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Posted: 7/20/2008 7:30:24 PM | this thread is as ridiculuos as the one I read the other day where a poster was complaining of guys taking pics IN their apartments.
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Posted: 7/20/2008 8:01:45 PM | Some guys just don't have a large assortment of pictures of themselves around from which to choose ... at least not pictures of them completely clothed that show their faces.  | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 8:19:54 PM | I think a lot of people take pictures when they are out with friends... and a lot of those occasions include alcohol. I highly doubt anyone is holding up the beer with the pretense of posting it on POF. Just because someone is out having a good time with friends and alcohol is included they are not alcoholics! Damn! Maybe it's their only beer or maybe they only go out once every few months.
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| The Holding up a Beer/Cheers Photos....
Posted: 7/21/2008 8:59:33 AM | It will have to wait for tomorrow because I dont drink and drive and I'm all out of Big Macs at the moment.
how bout drink and ride a bike with a big mac in one hand and flippin off the gas station as you zoom by..with the other.. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 9:20:10 AM | | I would never put a pic up showing me with a beer in my hand. I don't want people thinking I'm just a partier. Although it doesn't bother me seeing porfiles of women with pics holding alcoholic beverages | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 10:35:07 AM | Happily Ever in post 11 said it best.
Hmm..but maybe just maybe all you people who spend their time looking for the possible bad in pictures are still on POF or still searching for someone because you are a bit narrow minded. Turned off because someone is holding a drink? WOW.
Maybe the one you can fall in love with enjoys a drink or two. But you would never know would you.
You know what a turn off is, people who pre-judge you without getting to know you first. Especially because of a couple of pictures on the internet.
Oh by the way, why is drinking a bad thing? It is not criminal the last time I checked.
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Posted: 7/21/2008 10:54:56 AM | | Maybe these photos were the best shots of them. Maybe these photos were taken at some important event or a regular night out with friends where many people usually have a few beers. I don't think anyone should assume that a person is alcohlic just because he or she has a beer in their hand. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 12:13:52 PM | relax pisces chick...it was only a show off ....for fun, girl.
Thanks ma'am for your recommendation that I need to take an English class..so youre too proud because youre english is perfect and you slammed my grammar??
How many languages that you can speak?
And as what Amy Winehouse said--she wont go to REHAB and me neither.
youre pretty but youre damn weird!
haha so you were annoyed because i was so proud of it? probably that's the cause of eating too much grass (being a vegetarian) you forgot the word"humour"
If you'd think--it wasnt funny..too bad, i dont give a damn!
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Posted: 7/21/2008 3:51:08 PM | OP,
I think it's when they are brave enough to have their picture taken.
Personally, it's a great way to be eliminated. Hold a beer, make a gang sign, hold your ex significant other with their face scratched out (classy)...
I figured it was an IQ test.
Seriously, I am an amateur photographer with a tripod. I've actually considered offering to take POF'ers pictures during a function and emailing the pictures to them. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:00:56 PM | Guess you can't please all of the people all of the time .. lol.
I like my good friends, good food, n' good beer on the patio pic ..
cheers big ears.
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:13:12 PM | | Lol. The beer thing makes perfect sense to me- that is, it sending the wrong message. I think it cheapens women and sends a flimsy message when they let nothing but cleavage shots do the talking for their profiles, but most of that opinion got me nothing but spite and attacks on this forum so I won't be going there again. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:23:55 PM | I too, find it appalling that girls have photos when they're half trolleyed. It also makes me wonder that if they're out having so much fun with the glass of chardonnay in their hand, why are they on an online dating site trying to find that elusive guy? Once upon a time I used to go out alot and drink but that was in my 20's. Now that I am older, I feel that all nighters at the pub or club is on the low end of my priority list.
It is not a good look at all. There are plenty of women on other sites here in Australia where they look smashed out of their skulls. It may be funny at the time to them but at the end of the day it is about other people and their perceptions of the photo
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:24:35 PM | | I'm going to have to go with the 'people pull out cameras most often at parties, and parties usually involve drinking' bit. I was just at a family reunion and for some reason, the cameras for more 'candid' photos came out later in the day, when pretty much everyone was drinking. We did the posed group shots earlier in the day, but as people started having a few drinks they loosened up and started having more fun and what not. Does that mean that my whole family is alcoholics? Probably not. I know several of my family members don't drink that often, (like my mom, she probably has less than one drink a week, but there are times where she'll have 3-5 drinks, like at an event like this). | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 5:28:12 PM | .
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that it really doesn’t matter what I do -- whether it’s good, bad or indifferent -- someone, someplace isn’t going to like it.
So, okay, we know that some people have a personal problem with others drinking. So? Some people have a personal problem with the shoes others wear, too. Others will probably not like the vehicle you drive and want to chastise you for that. I even met a nutcase who was upset because I sometimes hand-feed birds, squirrels and other wild critters. Yup, we’ve got all kinds walking this Earth and we’d better get used to it.
That doesn’t mean that we should change our lives to conform to their preferences, though.
It’s understandable that some people have a personal problem with alcohol. That could be for religious reasons or because they, or a loved one, is an alcoholic. Nonetheless, it’s no more proper for those few in society to scold the majority in society who may have a drink sometimes than it is for the rest of us to chastise them for not drinking.
Personally, I don’t drink much. But I do sometimes, depending. So, if I happened to have what I thought was a good photo of me holding a beer or cognac, I would post it. Sure, I would realize that some people may not like that. But, y’know, I also know that those who take offense to such a photo most probably would not like associating with me for long, anyway.
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Posted: 7/21/2008 8:22:19 PM | I've been on this site for over a couple of years now, and I try to change my pics regularly to keep them current. I'm not the type that likes to approach people to take a pic of me, though, so I will often get them when I go somewhere on a vacation or am out. I drink 1 or 2 glasses of wine maybe once a month, (if that), unless I'm: 1) on vacation, 2) it's a Holiday, or the period between Christmas and New Years, or 3) a verrrry occasional drink with a friend or with a meal, (even that is 'sometimes'...as I usually order water...)
So wouldn't you know it? ...In over 2 years time, I put up ONE pic of me with a glass of alcohol in my hand....and it raises a red flag? Sorry...that red flag is lying....and ANYONE who knows me IRL would laugh if anyone would suggest that I could have a drinking problem.
First I got an email asking what I was suggesting to horny old men when I sit on the bed with a glass of wine in my hand. Whoops! I then remembered back in 2005 or something, there was a thread like this, so even though I figured the guy was kidding, I thought I'd get the opinion of some of my male friends my age...all said they thought nothing of it. (I DID have wording above that stated that I was at a convention) One even had this to say...
Okay, from the point of view of a “horny old man,” I took a cold hard look.
I saw it before and noticed the bed. Didn’t notice the drink, but saw the caption. But, because you asked, I increased the size of the picture so I could see it very well.
So, la de da . . . there’s a snapshot of you, fully clothed, sitting on a bed -- and you even have a sport coat on. Smiling, too! Which tells me that you were probably partying with friends at a meeting somewhere out of town and that someone you may not know all that well snapped a photo while some of you you were talking in someone’s room. That’s my impression the first time I saw it and it still is.
When I started going through menopause, I was having problems with a teenager, and an alcoholic SO who was getting worse all the time, and frankly I wanted to get away from it all. So I thought....I'm going to start having a beer every night when I get off work. ...maybe it would relax me. Know what? I kept FORGETTING!!!! So much for that!
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Posted: 7/21/2008 9:06:09 PM | I agree; for the younger crowd drinking and doing the party thing is very chic. they love to show how wild they are.
I think the funniest one was this 21 year old girl that only said in her profile that she wanted a good Christian guy who didn't do drugs or drank; She then had photos of her in a ton of sexual poses while she's holding beer in her hand; nice. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:58:43 AM | Can someone please clarify what is wrong with a drink in a picture?
I came across the following on this thread.
The individual is a possible alcoholic: Well thats a bit far fetched and pretty much a big assumption without meeting someone.
The individual is a party goer and stays up late socializing with some drinks: Well people enjoy parties and we are all adults here so we are allowed to stay up late and socialize. And party goer? well again its a couple of pictures. Doesn't really live up to the phrase '24 hour Party People'. Those pictures could have been take a couple of months apart. And what if its one photo? Perhaps the picture was taken at one wedding or party? Party is a bad thing? Again big assumption.
You do not like to drink so you'd rather not have your date drink: A bit narrow minded I think. Something so trivial that you will not pursue some sort of relationship or investigate their other good qualities because of this?
Someone posted 'Not classy' : Definition of 'classy' ; of high class, rank, or grade; stylish; admirably smart; elegant. Hmmmm.. don't they serve alcohol at classy restaurants and establishments? Now funneling beer is not classy I agree but again are we going to generalize and say all forms of drinking is not classy?
Cause it makes them look cool: Well thats just plain stupid. Who drinks to be cool? Are we in high school here? Can someone not enjoy the taste of a drink anymore?
Let me ask you this. If you meet someone on POF and all their pictures are void of drinking. You go on a date to a restaurant and they order a glass of wine or some other drink. Are you going to get up and leave? Are you going to count that as a strike against them already?
Now I can understand people do not want to date or partner up with someone because they are party goers and clubbers, or they drink their faces off at parties every week or because of religious reasons because hell you know better than any of us that you most likely wont mesh well with those sort. But again it is a picture. Can you conclude all of that from a picture? A minuscule representation of someone.
For go all your past trials and keep an open mind. Your gem is hiding in the rough. Dig it out. Don't bury with trivial prejudices like that. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 10:24:37 PM | How many languages that you can speak?
That's really not a slam question. It's rather funny, actually, considering I'm an interpreter. Thanks for asking. English obviously isn't your forte, so do you have a grip on even one language? Just curious.
haha so you were annoyed because i was so proud of it? probably that's the cause of eating too much grass (being a vegetarian) you forgot the word"humour"
I didn't say it annoyed me. I said it's weird to be so proud of it. And yeah, it's uh..cuz I ..eat too much grass...oh..kay.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 11:04:58 PM | Hmmm, lets see if we can figure this thing out.
The OP, who absurdly whines "Should they be subtitled "Come wreck your life with me!" at the bottom?" - not a drinker
gnuru75, "Some people are alcoholics or are only able to open up and have fun when drinking." - not a drinker (but his ONLY picture is the "hold the camera up and take a self-pic in the mirror that hides half my face")
AmazonianBlonde, "Can anyone say AA?" - not a drinker (but she IS into posting headless cleavage shots!)
Cinamin47, "Frankly those kind of men remind me of the dirty "white trash" lifestyle. There's way too much of it. It's classless." - not a drinker (this one posts NO pictures)
warmweatherlb, "Not my type. I am with you on this one, especially when it comes to guys my age, it is a complete turn off." - not a drinker
Walksfarwomen, "Its a BIG TURN OFF(Photo's with "Booze" in their Hand)...Some people cant Socialize with out their MEDICATION..." - not a drinker (this one's main pic is in what looks to be a flimsy negligee and cowboy hat)
imsickofthegame, " it sending the wrong message. I think it cheapens women and sends a flimsy message..." - not a drinker (this one's main pic is cuddled with an ex with her face blacked out with a crude black oval - oh, and two of his pet rat!)
marathonman11x7, "Believe it or not....I think they believe it to make them look "cool"  " - not a drinker (and another one with NO pic posted)
So, umm, do we begin to see a pattern here people? If you have a picture holding a drink, you're going to alienate mainly the non-drinkers, but many of them have equally silly or strange pictures that may alienate you too, and as dbndon succintly put it, "But, y’know, I also know that those who take offense to such a photo most probably would not like associating with me for long, anyway. " | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 11:19:20 AM | Jeez, peeps, chill out. See, the problem is, I been misunderstood. I asked if the beer pics were a turnoff to anyone.....and the beer drinkers come back with "Ain't nuthin 'rawng with DRANKIN!"
If someone drinks.....reponsibly that is.....it's not an immediate turnoff to me. Elevating it to the point of holding it up in a picture saying "This is what I do", well thats another story. Holding something up brings attention to it. Same as the fisherman holding up a largemouth bass, so as to take pride in it.
I work out every day. It's something I do. Do I have a pic holding a dumbell? No, for the simple fact it would be perceived by some as narcisisstic or conceited.
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Posted: 7/26/2008 11:57:09 AM |
If someone drinks.....reponsibly that is.....it's not an immediate turnoff to me.
Oh really now? So that's why your OP included the stupid slam "Should they be subtitled "Come wreck your life with me!" at the bottom?"
"Ain't nuthin 'rawng with DRANKIN!"
Is that how they talk in moonshine country there in Tennessee?
A picture with a drink means they were at a social event and had a drink, and there were people with cameras BECAUSE it was a social event.
A picture with a fish means they like to fish. Nothing more, nothing less. Some of us like to see pictures of people ('peeps' to you) showing their various interests. It doesn't mean they're narcissistic or conceited - except maybe to someone with a bit of those traits themselves?
Take your own advice before handing it out to others. Chill out. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:50:25 PM | A drink on a table with a meal is not out of place in a photo.
Drinks being swilled around in bar or a can of larger in hand I do see as being out of place in a profile photo. The same go’s for a cigarette in hand.
But then again how we view what is a healthy repetition of a person is an individual perception | |
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