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Posted: 7/24/2008 12:20:06 AM | 3- Don't rush to open your legs. And what makes you an expert to be able to give this type of advice? I think it's a woman's choice as to when and how she will do this. Would you like someone to tell you to keep your pants zipped? I don't think so.
Now.. all the dating sites are alike very rarely are they actually a place to meet someone..although you will read testimonials they are a small % of people who actually find a relationship. The people who own/run dating sites make money and become rich .. I will say that forums on dating sites have been the most fun for me and I enjoy reading and participating in the forums. I'm thinking it's better to meet people the old fashioned way and not on the internet.. network with friends, get out in public, take a class, join a group, talk to co-workers they are always willing to play cupid. Timing is really important when meeting someone, I don't care what people say chemistry can't be found online but friends can be. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 6:43:50 PM |
I don't care what people say chemistry can't be found online but friends can be.
Has been for me. First one I lived with, and was with him when he died.
If you *don't* think it can be, I promise you: it won't be.
Choose.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 6:54:03 PM | | I know... I have met a lot of frogs... and I refuse to kiss them to find "THE PRINCE" and I found what I thought to be the "PRINCE" and he turned out to be the "BIGGEST NO GOOD FROG" Seems like all the guys only want a "Barbie Doll" or a one nite stand!!!! I am getting off this site also!!! Good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:12:34 PM | | This site is just like a company. It's not the company/site that sucks it's some of the people that make it seem that way!!! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:37:55 PM | | You can't say good bye to life just because of that. I'm sorry, but that is every where not just here on POF. Some people are just to picky and want something that doesn't exist. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:42:03 PM | I've got news for you ma'am. They are like that no matter what site you choose. I have been used and lied to on yahoo, eharmony, true, date.com, bbw.com and this one. It is so hurtful and I don't know why people do that to another person. But the truth is there are some real snakes out there. Men and women. You think you have it figured out and somebody will break that trust and you are back to square one.
I was with one liar for 18 months. His last email to me was "I'll call you in a few days, I love you". Then absolutely nothing till I caught him on yahoo. Then he gets mad because I am hurt.  That shook me to the core. I cried over that man for months.
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Posted: 7/25/2008 8:19:05 PM | It is disappointing when you have expectations. It is amazing that we have this kind of connection, though. You can meet hundreds of people, some may not be truthful, but if it wasn't available you could also sit home and never meet anyone. You have my empathy because you sound like a sincere person who would make some good guy very complete.
My intentions are the same here. I desire that special guy to become the object of my affections but certainly we must be cautious because you never really know someone until you are friends for some time.
Don't give up, there are still plenty of good men and they outnumber the schmucks. I hope you meet someone wonderful who is just right for you! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 10:41:17 AM | I agree with those who have said not to blame the site...rather the individual.
I happen to LOVE POF! I have also been on several paying sites. You can just FEEL the love...NOT! What you feel is the money getting sucked out of your checking account.
The big draw to POF is not the fact that it is free...rather, for the interactions and communications going on in the forums. I personally hate chat lines. The forums are so much better! Its great to read what others have said to a question or comment made by someone else, possibly from across an ocean. Then, to be able to make (hopefully) an intelligent response.
I have developed some friendships here. I would be very sad to lose them. As to finding my Prince/Soulmate/Partner in Crime...whatever. I know I haven't met him yet simply because....we haven't met yet.
Sooo....I remain. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:57:42 PM | OP, its sad that you feel this way. I have been here for a long while now, met maybe one or two people total, have a couple good friends now, but haven't found anyone yet that is 'forever-material'.
I don't feel this site is necessarily to blame for your pain and heartache. There are dishonest people out in the real world. I have a handful of numbers if you'd like one, and they stretch across the country. Also, remember, for every cold and dishonest guy, there is also a cold and dishonest gal out there.
I've learned that we are all good people inside, some have just had harder lessons that they haven't yet learned the values of and haven't yet moved on. Time, and maybe a few more mistakes will lead us down the right path... Just don't give up hope, and don't punish a new person in your life, for what the people of the past have done...
CowTrucker
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:25:47 PM | | I just try to be who we are some of us are winners and some are losers. All I know is I try to be truthful to myself since I have to live with me. I am still looking for Ms. Wonderful. I will never come off as being a bad boy or**** or arrogant. I am content to live each day as it comes and see what happens. God Luck. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:05:54 PM | So such people can only exist here? LOL such naivety is quite entertaining!
So you are going to tar and feather all of us for what some other chump may have done?
I am not going to apologize for for what others have done, other men might do that, I will not.
Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 4:57:55 AM | | Not to be insensitive OP but I really was wondering why you are still here ? You said you were leaving, you are still here, did you perhaps change your mind? And if so..why? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 1:27:23 PM | | well i have to agree..... iv been on this site along while now, i have met one guy and we r still mates but i would say 75% iv spoke to want one nightas, yet to begin with they come over very genuine etc, i guess im thick cause i cant tell a good one from the bad and i have to say it disheartens u... im not blaming the site its some of the users and mayb some guys have this problem with women.. sorry just voicing my opinoin xxx | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 1:51:05 PM | | I see bad people everywhere!! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:03:47 PM | | look at it this way. if you wanted some real nice chippendale furniture in immaculate condition, you wouldn't rummage round a car boot sale to find it cos inevitably if you did, it would be scratched and flawed. same as free dating sites honey, we're all defective too! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:11:25 PM | Very, very, well said. javascript:smilie(' ')
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:44:56 PM | seas the day,
Been on over twenty sites! Paid for two, got same exact message(header title, spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors, from two different women three days apart. Different site , same thing, including one of the ones from before! Still another site, seven day free trial, all access during that time, can't mention name of site, it's true, but well reviewed, uses tests for everything, and than generates random emails on "your" behalf that are spammed everywhere on site. I'm not looking for an 18 year old in Beverly Hills, thanks anyway. I wouldn't get myself into a position that someone had to tell me to "keep your pants zipped", but would not be offended in the slightest! GREAT advice, if you want a decent guy, NO FREE MILK!! Any real man looking for quality, isn't going to say, I bet that's the first time she's ever been like that. A decent guy will wait, if he is looking for long term, plenty of sites for hookups, if that's want they want! POF is a bit of a "brand name" and some of us were hoping for something that offered a bit more quality, I'm certain. Finally did some research, many of these sites pay an actual commission to women to get people to join them! Really, who has 7564 "friends"!? I actually see a picture from one of these scammers on the site now, Hi M_____a!( AKA PFMMA!) Sorry, but I don't believe anyone has over 100+ friends on these sites and is looking for long term. Have met only one person on site in the flesh, story doesn't add up, background check, shows tons of misinformation. CONFIDENCE goes along way, wait a bit and you'll know what you have. If you have actually fished before, you don't yank the worm out at the first nibble! Wait, see if you get a couple of pulls on your line ,then set the hook however you want! Waynesvillerock! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 3:07:08 PM | If you had... any brain... then it would....be... plastic.. surgeon.... but... because... you know nothing about.. the human... body,, heart or psyche... you.... are a facsimile of a human??? are you an android>?:> where do you get off putting DOWN the sex that spawned YOU??? SHAME ON YOU AND EVERYONE LIKE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 3:44:10 PM | Sorry your experience was such a failure for you OP. There are jerks everywhere you turn though. Here and out there. Guess you just have to learn to read between the lines and trust your instincts a little more. Lots of people will say and pretend to be whatever they THINK you want them to be. Both sexes are guilty of this behaviour.
Deception is a way of life for some. They get off on hurting others. They want revenge for past hurts that were imparted on them and they will use whomever comes along, as their victim. Just remember that not everyone has a motive or evil agenda. There are a lot of wonderful folks out there and here, who do care, are genuine and are like you, just hoping to meet someone to care about and will unconditionally return that same safe, true and open feeling.
Personally, if nothing else, I feel sorry for anyone who feels they need to use, hurt or decieve. They are probably full of hurt and very lonely. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 5:08:51 PM | you brought it on yourself by only looking for what you wanted to find and ignored signs that this wasn't the person you thought.
Could not have said it better. When we look for what we want as opposed to what is good for us, we use our feelings, chemistry and attraction without really knowing the person because that is what we want. We ignore what is going on many times based on the beauty of the person externally. It happened to me with a way above average girl who had so many men after her I was actually the worst looking for her. Well, guess what?. She dumped me because she had all these men lining up for her. She was young and naive, so she went for those types.
We only want to see what appeals to us in a relationship. We ignore the player signs, the "I dont care about you signs" the narcissist signs and we let our hormones and lust go. It happened to me. But I was also young , and naive too I guess. Besides, I never thought I could have a girlfriend as beautiful as that girl was.
You are still relatively young. I am sure there are going to be a lot of men who will play with your heart, but if you seek instant gratification, that is what you are going to get. Don't dump every man in that category. We are not all like that. Make sure you choose better next time. Use your instinct and not your body impulses. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 6:57:59 PM | I may be out of line to say this but..what the heck...caution to the wind..
Did you ever think you pick the wrong ones because of your "OWN" personality issues...you pick men who are going to be dogs because..thats what you feel your worth in the long run...I dont know if its the danger aspect one guy mentioned or the purposeful picking of wrong people to back up a serious flaw in your self esteem...But as a young gal...you owe it to your self to find out..
Ok..you got a bad apple...you have a few choices...give up men all together...Be A sexual...or..just figure you out first..and what it is your REALLY looking for...You cant find happyness in another..but..together you can achieve it and share it..but..it must be mutual..not one sided..Good luck to you...Now..back to fishing... | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 8:42:58 PM | here, here...... couldnt agrr more on both accounts  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 4:12:19 PM | Stop looking for your prince charming.....HE IS GAY, no really, he is
Best comment I've read today!
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