess they could at their local bar. At two in morning. After the guy has put away half a gallon of alcohol.
Yes, there are scammers in China and in Nigeria and in Russia and, guess what, in the United States, too. But, the way things are going nowadays, I'd take a nice, feminine Chinese woman over most American femiNazis. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:23:10 PM |
It seems that no one has any DIRECT experience of SCAMS of this type.
gee305, what it comes down to is this, if she starts asking for money or if she is professing her undying love for you without ever having met you, there's a 99% chance that she is trying to scam you. If these things aren't happening and she seems genuine in her emails to you and the two of you are getting to know each other before making any life-long plans, then keep it up and see where it takes you.
And don't listen to one freakin' word that the American ice queens are tossing around about how American men looking for foreign brides are losers and can't find a mate. If they could find a mate they wouldn't have time to spread their racist B.S. here in the forums. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:29:58 PM | "Don't try to defend yourself or others from China to these bitter women that are mad because they can't find a date on POF, or eHarmony or anywhere else for that matter. Well, I guess they could at their local bar. At two in morning. After the guy has put away half a gallon of alcohol."
Alrighty then, put down your crack pipe and actually read the thread...
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/19/2008 10:49:00 PM | | That's weird, a lot of people seem to think that the scams are actually women. When there Russian bride scams or anything that they ask you to send money when communicating on the internet, I never actually figured there was a real Russian woman behind it. I always assumed it was men who were pretending to be women. So I can understand if there are now "women in China" scams going on, but I think it's ridiculous and racist to start going on about the characteristics of Chinese women in relation to this. Shame on the people in this thread who say they are "pro-diversity" or whatever, but don't even recognize their own racism. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:17:30 PM |
Actually, being a fan of the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha" I knew that.
How unusual that they used Chinese actors/actresses to play Japanese characters instead of Japanese actors/actresses. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:42:48 PM | OK Caucasian men ?? watch out on what you wrote about American women, there will be a sarcasm and downgrading those women from asia, and it wont be nice reading this forums.There's always jealousy between asian women and american women . The only thing i know is that in all races there are some bad ones and good ones. Good luck to you OP, its only you who can help yourself by analizing the situation and be careful of any money offering.  | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 4:05:45 PM |
How unusual that they used Chinese actors/actresses to play Japanese characters instead of Japanese actors/actresses.
I've heard this happens often...there was a big deal about it once with a Hispanic or Latin American role, once.
There's always jealousy between asian women and american women .
I am sure you are correct, although I personally have never been jealous of an Asian woman...I have never had an Asian friend! Don't ask me why...just has not happened! LOL But I do think it is more about cultural misunderstandings...or just plain not believing in some of the same...which may come across as jealousy. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 4:57:49 PM | | American women are tall, beautiful, and independent. They are just great. I am never jealous of them but do like to learn from them. American women and Asian women should learn good from each other... | |
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