| | Guys, What Would You Do?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | I'd go out with you again if you made a "real connection" with me. The question is...did he make a connection, not just you? Play hard to get , and he might come a knockin'. Patience is key as well as good communication. I don't see either so far. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:40:17 PM | | if it was a "connection" and a good BJ, of course I would want to see you again,lol. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 7:36:31 PM | I happen to had a pretty good experience at the first POF mxer I ever went to. Met this very nice , sexy ,fun lady. We laughed our butts off! One thing led to another and we ended up at her place. Where we had an even better time. Although she lived a ways from me, and once the alcohol flushed out of my body I had to see her one more time to see everything in a true light. So we went out the next evening. I met a very smart and witty lady. I also saw that their probably wouldn't be a connection. Did the sex affect my decision? No. Did I lose any respect for her? No.
I did learn one thing though, where the sex was great, without true feelings between two people the sex was also a little.......empty.
Would I do it again if I had the chance?...........Hell Yes!!!!! :] | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:22:23 AM | myself i would try to go back or even ask if she wants to see me again, to find out if they're was chemistry or was just wam bam thank you mam type of deal | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 2:18:04 AM | Firstly if my girl went down on me, perhaps deep throating me on our first date I would consider myself extremely lucky tho I could understand her lustfulness, similarly if i made her cum then I am only performing my chivalrous duty, but if it was only once i obviously need training and I would hope she would give me another chance to improve that to three or four times, secondly, how could I possibly consider her in any worse light than I do myself, I was a party to this luxurious encounter, if he doesn't contact you again his loss but I concern myself with your, don't even know if you want to see him again, how could you progress to a mouthfull of his manhood if you didn't have a connection that should progress, you both are lucky, move one in a mature manner and see where it leads you both,
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Posted: 7/26/2008 2:24:24 AM | | I don't know if sarcastic answers are allowed but here goes, if he doesn't contact you again he is,as most N/Americans on here would say, probably gay or frightened that you thought he was too small and therefore not worth pursuing you could always send him a subscription to 'gay monthly' or a supply of 'penis enlargement' pills and he should get the idea seeing as how your not sure if you want to even see him again | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:04:57 AM | Definitely would want to go out with her again.
If I'm getting any fooling around of any sort I'll certainly take that to mean she's interested and me and I'm not about to just have her walk away after that never to meet again. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:45:43 AM |
Would you want to go out with a girl again if she that happened? Or would you just be thinking, "oh well at least I got something" and move on? I'm not even sure I want to see him again, but I'm curious how guys think. lol
He is probably feeling the same thing, wondering if he really wants to see you again. Sounds like both of you have busy schedules and not a lot of free time. Both of you maybe thinking "We met, had fun, it was nice, but do I really want to invest in this?"
For myself... I find when I am just starting to get to know someone, I lose interest very quickly if we don't meet face to face often at the beginning. Once we have established something, a few days/weeks separation is not a big deal. At the beginning though it can be the difference between a relationship and just a good memory. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:21:39 AM | OP,
TY for posting this. I am sure you are in good company with other women. I can empathize with your interest in this man and your desire to meet quickly. I tend to follow the chemistry. I think it best to approach each date with no plan or expectation. Evidently it felt right to you at the time. Kudos for following the chemistry. His non-response to you is unfortunate. Who knows why he chose to not remain in contact? Only him... Likely it is a reflection of his character or issues. Perhaps he is incapable of sustaining a connection. Perhaps he is married. Perhaps he is a monoslavicneanderf * ck. There is potential consequence of meeting some one prior to getting to know them well. This is one. Pls try to NOT assume it is about you or blame yourself.
We are all dealing with something in common here. We are all on a free internet dating service. Ive been exposed to fake profiles, fake pics, married women, hookers, being stood up, liars and the proverbial, "Playa". Dating is what it is... Practice, experimentation, learning and in this case, Catholic sex....LOL.
I dont think, necessarily, that you made an error in choice with him. You followed the chemistry. I would have also. there were other things here that dont make sense. That happens. Whenever I feel like, "What the f * ck just happened" I note that it isnt about me...
Have fun, be careful, and use Casenet or other State Sponsored civil recording site to check your dates exposure the to court system. You can find traffic violations, DUI, restraining orders, divorce and other civil litigation on anyone. It is public under State Law...in EVERY STATE.
https://www.courts.mo.gov/casenet/base/welcome.do
Ive found plenty of liars with this tool. You can also Google them.
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:17:37 AM | | I can't see why I wouldn't want to go back, If it was that good the first time it can only get better in the future. I have no issues about sex or sexual contact on the first date, but then again i'm not the type to have fun and run...I would definitely be wanting to see her again and see where the future takes us. Don't get me wrong, i am no angel and have had a few one night stands in my past, but we both new that's all it was going to be, and just enjoyed the time together. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:30:50 AM | | i would lose some respect for her because she blew me on the first date .........but that doesnt mean its a lost cause..........if the blowjob was good and she had other good qualities, id still hang out with her again | |
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Zuglo
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:49:50 AM | I personaly don't have a problem going out with a women who puts out on the first time. Been there, than that, and she was a good friend, with benefits, until she got married, than a fun ended.
But I am just wondering, OP said it's not her typical first date behavior.
So,what happened? Was the guy (or his penis) just irresistible?..
And OP not even sure if she wants to see him again? Why is that?
But to answer the question, YES, I would go out with her again, but if she doesn't want to, I would be thinking "oh well at least I got something", and move on.
What else am I supposed to do? | |
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yna6
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Posted: 7/26/2008 9:11:32 AM | Sure. Sometimes the "waiting" game for sex is just that...a game...and some people don't like playing games. Also, it can be a quick indicator as to whether or not you would be a compatible couple.
Also, people become much more "intimate" with each other when naked. I don't mean just physically either. they can actually "communicate" far easier. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 11:54:56 AM | It would totally depend upon the woman. One certain plus would in fact be that she was sexually comfortable with herself as well as open which is a MAJOR plus.
If she passed and obviously she did pass the "sniff" test then futures rendezvous would be a YES. Now in conjunction, if she possessed intellect, class, a strong physical attraction then a situation such as this may become much more then an occasional and casual rendezvous for pleasure. Key word.....may.
I know that in the situation such as that the OP has posted....a sure deal breaker for me is when the "sniff" test is not passed. At that point there won't even be a full first time. Certainly no second time.
To indulge in sex at the first in person meeting does not weigh the scales one way or the other, it simply cuts through much of the "crap." Why the hell waste each others time if the sexuality isn't close to compatible? | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:10:35 PM | It's not whether or not she "put out" that would make the determining factor; I've had many dates where we both felt it was right on the first date, and I definitely wanted to see them again.
But you have to remember that a lot of guys are predatory; if he was interested in "giving to get", and then move on, he was successful. Also, he might have had very good intentions, but your chemistry didn't end up being what he wanted it to be. I will agree, though, that he was a dirt-bag for at least not explaining this to you, in that event. You're better off without him, and getting a guy that will appreciate your interest and your giving nature. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:41:59 PM | I think a lot of it is dependent on a couple factors. What was once viewed as a one night stand I now think of it more in different terms now that I am age 45. I never liked the idea of a one night stand before (and really still don't) but, I think as we (OK this is my opinion) get older we tend to find it more difficult to find others we are compatible with. I have been on a couple dates where a lot of emailing, phone calls etc occurred. Then we met and no chemistry (was kind of disappointing). On some others we had some fun in the sack but then it just died. Who knows, might have been me, her or both of us.
Actually I kind of like to fool around soon with someone, I have run across many ladies in my age group that got married to the their high school sweetheart and have only done missionary or doggy style for 22 years...LOL. They have no sexual experience or desire to change. I tend to like someone who is open minded (nothing far out just open minded). But you wont know this until you get a chance to fool around.
So the fact that it had not moved forward or limited contact after the fooling around can be a lot more than a guy who is just out to get some.
I just think as we get older just take the experience for what it is and if you want more let the other person know. This goes for both men and women. And don't be afraid to say hey, I really enjoyed the time we spent doing that, lets have some more fun. A FWB in my opinion better than no friends at all. Plus you never know what will develop.
I think to much emphasis is placed on the need to establish a "relationship" before having a sexual one. Why not just do what feels good. If you don't feel like having sex with that person don't. If you do then do it. Trying to define a relationship before one if created is the recipe for disaster.
To the OP if you call him and he doesn't return your calls unfortunately you have to move on. Its also a good chance he's married or attached and who wants to hang with liar? | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:45:04 PM | "He made me cum (yay!) and then I went down on him. Trust me, this is not my typical first date behavior"
I would contact penthouse magazine as soon as possible. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:48:37 PM | | Only if you have no objections to having your likness portrayed by Jenna. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 1:07:54 PM | Why do you need to judge what you determine should be "first date behavior"? We are all adults and if we are consenting adults we can do as we please on a date. There are no "rules".
I do not think any less of a lady that fools around on a first date vs someone who does not. If the chemistry is their then so be it. Hell as a big man I like being wanted sexually and if you want to express that on the first date great!
For me, I am more inclined to be interested in someone who is in touch with themselves sexually enough to be free.
Now if we go out and you get drunk and are hanging on everyone and anything I just end up being the guy who got "lucky" thats a different story.
But holy crap, get off the judgment train and apparently you need to read Penthouse Forum. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:56:30 PM | | Having sex on a first date has never stopped me from getting into a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:03:02 PM | | If there's any worrying on your part about having sex with him "too soon," if he's the type to criticize you for having sex on the first date, what's that make him? I believe someone stated already..a HYPOCRITE??? If a woman is considered sleazy for having sex on the first date, then the man is just as sleazy, and even sleazier if he has the unmitagated GALL to criticize her for doing so. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:48:05 PM | Why wouldn't a guy want to go back out with a woman who gets busy on a 1st date?
To me it shows that she's not uptight. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:52:25 PM | Well, I wasn't that guy... So, I wouldn't know. I'm glad to hear you're having fun  | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:49:47 PM | I often wondered this too as I have a hard time turning someone down on the first date when the chemistry is there and if we talked for a while via email, chat or phone. I've always wanted to know what the guy is thinking about me and my behavior after the date. I know that I'm a grown adult and can make these kind of decisions but the thought was always there, 'Am I whore' or 'Man maybe I should be paid for this' hehe  jk!
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