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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:11:53 PM | ^^^^^ that actually was pretty funny....
I have seen one guy who had a testimonial from a girl up that sounded CLEARLY as if they were dating... calling him MY baby and all that.. I actually wrote and asked him why he was there still looking when he had a girl.. no response..but the testimonial was gone. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:28:56 PM |
The ones from friends are kinda sweet and don't bother me. The ones from people marking their territory are a turn off and I don't know why someone would leave them up if they are looking.
I think this and message 28 are pretty accurate. IMHO the testimonials do more harm than good.
I actually searched the term "testimonial" in the forums as I just read one on the profile of a PoF acquaintance. The lady did seem to be marking her territory. lol | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:50:58 PM | i think they are often absurdly unattractive.
it's not so awful if it's clearly a female friend trying to talk up her buddy, although they aren't exactly going to offer anything but praise realistically. It's hardly impressive.
The male testimonials I find humorous. They either appear to be hopelessly sycophantic male friends piling on the flattery, such a friend is a revolting social accessory - someone who will gladly lick her boots and tell her she is right even when she is far from reasonable....anything to gain favor.
Or they are a rather sleazy player looking guy you get the impression had a night or two of fun with this less than gorgeous looking girl, and are now recommending her to you as a "good time" - but with the caveat that she is an extremely special woman (he wasn't interested in dating seriously) and conclude by making veiled threats, barking at the anonymous male audience like a mindless chihuahua. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:09:26 PM | oh ... you mean like the ones that spell out a BANNER with all the lettering?? Like "Major HOTTIE" or something??? Yeah... I LOVE those ones. Apparently there is some guy in the greater Cinci area who's a former frustrated graffiti TAGGER, been arrested for defacing everybody's property, who now just sprays his manhood on every cute profile within a hundred mile radius of his particular ground zero......
I've actually corresponded with a couple of the women who've had his scent sprayed on their profiles.... and what's amazing is to hear them say he looks NOTHING like his picture, and is a complete ass.....but they never remove the testimonial..... So they must just seem to like it... but who am I to inform them that they're their own culprit from getting that 'good hearted man' that they post on the top of their profile..... Who's buffaloing whom here?? | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:07:47 AM | Hmmm.... first, I get the feeling there was a little (big?) chunk of the early thread that was excised. At the very least, one or two posts are missing, obviously. I feel like the person who walks up to a group of people at a bar and is completely lost in conversation because they're all discussing what someone else said, but they don't say what that person said.
On the OP, my guy didn't have any testimonials on his profile when I met him (on this site, no less!), but he does now -- a friend who he actually went out with a bit before they both said "Gee, I don't think we click, let's be friends!" Oddly -- or not perhaps -- she's now actually a good friend of mine, as well. But when I read your post I thought about it, and if my guy had had a bunch of testimonials either from: 1) tried and failed connections; 2) women with whom he was obviously also flirting with the idea of a relationship; or 3) women who "staked a claim" as you said -- well, I wouldn't have thought of him as a potential relationship partner. I'd still have met him for coffee -- there are very few people who I would NOT meet for coffee, since I just really enjoy meeting people and having fascinating conversations, but still... Testimonials definitely would have colored my first blush impressions of my guy before I met him.
I, too, am left in wonderment when I read a lot of excessively flattering or sycophantic testimonials on any guy or girl's profile. Do they not realize, I wonder, that they can easily remove those testimonials? Some people are more savvy than others at negotiating the little rivlets and streams that make up this web site, to be sure. Let's face it, as much as we all love POF, the software which runs things is pretty basic and not incredibly intuitive in some areas.
By the way, for the poster whose friend says he can't control what women post to his profile as testimonials, that is just not correct. Only people you have on your favorites list (people who you have added to your own favorites, not those on who's fav's list you appear) even have the option of leaving testimonials about you. So, the easy answer is to remove troublesome testimonial-leavers from your favorites list.
It occurs to me that a lot of testimonials, even the fairly innocuous ones from same-gender friends and people who are obviously forum buddies, etc. are a lot like those notes we all wrote to each other in our high-school yearbooks. Some testimonials are sweet, and probably give both the giver and receiver a lot of warm and fuzzy feelings. ("Remember when we painted the town on senior trip, dude?! That was AWESOME! You're the greatest and I'll NEVER FORGET YOU! Stay cool, dude.") But testimonials as a concept are, indeed, pretty irrelevant as a predictor to what your own contact with a person will bring (for dating purposes).
Really do love those "piss all over it to mark their territory" type testimonials, though!  | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:32:58 AM | i saw one once, dude says that HE was the best sex SHE had ever had, what kind of an endorsement is that? like "i was too good for her, but yeah she's still relatively good so have at it boys"... struck me as an odd testimonial to leave.
summarily, every testimonial is either completely generic and cliche, or just weird. that i've seen. like i've not seen one that actually encourages me to be any more drawn to the person lol. wouldn't ever stop me from messaging though, since that person didn't write it on there. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 8/28/2008 11:11:54 PM | I haven't been here long, but I admit to pretty much being turned off by glowing testimonials on a guy's profile. If he was that great a 'date' why are you both still looking?
It's a little different to having a friend tell you a friend of theirs "is a great guy and you two would really hit it off". | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 8/29/2008 6:13:20 AM | I just saw a profile, of a woman living not far from me. Nice pictures. Well written profile. Seemed to be an intelligent an sensible young lady.
But, then I got to the bottom of the profile and seen a testimonial that looked like it was written by a 9 year old child.
If I'd been considering contacting that woman, the testimonial would have made me completely change my mind. I figure that if she's got some guy on her fav's list, who'd leave a testimonial like that, then she's more interested in guys who write emails saying "waz happening lol. ur hot lolz haha. want 2 chat" than she would be in corrresponding with me. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 8/29/2008 6:27:12 AM | Yeah, I think those testimonials would pretty much put me off contacting someone, but it would be more the fact that HE left them up, than the fact that some cheesy bimbos wrote and posted them. We have the power to delete testimonials from our profiles, and any guy who would leave those kinds of testimonials up smacks of "see how great I am, women fight over me, don't you want to fight for me too?"
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 8/29/2008 6:37:15 AM |
Now I see those and I'm pretty turned off entirely.
I agree! They are a TOTAL turn off for me. They're either from the person's kids or personal friends - which is completely biased OR they're from... exes?? I don't know - I don't understand the logic. Do I want to hear from previous partners, how good & nice she is? Probably not. In addition, if she was so good & nice, why is she an EX?? | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 4/28/2009 2:55:12 PM | All of them !! I've left this site for awhile, now I'm back and I see that guys are still flaming idiots for writing testimonials about women they met, or want to meet. how stupid can a guy get ???? It's always the same information about how great she is. no shit sherlock!
If she is that great, and the two of you had this great meet and relationship, then why aren't you with her ????? why would you want to make her look good to another guy if you are trying to pursue her.... you guys who write those are morons !!! | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 4/28/2009 5:31:14 PM | It depends on how it's done of coarse. ~
Can you date someone for say a year ~ part ways and still be the best of friends, No?
Well , ~ It's not easy is it? ~ You've got to be a pretty "stand up" person.
We all must find out way ~
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 4/28/2009 5:59:35 PM | To answer the initial question :
All of them.
They always have some schmuck claiming she's the best thing since sliced bread "and if you don't treat her like the queen she is , I'll bust your kneecaps" or one of her "bestest girlfriends" telling you you're too low to even contemplate talking to her in the first place.
With friends like that , why would anybody a day out of high school want to get involved with her ?
(I'm sure it's the same thing for the ladies but I don't look at mens' profiles as a rule so I can't speak to them) | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:27:31 PM | | i have read some testimonials and they all sound like a sales pitch. those who wrote about the other, if theyre so great and wonderful, why arent they with that person is what i often wonder. so yes, theyre a turn off for me. | |
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| How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:38:31 AM | Depends.... Some testimonials I have seen on others profiles denote basic friendship or commenting how they like the persons forum posts..
But the usual testimonials with some chick slatherin on about how "gooooood he was" reeks of sloppy seconds and HUGE off...  | |
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