| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/18/2005 12:57:35 PM | | OH BY THE WAY TCOOK 34 WHO EVER YOU ARE, PEOPLE DO CARE AND THATS WHAT COUNTS. IF YOU DONT CARE THAT DOESNT MATTER BUT PLEASE DONT BE SO EGOTISTICAL TO BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN SPEAK FOR THE WHOLE OF HUMANITY.. SO IMATURE. | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 27 | |
| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/18/2005 1:16:59 PM | STUKONU, I think the rest of Humanity just might agree with you. But most certainly not with someone who just comes onto a forum and bashes everybody at once.
I usually stick to the more aggressive subjects, but this one seems appropriate today for me.
The person who I thought I had found love with, enough to marry and have a son with; will not let my son come and visit me on Father's Day. Words cannot describe what is going through my mind right now. The only reason I even came online today is because I figured that at least I could find others with problems worse than mine. Selfish I know, shoot me.
But then I see Stukonu's last post, and wonder; What did this guy say to piss you off? I kind of wish I hadn't looked, because now I'm mad. 
*Sigh* what a day........ | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/18/2005 1:41:07 PM | First of all Cook, you must have such an exciting life. Why would you spend your time in posts that don't apply to you to comment on such a thing? Garf sorry you are having such a tough time with the ex, but remember what goes around comes around! I have never been someone who posts, or hangs out in this type service, but I was hurt googled pain and relationship endings and it led me here then I saw this forum which my buddy stuck started and it just helped so much to talk to others about the pain of love vs. life. Just make sure your son knows that its not you thats putting up the road block, contact him any way you can to make sure he knows your love for him.... It'll be positive one day. Until Then we are here to talk to when you feel down.  | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/18/2005 5:28:44 PM | Suzy baby you
its so cool havin you around and thats a must    with friends like you i can do nothing but rock hun with the sweet words you and others send i cant look back, im beginin to wonder if the past ever existed lol hey now that aint sad and lonely isit no thats moved on thanks to this forum that i love and respect and any poor guy or gal is suffering grief from a broken heart and emotional pain better get right in here to be feuled up on hope and restoration towards hopes and dreams as everybody needs em you me everybody im gonna give a personal thankyou to the guy that supported my reply to mr cook as it is so true
you take care babe your fantastic xxxx    | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/18/2005 5:44:04 PM | You know what Garf I have a Daughter who i see regular and a son who id like to see a lot more than i do but am restricted by his mother who has been vindictive about me seeing him since we separated at least i get to see him tho i cant understand why a guy is prevented from seeing his son on this day.But remember its not you who is restricting him and he will learn this over time believe me children gravitate over time its a part of them they need to know and they do i never saw my dad for nearly forty years and i found him one sunny day and im glad i did i couldnt have gone on without knowing that part of me. your not selfish and you are welcome here thats what this forum is for dont lose hope your son will grow and be wanting to know you and in UK parents are encouraged by social services to have contact with both parents the courts would be in your favour and you could get access that waybut either way he will be looking for you as time goes on and he wont respect a person that is preventing this process you take good care of yourself until that time love and peace STUK
PS thanks for your support with the numbskull lol for havin a degree he aint that smart lol | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 32 | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/19/2005 5:23:23 PM | No problem Garf
Im real glad you got some contact anytime your gettin grief or feelin fed up with it come in here for a shot of carin understandin and repairin man thats cool | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 35 | |
| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/19/2005 6:07:09 PM | Yeah, I think I'll change my profile line to "Looking for a ride" and see how far that gets me, lol.
You make sense though, that's why I'm here. The only problem is making people I talk to aware that I do have a past, but most regard that as baggage.
So people who made one mistake in their past should never get another chance because they have baggage? That's the way it's beginning to look.
I need beer. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/19/2005 8:18:41 PM | Hey everybody has baggage...
And anyone who says they don't are full of sh*t...
Also you'll notice I seem to talk in metophors all the time.
usually gets the point across better. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 5:15:05 AM | You are right all people do have some kind of baggage from the past and the big question is how do you move foward without letting whats in your suit case affect your journey or destination. you know some people have thier suitcases bulging so much that what ever is inside cant stay in and this affects a persons journey or destination so much that the journey is either slowed down dramatically or halted compeletely. others keep thier baggage locked up so that its never on show but whats inside are past failed relationships that clothed thier lives at some point or another, am i making sense? i hope so.
Ithink the point im trying to make is this if youve got a suitcase of dirty clothes the most logical thing to do would be either to open the case and get them washed so they are clean again if you apply that to emotional baggage then you ask the question how do i do this
Im no expert but thinkin about it Icome to a few possibilites that may bring about a successfull outcome to this situation. lets take a closer look. In the situation of people who keep thier suit cases locked well thats okay so long as the person in question can resume thier journey thru life and love with that suit case remaining in storage, but if not there will be problems some people can do this with no problem.
If a person has a suitcse that wont stay shut then every thing falls out and thats no good is it especially if the clothes inside are never washed.Back to emotional baggage well the option that is logical here is to lessen the load and how do you do that i wonder? Id say not being an expert tho, that it would be helpful to recieve counselling in that situation may only require short term counselling but if there is really deep seated emotionall that is causing distress or even clinical depression then longer term counselling might be useful in getting that person to understand themselves better and resume thier journy successfully. Hope that wasnt to deep or perplexing take care in life peace and love STUK. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 8:08:31 AM | | Stuk... nice analogy, yellow & garf... we are all in search of the perfect ride!!!! I know I wasn't asked but here's my opinion.... We are who we are because of what we have been through good, bad and otherwise. Some call it baggage but anyone who has lived, loved and experianced life has a history which has molded them into who they are. How they choose to deal with it makes the person either desirable or NOT. Its not the fact they have "baggage", its the attitude they exude as a person. Those who judge before knowing are not worthy of the attention they seek! So lets all wash those clothes again, and be prepared for our next journey, with a positive outlook, and a freshly packed bag and we will have a new experiance to add to our character. I believe ! | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 1:03:29 PM | Right on Suzy
Your well tuned in and by the way do you like credence clearwater cos they wrote a song called suzyq i like em long as i can see the light is my fave what about you? | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 1:25:41 PM | Heh dude
Just wanted to tell ya that you are a brave man opening up yourself like that for all the world to read. Good for you, you have my admiration and respect. I kinda know what you are going through coz i'm going through a simular situation myself. I guess the old cliche is that you will meet her one day. I still believe that for myself. Lets put this way - I know I am one of the good guys, so there has to be a wonderful woman out there for me somewhere. I wish you luck and hope you meet your soulmate, sooner rather than later... | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 4:52:43 PM | Crying set aside, (we all did it, we're men; not heartless) the whole process sucks, and moving on is difficult.
I'm just glad I found people who can yell at me when I need it and a pat on the back when I deserve it.
Basically put, people who can be honest with me.
Anyway, my son's b-day is Thursday, and I need to go out and buy him some toys and shoes.
Thanks guys. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 6:21:08 PM | just don't let the stuff fall out of the suitcase.....
And if it does... just pick it back up,
shove it back in the suitcase
and place it high on a shelf in your closet...
And at some point you can take it all out again....
Here's a good suggestion...
take things that remind you...
a piece of clothing, pictures.... etc...
place them in a box and bury them.
treat it like a death...
that usually helps people... | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:22:16 PM | | Stuck.... CCR , haven't thought of them in years! I loved the susieQ song! One of the guys of CCR owns a casino in Reno (30 miles from where I am). They come out and do caberets and clubs every now and again, still have a big following!!! | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:54:24 PM | | Yellow... You are very good at cheering up the crowd, thanks !! Actually all of you guys and gals who have posted here are great people, we have all been on the same trip, I don't think this pain is gender specific. I love talking to you all about this is helps so much...I really felt alone, and out of place until I stumbled in here and saw Stuk's post. WE ARE NOT ALONE... Don't give up hope, guard your heart, love yourself, and TRUE LOVE will be chasing us down. I still believe | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 8:12:07 PM | | word, i hear you guys. my GF of 2.5 years broke up with me like 2 days before 2.5 years after i came home from the other province i was living in for school & work. her exact words were "I dont love you." it crushed me but before i left i sat down had coffee with her and we talk on MSn occasionally she is now dating one of my friends from the yacht club. I understand her dating from the club which is where we met. but i asked her to possibly try not to date mutual friends. but im good we talk i think im finding some new people but there are days when i go to bed thinking ad i not gone off to persue my dreams would we still be together? then i realize that if she not willing to support me as a couple in realizeing my dreams but she's wiling to support me as a friend and thats as much as i can ask for. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 8:19:32 PM | Hi STUKONU,
I'm sorry to hear of all your pain, that must really hurt. It won't make you feel any better to say that all of us have had our pain in relationships. We're all damaged goods.
I see that your pain has narrowed to a target of inviting girls to email you, ain't I a brat to see this.
I would love to tell my own hurt story, but not in this forum.
Good luck to you!
Jeannie | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/20/2005 8:28:08 PM | | Nissan.... you deserve someone who supports you 100% of the time, and not fluant a relationship with your friends. You are doing the exact same thing I have done through out this painful ordeal, make excuses for them trashing our hearts. We don't have to be evil back to them, but we MUST NOT SETTLE ANYMORE!!!! I know I am hanging on at times to the love that I felt for him, but he doesn't have it for me, so I know, I must let go... How I am not sure, but talking in here has helped me so much~~~ Believe in yourself. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/22/2005 7:14:23 PM | | You keep on believin Suzy baby cos im right behind you a 100% and always will be we gotta meet some day suzy we got lots in common when we gonna do thhe pic thing im dyin ta see you honey | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/22/2005 8:15:45 PM | | Stuk..... we do have much in common! Two different countries, with one simular situtation how wild is that? I still am so happy that I found your post, its really helped me so much in getting through this pain. I smile when I read your posts, along with the firends that have joined in. I do believe I will work on the photo and yours? Here's to our some day and know that I am here for you and look forward to keeping this bond. | |
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