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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 11/30/2008 7:33:11 AM | Hi,
I'm childless and unmarried, and IT IS GREAT!!!!! I get to spend time with my neices and nephews.... and give them back I work with children.... all my brothers are married all 7 of them, their wives tell me how lucky i am!!!
Really don't beat yourself up and don't listen to negative people, they only bring you down. Enjoy your life, be a wonderful person, that's all that matters ! Think of all the possibilities of being single....travelling anytime anywhere, spending time with people you love, no restrictions... living free! Now how can you be depressed about that??
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 11/30/2008 9:54:38 AM | | They are not a failure..that is just some socialite/peer pressure assumption we have in the U.S. about women and about men to. Try living in south Georgia being a single 30 year old guy. The first questions I get are: have you been married? Have any kids? and why not? ...I just laugh. I try not to live my life based on the way others feel I should. After all its your life and not theirs. Relieve yourself from the burden of others expectations of you. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/1/2008 6:39:10 PM | | Women over 30 are in no way a failure if they're single & childless. People have different priorities. Some women choose their careers over starting a family or some women just haven't found the right guy by the time they reach 30. Besides we're not stuck in the 50's. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/24/2008 8:35:31 PM | I actually find 40+ women to be fascinating... Intellectually, most 40+ women I know seem to be at the height of their power.
Of course, me being a biologically driven animal, I sometimes wonder about her being able to bear children, though... I mean, I would love to have kids someday, I just want to be sure it won't be hard on her... | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/26/2008 9:21:40 PM | | Well, I'll tell you, I've never thought that I was a FAILURE because I didn't have children. It simply never happened that I met the right man for me to have a family with. Regarding children, my standar's were terribly high. Now yes, I do regret it. And, it is too late for me. But, that's life. I made the correct choice's for myself. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/26/2008 11:42:12 PM | I'm glad to see posts of women who say they are happy even if they are childless or over 30 and not married. Having marriage and kids isn't everything in life no matter what society tells us.
It's just social programming. Once you break out of that mind set, you will encounter a world where it's really ok not to have kids or be married by a certain age. We are all different and we all have a contribution to make to this good earth. Some bear the kids who will become great people. Others don't have kids but do great things themselves.
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/27/2008 2:37:10 AM | Who says they are? I got no children either. A medical procedure annihilated the viability or my sperm. My seed is dead. Dead and cold. Anyway, never mind about all that.
I'd like to meet a middle aged women with no kids. We could get a little dog named Foo Foo.
Dress it in baby clothes and she could talk to it in goo-goo language. I had a very interesting life. Never had a hunger for children, don't miss em now. When's the last time you were at Walmart? | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/27/2008 4:15:03 AM | lmao bodypro! you are too funny! (and cute) Dam the distance! lol
I'd like to meet a middle aged women with no kids. We could get a little dog named Foo Foo.
(oh, and I'm not naming any real dog FooFoo!) lol
OT - Having babies does not make a person successful, no more than not having them makes on a failure. IMO where children are concerned - a Failure is one who does have them and does not care or take the time to parent properly.
As a wise man once said:
ever been to Walmart?
I never had children.. can't. And before some intelligentia pipes up with "you never know" .. yes .. yes I do. Anyway, Not having children most certainly does Not make me a failure! In fact, I think as a "Human Being" - I am rather successful. S'pose it depends on how "You" measure success, for me it's about those Important inner qualities .. attitude and how 'we' treat those we meet .. stuff like that.
Unfortunately 'almost' anyone can make a baby .. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:52:09 PM | because we're animals...and nature tells us certain things as we go along...like...hey...you're in your 30's and you only have so many of the good eggs left...so...get to the making babies already before it's too late. The fact is that if you choose to believe nature then she's right. It's all a choice.
Then there's the parents and the girlfriends...that's a whole other issue entirely. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 1/30/2009 5:09:03 PM | Interesting topic. I just finished reading a study from the University of Toronto about dating for MEN in their late 30's and 40's. The results show 3 avenues:
1. Single Women never married form the early 30's and mid 40's. Advantages, no baggage. Disadvantages: No Baggage, non committal, set in their ways, according to the study, the WORST group to date.
2 Married and Divorced WITHOUT children. Advantages. Might have a better idea what they want and have lived and hopefully shared the up's and downs of life with someone.
Disadvantages: Superiority complex, I want exactly what I want. Good luck being single for the rest of your life. Unwilling to reconsider Marriage or cohabitation. They immerse thamselves in their friend network and....
3. Divorced with children. Honestly, the paper had one sentence. Consider yourself lucky if you find someone to take on you and your children as well as your ex. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 1/30/2009 6:45:50 PM | because as advanced as we think society has become there are still ideals in place from the 1950's etc that people have a hard time getting over.
I'm a lot of things ,a failure isn't one of them.
I prefer to call myself smart for not settling just becasue and ending up a depressed divorcee, because it's only been in the last 2-3 years of my life that I've realized I would like the whole marriage/kids thing *and* that I'd be damn good at both of em.... | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 1/30/2009 7:32:26 PM | | When I was thirty=five, my baby hormones hit me like a ton of bricks. Oh, I wept and carried on because my baby-making years were coming to an end and I had no bundle of joy to show for it. Now I am over 45 and damn glad I don't have any kids. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:38:52 PM | While I did have a child at 23 I wasn't married............but I didn't get married until I was over 30. I wish I hadn't had kids until then because I am a much better mother now than I was then.
I think more women are waiting to find husbands and have children until they have a life (career and personal goals achieved). I think it is a personal choice when and if a women has children or a husband. I'm not sure I would ever marry again............to each their own. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 1/31/2009 4:31:40 PM | Definetely. Im 34, never married no kids and I dont see it as a failure at all. I have waited for a good relationship and never wanted second best for myself. I wasn't always dumped, the majority of the time I did it and Im glad of that.
The reason I never had kids is cos my relationships felt wrong and I never wanted to be a single parent I wanted it all. My choice. Id love to meet someone wonderful but if I dont it wasnt meant to be for me and thats fine too. I have wonderful family and friends. I have a good life and only me to answer to and Im as free as a bird who knows what my future holds for me lol | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 2/1/2009 5:26:23 AM | | I get so tired of all this non-commital stuff...if we had felt as if we had met men who were able to commit to us and were the ones who we wanted to commit to, we would have married them, strange how people who are divorced are never seen as ones who have commitment issues........ | |
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