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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:35:23 PM | | I have some of my friends and coworkers that are married tell me that I am lucky not to be married. I just sort of smile because I figure they are just joking around, but they are really serious. I have been told that so many times. So I definitely do not think you are a failure. People have different agendas, and at this particular moment, getting married and having children may not be top priority. I do, however, think that there is someone for everyone. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 2/27/2009 7:20:06 PM | | Because they are if they 30 single and female then there's a reason for it ...why wasn't they chosen what did all the other men see that you don't there must be something please I don't want to hear I was focusing on my career because we as humans can always find time can always find time ..plus they old anyway just get a newer model | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 2/27/2009 10:22:53 PM | | Why wasn't they chosen? They might have been chosen, and did not want to marry the men who chose them. They old? Since when is being over 30 old? Maybe to an 18 year old. I missed the memo that stated that women had to be married with children by age 30. Maybe it went to other women who wanted men who used incorrect grammar. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/4/2009 1:32:22 AM | 35, single and child-free here. In fact, I have the supreme good fortune to be physically incapable of having kids. Never wanted them, not even when I *was* a kid and figured that it was practically mandatory.
To be honest, I haven't caught much flak about it. People who know me personally don't care, and a lot of my peers are actually still unmarried and childless too, so it's not even unusual. Once in a while I do get some clown who just can't let it go, and who feels the need to continually psychoanalyze me about it. Or who says things like, "But you're depriving a child his chance at life!" or "You're depriving some man a great wife!" Like my feeling on the subject aren't even supposed to matter. But almost invariably, those people really want kids and/or marriage themselves, and are projecting.
As for commitment, I'm very committed. I'm committed to enjoying the peace and silence of my home, the ability to get 8 consecutive hours sleep, and the uninterrupted achievement of my goals. :) | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/4/2009 5:03:52 AM | | Not at all. But they could be considered failures if they've been married and divorced multiple times. Or if they are stunningly gorgeous, and I've seen a few, and carry on this arrogance about them that they are above others. In other words, no man can live up to their standards and they have this strong woman attitude, i.e. control. Some of the profiles I read make that abundantly clear where the man's place will be in those relationships. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/4/2009 7:35:18 AM | | Funny I always thought it was being smart. I still think that. It means you understnad the way birthcontrol works, how your finances work, and that the reality of marriage for the majority ends in divorce. I usually think those that consider those that are single, childless, and over 30 failures are jealous they weren't smart enough to look at the long term, big picture. JMO | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/4/2009 9:54:29 AM | | I wish I could find a woman over thirty that does not have kids. I am busy looking for women younger than me because I do not want to date anyone with children. I prefer someone my age or a little older. I like women who are mature, experienced in life (& bed). I don't like dating. I would love to find someone that is beautiful to me and over thirty. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/22/2009 12:04:34 PM | I am 38 and I have a son who is 18. I have no desire to have anymore kids. And yet, there are still people at work that tell me "There's still time!" Time for what? It cracks me up that people just cannot accept the fact that I do not want any more children. Why is that?
As for being married? Never have been, don't ever want to. I believe that if you're committed to each other you're committed and that piece of paper is no sort of guarantee for a happily ever after.
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/22/2009 5:48:12 PM | | I do not thing we are failures, but it is strange how so many people are surprised when I say I do not have children. I am 34 and unmarried, so in my eyes I am not supposed to have any children. I do not want to have children as a single parent because its hard enough with two parents. If I am to have children then so be it, but until then I am happy about where my life is. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/22/2009 7:54:41 PM | wow, I've not married yet and I haven't come across this attitude at all.
I think it's becoming more acceptable that women wait to marry, men too, in fact I read in the readers digest that a survey taken showed that those that wait to marry have a much lower divorce rate then those in their twenties. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/25/2009 11:29:46 PM | To the guy who said this:
"~well, i say it's all in how we want out lives to be~
Sure. No one's stopping you going that route but don' t blame the world for a pre-conceived notion. It is what it is and that's why women over 30 with no kids and/or single are a pure failure. It is very true. Don't try and change that.
Now, instead of taking a vote in a public room and gaining sympathy from others like you, make the effort and change your own life. Single women over 30 don't have to be smart and goal oriented at all. They should concentrate on making babies, cooking, cleaning and sorting out bills. That's the way it is and that's the way it will be. Don't fight it, join it - you and the rest of them out there!"
OMG.......seriously? single women over 30 don't have to be smart or goal-oriented and should concentrate on making babies, cooking, cleaning and sorting out bills? Yikes...no wonder YOU are still single!
To the OP...there is nothing wrong with it and I do agree that we shouldn't really care what other people think and I generally don't...but this guy is way off base...and an insult to ALL women out there...nuff said! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:17:14 AM | | wow - couldn't have said it better myself - thanks. Just because we are not divorced single mothers...hmmm - no one said we didn't have opportunities - just turned them down. Some of us just don't want children - some are waiting for the right guy - either way - failure? Look at all single never married women without children - not exactly dragging down our economy -living it up and having fun too! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/27/2009 4:06:34 PM |
Over 30, never married, no kids = psycho
Excuse me? I am hopin you just posted this to get a reaction and do not honestly believe this. Or did you just post this because you had an unfortunate experience?
Seriously though, to the OP, I am over 30, single, and childless but I sure as H*** am NOT a failure. I am my own person, believe in myself, and willing to learn a little more about life each day. As my profile says, ya don't like it you don't need to be around me...
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:24:38 AM | This is the craziest post I've seen yet.
There are men dying to date me JUST because I don't have kids.
(Meaning they don't even seem interested in getting to know me... they just want to instantly sign up BECAUSE I have no kids.)
Whoever posted this hasn't been around the block enough to know it's sooooo not true. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:09:18 AM | Yes...women can be so successful at 30 if they didn't marry of had kids...you know why???
Because they had all their energy and time dedicated to be successful in other fields, like for ex. Career, Education, etc , etc.
I think the only women that might feel a failure at 30 are those unm,arried ones whose ONLY goal is to get married and have babies.....they would be running a BIT late . LOL.
I married at 30 and had my first child a 30, so did my mom in the fifties and also my sister.
Three of us have been successful professional and later on successful mothers and spouses!!!
No need to marry at 18....not anymore. Times have changed a while ago!!!! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 3/29/2009 4:14:41 PM | Hey POF, long time reader, first time poster!
While modern society has afforded professional and financial freedoms to women it still does not negate the fact that many of them hit the wall in their mid twenties and degrade on an exponential curve thereafter. Sure, it's nice that a woman makes those bucks and commands a leadership position in her chosen field, but if she chooses to accomplish these feats in her twenties, eschewing the chance to have a child in her prime (meaning within her prime attractive window to men), she will be hard pressed to find a sucker to knock her up.
Maybe the issue is that women feel they are more attractive if they are hard-charging careerist pseudo-men.
Regardless, a childless/marriageless woman in her thirties is leaning heavily toward 'potential failure' status IF her goal is indeed to have children. Women are much better off, in many respects above and beyond their peak attraction to men, having kids when they are younger. There is plenty of time to build a career once you've squeezed one or two runts out.
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