| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:58:27 AM | | Every one has a differnt taste,why would any one ever call these people a falure,mabye they wanted to get College out of the way or go travel,My cousin Barbra is happy being single,and she has a Job with the Pentigon,who ever made up this rule,is one of those people who love just talking out there ass,like Joan Rivers insulting people,phoney Fantasty land bullshit. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:41:11 AM | I had all that.
I didn't settle down till I was 30 yrs old and had my first child at the age of 33 and I don't regret doing it all this way round. I had some great times pre-kids, camping, bike rallies, plenty of drinking etc etc.
Now I love being a mum, albiet a newly single mum, but hey, me and the kids have fun together.
If you are happy with YOUR life then it's only you that lives it.
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 5/21/2009 7:24:28 PM | Women over 30 are not failures just because they didn't have kids as soon as they got out of high school and/ or married doesn't mean they are failures. Many women wants to be sure they are secure with their future before bringing anyone else into it. I am sure there are guys out there are the same way.
Some who have never been married always tell me they are just waiting for the "right" one to come along. I mean come on, the divorce rate keeps getting higher every time you turn around.
Why do you think people are SO picky about who they want to be with? | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 5/22/2009 9:09:50 PM | | Thats ridiculous. It means I might have a chance at finding a lady my age that doesn't have kids. Or any Guy's like me that don't have kids. I am glad for the most part that I didn't. Because it probable would not have worked out because me or my partner were to immature. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 5/23/2009 1:09:51 PM | | I'm w/ you. No one can dictate to YOU what YOU should be doing w/ YOUR life. absurd. If you had a child, they aren't going to feed,clothe,educate,etc the child you are. If you get married, they aren't going to argue, take care of, worry about etc, your spouse you would. So they should mind their own business. You're a grown up, I think you know what you want and don't want by now. right?? Of course. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:19:38 AM | I don't know for sure - but I don't let an imaginary "they" determine my self worth and I think that goes for men or women. I get questions too as a guy..."you're 36 and no kids? You ok?"..."you're not seeing anyone...time's getting short for you yanno..." but these people haven't a clue why I am where I am nor do they have a clue whether or not I've CHOSEN the things I have.
I say this - if you made a choice to be single and childless for any reason or no reason, then it's your decision and you're obviously comfortable with it. And no one else's commentary should have any say in the matter. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:53:15 PM | I wouldn't feel too bad about it if I were you. Women like you are the ones that I used to search for. Most women who are 21 and older these days have at LEAST one child. And along with that comes the baby's daddy syndrome and he's not my daddy syndrome and everything else that goes with it. Rather than feeling down on yourself for being 30 and never married with no children, you should feel proud of yourself and so should your family and friends. Over the next few years while you're still single, free to date and not tied down to anything or anyone is when your friends are going to be going through divorces, custody courts, child support courts and trying to find guys who'll date a woman with three, four or five or more children, sometimes by all different fathers.
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:29:22 AM | Hello i am a 34 yr old woman with no kids and no husband and yes i am hearing what your saying loud and clear, especially as i the only one in my group of freinds with neither!
i have a saying that i love - judge me as you will, know me as you dont.
Cheers to you! you go girl.:) | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:59:39 AM | | She is to people who see being married and being a parent at her age as what makes her a winner. But then I am strange as I don't see that her being a wealthy, attractive actress makes her any more of a winner than many of us here who are not wealthy, not as attractive as her physically, and who have normal, everyday jobs. Ones appearance, money, job, or the fact that they do or do not have children does not equate with success to me. That is another topic altogether, however. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/17/2009 4:08:34 PM | | I have never fed into this nonsense although extended family members constantly bring it up when they haven't seen me in a while. Now that my brother has made my parents grandparents I'm off the hook. There's this mentality out there that a woman should breed to ensure the family group's immortality. I'm more concerned with having the resources, partner, and the will to be a good parent. Since none of those things materialized, I am quite happy that I have not had any children. My life is my own to do with what I will. If that is considered selfish, then call me the female Grinch! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/17/2009 6:18:54 PM | | Women who are unmarried and without children are still valuable. We make great aunts, attentive step-mothers (if marriage comes along), and fine best friends. I chose not to have children and I haven't regretted it, though I have had people tell me I am not doing my womanly "duty". Horrible. Why would people say something like that? | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/18/2009 4:06:17 AM | I saw this forum and decided to check it out, because I have felt that pressure many times...whether it's of my own making or the result of or inheriting the genetic memory of generations of women who were given little to no choice of becoiming mothers at the expense of their freedom, development of other aspects of themselves (such as pursuing an education, becoming an artist, traveling, etc.) I can't be sure. I do know that I was adopted and that my beginnings were exceedingly difficult, and as a result I want to provide any children that I may be BLESSED to have with the best I can offer. I once had a boyfriend who wanted to marry me, but unfortunately, he wasn't the right person for me, even though I loved him very much. So I had a chance at marriage and having children, but following through with something I knew wasn't right would have been...wrong.
So, I guess I feel like I am judged sometimes because I have not had children (nor have I ever been pregnant) yet. I have always wanted children, but do not want to be a single parent (so long as I have a choice in the matter...many people become single parents after thinking that they had found "the one.") But I know in my heart that I strive to give of myself in my life, which one can do in so many ways, and that to simply have children so that I don't feel inadequate would be supremely selfish.
I'll end with a little rant - children are a blessing, and if you do have children, please remember that before you complain about what a hardship they are...I don't understand why some people - and I emphasize *some* - talk about their children as though they are a cross to bear...did you not choose to bring this child into the world? And, if your child wasn't planned, did you not still choose to raise him or her, rather than adopt them out??
I love children, and have done alot of work with abused and at-risk youth. Count your blessings for there are plenty of people who have not yet been blessed with a child of their own.  | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:09:45 PM | This one could be tricky except that - I am 34, single, WAY childless and eternally hope to remain that way. I decided when I was 8 yrs old I didn't want kids and have never changed my mind. I baby-sat for 6 years (12-18) raising an infant on weekends and during the summer (that doesn't count the other 10 kids regularly watched into the wee hours of the mornings). That was enough childrearing for me! I don't enjoy children and find them to be generally annoying and bothersome. Another thing is - parents today don't know HOW to parent cause far too many of them had crappy parents that didn't know how to parent. Thus we've ended up with generations of crap flooding society. UGH! Besides, in this world today if you REALLY feel you NEED a child, ADOPT one of the zillions that are out there that don't have a mum or da. No one "needs" to spit a kid out for any reason other than pure selfishness.
Single women over 30 w/o kids should be CELEBRATED. We are proud, hard working, contributig members of society, we don't need someone to lean on and we are not adding to an continually exploding overpopulation problem. Though admittedly we'd likely be more responsible than many of those that've had 7 kids by the time they are nearing their thirties.
Lunatiqfrinjj - HA thank you. You stated very well what is the problem.
As for the poster of msg 522 - GOOD GRIEF - I think it is quite the opposite. Those who've overbred (sometimes even just by having 1 little beast) are the to pitied and viewed as less than. Often they realize they never had a chance to live THEIR life and thus in turn divorace and ruin the child they so "love." Bah. What hooey you spill. | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:33:04 PM | | i haven't read the other replies but in my humble opinion i don't think that is true. In this day and age time goes by fast, pursuit of happiness, career, and this can make things get a little hectic. Not to mention the fact that there are so many choices out there and for me, i wouldn't want to settle with someone to have kids. Being that, this is my logic, i can totally understand how that can happen to a woman. A few blinks and 10 years zooooooms by! | |
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| WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS?
Posted: 7/20/2009 7:37:51 PM | | You are in your prime, I wish that I had lived in a large city when I was in my 30s. Lots of men in their 30s who also are single and childless, take advantage of it. About age 40 everyone seems to be getting divorced, so at my age of 51 there is a plethora of divorced and single women and fewer divorced and single men it seems. | |
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