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Posted: 7/21/2008 10:34:49 AM | This is the kind of opinion and honesty women really never want, but here goes.
You're a good FB, but it's not love. Since you two have been together before, he knows you and knows he doesn't love you, but DOES like you and considers your bed time quite acceptable. It will never be more. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 1:57:06 PM | Okay take this with a grain of salt, cuz goodness knows I am horrible at understanding "guy". Everyone's comments CRACK me up! "I would do anything for you" that IMO is where the BS starts and you can't beleive a thing he says. Actions speak louder than words and he's laying it on a bit thick. I've learned (the hard way) that when anyone starts saying things like that, or "I'm the best freind you'll every have" blah, blah, that it and them are crap. Just my thoughts. Tell him to put his money where his mouth is - what do you REALLY need right now? Someone to help your sick mom? A kidney? Then you' ll know.  | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 1:57:40 PM |
"I like you a lot too. It's would be easy to completely fall for you."
"So what's stopping you?"
"I don't want to cross that line, for fear of standing alone"
What is this, a soap opera? Who talks like that?
Ok, sorry, couldn't resist. Jazz is right... communication is the key here. If you value your relationship, you must communicate, be honest with each other, and trust each other with your hearts. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:03:18 PM | | Men are simple creatures - don't try to read any more into it than what he said. In fact, read less into it. He really, really likes you. He's not ready for the love thing. Be happy that you have someone that likes you that much. Don't dwell on it and don't pick at it. Just let it be. Otherwise you may force him into a corner he doesn't want to be in. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 7:53:21 AM |
"I would do anything for you" that IMO is where the BS starts and you can't beleive a thing he says. Actions speak louder than words and he's laying it on a bit thick. I've learned (the hard way) that when anyone starts saying things like that, or "I'm the best freind you'll every have" blah, blah, that it and them are crap. Just my thoughts. Tell him to put his money where his mouth is - what do you REALLY need right now? Someone to help your sick mom? A kidney? Then you' ll know.
Not TOO bitter are you lol?
Now there ARE limits, for eg: if your "sick mom" a pain in the ass? Is she a typical Mother in law? Is she really sick or does she just have a cold?
As for a kidney: There are 4 people in this world that I would donate my spare if they needed it. I know they'd do the same for me. Would YOU do the same? If your answer is NO, they why knock a guy for feeling the same as you? As I said: there are limits. If you've only been dating for 6 months, and you ask him for a kidney, that's a no brainer. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 7:59:57 AM | I think the first use of the word Love in a relationship is a lot different than any other time its used.
The first time the word is used there may be uncertainties if it will be reciprocated. There my be hesitation because you may not want to force the others hand to figure all that out on the spot at the time you chose to say it. There may be some idea to hold that word in reserve, because to use it now might label what you have and quantify "love" and in a sense devalue what it could mean in the future, because the word has already been used to describe what you felt some other time.
To me I think its a great word, but I value someones actions much more. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:34:45 AM |
"I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you"
translation: "I really really like you (He likes you), I always have (He always has) and I would do anything for you (I'll even shave more than once a week to keep you)"
Why can't a guy mean what he says? Stop over analyzing everything. If you love him tell him, maybe he feels the same way, maybe he doesn't but at least you'll both know where you stand. Why the need to play these little word games? | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:43:25 AM | Translation---Please don't expect me to marry you again, you already have all my stuff and $$$ from the last time.... i'm fine sleeping with you but that's as far as i'm going | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:50:16 AM | Ok, I just realized... we got this all wrong!
JJ asked us to translate from "man" to "woman." We have been translating from "man" to "normal." Hence, no translation needed.
To translate to woman takes a little more effort. Fortunately, I studied a broad, and know a bit about their language.
"I really really like you." -- of course, this is exactly what the guy means, but if translated into "woman", it comes out as "While I am sure you want me to say the L word, there isn't a chance in hell I'm gonna say it, because then you'll start making wedding plans, tell your mother, and probably start crying. Not necessarily in that order. Besides, there's a game on in 15 minutes and I don't want to miss it."
"I always have" -- "why would you ever doubt that in any time during our relationship that I would feel any different. In fact, I really really liked you before you even knew I existed. My whole world revolves around you."
"I would do anything for you" -- "of course, the moment you come home from the grocery store, I am going to quickly jump in the shower to avoid carrying bags in. And if your mother needs help with anything, I will already have had plans with the guys. Now, the game starts in 5 minutes, can you go grab me a beer before you start cleaning up?"
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Posted: 7/22/2008 11:50:30 AM | Rentahusband - what you said, says everything about you.
I'm honest and practical, if someone says "anything", and doesn't mean it, then they shouldn't say it. Hence, it's just a line and generally follows suit with someone's character. This is not about me - but frankly yes, since you pulled the punch - I have told my best friends and my former X I would do anything for them - and YES I HAVE cared for a pain in the ass sick-in law and yes, for those few people I would give a kidney (haven't been asked yet, SO sorry to disappoint you!) and have given blood. But then again, my best freind was with me and helping while I was in emergency pre-term labor while I was visiting (yes, my X was there too) - so my freinds an be counted on to do "anything". I don't pull a line of crap, and I do what I say. Its a matter of character, don't you think "Rentahusband"? Sometimes people REALLY are in need and need someone who will do "anything" because they are close and despirate. Maybe that day will come your way, maybe it never will - you are lucky to have a blessed life.
But as I'm sure you know, not everyone does the same.
If you don't mean it, don't say it.
Actions speak louder than words. IMO | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 11:50:40 AM |
JJ asked us to translate from "man" to "woman." We have been translating from "man" to "normal." Hence, no translation needed.
To translate to woman takes a little more effort. Fortunately, I studied a broad, and know a bit about their language.
Oh man, I can't believe you haven't been flamed to death over that "normal" post.....Probably because the women are gathering the forces and preparing for a frontal assault lol.......
I also hope you meant you "studied abroad" not that you studied a "broad" cuz women don't like to be called broads, at least anymore lol....... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 4:10:43 PM | | I think the guy is being incredibly honest with you. What he doesn't say shows you what he doesn't feel. It's simple; not Shakespeare! | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 7:50:42 PM |
I think the guy is being incredibly honest with you. What he doesn't say shows you what he doesn't feel. It's simple; not Shakespeare!
HOLY F*CKING SH*T GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A WOMAN WHO UNDERSTANDS A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
did you have a sex change elle? its not fair to go turncoat against your own team.
JKJKJKJK DONT HATE ME!!!!!
but seriously ladies, men are simple creatures. Comparing a man to a woman is like comparing a firecracker to a space shuttle. and no i dont mean size. a fire cracker goes bang, a space shuttle does a million different things, thats what is in our minds v your minds, we say what we think, you think we said a million different things. einstien is dead, and none of us are him reborn | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:40:35 PM |
Oh man, I can't believe you haven't been flamed to death over that "normal" post.....Probably because the women are gathering the forces and preparing for a frontal assault lol.......
I also hope you meant you "studied abroad" not that you studied a "broad" cuz women don't like to be called broads, at least anymore lol.......
Bring on the flames... I like a little passion! And yes, I mean everything I type. "a broad" wasn't a typo.
I think most of the people who write on these boards are relatively intelligent, and realize that my post was tongue-in-cheek. If they don't, then perhaps they do now :)
I love broads... dames too! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 11:34:57 PM | Ok short and sweet....."I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you".....Is this person refraining from using the word 'love' because it may be too soon?
I'll take a stab, I am pretty good at decoding Swaheli. 
OP~ I don't subscribe to the notion that *real* love has a time frame. However, IMO~ this relationship lacks emotional maturity and substance. If you've been reunited with this man after a few years~ there has to be some type of purely physical glue in the mix. It sounds like you both have become complacent FWB. If you've ever experienced real love, it transforms two souls and creates an incredible energy that is difficult to express in words. Once you both have experienced this plateau genuinely ~ from the heart, mind and soul, you'll know it.
Two out of three ain't bad, if you are Meatloaf.
In the real world, I call this settling. Just my two cents rapidly turning into a quarter. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 7:43:23 AM | What???
Ok, first, I will smack you. Then, here's the lyrics:
I want you
I need you
But -- there aint no way Im ever gonna love you
Now dont be sad
cause two out of three aint bad
Now dont be sad
cause two out of three aint bad | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 12:08:18 AM |
....."I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you".....Is this person refraining from using the word 'love' because it may be too soon?
Maybe , he might be waiting for you to say it , and then he may respond in kind.....then he may actually feel like he loves you , or he might think WTF did I say that for ?
It's too soon. Give it a hundred or more sleep overs , then take it from there. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 5:37:56 AM |
Who you smacking there son?
Me thinks you need to step to the plate.
I have. Numerous times. Or are you talking about being smacked? Cuz it would be easy to go way off topic here, and that would be wrong...
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Posted: 7/24/2008 6:52:46 AM |
I'm honest and practical, if someone says "anything", and doesn't mean it, then they shouldn't say it. Hence, it's just a line and generally follows suit with someone's character. This is not about me - but frankly yes, since you pulled the punch - I have told my best friends and my former X I would do anything for them - and YES I HAVE cared for a pain in the ass sick-in law and yes, for those few people I would give a kidney (haven't been asked yet, SO sorry to disappoint you!) and have given blood. But then again, my best freind was with me and helping while I was in emergency pre-term labor while I was visiting (yes, my X was there too) - so my freinds an be counted on to do "anything". I don't pull a line of crap, and I do what I say. Its a matter of character, don't you think "Rentahusband"? Sometimes people REALLY are in need and need someone who will do "anything" because they are close and despirate. Maybe that day will come your way, maybe it never will - you are lucky to have a blessed life.
Funny, you seem to be trying to "bash" me in some way yet you are just supporting everything I said.
Here, let me point it out to you:
1) I said, if you're only been dating 6 months and need a kidney, no. You said: your ex (I assume you dated for more than 6 months) your Best friends (whom I guess you've known quite a while since they are BEST friends).
2) The people you would do anything for, have been there for you (which goes along with my statement "would she do the same for him")
So, you're saying that you meet a guy in March, in May you say "I'll do anything for you" and in June he asks for a kidney and you'll not even hesitate to give it to him?
Even so, if your Ex came to you and said "I want you to give me your house" you'd do it? No questions asked? If one of your friends came to you and said: I need to drive to Vancouver and don't have a car, I need yours.....sorry I won't be back for 3 yrs" you'd just hand over the keys? Again, if your ex needed a heart transplant and you were a match, you'd say hey, no problem, have mine"????
Sorry, there's limits to everything and this is no different. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2008 6:17:47 AM | Well at long last we can put this thread to rest!
It's now almost two months of togetherness and it is official! I asked him what he meant and he told me that he loved me, but was afraid to say it in case I ran off due to the time frame.
He now tells me every time we are together which has progressed to almost every day when he greets me with a kiss and a cuddle.
I'm happy to say that I miss him when he's not around .....so it must be love! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2008 6:28:13 AM |
I love the guy but won't tell him as I feel it's too soon. Is he thinking the same thing?
Don't know what he's thinking. Everybody's different. Contrary to popular belief, there there is no secret "Men's Handbook", complete with translations. Without being him, I wouldn't want to suggest what he means, because it would be nothing more than speculation from my own viewpoint.
However, what you said is very telling. I've always believed you have to be true to your feelings. I know it sounds trite and cliched, but it's true. If you love him, you should tell him. You should tell him what's in your heart, how you feel. Too soon for who? For you? Well, that's OK, but if you feel it's too soon for him, you're already making decisions for him. You're not sure how he feels, yet you're deciding what's best for him.
Don't try to guess other people's needs or wants, but instead make yours known. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2008 8:29:14 AM | This person is refraining from using the word "love" because it's not how he feels.
Do anything for you...doubt it. I think he'll do what is necessary to keep you in check while he finds someone he may love. You're the past and there's no future in the past, but you could fill a temporary need.
Words have meaning and he meant what he said. He "LIKES" you warts and all for a FWB. | |
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