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Posted: 7/25/2008 12:27:17 PM |
K, I think the old parrothead only confused the issue.
How do you determine which profiles you even want to read?
Ahhhhh...... gotcha. (sorry for the DUH)
That's easy. It's like Christmas when you see all the presents under the tree. Some have elegant wrapping and some are wrapped in newspaper, but neither of those indicate what might be inside the package. The only way to find out is to open them all.
I look at them all. Sometimes I'll ooh and awww what's in there, and sometimes it's just coal and I move on quickly.
I will admit that the ones without photos are the last ones I'll browse. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:32:10 PM | | It's done by location. When a 19 year old shows up in my matches, that's a good indication, it's only location. lol... | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 4:54:19 AM | I don't think there is a way to determine which you want to "read"...
Although I don't believe I would limit myself by appearance when deciding who to date, definately appearance will have something to do with who I look at. There are certain types of faces I find appealing. Also, if they have a motorcycle in their picture I usually choose NOT to read it because its telling me that is something really important to them. I can't relate to motorcycles, so I usually don't look. But when all is said and done...when I'm bored, I simply click and read, click and read. I look at everybody who lives within 25 miles (its a smaller city so not that many on the list). Those that are marked at 50 miles (usually means up to 100 miles on POF) I just click at random. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 6:57:13 AM | I never look at the chemistry part. If people look at mine, I don't think they get an accurate picture of who I am, either.. so I wish I could re-take whatever test it was I took to prompt those answers. The family part, for example, says something like I place low emphasis on family ... which is misleading. No, I don't hate my family .. lol .. I love my kids, but am recently an empty-nester... fact is that I want to enjoy my social life now, and kids are more independent, they have their own lives. I talk to them daily and see them often, but see my friends MORE often. I have no other family except a brother in California. So, there you go.
Anyway. Just an example of how I don't necessarily beleive in the chemistry section. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 11:27:23 AM | I tend to scan the "local section" (users close to where i live) as well as the "viewed me" set. but it is hard to really decide when there are so many fish in the sea. i agree that sometimes a picture or a comment tells me i dont need to read anymore. For the most part the thing that gets me to pay attention is the grabber line. If I like it, if its different , funny or otherwise catches my eye, i am going to read this persons profile carefully. if the grabber does not grab me i might still read it but (honestly) am more likely to skim it. short profiles also intrege me. why? who knows perhaps its the mystery.  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 11:27:45 AM | | I tend to scan the "local section" (users close to where i live) as well as the "viewed me" set. but it is hard to really decide when there are so many fish in the sea. i agree that sometimes a picture or a comment tells me i dont need to read anymore. For the most part the thing that gets me to pay attention is the grabber line. If I like it, if its different , funny or otherwise catches my eye, i am going to read this persons profile carefully. if the grabber does not grab me i might still read it but (honestly) am more likely to skim it. short profiles also intrege me. why? who knows perhaps its the mystery. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 9:12:34 PM | | Im so bad, I just play click on the pic ...if i read something someone wrote on the forums then Ill go to their profile and then click around their city and see how many different guys are on how many favorites ...gives me an idea what goes on in that town, it is so funny the next day to see who all i viewed coming back to view me. Reminds me of window shopping. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 12:31:12 AM | Back when I was still available. . . . Well, I tried writing a couple of times -- sheer disaster. So I just sat back and posted on the forums. And waited. Which actually seemed to work pretty well. At one point, I was "talking" to two different fellas, both awfully bright and nice. Hadn't met either. Finally met one, and for whatever reasons it didn't take, and I continued with the other. At some point, after we got serious, on a lark, I checked my matches. There they both were. The one that hadn't worked at about 86% and the one that had at 99%. (I don't know if they put the percentages up any more.) Maybe Markus know sumpin *we* don't, lol!
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Posted: 8/20/2008 7:08:13 PM | | Just went back and checked out my matches. Do not think that my matches were chosen with my particular needs in mind. Just because these guys were presented as matches for me, does not mean that they are the only ones to choose from in the POF pool of fishies. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 2:30:28 PM | The only thing that would prompt me to write to someone is if what they had written in their profile made me laugh, made them seem like a person who was full of life and they appeared to have a similar lifestyle to me. Anything that sounds judgemental, demanding or bitter will turn me right off.
Having said that I don't think I've written more than half a dozen first contact emails in two years , and three of those were just to say 'Hi -your profile is great and it made me laugh'. | |
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| matches and chemestry
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:35:27 PM | For me the basic laws of attraction boils down to one thing...NO HOLD'S BAR. I do not limit myself as to what I think will attract me. I have been pulled toward some by just reading their profiles with no pictures attached as much as just one's with pictures. The quickest way between my leg's is though my mind. Once the spark has been lit then the imagination takes over. After that it could be anything from the sound of his voice to the gleam in his eyes to brew the chemistry.
Being old school and around the block a couple of times, it really takes someone with a lot of imagination to stop me in my tracks. The most sexually intense man I ever met caught my attention one time when he sent me a message with just one word sent as a question. It made me go Hmmmm???and I was glad that I replied with a answer of...why yes thank you for asking. He and the sex was totally off the hook & chain and we met by neither of us seeing what each other looked like, we just read each other's profile. The attraction we had for each other was crazy and I had the pleasure for the next two years of breaking all of my rules and loving every minute of it. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:18:10 PM | Hey Parrot - my first point of contact is seeing what someone wrote in the forums. The profiles are matched by interests, keywords and such - the chemistry portion, well, they label you a personality 'type' and give you the best 'matches' based on those evaluations.
They're just black and white - jumping off points...NOT the points I use to jump off and contact someone.
My first reaction about contacting a 'fishie' is generated by what they write - it usually tells a lot about the person to read their insight on an issue because it comes from their personal 'library' of experience.
If I like what's in the forums, I'll go to their profile.
And, if I like what I see there as much as what was in the forums, I jump on the next bus and reach out.
So, I send an e-mail (winks are like nudges - ya can't interpret intent from them), reach out and touch someone. Then it's up to them to respond.
I've met a few gentlemen off here - friendship abounds. Just no special sparks - and as another poster pointed out - if I'm going to go the distance again, content is NOT going to be the driving force - I refuse to settle any more. If I'm gonna step in that snakepit again, I'm a comin' out with the best viper there is and it's going to be a fantastic ride down the rest of the road!
LOL!
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Posted: 8/21/2008 8:18:08 PM | | When my older brother and I played with "Matches and a Chemistry" set on our Dad's desktop it blew up the glass beaker and caught part of his desk on fire! As I recall....there was a bit of negativity afterwards! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 1:51:36 PM | | Ismene I am with you. I have a lot more people who fit the age location range but some of the names on my chemestry and match list are so different from me i dont see any thing that fits me except the feamale part. (oh and by the way some of the folks whom i met with a supposedly high match were way off while other folks who were blocked by distance or some other thing were really good potential matches) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 5:55:47 PM | | I have met a few really good guys on POF. I didn't have any chemestry for them. One thing I do is give a guy a chance for that to happen. Like a 3 date rule, then they become good friends. I dont want to hurt anyone. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 3:48:14 PM | | I have discovered that my "matches" have also been sent to numerous other women. I've compared them with "matches" sent to women I know on here. Of all of the so-called "matches" I've received notification of, only one was even near compatible to my personality - and he turned out to be married. I place no credence in the "matches" or "chemistry" picks. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 4:16:36 PM | I didn't take the test, but let POF do it for me. Then I looked at my potential possibilities.
Oddly, the two I'm most interested in and have dated one, are, respectively, 98% and 91%. I guess this is because they are the ones who share the most emails with me. No rocket science here.
shoot that da*n thang! | |
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Posted: 4/28/2009 12:07:00 PM | | I am not sure hw it works I have contacted women that the chemestry have said I was a match for between 95 and 100 percent and there was nothing there often not even a response to my e-mail. I think it must be random or the person I am contacting doesn't see the chemestry..... | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 2:41:26 PM | BigDan,
I tried to send you a message but since I don't have a picture posted you have blocked me from doing so. You say that you often don't get a response to your email. Have you sent any emails to women who don't have a pictiure posted? If so, then by the way you have selected your settings their emails are blocked from being sent to you.
I don't believe that the chemistry scores have anything to do with reality, and for me, chemistry is more about personality than looks. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 3:41:53 PM | | Allow some one else to match you ...sounds like blind dating. Best to do your own investigations from profiles, to emails, to phone, then meet and see from there. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 9:59:38 PM | Ok... location. that is probably it. Because when I get the latest matches... they are always all over the place! From 18 years old to 80! All types! But, now that I think of it... I think they are usually from Idaho. thats about it. What I don't like about the tiny thumnail pics on the match page is I often cannot tell the age by the pic! I am not interested in opening a 24 yr old profile... but I do quite often because they looked older in the tiny unclear pics! Makes me feel kinda dumb. (what must they think when they look to see who has viewed their profiles??? an old pervert? ha ha).
But, the matches, as generic as they are, are often helpful. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2009 6:48:15 PM | The majority of the time, the men who appear in my matches are so far removed from what I perceive to be even remotely a "match," that I wouldn't contact them. There have been a few surprises though, as some of these same men have contacted me and, though we weren't a match, we are good friends.
The chemistry test is almost funny. Have had absolutely no success with men I've met through that. Had a couple of dates with one of them...but he didn't like the smell of my (unscented) skin cream!!!! Another one who scored 97% match on my chemistry list is someone who sent me so many weird and creepy emails that I finally blocked him.
Back to the matches, it really causes me to wonder what their method is of matching people up, as I am not looking for hang out, intimate encounter, or talk/email, and yet men who are looking for those appear in my matches. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 1:42:26 PM | | The part I dont get is , I have the box checked "no" kids , yet 30 % of my matches want kids ? wtf | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 2:33:12 PM | .
Interesting topic. I have had very little faith in the matches, they are usually similar in nothing but location and marital preferences, sometimes not even that. The radii of proximity is way too broad.
I have seen much better matches in the Chemistry feature. But I thought I was the only one who had discovered that. It certainly seemed that way from who contacted me. I kept my mail preferences broad because of gal pals here as well as forum buddies, and I got mail from guys who no way read my profile, matches or chemestry. And since I never posted a picture, sometimes I still wonder why they contact me. LOL
Namaste,
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