| Question about Favorites
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:13:47 AM | | I even have one that deletes my messages when I write to her...yet she added me to her faves. Hmmmm | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 8/9/2008 3:47:15 PM | ^^^^^ what Shende said  
As for deleting your messages and yet having you on favorites ... um that's weird.
I use favorites to bookmark people that I like their profile. Sometimes I add them to give them the opportunity to message me if their profile seems to be more on the "traditional" side (not sure how to define that but I know it when I see it) | |
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Posted: 8/9/2008 5:45:01 PM |
As for "favs"....I like the off the wall profiles...my kinda people.
So, I see......now I am off the wall??
Fummy thing is.......I had a guy message me on here saying I must be a serial dater with so many favorites they don't know me huh?? I haven't found "Mr Right" on pof yet...but I have made some outstanding friendships both male and female. | |
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Weudog
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Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 30 | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:16:50 PM |
TRG.........for you I was thinking more off your rocker..
I got your rocker btw....ya know ya lubs me!! thats why you's one of my fav's!! | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:20:59 AM | Maybe because they would like to speak with you the next time you are on and they can quickly go to their favorites to see if you are on or not.
Just a possibility..... | |
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cjm96
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Joined: 7/31/2008
Msg: 33 | |
| Question about Favorites
Posted: 8/26/2008 2:01:51 PM | I have added people to my favorites that I am interested in, and hope that when they receive the email that they have been added, they look at my profile. I guess I'm hoping that if there is any interest on their part, they will contact me since they already know there was enough interest on my part to add them as a favorite. Maybe I'm assuming too much.
I have been wondering why some people who have added me to their favorites list doesn't respond to the messages I sent them. What's the purpose of adding me at all if you don't want to communicate?
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Posted: 8/29/2008 11:26:03 AM | I agree with (rep69), I use it to bookmark those that I find interesting but just don't have the time to message at the moment...that, and to let them know i'm interested in some way and see what happens:) if they contact me, cool..if not..cool to | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:32:01 AM | I've had several people add me to favorites, yet never respond when I send them an email. Weird!
Sometimes I favorite people that catch my attention but I don't have time to email.
Sometimes after looking again, I decide to just remove it without contacting.
Sometimes I leave it if I'd like to contact them, but their restrictions prevent it.
As a side note, it seems if someone favorites you, that it voids the restrictions. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:32:17 PM | | yep.. if someone favorites you.. then even a nasty old smoker can email you and get through! so be careful lest you have trolls lurking! | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/13/2008 7:15:01 PM | I don't get the whole favorites thing. I remove everyone that adds me. I think there should be a permission thing for that... or maybe there is, I'll have to check into that. And many of you are saying that you add as a favorite when you don't have time to send an email.... but you have the time to browse the profiles? Doesn't make sense.
I can see once you've been communicating with someone maybe adding them.. but it's just not my thing. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:30:35 PM | | All I can say to you, haleydo1, When your hot, your hot. When your not, your not. Be patient. That is the way it is here. Good Luck. Joe. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/20/2008 3:11:51 PM | | If I add them to my favorites, I hope they will contact me. If they add me to theirs, I look them over and I don't like what I'm hearing, I delete myself from their list. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:26:57 AM | | Usually, for myself, the individual has some commonality with my interests and if or if there are many, it's a process to sort profiles. Sounds cold but unless you can offer something better, I suspect this is the usual response. byw, I don't have a clue about the 1000 milers...maybe the're moving to that area??? | |
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Posted: 9/22/2008 12:26:24 PM |
And many of you are saying that you add as a favorite when you don't have time to send an email.... but you have the time to browse the profiles? Doesn't make sense.
I thought I would shed some light on this one. Men have their work cut out for them on this site. It will take up a lot of time doing the things required to find success here. First off, we can't just sit down and only write two or three people because frankly, it's a numbers game for us. We don't get responses most of the time. On top of that, it takes some time writing a well thought out message that will hopefully lead to a response. It's very useful and organized/systematic method to bookmark who we'd like to contact. First make the list of candidates and then write them. Of course, not all men take the time to write something meaningful, so I suppose many men use favs without any form of discretion. They collect favorites like baseball cards.
all too often someone interesting has a “75 mile limit” posted as an email constraint in their profile. So I’ve often included them as a favorite to see if they would message me. ...but...thus far, those have turned out just the same as the others....
I use it that way too, but I'm having the same results as you. Perhaps they don't understand that is what you are trying to do. On the flip side, they have the 75 mile limitation for a reason, so I guess we have to bite the bullet and respect their decision. That being said, I have since learned that many success stories come about on POF between two people separated by greater distances.
Simply viewing their profile is enough to draw them in if you allow people to see you have viewed them. That works better than favs in my opinion and is perhaps a little less creepy to those women who feel that way about being hotlisted. On a larger scale, adding a woman to our favorites list is just as ineffectual as a message.
I understand from reading on another forum post, that some people also use the favorites to bookmark someone who's forum posts they want to follow.
Thanks for bringing this one up. It seems members here often forget there are forums just beyond the fence surrounding their profile.
It is apparent men use favs differently than women, but that is no surprise since the experience on this site differs depending on your gender. Men do have to use everything at their disposal. For the most part, don't be offended when we add you. Like anything else, just use your best judgment. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:00:10 PM | I add them as away to let them know I am interested. I have heard women say they get so many emails they cannot read them all and most of those are not very nice.
If they never view my profile and do not email me back I remove them after a few days and move on noting who I added and to never approach them again. Not one to help tally up someones profile with how many people like them or boast egos. And before I get blasted for that one.... I have been told by several women they only log on the see how many mails they have and how many have added them.
So if you are not one of these no offense was made. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 9/24/2008 5:19:34 PM | | Just for the record, it isn't just women who don't respond to contact e-mails. I have done been the brave one to make a first contact and I would say in many cases men have all the same reasons for not answering the emails that are attributed to women. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 7:08:11 PM | | A girl added me to her favorites....that really freaked me out! and she is married! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2009 3:03:06 PM | | Yeah, I had the same thing with some folks adding me to the list & then just letting it sit. They all had different responses ranging from "shy" to "busy". Hmmm... I guess they wouldn't say "Hello, I'm your stalker....", though. Guess I'll find out if I find a rabbit on the stove next week. LOL | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 4/8/2009 7:40:04 AM | I add women who are attractive enough and have *something* else about their profile to catch my attention. I treat it just like a bookmark to go back and read more thoroughly later.
Which I never do. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 4/8/2009 5:05:36 PM | Cleavage , baby...
There may be some truth to that, because when all of my pictures happened to be sexier tops with a front view, I was getting added. Now most of them are side views and I'm getting deleted.  (No, I don't put that much stock in the number, but I do pay attention to it). I've heard a lot of people say they never look at their profiles. I like to change my music, or listen to it, and lately I've been messing around with the About Me. Maybe that's the reason I got deleted, or maybe it's my forum postings. I do wonder if someone deletes me, why! Usually have no idea who it was who decided to delete me.
I have looked at some women's profiles and definitely noticed the more sexy and enticing photos have a much higher number than most.
Most of the people who have favorited me have never contacted me. Some are people from the forums, some are local friends (men and women), and some are from places all over the world I've never communicated with. I don't worry so much about why they added me as I do why they deleted me (the Leo in me?). Maybe they expect you to contact them just because they added you? I'm not sure. I usually don't contact someone just for adding me, as I figure, they may have their own reasons for not actually sending an e-mail.
To me, just because someone adds me to the favorites does not obligate me to initiate contact in any way, and vice versa. I favorite people I like for various reasons but the number I favorite is very low.
Another thing, favoriting is the only way to see when someone actually goes online, so it could be a way of keeping track. I'm not sure I like that. Other sites have similar features to tell when someone was last online, I think that's a feature that should be optional to allow others to see. If there's a cheater who wants to hide, as there are many and they do, they make a separate profile so no one knows who they are. | |
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| Question about Favorites
Posted: 4/13/2009 10:21:02 PM | A show of interest... Maybe you could reply back and thank them for popping in as sometimes people are unsure on approach..I wish you wll on your journey.. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 10:26:17 PM | I suppose it's a show of some interest; I've got one person on my favorites list; she's a professional peer who lives across the country who has been a friend for awhile.
I seem to be on a dozen or so ladies' lists. They're an eclectic group, only a couple remotely near to me (so I presume that makes me safe to them :D ), but I do make a point to correspond on some basis. Usually, it's just a quick note-" hi, how's things, you doing ok?" type of thing. I did take my profile 'quiet' awhile back because of some undesired attention, and I haven't been posting again until recently for that reason.
Yes, ladies, guys get creepy emails and IMs too. Trust me on that. I'm polite and up front, but as soon as I'm around the corner I run like hell.
Regards,
Rabbit. | |
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