| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/20/2008 5:58:36 AM | I have been stood up so many times I feel like the Statue of Liberty! The past 4 years I think the successful dates have been barely a dozen. Oh what about friends that make promises to hang out and do things and they blow you off? 
I just dont get it .. it tends to make you feel like your not worthy of friendship OR romance. So what does one do?
Advice gang .. Im about ready to give up on all accounts and alot of these dates are people that I have met face to face as well. Not internet meetings either.. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/20/2008 6:19:11 AM | | I've stood a couple up, from here and in real life. Sometimes things sound cool on the phone the night before but the next day reality steps in and you realize you're really not digging that person enough to want to meet them. But hey, we get what we give. Have been stood up as well. | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/20/2008 6:31:08 AM | I do not do that. I do go on dates in which I won't call the other person back again. At that point it is because there was no attraction,and I only knew this after we meet (80% or so). Or something they said,or did really came up as a "red flag" (no match,no more dates) (another 15% of the total) Smoking,being married, Talking about sex,(for or against), Trying to drag me (unwillingly) into bed , questioning everything and being scared of me.
And yes there is still 5% left. Thank God for them. Now where are they?  | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:34:12 PM | Hi again,
I was thinking today, I am a very busy woman with a demanding job and not as much time as I would like to accept the many social invitations extended to me (not just dates).
Time is literally money to me, and I would expect the same courtesy from anyone on this site that they would extend to a business client: at the very least notifying someone that they were unable to keep to our arrangement and apologise for their absence.
As I posted earlier, I was stood up last Saturday night - without any subsequent apology or explanation - after turning down two other dates for that evening, plus one other purely social invitation. This aside, there are a 100 other things I could have done aside from having my precious time wasted.
So my suggestion is.... do the time wasters who don't have the werewithal to show up - or even the courtesy to notify you that they are not able to do so - deserve to be named and shamed so that other POF users may be warned in advance that they may have a wasted evening on their hands?
Or would that create anarchy on the boards?
Just a suggestion..... | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:57:25 PM |
Interestingly, he's now back up on POF with two different profiles in two different cities with a different marital status listed on each site, AND he has been playing peek-a-boo with my profile.
Uh, Dude ............ WAY lame.
Hmmm...perhaps he needs to be reported to the administrators....walking away whistling and with hands in my pocket....for I know nothing about this subject.  | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:37:22 AM | ive never stood anyone up, if i changed my mind or something came up , i would always call with plenty of time for the date to have not spent time and money getting ready/travelling/booking entertainment -tables or watever...
on the other hand i have been stood up about 6 times this year alone, and once where he txt me about 10 mins before i was due to meet him and said he wasnt ready to date after only splitting from a partner 8 months ago.. we had been talking for a couple weeks and not once did he mention this, i even txt him earlier that day to say i was looking forward to meeting him and was eveything still ok..? he was fine at that point...
i see it as a real lack of manners... | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:39:30 AM | To avoid being stood up just maintain CELL PHONE COMMUNICATION" throught the time you are going to meet! Don't just plan to meet some one at a bar or any place with no communication. "I'm on my way", "I'm here", "I'll be there in 20 minutes".
Don't just go to the place and wait hoping that person shows up. This is the age of cell phones, text messages and on the go Internet. There is no reason to just go wait for someone at a place hoping we don't get stood up!! | |
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:50:41 AM | i have had to change plans, i've changed my mind and cancelled but i have never made a plan and failed to show up without every effort to communicate with the person first.
there was one guy here who stood me up three times in a row!
i still cannot believe i gave him three chances to do that, and you know what?
he came back at me to go out again!
ummmm....no thanks :)
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| How many men vs women have been stood up?
Posted: 7/28/2008 1:40:56 PM | Get stood up all the time. I don't get it. Ask... Blue Collar vs Suit & Tie.
Don't know and don't get it. They ask me out agian. I am consertative in dress, kind, sweet, nice, personable. I am trying to figure this out myself.
Others are with me when I am ask out and do not understand what is going on. A few on here and many not. Hard to figure out. | |
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