| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 5:00:47 PM | | NO THE SCAMMERS ARE USUALLY MEN CHECK OUT THE WEB SITE WWW.STOPSCAMMERS.COMTHIS WEB SITE POST ALL SCAMMERS REPORTED NEVER SEND ANY MONEY TO ANY WOMAN OR MAN LADIES.FOUND THIS WEB SITE A LOT OF RUSIIAN WOMAN SO BE CAREFULL OUT THERE | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:57:58 PM | | i agree with lucilou and dumpling girl. that's right there is good and bad in everyone's race,so no race is better than the other. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/21/2008 12:23:13 AM | A very nice lady in China wrote to me. She asked if I would go there to meet the one I loved. I said I would, but I had to meet her first to see if I loved her. Still she persisted. I told her that loving me was very difficult, and I got very explicit that the extremes of sexuality to which I would subject her were daunting. I suggested that she come meet me. I also asked why she didn't find a nice Chinese man. Was I fair?
I seem to have discouraged her, though for the life of me I don't know how. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/21/2008 12:52:47 AM | Wellll i knew a nice lady at my work she married a nice american guy . But she also has a habit of going back to the Phillipines were she came from, and hooking up with the supposed real love of her life! She told me all this and also just had to show me pictures of her big house and big pool, and new car. You can't catagorize a whole country but, this women definetly was playing her husband and liked to flaunt it to me, her co-worker that she didn't know at all and had just met 3 days ago. And she was so god dam two faced, she had te guts to say "I would never date a black guy, they are dirty!" I think this made her feel more elite by putting down another race, though im white. Funny thing is just before i quit they hired a new girl and she was black, i bet now she's talking shiz about me........ | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/21/2008 4:41:12 AM | I think one needs to consider at the beginning of a potential relationship what one's willing to do to make it work. Domestically, long-distance relationships can be tough enough to make work. Add in cultural differences, time zone differences (i.e. when are you actually going to be able to call each other), and possible immigration concerns and you're going to have a long road ahead of you before realizing a successful relationship.
From the US perspective, Canada, the NATO countries, and Mexico are the easiest to deal with in terms of immigration issues. Japan and the rest of western Europe is usually little more hassle than the countries I listed previously. Most of the rest of the world is a crapshoot: some people have no problems being granted a visa while another person from the same country gets held up for years in red tape. China's a sticky situation, since there's been bad blood between the Chinese and U.S. governments for a long time and there's been a history of certain (only a small minority, of course) Chinese nationals coming to the US primarily to engage in espionage and theft from major US companies for their Chinese employers. So I would expect a detailed investigation (i.e. a long wait) to try to rule out such ill motives of a Chinese adult from the INS before they're allowed anything more than a standard travel visa. And at the extreme you've got a handful of countries the US is openly hostile to (e.g. Cuba, Iran, North Korea, Syria) from which gaining admission to the US ranges from difficult to virtually impossible (though somewhat easier if they escape those countries and can ask for asylum).
As far as scammers go, they're everywhere: men and women of all races and religions around the world. There's plenty in the US to cover the entire world. As others have said, any request for money is usually a very bad sign. Early pressure for marriage to "grease the skids" or a visa or green card (or in one story I've heard, outright smuggling into the US absent any visa) is also a red flag. My personal policy is that would constitute grounds for terminating any relationship (at least in the first year or so), but it's up to you to make that call for yourself. But if your relationship with a Chinese blossoms, just be prepared to handle lots of bureaucratic BS before getting to "happily ever after". If you decide it's worth the hassle, then I wish you the best. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/21/2008 5:52:23 AM | I spent 7 months loyal to mine and $4000 to go meet her in HK. I got a US Passport and Chinese Visa. A week before I arrived the e-mail came in saying lets just be friends. We had already had everything setup; hotel an all. We had already talked about K1 Fiance Visa. I suggest you find a nice loyal American woman. Hey try a Canadian or Mexican.
She made a nice friend, holding hands and hanging all over me in public. Still, she would never stay in my Hotel for more than a few minutes before insisting we go out. The day after we returned from Shenzhen I was very sick and she did take care of me.
I think this one really loved me, but the last day I was there she told me her ex-husband beat up her and her daughter.
I loved her, but I had a bad feeling. No regrets, because she tried her best.
The question is do you want to take the chance and put all the time into something that even if it works, the US Government does not like to allow single women into America
You could wait 18 months before she gets her K1 Visa. You will need a Immaigration Attorney too.
Your call?
Ed | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:04:12 AM | a woman who tries to take advantage of your status from overseas = scammer
a woman who tries to take advantage of your money locally = gold digger
so...who can you really trust now-a-days? | |
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| Who wants to take whose advantages?
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:10:02 PM | | Does anyone knows that this year having the dinner with Warren Buffet was sold by auction for 2.1 million dollars? | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:29:55 PM | gee305,
The type of scams you are thinking about come from Russia and Ghana. In my experience if a woman from China has been communicating with you it's a very good bet she is being sincere.
However, you do need to think about what you are doing. As a previous poster has mentioned, you will have to put up a lot of money before you even meet her. She won't come to your country......that wouldn't be right. It's her culture that dictates the man comes to her. In China it is common for a younger woman to have an older husband.
Scams from Russia and Ghana.......the pictures of VERY pretty women are sent to you. And they ALWAYS have the same interests as you. If you enjoy playing pool...you will get a picture of her playing pool. In most cases the women are in their early 20s.........and of course they fall in love with you in 3 days or less.
Now................................WHY can't 23 year old American women fall in love with us 49 year old guys? | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/23/2008 3:49:59 PM | | About a year and a half ago I was on a Filipina kick and wrote a few of them. The ones I was interested in were very nice and sweet, but all ended up asking for money for one reason or another, mother needs medication, girl needs money for nursing school, money for traveling paperwork, money for birthday party, etc...As soon as they asked for money I knew it was over. Never sent any and they leave pretty quick when they don't get it. Good luck with the chinese girl, I never went that direction. | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:15:03 PM | | Did anyone know that this year having the dinner with Warren Buffet was sold by auction for 2.1 million dollars? Why the person liked to pay so much money for having the dinner with Warren Buffet? | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:25:14 PM | I am well versed on this topic and here is import information. If you are dealing with anyone from a country where (lets say China for example) the average pay is $150 a month the tempation is so great for them to want to cash in by hooking up with someone from a country where the average pay is ten times that or more. It is really that simple. AND it is hard to blame them for wanting a better life. Some just really want t a better life, but the problems start when they are willing to do anything to get it. A red flag to look for is, do they ask you questions about yourself. If they don't then that should tell you they really don't care who you are they just want something better.
Believe me I know...
Paul | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:47:26 PM | There are two basic reasons for concerns here.
1. You make 10 to 30 times what she makes so there is big incentive to her to hook up with you for all the wrong reasons
2. If she does get here on a fiance visa she is locked into the relationship. If the relastioship fails so goes her greencard. The problem this presents is that if she lies and says you beat her she gets her greencard with out you.
In my opinion Chinese women have the most beaututiful skin and this make them very atractive, but it is a double edged sword.
Be careful and forewarned.
Then there is the cultural differences. I could tell you about it, but you still wouldn't understand. It is far different than we know.
Paul | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:30:18 PM | Virgilskid- Sorry that happened to you, like what I said dont give any money untill you are sure she is for real. If you are really interested, ask her if you could come and visit her. She probably came from a very poor family. Philippines is a very poor country , we have so many people who doesnt have a job, most of them are college graduate and no job. I am one of the lucky one that able to go to college and went to school in Georgia for post graduate, I came from a middle class family, we have money but not rich. I was able to come to States as student for post grad school right after a year of degree in nursing. And I came from the Philippines too, I cant deny that some of those ladies are scammer but not all. If you look for lady in my country be sure you pick an educated one, they wont ask you for money , they just want a husband to love to get out of the poor country and be able to find a decent job abroad. I brought my 2 sons to the Philippines and they saw those beggars and poor people digging for food in the trash, its only then that they appreciate how lucky they are to be in the USA and be able to go to school. We dont have public school, no money no school. For those who didnt go to school they dont know how to speak English. The only time we speak English is in school, our medium of communication is English in school only. For me education is the only thing I could give my children that they will not lose. Well!! I think I over did lots of info about asian women. Sorry ladies and gentlemen. Have a good night to everyone. Lucilou    | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:07:09 PM | | Not many Chinese women make money $100k. However, they aren't poor. Many guys here told me they make money over $100k, but they need to pay mortgage until they are 70s or 80s. However, they think life is short. Maybe hanging out with these men for a while not for a lifetime is a good thing for those Chinese women. However, most Chinese women look for their life partners. They take good care of themselves and their families and keep having happy long lives. | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/24/2008 10:05:32 AM |
A very nice lady in China wrote to me. She asked if I would go there to meet the one I loved. I said I would, but I had to meet her first to see if I loved her. Still she persisted. I told her that loving me was very difficult, and I got very explicit that the extremes of sexuality to which I would subject her were daunting. I suggested that she come meet me. I also asked why she didn't find a nice Chinese man. Was I fair?
I seem to have discouraged her, though for the life of me I don't know how.
I think you did the right thing. Not all women are smart. As she never meets you, how could she love you? Foolish talking... If one has a lack of education, what for her to come to this country? If one couldn't have a good life in her own country, how could she have a good life in another country? Culture and language are all difficult things to fit into her life. | |
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| Who takes whose advantages?
Posted: 7/24/2008 3:04:43 PM |
They're not interested in you or your company.
That pretty much sums it up for everyone who is escaping poverty and trying to support those back home....Now for Japanese and Korean women I think they're in it for the romance. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 3:37:40 PM | | Lucilou, you look fantastic. I cannot believe you are 61, I would've guessed you to be my age, if not a little younger. There was no harm done by the filipinas I corresponded with, it's just a shame because I was being very earnest and after running in to 6 or so that just wanted money, I lost interest. I like the asian girls, filipinas in particular, because many are smart and educated, petite, pretty, great skin and age well, case in point - you. When I was in the Navy I had a filipino friend and learned alot about the culture from him. He told me how traditionally they are raised to be faithful and respectful, which appeals to me after being cheated on in my marriage. I don't need a servant girl which is why many men go for the asian girls, I want a partner. Now I'm seeing a peruvian girl, so you just never know why things happen. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 3:50:03 PM | | Yes i have met a few scammers on here.First they start out by telling you that they miss you and what to know where you work.And then they tell you that they love you and want to be with you.Then they tell you that they have money problems or there family member is sick and need money to help them.Or they need money to put them in the hospital or get out of the hospital.But yes you have to watch your self with scammers on any dating site.Not just this one but there are other.Good luck.feel free to ask me about anything else about scammers..I have had my full of them | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 3:51:30 PM | | i'm close friends with 3 asian women....all 3 want big money, and 2 of them have no problem cheating on their husband | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 4:10:31 PM | kissable0325:
in defense of "american ice queens"
it takes a man with CHARM, CONFIDENCE, AND SKILLS to make any american woman "hot"...we are an intellectual, financial, and emotional challenge...so a man that would make us "HOT" has to rise up to those standards
by the way...dude ur not kissable | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 4:44:54 PM | Gee!!! Thank you Virgilskid, its the asian thing, we dont ussually aged early lol. Good luck to your Peruvian girl. Sorry that your ex cheated on you, I had the same thing happen but life must go on . So there's a lot of scammers in all races.  | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 6:05:34 PM | ...am asking myself the same question, although this is not my problem. A friend has been corresponding back and forth in the last couple of months with the woman in China. He is visiting now and I just got reply all the way from there, that he is very happy and that he is certain that he has met a woman of his dreams, already thinking about marriage before the end of the year.
... I don't know, but I hope that all this is to be true six months from today and a year from now. Nobody knows only time will tell. Praying  | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 6:17:01 PM | | This sounds all too familiar. I wish him all the happiness in the world, but he is in for a few surprises. Does she question him about who he is? his likes and dislikes... who is family is... his relationship with his parents... This is usually the dead give away that she doesn't really care about him. Does he understand what saving face is and how intrenched it is in her culture. She most likely is shaking her head yes to everything he says, because she cannot say "I don't understand what you are saying". Does he understand her commitment to mother and father. Will he be supporting them. Her skin is perfect, she is very pretty and she has tons of poise. Good luck to him. Share this with him. | |
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| Chinese ladies are they scammers??
Posted: 7/24/2008 6:36:13 PM | needavacation, I assume your post was directed to me? If so, I have many question marks, ????- because I am tiny concerned about few things, although she may very well be - 'the one' for him. I have backed off because first of all, I don't like to intrude on other people's lives and secondly I found his obsessive preoccupation with the whole idea of being with 'Chinese' versus any other woman that he would be naturally attracted to raised some red flags -it is about objectifying the person, attraction based on ethnicity - something is wrong here.
It has been very intense emailing back and forth. While I understand the attraction and wanting to explore the possibilities, why not... but there are buts. It has been only a week since his departure, but I have heard "marriage" word even before he set his sails off to China. I will keep my mouth zipped for now, but I am just not convinced. If you peek on my profile, you will see where I live, currently I am in the area I consider 'a little Shanghai' , why not meeting someone here, you see... but Chinese women born and raised here are much more sophisticated and less insecure, so...I am raising my brow. | |
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