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Posted: 9/22/2008 6:00:10 PM | I add them as away to let them know I am interested. I have heard women say they get so many emails they cannot read them all and most of those are not very nice.
If they never view my profile and do not email me back I remove them after a few days and move on noting who I added and to never approach them again. Not one to help tally up someones profile with how many people like them or boast egos. And before I get blasted for that one.... I have been told by several women they only log on the see how many mails they have and how many have added them.
So if you are not one of these no offense was made. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 5:19:34 PM | | Just for the record, it isn't just women who don't respond to contact e-mails. I have done been the brave one to make a first contact and I would say in many cases men have all the same reasons for not answering the emails that are attributed to women. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 7:08:11 PM | | A girl added me to her favorites....that really freaked me out! and she is married! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2009 3:03:06 PM | | Yeah, I had the same thing with some folks adding me to the list & then just letting it sit. They all had different responses ranging from "shy" to "busy". Hmmm... I guess they wouldn't say "Hello, I'm your stalker....", though. Guess I'll find out if I find a rabbit on the stove next week. LOL | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 7:40:04 AM | I add women who are attractive enough and have *something* else about their profile to catch my attention. I treat it just like a bookmark to go back and read more thoroughly later.
Which I never do. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 5:05:36 PM | Cleavage , baby...
There may be some truth to that, because when all of my pictures happened to be sexier tops with a front view, I was getting added. Now most of them are side views and I'm getting deleted.  (No, I don't put that much stock in the number, but I do pay attention to it). I've heard a lot of people say they never look at their profiles. I like to change my music, or listen to it, and lately I've been messing around with the About Me. Maybe that's the reason I got deleted, or maybe it's my forum postings. I do wonder if someone deletes me, why! Usually have no idea who it was who decided to delete me.
I have looked at some women's profiles and definitely noticed the more sexy and enticing photos have a much higher number than most.
Most of the people who have favorited me have never contacted me. Some are people from the forums, some are local friends (men and women), and some are from places all over the world I've never communicated with. I don't worry so much about why they added me as I do why they deleted me (the Leo in me?). Maybe they expect you to contact them just because they added you? I'm not sure. I usually don't contact someone just for adding me, as I figure, they may have their own reasons for not actually sending an e-mail.
To me, just because someone adds me to the favorites does not obligate me to initiate contact in any way, and vice versa. I favorite people I like for various reasons but the number I favorite is very low.
Another thing, favoriting is the only way to see when someone actually goes online, so it could be a way of keeping track. I'm not sure I like that. Other sites have similar features to tell when someone was last online, I think that's a feature that should be optional to allow others to see. If there's a cheater who wants to hide, as there are many and they do, they make a separate profile so no one knows who they are. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 10:21:02 PM | A show of interest... Maybe you could reply back and thank them for popping in as sometimes people are unsure on approach..I wish you wll on your journey.. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 10:26:17 PM | I suppose it's a show of some interest; I've got one person on my favorites list; she's a professional peer who lives across the country who has been a friend for awhile.
I seem to be on a dozen or so ladies' lists. They're an eclectic group, only a couple remotely near to me (so I presume that makes me safe to them :D ), but I do make a point to correspond on some basis. Usually, it's just a quick note-" hi, how's things, you doing ok?" type of thing. I did take my profile 'quiet' awhile back because of some undesired attention, and I haven't been posting again until recently for that reason.
Yes, ladies, guys get creepy emails and IMs too. Trust me on that. I'm polite and up front, but as soon as I'm around the corner I run like hell.
Regards,
Rabbit. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 7:53:32 AM | Just a thought of why people add you without writing.
Might be that they Can't write you. Now some people will do it just because they are shy or because of cleavage like sayd above. But one of the Ladies was saying people from all around the US will add her but never write her, yet her profile has a limit of 75 miles that people can write her... That would make it impossible for someone across the country to write her... Another thing is if someone is listed as Dating or Intimate Encounter or have writen someone who has Intimate Encounter, they might not be able to write you either, so they are hopeing that you will write them.
Again just some thoughts, if you have restrictions in your profile, especially woman, then some people can't write you so they will instead add you and hope you will write them. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 7:24:12 PM | | I just don"know if I want to spend money to get rejected or stalked..If a man doesn"t contact me after a wink He night be a loser lol | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 4:22:18 PM | Can't answer for the shy ones but perhaps it is because you are cute  | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 7:59:55 AM | | Yeah as a aurus we have a "collector" mentality, so it is a little different. If I add you then you should learn to take a compliment. Side note men using emoticons is pimpin' or simpn'? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 7:49:46 PM | Heck I never understood those Favorites. Maybe that is what I should been doing for last 4 years. Sure saves time writing 40 people and getting no where. LOL
Of course I am only a bit shy in person myself. Online I don't have to worry about seeing a woman's face frown. But it makes sense for someone who isn't good at emailing someone to use a thing like that. I got over my inability to write emails after my first 3 months. After all I was always taught, men approach the women first. Though I find the women often don't like that idea. They only want to be approached by certain men.
I keep wishing we could create a way where women could hold up signs and say, "These four men may talk to me. Rest just to play."
So I wouldn't worry about that Favorite stuff. I could see where it would be useful to women who believe men should act first. And those Ice Breakers you mentioned. I liked those myself. Something soft like "Hey there."
But heck I spent over $1000 on those sites when I first started trying to meet folks. So I guess you get what you pay for and this is what POF gives us to work with. ::smiles:: Its all good though. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 9:58:41 AM |
My question is, why would someone else add you to their favorites, when they have never talked to you?
The answer is a varied as there are people. I have plenty who have added me and never communicated. I just leave them there. Occasionally I will ask why, mostly I leave it to them to contact me. I have only one restriction on my profile. When I add someone as a favorite, I always write and tell them why or am already communicating. I am active on the forums and have as many, if not more, women on both lists as men. I have discovered that long distance email friends are fun and have similar problems with good advice and commisserations. If the number of people who have chosed me as a favorite turns someone off, then so be it. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 11:51:00 AM | Some men/women are shy, something obviously caught their eye in your profile, some are friends that we have known a long time , or friends men/women that we have made on this site. It can mean a lot of things, but I believe so what if they have you on their favorites, and never contact you, we never know what another person is going through or thinking, and if we are on as one of their favorites and no harm has been done, let it be, don't take life's little things so serious, unless it becomes serious, just know that some have found you appealing that's all. We cannot go through life thinking everyone is out to get us, for some reason or another. ENJOY   Laugh out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 8:12:51 PM | | Lately I've been saving guys I'm interested in getting to know to my favorites because I either don't have time to write a good first messsage or want to come back and take a 2nd look at their profile to see if I want to write them when I DO have time.... | |
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